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"Hi I have suggested that I tell a local policeman but also explain that we don't want him to take anything further, we would just like him to be able to keep an extra eye out when he is in our locality, but to not count it as a report or anything of that nature. " I've thankfully not come across any of this kind of thing but I think that's the way to go, for now. Keep a close eye on things, ask your son for updates and take it from there. Hopefully they'll get bored if your son and his friends have nothing of value on them x | |||
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"Thank you I really don't know where to start, he felt that the people who took the stuff are so much harder and tougher and him and his friends. One of the boys said he's just got out of jail and he's going back next week and couldn't care les, he had scars on his cheeks. I know that he has to stand on his own two feet but I'm not sure to go up against this kind of situation is good for somebody who doesn't know much about this side of the world yet. I went through the situation with him but really I can't even see myselfanything more he could have done. " like the poster above said he's gona have to learn to stand for himself you're not gona be around forever to help him.... bullies pick on people who they think are weak you helping him is not gona make him strong | |||
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"Thank you I really don't know where to start, he felt that the people who took the stuff are so much harder and tougher and him and his friends. One of the boys said he's just got out of jail and he's going back next week and couldn't care les, he had scars on his cheeks. I know that he has to stand on his own two feet but I'm not sure to go up against this kind of situation is good for somebody who doesn't know much about this side of the world yet. I went through the situation with him but really I can't even see myselfanything more he could have done. " I think the police have to be involved. These yobs can't go around intimidating and stealing things off young people. Where does it end. Maybe get together with the other parents and come up with a plan. Good luck. | |||
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"Thank you I really don't know where to start, he felt that the people who took the stuff are so much harder and tougher and him and his friends. One of the boys said he's just got out of jail and he's going back next week and couldn't care les, he had scars on his cheeks. I know that he has to stand on his own two feet but I'm not sure to go up against this kind of situation is good for somebody who doesn't know much about this side of the world yet. I went through the situation with him but really I can't even see myselfanything more he could have done. like the poster above said he's gona have to learn to stand for himself you're not gona be around forever to help him.... bullies pick on people who they think are weak you helping him is not gona make him strong " Totally, he needs to stand his ground.....as much as we want to wrap them up in cotton wool, at 16 he has life lessons to learn and one of those lessons is to stand up up for yourself. | |||
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"Thank you I really don't know where to start, he felt that the people who took the stuff are so much harder and tougher and him and his friends. One of the boys said he's just got out of jail and he's going back next week and couldn't care les, he had scars on his cheeks. I know that he has to stand on his own two feet but I'm not sure to go up against this kind of situation is good for somebody who doesn't know much about this side of the world yet. I went through the situation with him but really I can't even see myselfanything more he could have done. like the poster above said he's gona have to learn to stand for himself you're not gona be around forever to help him.... bullies pick on people who they think are weak you helping him is not gona make him strong " She IS helping him by showing how to use the correct system and whom to contact. Also talking through the events rationally and coming up with intelligent soloutions is being educational. Learning how to avoid these situations is often better than dealing head on sometime. Being stabbed is not a good day out. He is only 17. | |||
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"Without sounding harsh at some point he's going to have to stand on his own two feet and stand up for himself it's the only way to deal with bullies. Like they say kids will be kids it's all part of a learning curve we all go through at that age. Good luck for your lad. . " It's easy for you to say that, but in reality it's not so easy. My 16 yr old grand son has been hit across the back of his knees with a cricket bat, had a home made blade dragged down his face and drain cleaner solution thrown in his face. It's not a case of stand up to them and have a little fist fight. | |||
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"Thank you so much for everybody's advice. I will take your points on board and then waiting for the police to get back to me now. It is a difficult situation regarding getting together with the other parents, as he feels his friends will not have told their parents as they are worried by the threats. We live just outside the town where these bullies live, so a smaller neighborhood. I do appreciate everybody's imput. Just incidentally to the people who feel he needs to stand up for himself, in what way is it best for him to do that, I don't want him to think of having to carry a knife or similar, that he has been told the other people have. He hasn't ever had a fight, what would be the best way for him to stand up to these people? I ask this in earnest as I really do not know." A confidential word with the police is essential first. Then, as regards your son standing up for himself, encourage him to join his local boxing club. Once he has learnt how to box properly, he will be able to defend himself and, believe me, once someone has had just one good punch (particularly a bully) he will not get bothered again. It will also teach him discipline, keep him fit and keep him off the streets to a certain extent - good luck. | |||
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"All these people telling her to get her son to man up make me laugh. Like all he needs to do is stand up to them and they'll see the error of their ways and never bother him again. Bullies are bullies for a reason. They don't back off, or run away. If he stands up to them they'll beat him up, or worse. We all deal with bullies every day, and some of the hard men above would be the first to back down if they came across someone harder than them. Violence begets violence in this country; don't go down that route." This | |||
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"Thank you so much for everybody's advice. I will take your points on board and then waiting for the police to get back to me now. It is a difficult situation regarding getting together with the other parents, as he feels his friends will not have told their parents as they are worried by the threats. We live just outside the town where these bullies live, so a smaller neighborhood. I do appreciate everybody's imput. Just incidentally to the people who feel he needs to stand up for himself, in what way is it best for him to do that, I don't want him to think of having to carry a knife or similar, that he has been told the other people have. He hasn't ever had a fight, what would be the best way for him to stand up to these people? I ask this in earnest as I really do not know. A confidential word with the police is essential first. Then, as regards your son standing up for himself, encourage him to join his local boxing club. Once he has learnt how to box properly, he will be able to defend himself and, believe me, once someone has had just one good punch (particularly a bully) he will not get bothered again. It will also teach him discipline, keep him fit and keep him off the streets to a certain extent - good luck." But also this. | |||
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"All these people telling her to get her son to man up make me laugh. Like all he needs to do is stand up to them and they'll see the error of their ways and never bother him again. Bullies are bullies for a reason. They don't back off, or run away. If he stands up to them they'll beat him up, or worse. We all deal with bullies every day, and some of the hard men above would be the first to back down if they came across someone harder than them. Violence begets violence in this country; don't go down that route." I was bullied as a teen. A lot. I was small and weak, an easy target. My parents told the school. It didn't help. Fast forward a few years, and I took up martial arts. I avoided fights when I went out, just walked away. Soon enough those old bullies got fed up of goading me and getting no response, and backed me into a corner. That was a big mistake. It took a couple of fights, but then word got out, and they left me alone. Now I am free to go where I like without worrying about who I might bump into. My kids got bullied, I tought them how to fight.... Now they too walk freely. To those who say violence isn't the answer, I wish I could say you are right, but I can't. I have never started a fight, and always tried to walk away, and I tought my kids the same, but when backed into a corner it is fists, not words, that meant we could all come home safe. | |||
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"All these people telling her to get her son to man up make me laugh. Like all he needs to do is stand up to them and they'll see the error of their ways and never bother him again. Bullies are bullies for a reason. They don't back off, or run away. If he stands up to them they'll beat him up, or worse. We all deal with bullies every day, and some of the hard men above would be the first to back down if they came across someone harder than them. Violence begets violence in this country; don't go down that route." so you would prefer him to run away from everyone who threatened him or every dangerous situation? Yes violence begats violence but at some point he's gona have to make a stand it's not about maning up and taking on a whole gang standing up could mean going to the police himself or even there parents | |||
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"Unless you formally report it to the police then nothing will be done. My advice would be to report it. " And if you report it to the police you might get an incident number... aaaannnnd... nothing will be done. At 16 he ain't a boy, he's a young man. | |||
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"All these people telling her to get her son to man up make me laugh. Like all he needs to do is stand up to them and they'll see the error of their ways and never bother him again. Bullies are bullies for a reason. They don't back off, or run away. If he stands up to them they'll beat him up, or worse. We all deal with bullies every day, and some of the hard men above would be the first to back down if they came across someone harder than them. Violence begets violence in this country; don't go down that route." totally, utterly, completely wrong. Bullies go for low hanging fruit, bullies shy away from anything higher on the food chain. We don't all deal with bullies every day either, those of us who aren't crippled with wishy washy liberal notions don't even see bullies, they steer clear. While it is also true that the internet is indeed full of keyboard warriors, it is also true that when it comes to protecting kids from harm lots of those so-called keyboard warriors wouldn't be the ones backing down or running away crying. Passively taking it up the ass is what begets violence in this country, immediate and brutal retaliation is what ends it, the problem is that what happens then is the instigator runs to the police and claims victim status, and the innocent person who did not start anything, just ended it, gets dragged off to court... that empowerment for the bully is what *really* begets violence in this country. The 16 year old needs to wake up and play the system he finds himself living in, scarface punk tried to sell me a gun and some heroin. true story, there was a local kid, 14, who suffered the same treatment, he went out one night with a small backpack (£2 from a charity shop) filled with dog shit he'd collected from the park bins, when the bullies approached next he pelted them with it, the erstwhile bully is now billy-no-mates and is followed around by 6 years old cat calling him "Hey dogshit" and killing themselves laughing. The 14 year old has the local girls calling him "dank ****" in a tone of respect. | |||
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"All these people telling her to get her son to man up make me laugh. Like all he needs to do is stand up to them and they'll see the error of their ways and never bother him again. Bullies are bullies for a reason. They don't back off, or run away. If he stands up to them they'll beat him up, or worse. We all deal with bullies every day, and some of the hard men above would be the first to back down if they came across someone harder than them. Violence begets violence in this country; don't go down that route. totally, utterly, completely wrong. Bullies go for low hanging fruit, bullies shy away from anything higher on the food chain. We don't all deal with bullies every day either, those of us who aren't crippled with wishy washy liberal notions don't even see bullies, they steer clear. While it is also true that the internet is indeed full of keyboard warriors, it is also true that when it comes to protecting kids from harm lots of those so-called keyboard warriors wouldn't be the ones backing down or running away crying. Passively taking it up the ass is what begets violence in this country, immediate and brutal retaliation is what ends it, the problem is that what happens then is the instigator runs to the police and claims victim status, and the innocent person who did not start anything, just ended it, gets dragged off to court... that empowerment for the bully is what *really* begets violence in this country. The 16 year old needs to wake up and play the system he finds himself living in, scarface punk tried to sell me a gun and some heroin. true story, there was a local kid, 14, who suffered the same treatment, he went out one night with a small backpack (£2 from a charity shop) filled with dog shit he'd collected from the park bins, when the bullies approached next he pelted them with it, the erstwhile bully is now billy-no-mates and is followed around by 6 years old cat calling him "Hey dogshit" and killing themselves laughing. The 14 year old has the local girls calling him "dank ****" in a tone of respect." There is a difference between a bully and a thug. If he tries to stand up to protect himself and ends up with a knife in his gut that really won't make him any more of a man... I wouldn't want my son if I had one to try and stand up to a thug, calling police is the smart thing to do. | |||
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"I'm sorry, I was going to be passive here, but am seriously annoyed at the stupidity of those saying to go and have a fight and that eventually it will go that way. Read the news, watch it, kids are assholes and kids who are thugs and bullies do carry weapons. If it was your kid would you really be telling them to go fight a thug with a knife? If the answer is yes, I hope you learn the terrible consequences of that advice. Sorry if others feel that's a step too far, but if you're going spout such shit advice, I hope you get to experience what the outcome of it might be. Violence is never, ever the answer to any problem. Some might think me a softy for say this, but it's true. I was horrendously bullied at school for having long hair, got my ass handed to me everyday for it, was scared to go to school at times, yes I had fights along the way and you know what, I got my ass handed to me by the kids bigger brother instead of him. And eye for an eye is not the way to solve any problem. It takes a bigger, smarter, more intelligent person to see that and that going to to toe doesn't solve the problem. As someone said, win a fight today, face the retaliation tomorrow and then hit repeat, what a wonderful lesson to teach a young man. Those that say fight, you morons. Those that say learn self defence, hmm ok, so long as the emphasis is defence. And those that are the bigger, smarter and more intelligent advising to go to the police - I want to know people like you." | |||
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"Without sounding harsh at some point he's going to have to stand on his own two feet and stand up for himself it's the only way to deal with bullies. Like they say kids will be kids it's all part of a learning curve we all go through at that age. Good luck for your lad. . " I second that! But you also have to involve the police. Your son and you shouldn't worry that it may be found out the report comes from you. Noone should live in fear. It's not the times of Chicago mafia, it's a relatively free and safe country. Report to the police without delay. If you don't, you'll only encourage thise fuckers to carry on and do something much worse one day - much worse. See it from that angle - you may help them by saving them from more trouble and prison. Your lad had better learn also to throw punches. Square with precise aim at the 10. | |||
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"Without sounding harsh at some point he's going to have to stand on his own two feet and stand up for himself it's the only way to deal with bullies. Like they say kids will be kids it's all part of a learning curve we all go through at that age. Good luck for your lad. . I respectfully disagree with your suggestion that he needs to learn to stand up for himself. I second that! But you also have to involve the police. Your son and you shouldn't worry that it may be found out the report comes from you. Noone should live in fear. It's not the times of Chicago mafia, it's a relatively free and safe country. Report to the police without delay. If you don't, you'll only encourage thise fuckers to carry on and do something much worse one day - much worse. See it from that angle - you may help them by saving them from more trouble and prison. Your lad had better learn also to throw punches. Square with precise aim at the 10. " | |||
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"I'm sorry, I was going to be passive here, but am seriously annoyed at the stupidity of those saying to go and have a fight and that eventually it will go that way. Read the news, watch it, kids are assholes and kids who are thugs and bullies do carry weapons. If it was your kid would you really be telling them to go fight a thug with a knife? If the answer is yes, I hope you learn the terrible consequences of that advice. Sorry if others feel that's a step too far, but if you're going spout such shit advice, I hope you get to experience what the outcome of it might be. Violence is never, ever the answer to any problem. Some might think me a softy for say this, but it's true. I was horrendously bullied at school for having long hair, got my ass handed to me everyday for it, was scared to go to school at times, yes I had fights along the way and you know what, I got my ass handed to me by the kids bigger brother instead of him. And eye for an eye is not the way to solve any problem. It takes a bigger, smarter, more intelligent person to see that and that going to to toe doesn't solve the problem. As someone said, win a fight today, face the retaliation tomorrow and then hit repeat, what a wonderful lesson to teach a young man. Those that say fight, you morons. Those that say learn self defence, hmm ok, so long as the emphasis is defence. And those that are the bigger, smarter and more intelligent advising to go to the police - I want to know people like you." Responding with violence isn't always a bad option in my experience. I've always been a very well mannered person and avoided fights even when I knew I was the stronger kid. I didn't want the other kid to suffer,funny enough. But I protected quite a few kids from bullies. Sometimes it was enough to just stand between them and shield or tell them off, but on occasion had to punch and kick. I'm glad I did it. The bullies never returned... | |||
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"Without sounding harsh at some point he's going to have to stand on his own two feet and stand up for himself it's the only way to deal with bullies. Like they say kids will be kids it's all part of a learning curve we all go through at that age. Good luck for your lad. . I respectfully disagree with your suggestion that he needs to learn to stand up for himself. I second that! But you also have to involve the police. Your son and you shouldn't worry that it may be found out the report comes from you. Noone should live in fear. It's not the times of Chicago mafia, it's a relatively free and safe country. Report to the police without delay. If you don't, you'll only encourage thise fuckers to carry on and do something much worse one day - much worse. See it from that angle - you may help them by saving them from more trouble and prison. Your lad had better learn also to throw punches. Square with precise aim at the 10. " I lost a post. I respectfully disagree with the suggestion that he should stand up for himself. After all, it won't seem so clever when some horrible fucker hurts him will it or did I miss the 'become a bad ass overnight' or 'become knife proof' class at school? | |||
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"Without sounding harsh at some point he's going to have to stand on his own two feet and stand up for himself it's the only way to deal with bullies. Like they say kids will be kids it's all part of a learning curve we all go through at that age. Good luck for your lad. . " I don't agree sorry, I don't think the kind of thing the OPs son is experiencing is "kids being kids" more like " scum being scum" there are low life thieves who don't give a fuck. I don't think telling the OP that her son should stand up for himself, is helpful in the slightest. | |||
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"Standing up for yourself doesn't necessarily mean a fist fight in the street, just talking to you means he is standing up for himself by trying to do something about it, your next move is to show him how to use the resources available to him to achieve that, which your doing by using intelligent intellect and planning ahead. The police are your main weapon in this, unity among friends to all tell their side of the problem, 5 people reporting a problem rather than 1 makes it more credible to be worth dealing with, along with not taking things out that the gang want will also help. The more authorities/parents/friends and locals know of a problem means more people will help to solve it. The most important thing of all is that he's come to you for advice and help, teaching him that doing something he might not think will help but will actually resolve the problem in the end is a great way to help him. xx" | |||
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"Without sounding harsh at some point he's going to have to stand on his own two feet and stand up for himself it's the only way to deal with bullies. Like they say kids will be kids it's all part of a learning curve we all go through at that age. Good luck for your lad. . I don't agree sorry, I don't think the kind of thing the OPs son is experiencing is "kids being kids" more like " scum being scum" there are low life thieves who don't give a fuck. I don't think telling the OP that her son should stand up for himself, is helpful in the slightest." Well forgive me for not knowing every single detail about what's going on just like everyone else on here. Happy now.? | |||
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"This kind of thing has always been rife and is just part of being a teenager I'm afraid. If he doesn't want to go to the police he needs to make connections - getting on well with an older group of guys who will vouch for you will stop most trouble coming his way." Do you not have friends/family/neighbours with older children locally who would look out for him if he's unable to make connections on his own? | |||
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"Im 21 so a little closer to that world than i suspect most of the fab population just to give my opinion a bit of context. Interesting viewpoints from everyone here and the correct answer is probably a mixture of it all. Firstly consider we dont have enough facts to make a judgement call on the types of kids these bullies are. It's important to distinguish between typical chav bullies and genuine "i will stab you for looking at me thugs." As im sure its obvious the former leaves you more options than the latter. Everyone knows the right thing to do being contact the authorities and begin that process. No debate there. Now the decision you have is more of a psychological one for your son and is where I see the clash in this forum between always seeking help at confrontation because its the safest thing to do or carrying more pride and standing up for yourself (Note: standing up for yourself does NOT always mean fighting its just not necessarily rolling over). This tends to bleed into personalites and other aspects of life whether it be the workplace or at home. The answer depends on a judgement on the character of the bullies and the situation at hand. Some form of martial arts discipline is fantastic for developing this judgement under pressure and how to efficient deal with confrontation in the instance you've been grabbed. Which gives you time to run (hopefully without handing your possessions over) or do the stereotypical standing up for yourself as decent show of force will dissuade the average bully (as stated before in the forum). Again its a judgement call. If you are worried about knives the answer is don't get grabbed if you don't get grabbed or can defend from being grabbed you can run. But you've still stood up for yourself by not rolling over and making things easy regardless of running or not. It's about being smart and taking pride in that rather than punching someones face in. In short: Police? Yes. Some form of martial arts training is always helpful, not necessarily to use it but to get away safely. It's all about making the correct judgement on the nature of the situation." QUOTE It's important to distinguish between typical chav bullies and genuine "i will stab you for looking at me thugs." As im sure its obvious the former leaves you more options than the latter. UNQUOTE. I do believe they were all upper middle class and that at least two of them had to leave the bullying early as it was their turn to polish the saddle brasses for the dawn hunt in the grounds of Gordonstoun. | |||
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"Thank you everybody I am taking note of everything here and really appreciate all the comments. I hadn't thought of it before but I do think these boys do probably target quite a few different groups and therefore it's not only my son's group that might need assistance. I will let the police know, they may have had similar reports from other parents. They will know best how to advise us. " Have to agree with this OP. Someone close, in our family, was sticking up for his younger brother, who was being bullied and took the law into his own hands, totally wrong in our eyes, btw and he ended up with a hefty fine, community work and a criminal record. The bully ended up with compensation....always go to the police. | |||
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" QUOTE It's important to distinguish between typical chav bullies and genuine "i will stab you for looking at me thugs." As im sure its obvious the former leaves you more options than the latter. UNQUOTE. I do believe they were all upper middle class and that at least two of them had to leave the bullying early as it was their turn to polish the saddle brasses for the dawn hunt in the grounds of Gordonstoun. " Not sure what you were trying to achieve there. There is an important distinction to be made. | |||
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" QUOTE It's important to distinguish between typical chav bullies and genuine "i will stab you for looking at me thugs." As im sure its obvious the former leaves you more options than the latter. UNQUOTE. I do believe they were all upper middle class and that at least two of them had to leave the bullying early as it was their turn to polish the saddle brasses for the dawn hunt in the grounds of Gordonstoun. Not sure what you were trying to achieve there. There is an important distinction to be made." A thief with a knife is a thief with a knife. | |||
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" QUOTE It's important to distinguish between typical chav bullies and genuine "i will stab you for looking at me thugs." As im sure its obvious the former leaves you more options than the latter. UNQUOTE. I do believe they were all upper middle class and that at least two of them had to leave the bullying early as it was their turn to polish the saddle brasses for the dawn hunt in the grounds of Gordonstoun. Not sure what you were trying to achieve there. There is an important distinction to be made. A thief with a knife is a thief with a knife. " The confirmation that any of them had knives at all came after my initial comment, I was just proposing scenarios. I still disagree to some extent from personal experience people will carry knives for intimidation and no intent to use them. Other people carry knives with intent to use them I'm just highlighting its important to make the decision before you decide to shout back at them before running away. | |||
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" QUOTE It's important to distinguish between typical chav bullies and genuine "i will stab you for looking at me thugs." As im sure its obvious the former leaves you more options than the latter. UNQUOTE. I do believe they were all upper middle class and that at least two of them had to leave the bullying early as it was their turn to polish the saddle brasses for the dawn hunt in the grounds of Gordonstoun. Not sure what you were trying to achieve there. There is an important distinction to be made. A thief with a knife is a thief with a knife. The confirmation that any of them had knives at all came after my initial comment, I was just proposing scenarios. I still disagree to some extent from personal experience people will carry knives for intimidation and no intent to use them. Other people carry knives with intent to use them I'm just highlighting its important to make the decision before you decide to shout back at them before running away." Sorry typo. its important to make the judgement not decision | |||
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" Violence begets violence in this country; don't go down that route." True if you were talking about a gang fighting another gang. Violence is aggression, reasonable force is defence. The law of this country allows the latter. Are you saying that the law is wrong? | |||
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" Violence begets violence in this country; don't go down that route. True if you were talking about a gang fighting another gang. Violence is aggression, reasonable force is defence. The law of this country allows the latter. Are you saying that the law is wrong? " Could it be, is it ever, that simple? | |||
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"Honestly the last thing you should do is go to the police, these crimes aren't heavy enough to carry a jail sentence so they'll get off with it and know that your son "grassed" on them which will only lead to much much worse" No way OP. Fuck them. First thing is the police as the thugs have committed crimes already - assault, robbery. Potentially armed robbery. | |||
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