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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do people actually read a profile before messaging!!??

The other morning we had a guy message 5 times in an hour getting more and more bent out of shape cos we weren't replying... a few other persistant ones too

Is this normal?? Any advice other than using the block button would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

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I don't know why more women don't adopt this strategy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read all profile s. If someone is a nuisance just block them. No need to put up with anybody's shite on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non I don't read (not true, I do sometimes).

Men will message fancying there chances just as much as many women. Don't sweat the little stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

I don't know why more women don't adopt this strategy "

Because then men don't show up on 'who's looked at me' including those from our 'friends list'. We've tried this strategy twice, but because we couldn't see which men looked at us, found the whole thing unsatisfactory.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read them, and don't bother If I'm way outside their preferences..

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We had a similar thing and eventually blocked the guy.

We don't want to stop all guys from messaging as there are a few that we chat too on a regular basis.

If they read our profile it clearly states no single guys and in fairness most don't message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

I don't know why more women don't adopt this strategy

Because then men don't show up on 'who's looked at me' including those from our 'friends list'. We've tried this strategy twice, but because we couldn't see which men looked at us, found the whole thing unsatisfactory.

Mrs"

Ding Ding Ding we have a winner and that folks is the problem. Thank you x

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By *atsun xxxMan
over a year ago

Nr LOUTH Lincolnshire

I read profiles first and sometimes even messages

With a lovely complimentary message and if I get a reply no thanks I don't message again it's the right thing to do

If I was you block the nuisance ones xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can them and then can't be bothered to message a lot of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

I don't know why more women don't adopt this strategy

Because then men don't show up on 'who's looked at me' including those from our 'friends list'. We've tried this strategy twice, but because we couldn't see which men looked at us, found the whole thing unsatisfactory.

Mrs"

That is interesting. Do you have to do much ing out of stupid messages as a result?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a similar thing and eventually blocked the guy.

We don't want to stop all guys from messaging as there are a few that we chat too on a regular basis.

If they read our profile it clearly states no single guys and in fairness most don't message."

That's true.....first message came from you guys. Though it was on a particular topic lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

I don't know why more women don't adopt this strategy

Because then men don't show up on 'who's looked at me' including those from our 'friends list'. We've tried this strategy twice, but because we couldn't see which men looked at us, found the whole thing unsatisfactory.

Mrs"

But surely you'd hit the search function and look for guys and message them?

Or am I missing something here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

I don't know why more women don't adopt this strategy

Because then men don't show up on 'who's looked at me' including those from our 'friends list'. We've tried this strategy twice, but because we couldn't see which men looked at us, found the whole thing unsatisfactory.

Mrs

That is interesting. Do you have to do much ing out of stupid messages as a result?"

No, with filters and the way we've written our profile, we've managed to get messages down to about half a dozen a week. Not very many at all.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

I don't know why more women don't adopt this strategy

Because then men don't show up on 'who's looked at me' including those from our 'friends list'. We've tried this strategy twice, but because we couldn't see which men looked at us, found the whole thing unsatisfactory.

Mrs

That is interesting. Do you have to do much ing out of stupid messages as a result?

No, with filters and the way we've written our profile, we've managed to get messages down to about half a dozen a week. Not very many at all. "

That worked for us too and the odd ones that we do get are usually complimentary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

I don't know why more women don't adopt this strategy

Because then men don't show up on 'who's looked at me' including those from our 'friends list'. We've tried this strategy twice, but because we couldn't see which men looked at us, found the whole thing unsatisfactory.

Mrs

But surely you'd hit the search function and look for guys and message them?

Or am I missing something here?"

We did a search like that once. If we were actively looking and had blocked guys from messaging us, I expect we'd use the search function more often. But we still want to know who's looked and us, and we certainly want to know if a man from our 'friends' list has looked.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

I don't know why more women don't adopt this strategy

Because then men don't show up on 'who's looked at me' including those from our 'friends list'. We've tried this strategy twice, but because we couldn't see which men looked at us, found the whole thing unsatisfactory.

Mrs

But surely you'd hit the search function and look for guys and message them?

Or am I missing something here?

We did a search like that once. If we were actively looking and had blocked guys from messaging us, I expect we'd use the search function more often. But we still want to know who's looked and us, and we certainly want to know if a man from our 'friends' list has looked.

Mrs"

Gotchya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block men from messaging you in the first place and then go out and find them when you want them rather than waiting for the idiots to message you and have to deal with that.

I don't know why more women don't adopt this strategy

Because then men don't show up on 'who's looked at me' including those from our 'friends list'. We've tried this strategy twice, but because we couldn't see which men looked at us, found the whole thing unsatisfactory.

Mrs

That is interesting. Do you have to do much ing out of stupid messages as a result?

No, with filters and the way we've written our profile, we've managed to get messages down to about half a dozen a week. Not very many at all. "

Sounds a lot more manageable. That is good to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having said that, on the occasions when we've been actively looking, we are reliant on men finding us. There a profiles we may well miss especially if the photos aren't that great, but if a man sends a really nice message and attaches a picture of his face then my attention is more likely to be picquet. I think we would miss out if we were totally reliant on us searching.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Agreed, we have had some great people get in touch, had some meets and hope to have more

Hoping we'd cut down on it with our new profile but may need some tweaks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people actually read a profile before messaging!!??

The other morning we had a guy message 5 times in an hour getting more and more bent out of shape cos we weren't replying... a few other persistant ones too

Is this normal?? Any advice other than using the block button would be appreciated "

My advice is don't sweat the small stuff.....

The solution to any frustration caused by the behaviour of other site members is one click way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do people actually read a profile before messaging!!??

The other morning we had a guy message 5 times in an hour getting more and more bent out of shape cos we weren't replying... a few other persistant ones too

Is this normal?? Any advice other than using the block button would be appreciated

My advice is don't sweat the small stuff.....

The solution to any frustration caused by the behaviour of other site members is one click way "

Thank you x its a shame people have to act that way but guess thats the joy of the internet

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People who don't read profiles can make life easier and tough - they help you filter and block them but load your inbox.

If there's a common theme about who messages you who's unsuitable, maybe state boldly too- if reading completely not done, it may make no difference but worth a shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I message someone new with the intention of hopefully, eventually, meeting then yes, I will always read their profile fully first. If I'm not for them then what's the point? It's a waste of my time and theirs if they want a 25yo hung black single guy isn't it?

I think very few read mine. Nobody ever asks me what's blonde, brunette, blonde, brunette so as a hook to message it's a pretty shit one really so I should probably lose it!

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