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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance....

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Why would you want to message someone whom you want to block?

Is it because you asked to see his pics..and then decided that he's not your type?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can either reply 'sorry, you're not my type', and it'll end there, or you could send that message and then get loads of abuse so end up blocking him anyway. Some people prefer cutting out the first stage to avoid the abuse. It's certainly not rude to block someone though. You don't owe them anything.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Just a polite no thankyou,if a no can be polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance...."

block them as if you reply and say no they then reply with Why not... very awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's much kinder to send a message saying "not my type". Or at least I think it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a polite no thankyou,if a no can be polite "

Thank you for saying this, if you are polite then there's a good chance people will be polite back

To block out of hand is the norm in so many peoples eyes, and it's easy enough to say sorry, not for me first, and block if you have to if you receive any abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to reply no thanks yo every message yhat I wasn't interested in but then you get met with a barrage of "why nots??"

You are entitled to block who you like for whatever reason you like. You are saving them wasting their own time in continuing to contact you so doing them a favour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excuse my typos....fat thumbs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to reply no thanks yo every message yhat I wasn't interested in but then you get met with a barrage of "why nots??"

You are entitled to block who you like for whatever reason you like. You are saving them wasting their own time in continuing to contact you so doing them a favour "

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

The facility is there. Use it if you want to. Being polite on here can lead to more messages, usually asking why or then being abusive. Sometimes it's easier just to block

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

If I've asked for the pic I always decline politely

If it's a unprompted message I ignore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me blocking is the last resort, when someone is rude/impolite nor disrespectful to someone else and this for no reason or someone abusive, or too pushy.

People that can't take no as an answer are the worst.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I politely said he wasn't my type and got a nice message back. Don't think he will message again and I don't feel bad.

Thanks for all your advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only rude if you intend to cause unprovoked offence ......

Simple as that really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say, no thanks, wish him happy swinging, then block. That way he won't message me, by accident, again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's much more polite to send a no thank you message. I would always reply to that with thank you for the reply. I was on here previously as a single fem and why block until someone is rude to you. As soon as they are rude, then block. Please don't think we are all rude.

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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I got a "not my type" then blocked.

Found it kinda rude.

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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago

Bradford


"The facility is there. Use it if you want to. Being polite on here can lead to more messages, usually asking why or then being abusive. Sometimes it's easier just to block "

Tbh I've never had any abuse. I usually just say

'Sorry you're not for me, take care x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's rude to name people in the forum and against site rules.

I'm not talking first messages she started the conversation I politely answered back and friended her as requested so it was rude and impolite to block without saying why,. I appreciate that some women get swamped and I don't expect answers to all messages

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"

It's rude to name people in the forum and against site rules.

I'm not talking first messages she started the conversation I politely answered back and friended her as requested so it was rude and impolite to block without saying why,. I appreciate that some women get swamped and I don't expect answers to all messages

"

Not sure if it's considered rude, by most, it's just the way it works on here. But as I said I personally would send a message, before I blocked.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"

It's rude to name people in the forum and against site rules.

I'm not talking first messages she started the conversation I politely answered back and friended her as requested so it was rude and impolite to block without saying why,. I appreciate that some women get swamped and I don't expect answers to all messages

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The circumstances don't matter. You can't name and shame in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's rude to name people in the forum and against site rules.

I'm not talking first messages she started the conversation I politely answered back and friended her as requested so it was rude and impolite to block without saying why,. I appreciate that some women get swamped and I don't expect answers to all messages

Not sure if it's considered rude, by most, it's just the way it works on here. But as I said I personally would send a message, before I blocked. "

I think thats a much better way of behaving thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's rude to name people in the forum and against site rules.

I'm not talking first messages she started the conversation I politely answered back and friended her as requested so it was rude and impolite to block without saying why,. I appreciate that some women get swamped and I don't expect answers to all messages

The circumstances don't matter. You can't name and shame in the forums."

Maybe the rules should be changed , or as I've been told very often I'm too old for this site

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"

It's rude to name people in the forum and against site rules.

I'm not talking first messages she started the conversation I politely answered back and friended her as requested so it was rude and impolite to block without saying why,. I appreciate that some women get swamped and I don't expect answers to all messages

Not sure if it's considered rude, by most, it's just the way it works on here. But as I said I personally would send a message, before I blocked.

I think thats a much better way of behaving thank you"

I think we all have different expectations, on this site, there is no right or wrong.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


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The circumstances don't matter. You can't name and shame in the forums.

Maybe the rules should be changed , or as I've been told very often I'm too old for this site "

The rules don't need to be changed, otherwise anybody can post anything about anybody, regardless of validity.

Regardless of that, it currently is the rule, so you need to not do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance...."

My advice is a polite no thankyou or read your profile and not my type. I'm not needing to explain thank you. If they ask why block. You've been polite and he stepped over your request.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"

It's rude to name people in the forum and against site rules.

I'm not talking first messages she started the conversation I politely answered back and friended her as requested so it was rude and impolite to block without saying why,. I appreciate that some women get swamped and I don't expect answers to all messages

The circumstances don't matter. You can't name and shame in the forums.

Maybe the rules should be changed , or as I've been told very often I'm too old for this site "

I don't think anyone's too old. I reply to guys 99% of the time. Which bearing in mind they haven't had the courtesy to read our profile, to realise we wouldn't meet them anyway, I think is quite good on my part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't block just because I'm not interested.

I block for a host of other reasons though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's rude to name people in the forum and against site rules.

I'm not talking first messages she started the conversation I politely answered back and friended her as requested so it was rude and impolite to block

without saying why,. I appreciate that some women get swamped and I don't expect answers to all messages

The circumstances don't matter. You can't name and shame in the forums.

Maybe the rules should be changed , or as I've been told very often I'm too old for this site

I don't think anyone's too old. I reply to guys 99% of the time. Which bearing in mind they haven't had the courtesy to read our profile, to realise we wouldn't meet them anyway, I think is quite good on my part. "

I agree and think courtesy has a place even on a site like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The facility is there. Use it if you want to. Being polite on here can lead to more messages, usually asking why or then being abusive. Sometimes it's easier just to block "

This

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

A polite no thank you then block them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really block anyone. I can't be arsed.

It's the fucking Internet.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You can block for any reason and dot have to explain why. Don't feel guilty about it.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"I don't really block anyone. I can't be arsed.

It's the fucking Internet. "

Not even nuisance women that won't leave you alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really block anyone. I can't be arsed.

It's the fucking Internet.

Not even nuisance women that won't leave you alone "

I'm a big boy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance...."

I think it's rude. It's supposed to be an adult site.

"You look lovely but you're not my type sorry" is what an adult would say......

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By *huckzMan
over a year ago

spalding


"Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance...."
...I just got blocked for refusing to send a cock pic to some woman in only her second message to me ......lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance....

I think it's rude. It's supposed to be an adult site.

"You look lovely but you're not my type sorry" is what an adult would say......"

Perfect. Everyone knows where they stand.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance...."

It isn't rude at all .

We block so many after initial messages and pics .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the block saves a hundred words sometimes -

it can be - thanks for the pic but sorry not for me - counter reply - why what dont you like about me - i reply - i dont have to give the reason but its a no -

just block

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance....

I think it's rude. It's supposed to be an adult site.

"You look lovely but you're not my type sorry" is what an adult would say......"

Sorry but totally disagree .

When one is actively looking to meet and play , it's pointless to carry on messaging when you're not in the slightest bit interested .

The adult thing to do would be to suck up the block and look elsewhere .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance....

I think it's rude. It's supposed to be an adult site.

"You look lovely but you're not my type sorry" is what an adult would say......

Sorry but totally disagree .

When one is actively looking to meet and play , it's pointless to carry on messaging when you're not in the slightest bit interested .

The adult thing to do would be to suck up the block and look elsewhere ."

It's difficult to type "no thank you" with one hand

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

it is rude to block but there are many reasons why it's totally ok to do that.

i've blocked guys i enjoyed chatting to just coz i found them physically unattractive.

guys purposely do not send pics coz they know they are not attractive but think chatting to you will get you wet for them anyway, they deserve a block now i think about it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We didn't used to block people we had politely turned down and wished Happy Fabbing, but we use the private note function and recently have had a few messages from guys we've previously turned down. Don't know if they don't remember contacting us or think if they leave it long enough we won't remember and might say yes but now I'm thinking it saves everyone time to just block after saying no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance....

Is that to stop me sending you a message ? lol

I think it's rude. It's supposed to be an adult site.

"You look lovely but you're not my type sorry" is what an adult would say......"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you not interested in someone block them. It helps to reduce the amount of people in your local updates. You can then be left to concentrate on the people you are interested in.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"If you not interested in someone block them. It helps to reduce the amount of people in your local updates. You can then be left to concentrate on the people you are interested in. "

Works for me too

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"If you not interested in someone block them. It helps to reduce the amount of people in your local updates. You can then be left to concentrate on the people you are interested in.

Works for me too "

And for us

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By *hropshire irishMan
over a year ago

Shropshire


"I got a "not my type" then blocked.

Found it kinda rude."

I think it's the next politest thing to do after just a message. Blocking may seem like over kill but it stops either of you finding each on searches etc when one of you has already decided it's a no. And you do hear some stories of abuse being thrown by the turned down person.

I don't know if I annoy people by messaging them back saying I appreciate actually getting an answer and wishing them luck on here. But I do, unless they block me - the thing I find most annoying about being blocked is that (I obviously liked their pics) and I'll never get a chance to perv at any of their new ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To my knowledge I've only been blocked by one person and I really don't blame them, I didn't think a reply through properly and must have come across badly. I've tried to learn from that and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think some people take it to far and it's a power trip. We've never received any abuse after declining politely. Since we've been on the site the block button has been used 4 times and the reason being "serial stalkers"

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Hi...I'm new here and need some advice please....

How rude is it to block someone after seeing his photo...or would it be better to just send a message but saying what???

Blocking saves time with any follow-up message....?

Thanks in advance...."

Bestadvice would be send a message

, not for me , and I will be blocking you for our mutual benefit take care x

Then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block anyone I,m not interested in meeting, replying no thanks leads to more replies. If I,m not interested in someone I,m not interested end of. It saves wasting their time and mine with ping pong messages xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

used to be polite and if i have time i still am - but no guilt is felt from blocking or being blocked - the button is there for a reason

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"Just a polite no thankyou,if a no can be polite "

A no can always be polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not keen on blocking, and it does jarr with me if someone blocks us. That just seems to close doors. We're never going to meet probably 99.99% of Fab, but logically if we block every single person we're never going to meet, then there will be no profiles left for us to perve at and nobody to Fab our pics. People who have blocked us, I can't respond to them in the forums as that's against forum rules, and that puts me off blocking as I feel the forums should be about freedom of expression. But ultimately, how embarrassing would it be if we met someone at a party, hit it off and wanted to play, and then discovered that they'd blocked us or we'd blocked them? No, we only block if someone has become a nuisance or if they send an offensive message. We would also block if we knew them or they lived very near.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think blocking is a last resort. often if I say no thank you I get a polite message saying thank you for replying, so it would be a shame if I had blocked them as it's unnecessary and I would be offended if I was blocked that easily. However I also do agree that you should be able to block anyone if you want too. Personally I've blocked the odd guy that won't take no for a answer. I have also blocked some guys that I see in the updates/ status who rant excessively about no one meeting them, like how dare a woman turn them down on here/ sense of entitlement.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Everyone has their own code of conduct for blocking, do whatever works for you.

My trigger finger gets itchy depending on my mood. Sometimes it's someone I don't fancy. Sometimes its someone whose profile makes me queasy. Sometimes it's from a ridiculous message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're not keen on blocking, and it does jarr with me if someone blocks us. That just seems to close doors. We're never going to meet probably 99.99% of Fab, but logically if we block every single person we're never going to meet, then there will be no profiles left for us to perve at and nobody to Fab our pics. People who have blocked us, I can't respond to them in the forums as that's against forum rules, and that puts me off blocking as I feel the forums should be about freedom of expression. But ultimately, how embarrassing would it be if we met someone at a party, hit it off and wanted to play, and then discovered that they'd blocked us or we'd blocked them? No, we only block if someone has become a nuisance or if they send an offensive message. We would also block if we knew them or they lived very near.

Mrs"

understand what youre saying here - and we have chatted to people that this has happened to - we laughed it off as people and profiles come across differently as when meeting face to face - same way as meeting someone at a club or party and when you go home, check out the profile you think id never have given them a second look -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're not keen on blocking, and it does jarr with me if someone blocks us. That just seems to close doors. We're never going to meet probably 99.99% of Fab, but logically if we block every single person we're never going to meet, then there will be no profiles left for us to perve at and nobody to Fab our pics. People who have blocked us, I can't respond to them in the forums as that's against forum rules, and that puts me off blocking as I feel the forums should be about freedom of expression. But ultimately, how embarrassing would it be if we met someone at a party, hit it off and wanted to play, and then discovered that they'd blocked us or we'd blocked them? No, we only block if someone has become a nuisance or if they send an offensive message. We would also block if we knew them or they lived very near.

Mrs"

That's happened to us. Their Fab profile had loads of action shots and barely any text, felt we were after different things so sent a Thanks but no thanks reply and blocked. Then we met at a club, didn't realise it was them until the next day and it was a totally different story. The profile really didn't present them well.

We confessed and explained why the profile had been a turn off, and we've met several times since. Based on this we have probably missed out on some gems but what we don't know doesn't hurt.

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS
over a year ago

london

Also, if you suffer any form of discriminatory abuse, you know, racial, homophobic type stuff, 'Report User' to admin. They do indeed act upon it, thoroughly decent peeps that they are, xxx

Bag an' bin 'em I say.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Do we feel that there are some profile holders who enjoying blocking as a sense of power? I suppose given the perceived disparity between the number of messages sent and recieved, means I'll probably be referring to single women and attractive couples.

I'd imagine that most others would consider a block more as a burnt bridge, particularly from those in the forums who may not 'be your type', but at some point could be a useful respondent to a request for help or advice..

This by no means justifies haranguing or abusing anyone who doesn't want to take things further, but most people aren't completely devoid of feeling, and the potential for offence to be taken as a result of a 'no thanks' or a block is very real..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the block saves a hundred words sometimes -

it can be - thanks for the pic but sorry not for me - counter reply - why what dont you like about me - i reply - i dont have to give the reason but its a no -

just block "

I just block these days. I find that if you even remotely converse with guys on a 'no thanks' basis, they then pop up trying to make small talk at a later date, which is a waste of time for everyone. If I know I'll never meet the person on a sexual level, I just block. If they take it personal I won't lose sleep over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from a religious pair of mutters on here I just block who I know have blocked me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

This by no means justifies haranguing or abusing anyone who doesn't want to take things further, but most people aren't completely devoid of feeling, and the potential for offence to be taken as a result of a 'no thanks' or a block is very real.."

My take would be that Fab probably isn't going to be much fun for you if your feelings are hurt or you are offended by someone who you have only ever had contact with online , possibly no contact with at all, blocking your access to their profile. There are plenty of people on here, focus on the ones who do want to interact.

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