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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fear can be all consuming.

Do you face it head on, sideways, run or hide?

What are you afraid of?

"Fear is a powerful and primitive human emotion. It alerts us to the presence of danger and was critical in keeping our ancestors alive. Fear can actually be divided into two stages, biochemical and emotional. The biochemical response is universal, while the emotional response is highly individualised." (PT)

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I like to think I face it head on but it depends on the situation from which the fear has arisen.

Some times I just go for it but there have been timed when I need to consider the effects of those actions.

Recently I'm an all in kinda person, if you want it...go for it...right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends, and I don't know why. My first reaction is pretty much always to run. And I often do. Sometimes I just need to sit and process it. Other times I'll avoid it for as long as possible. I'm trying to get better at controlling the initial emotional reaction, but bloody hell it's hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear is not a word in my vocabulary.

I do not, and never will know what that word means

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fear is not a word in my vocabulary.

I do not, and never will know what that word means

And what does Sam say, Lacey?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sod fear, Jump straight in and live with no regrets. Life is too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the kind of fear; is it anxiety or terror?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear? Um. I'm a big Jessie. I can't do scary movies. I'm rubbish at those attractions where actors jump out at you. Hell I almost pee'd myself at my friends horror museum when Linda Blair started shaking.

In real life situations though I'm a bad ass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a face it head on type of person. Then wonder after how I did it.

I think I'm too obstinate to let things beat me x

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

What is wrong with you woman it's Saturday night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is wrong with you woman it's Saturday night

She's already afraid of Monday

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I don't really fear anything that impacts on my day to day life so I just avoid those things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually super brave for the most part and exceptionally confident in life.

That being said I do suffer with a phobia which is uncontrollable and actually debilitating, when faced with it I have no control over my reactions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I know true fear. I'm extremely fortunate as I don't get phased by much. I get nervous and worried but I really don't think I've ever really feared something. I tend not to dwell on things and can't be accused of over thinking so maybe that's why? Maybe I'm just lucky that I've never encountered something to be fearful of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fear is not a word in my vocabulary.

I do not, and never will know what that word means

And what does Sam say, Lacey? "

Lacey's currently hiding under the bed sheets from her shadow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think i block out real terror and deal with it at a later time in my life- i am quite an anxious person though sometimes but im told im very confident esp at work etc hmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face it head on, shut out the fears and shake like a leaf after. Heights are mine so I abseil when I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eventually faced my fear and got therapy, was well worth doing!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I have found that fear needs to be faced out right, I wont have anyone try and cower me and if they try out right? Then god help them is all I can say, do something behind my back and I find out? I wont be the one cowering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fear can be all consuming.

Do you face it head on, sideways, run or hide?

What are you afraid of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear is what you allow it to be it plays no part in my life i have none left after doing my duty to Queen and country.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I run from cows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drowning yet I'm not scared of water or the sea, I had to do an offshore survival course and being trapped in an helicopter simulator underwater made me feel vulnerable, an emotion I hadn't experienced in a long long time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I run from cows.

Is it the teets that worry you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I run from cows.

Is it the teets that worry you?"

It's the being trampled that worries me. Cows just don't like me, and I don't like them.

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"Drowning yet I'm not scared of water or the sea, I had to do an offshore survival course and being trapped in an helicopter simulator underwater made me feel vulnerable, an emotion I hadn't experienced in a long long time."

Enclosed space and water combined is my worst nightmare

Anna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I run from cows.

Is it the teets that worry you?

It's the being trampled that worries me. Cows just don't like me, and I don't like them."

They are big, fast and powerful but rubbish at swerving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I run from cows.

Is it the teets that worry you?

It's the being trampled that worries me. Cows just don't like me, and I don't like them.

They are big, fast and powerful but rubbish at swerving

I'll remember the swerving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I run from cows.

Is it the teets that worry you?

It's the being trampled that worries me. Cows just don't like me, and I don't like them.

They are big, fast and powerful but rubbish at swerving

I'll remember the swerving."

Dodge and weave EJ Dodge and weave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I run from cows.

Is it the teets that worry you?

It's the being trampled that worries me. Cows just don't like me, and I don't like them.

They are big, fast and powerful but rubbish at swerving

I'll remember the swerving.

Dodge and weave EJ Dodge and weave

If you can dodge a wrench, you can dodge a cow... probably

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I try and look at what the fear is telling me.

Sometimes it is right to be fearful and then you have the choice of fight or flight. Sometimes it's nonsense (like my mushroom phobia) and you look to address the irrationality of the fear (to follow through with the mushrooms, I ate a mushroom risotto).

Being assaulted was scary, I was fearful, but I don't live expecting to be assaulted every day. Being emotionally hurt by people was not scary but has left me fearful of being hurt again.

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

I fear the dark water

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enclosed space and water combined is my worst nightmare

Anna "
Potholing! Forget that shit...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear big spiders and moths. But I dont think I am exposed to fear, unless you consider the fear of losing a loved one. Pretty much most of us have lost someone dear to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear anyone finding out I wear knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear can make me act like an eejit in some instances. In others I stand up to it resolutely and won't give up or take a step back. I would not ever say that I am never afraid. Whilst it can lead me to treat a situation with the respect it deserves, it may equally make me question myself more than is necessary and leave me in a quandary with no sign of escape. That's when it can seem despair and hopelessness are prevailing. On the occassions that I have let it get the better of me, I almost always can look back and reassess with a cooler and calmer head. But having the courage to then rectify the situation is a whole other game. I like to think that I could always make that decision and follow it through. The reality is that I can be found wanting and self doubt can creep in to weaken my resolve.

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Enclosed space and water combined is my worst nightmare

Anna Potholing! Forget that shit..."

And that one I forgot that !!!

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"I fear anyone finding out I wear knickers

I think we could kinda guess that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spiders

I fucking hate spiders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a warning to look before you leap

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By *Ollyinone.Man
over a year ago

Warks.

Fear is the best possible feeling, it releases adrenaline which is the most powerful drug ever! Your brain, muscles and reflexes all operate in excess of 100%. It's fantastic. Embrace the fear and overcome!

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

There's different types of fear, the elective fear, like a fairground ride, then you can get a buzz, sure.

But the fear you get from someone doing emotional damage, is different. Dread, feeling you have messed up, distrust in things going right, not feeling safe, or loveable/wantable (moreso for males?) anxiety like pre exam stress, and its there most of the time, for long periods of time, which is debilitating.

I get so anxious about things, I struggle to edit photos for example, photography is one of my hobbies.

Shellshock from ww1 is a extreme example of long term high stress/emotion damage..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tackle it. Unless I do, I'd always be afraid of it. Wether that's a problem in life, a challenge etc. Even a phobia, I'd try to overcome it. Death however (scared stiff) can wait. I'll tackle that when I need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear exists for a reason.

There will be the usual crowd who claim they don't feel it or face it head on, but I believe it focuses you to real and present threats that you need to be aware of...simples. Adapt what you're doing to manage the risk.

However fear can exist as a result of past experiences, and that can be the crippling factor, especially in emotional situations.

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

We've a short life Estella overcome and believe that your going get over it xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If it can be learned, it can be 'unlearned' - add new responses to the trigger to your repertoire. By responding with preferable behaviour that's not fear based, you can strengthen your new habits.

I do s mix of things with fear - I like to face head on, occasionally take my time, so I'm sure of what I'd like instead or just deal with the fear, so it goes.

Like nervousness, fear also has some excitement within it, so it's also motivating.

Above all, your logic can tell you what you want and you can learn ways to transform fear so it becomes different.

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By *infullyNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Greater London

I tend to face fear with the mindset of "if I die, then at least it was fun". Works for me. For example, I'm currently on holiday in Turkey right now and we went on a boat ride, the boat is quite tall. I saw people jumping from the highest place to swim, so I thought fuck it I wanna try. Soon as I got up there, my fear of heights kicked in and started shaking. Then I had a crowd start cheering my on so I thought "Fuck it" and cannonballed into the sea. Super proud of that moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fear can be all consuming.

Do you face it head on, sideways, run or hide?

What are you afraid of?

I was terrified trying to work out all them long words up^^^^there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fear anyone finding out I wear knickers

I think we could kinda guess that one

Oh bugger busted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do a lot of faking it until I make it. Apart from emotional stuff, I just avoid that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the phrase 'feel the fear and do it anyway'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After spending most of my life missing out due to being too nervous to try I now force myself to jump right in. I have some "quirky" ways and rituals to help me cope but they work for me and get me out and doing things id only dream of before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fear Impotence

and Ghosts

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"I fear anyone finding out I wear knickers

I think we could kinda guess that one

Oh bugger busted

Ha ha you certainly were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually a big fan of fear...

Some fears I recognise as irrational (spiders, coming down the stairs from my attic room as a kid) and ones I force myself to deal with and overcome.

Some fears are more rational and understandable (jumps from or over heights, high speeds, things that present a physical danger). These are fears that I welcome and confront head on. I love the rush that comes with the physical challenge and risk (with all due regard to safety!)

Emotional fears (vulnerability, heartbreak, making mistakes) are the hardest to deal with but can offer the best rewards. These are the fears that I feel are most important to deal with as they are the ones that can can hold me back and make me miss opportunities. They're often the hardest fears to deal with but can offer much greater rewards.

I also love scary films!

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