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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Going on from bunnyhops's married thread.. How would you stop feelings for someone if they kinda accidentally happened?

Especially if its one sided.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Walk away

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land


"Going on from bunnyhops's married thread.. How would you stop feelings for someone if they kinda accidentally happened?

Especially if its one sided. "

I think the only thing for me to do would be to stop contact and naively hope for out of sight out of mind to kick in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what kind of site this is, right?

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By *apascouseMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Going on from bunnyhops's married thread.. How would you stop feelings for someone if they kinda accidentally happened?

Especially if its one sided. "

Always the safest to walk away, it might hurt but not as bad as It could end up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Going on from bunnyhops's married thread.. How would you stop feelings for someone if they kinda accidentally happened?

Especially if its one sided.

I think the only thing for me to do would be to stop contact and naively hope for out of sight out of mind to kick in?"

yeah if i were in that situation id walk away too i think.. wouldnt be easy though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You know what kind of site this is, right?"

no shit smart arse lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Cut off contact and walk away

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget"

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop contact, blindingly obvious.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Fuck knows.

They keep falling in love with me

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Cut off contact and walk away"

Is it that easy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it possible to ween away the feelings and effectively return to normal?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy? "

In my mind i doubt it.. cold turkey on an addiction might end up in relapse..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it possible to ween away the feelings and effectively return to normal?

"

Of course it is, time will do this naturally.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

In my mind i doubt it.. cold turkey on an addiction might end up in relapse..

"

Keep them as friends?

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy? "

No I don't think it is in all honesty. I'd be a hypocrite to say it was! Especially when you have let your barriers down with someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fuck knows.

They keep falling in love with me "

Just wish you'd love me back.. my hearts fucking breaking seeing you day in day out..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?"

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

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By *apascouseMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

In my mind i doubt it.. cold turkey on an addiction might end up in relapse..

"

You need to remove all temptation and option of contact to go cold turkey so even if you wanted to it was Impossible

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

In my mind i doubt it.. cold turkey on an addiction might end up in relapse..

Keep them as friends? "

I think it's really hard to find that balance as friends if feelings are on one side. Feels like slowly picking at a scab at times...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

No I don't think it is in all honesty. I'd be a hypocrite to say it was! Especially when you have let your barriers down with someone."

Think thats gotta be the difficult thing about it.. we have barriers/walls protecting us.. then slowly but surely it gets taken down and have no real control over what the heck your feeling..

your desperate to stop it as it makes you vulnerable.. the situation is a bloody nightmare.. your afraid yet it feels sooooo good

is it actually physically hurting to allow those feel good emotions?

but then reality smacks you in the face and its cold.

...well thats what my friend would say anyways

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!"

did she not have the same feelings then?

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy? "

No I don't believe it is ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then? "

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

No I don't think it is in all honesty. I'd be a hypocrite to say it was! Especially when you have let your barriers down with someone.

Think thats gotta be the difficult thing about it.. we have barriers/walls protecting us.. then slowly but surely it gets taken down and have no real control over what the heck your feeling..

your desperate to stop it as it makes you vulnerable.. the situation is a bloody nightmare.. your afraid yet it feels sooooo good

is it actually physically hurting to allow those feel good emotions?

but then reality smacks you in the face and its cold.

...well thats what my friend would say anyways "

Yeah it is a feeling of being vulnerable when you have let your barriers down. I think my automatic reaction in that case is to put my defences straight back up again and try and cut them off. Easier said than done and I've relapsed a few times but you have to think what is right for yourself in the long run and try and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her"

To be fair she was 47 tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her"

least its not just a woman problem then. Could you not have made things work?

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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago

Bradford


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy? "

It has to be. I started falling for a married fb, it was stop seeing him or get my heart broken as it obviously couldn't go anywhere...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I'd finding deleting and walking away easy. Are there any intermediary approaches?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

It has to be. I started falling for a married fb, it was stop seeing him or get my heart broken as it obviously couldn't go anywhere..."

before you cut contact did you tell him the truth or just give him another reason?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Fuck knows.

They keep falling in love with me

Just wish you'd love me back.. my hearts fucking breaking seeing you day in day out..

"

I'm sorry. It's the way it has to be. I keep telling you I am unable to give you more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

least its not just a woman problem then. Could you not have made things work?

"

No way i live down south. She's married so am i. I met her in Turkey aswell

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

No I don't think it is in all honesty. I'd be a hypocrite to say it was! Especially when you have let your barriers down with someone.

Think thats gotta be the difficult thing about it.. we have barriers/walls protecting us.. then slowly but surely it gets taken down and have no real control over what the heck your feeling..

your desperate to stop it as it makes you vulnerable.. the situation is a bloody nightmare.. your afraid yet it feels sooooo good

is it actually physically hurting to allow those feel good emotions?

but then reality smacks you in the face and its cold.

...well thats what my friend would say anyways

Yeah it is a feeling of being vulnerable when you have let your barriers down. I think my automatic reaction in that case is to put my defences straight back up again and try and cut them off. Easier said than done and I've relapsed a few times but you have to think what is right for yourself in the long run and try and move on."

Kicks like a bitch, letting someone in telling them things you don't tell anyone, opening up in a way you never have and then kapow.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

To be fair she was 47 tho"

What difference does her age make ?

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By *uteness69Woman
over a year ago

Walthamstow


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her"

that's cold

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Probably meet them one last time for some good sex and then break things off....

Better than by text or over thw phone I guess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

To be fair she was 47 tho

What difference does her age make ?"

Well im 31 so a big difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get them, I'm immune.

When it's them I make it very clear it's ok for them to have those feelings, but it will never develop into a committed relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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No way i live down south. She's married so am i. I met her in Turkey aswell "

well at least i know your married now.. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

least its not just a woman problem then. Could you not have made things work?

No way i live down south. She's married so am i. I met her in Turkey aswell "

How do you accommodate if you're married?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

To be fair she was 47 tho

What difference does her age make ?

Well im 31 so a big difference"

Are you saying that if she was nearer your age you wouldn't have cut her off ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

least its not just a woman problem then. Could you not have made things work?

No way i live down south. She's married so am i. I met her in Turkey aswell

How do you accommodate if you're married? "

Hotel or drive to theirs. Weekends away also. Been everywhere really

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Yeah it is a feeling of being vulnerable when you have let your barriers down. I think my automatic reaction in that case is to put my defences straight back up again and try and cut them off. Easier said than done and I've relapsed a few times but you have to think what is right for yourself in the long run and try and move on.

Kicks like a bitch, letting someone in telling them things you don't tell anyone, opening up in a way you never have and then kapow.

"

in my friends case though i dont feel she set out to get feelings (sayin that,, does anyone? lol)

just laughing loads, sharing banter, ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block, Delete, Move on

It's easy for me though as i'm a cold hearted bint. I only love my kids and my mum.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Block, Delete, Move on

It's easy for me though as i'm a cold hearted bint. I only love my kids and my mum. "

Name love

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Probably meet them one last time for some good sex and then break things off....

Better than by text or over thw phone I guess x"

Yeah you'll miss my sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

No I don't think it is in all honesty. I'd be a hypocrite to say it was! Especially when you have let your barriers down with someone.

Think thats gotta be the difficult thing about it.. we have barriers/walls protecting us.. then slowly but surely it gets taken down and have no real control over what the heck your feeling..

your desperate to stop it as it makes you vulnerable.. the situation is a bloody nightmare.. your afraid yet it feels sooooo good

is it actually physically hurting to allow those feel good emotions?

but then reality smacks you in the face and its cold.

...well thats what my friend would say anyways

Yeah it is a feeling of being vulnerable when you have let your barriers down. I think my automatic reaction in that case is to put my defences straight back up again and try and cut them off. Easier said than done and I've relapsed a few times but you have to think what is right for yourself in the long run and try and move on.

Kicks like a bitch, letting someone in telling them things you don't tell anyone, opening up in a way you never have and then kapow.

"

Then you shuffle off and listen to The Cure for days

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"

Yeah it is a feeling of being vulnerable when you have let your barriers down. I think my automatic reaction in that case is to put my defences straight back up again and try and cut them off. Easier said than done and I've relapsed a few times but you have to think what is right for yourself in the long run and try and move on.

Kicks like a bitch, letting someone in telling them things you don't tell anyone, opening up in a way you never have and then kapow.

in my friends case though i dont feel she set out to get feelings (sayin that,, does anyone? lol)

just laughing loads, sharing banter, .."

They just happen, fucking feels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

To be fair she was 47 tho

What difference does her age make ?

Well im 31 so a big difference

Are you saying that if she was nearer your age you wouldn't have cut her off ?"

No it would of ended anyway. She had her life i have mine. She worked high up for a company so she got train tickets and expenses for hotels covered all the time. I did offer to pay of course

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

No I don't think it is in all honesty. I'd be a hypocrite to say it was! Especially when you have let your barriers down with someone.

Think thats gotta be the difficult thing about it.. we have barriers/walls protecting us.. then slowly but surely it gets taken down and have no real control over what the heck your feeling..

your desperate to stop it as it makes you vulnerable.. the situation is a bloody nightmare.. your afraid yet it feels sooooo good

is it actually physically hurting to allow those feel good emotions?

but then reality smacks you in the face and its cold.

...well thats what my friend would say anyways

Yeah it is a feeling of being vulnerable when you have let your barriers down. I think my automatic reaction in that case is to put my defences straight back up again and try and cut them off. Easier said than done and I've relapsed a few times but you have to think what is right for yourself in the long run and try and move on.

Kicks like a bitch, letting someone in telling them things you don't tell anyone, opening up in a way you never have and then kapow.

Then you shuffle off and listen to The Cure for days "

Can I fall into your arms?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me recently... I've had to stop all contact. Heart breaking but no point flogging a dead horse..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

least its not just a woman problem then. Could you not have made things work?

No way i live down south. She's married so am i. I met her in Turkey aswell

How do you accommodate if you're married?

Hotel or drive to theirs. Weekends away also. Been everywhere really"

Ahh thought you were inviting people to the barracks, would be a dream come true to go room to room sucking people off! (If they had given prior consent of course- for the people that call me a rapist)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's happened to me recently... I've had to stop all contact. Heart breaking but no point flogging a dead horse.. "

*hugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

least its not just a woman problem then. Could you not have made things work?

No way i live down south. She's married so am i. I met her in Turkey aswell

How do you accommodate if you're married?

Hotel or drive to theirs. Weekends away also. Been everywhere really

Ahh thought you were inviting people to the barracks, would be a dream come true to go room to room sucking people off! (If they had given prior consent of course- for the people that call me a rapist) "

haha that can be arranged easily. But i dont think you could keep up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cry in front of a mirror. I then decorate my room black and get a new tattoo to cover up their name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do everything you can to take your mind off them .......... and put things like family first .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cry in front of a mirror. I then decorate my room black and get a new tattoo to cover up their name. "

hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do everything you can to take your mind off them .......... and put things like family first ."

Like going to thailand ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I must be a right cold fish as i would just walk away and not tell yhem. But then i dont get myself in that situation in the first place

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

You can't choose to have emotions, you can only choose to act upon them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

least its not just a woman problem then. Could you not have made things work?

No way i live down south. She's married so am i. I met her in Turkey aswell

How do you accommodate if you're married?

Hotel or drive to theirs. Weekends away also. Been everywhere really

Ahh thought you were inviting people to the barracks, would be a dream come true to go room to room sucking people off! (If they had given prior consent of course- for the people that call me a rapist) haha that can be arranged easily. But i dont think you could keep up lol"

You'd have to give me the room numbers to the handsome ones with large willys but I reckon I could handle it, they call me wee willy winky running through your town.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I must be a right cold fish as i would just walk away and not tell yhem. But then i dont get myself in that situation in the first place"

It might be because your already madly in love with your other half..

thats not to say that people in relationships dont develop feelings for others. The married men thread showed it was possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete them tbh. Done it twice in my life. No answets just delete. And forget

So you liked a lass.. did you tell her before or just went straight for distance?

Yes delete no contact at all. I still get messages now and again from her in liverpool. Theres no such thing as weaning. It just gives them hope of nothing!

did she not have the same feelings then?

I liked her a bit more than a mate. But then i had enough so i deleted her

least its not just a woman problem then. Could you not have made things work?

No way i live down south. She's married so am i. I met her in Turkey aswell

How do you accommodate if you're married?

Hotel or drive to theirs. Weekends away also. Been everywhere really

Ahh thought you were inviting people to the barracks, would be a dream come true to go room to room sucking people off! (If they had given prior consent of course- for the people that call me a rapist) haha that can be arranged easily. But i dont think you could keep up lol

You'd have to give me the room numbers to the handsome ones with large willys but I reckon I could handle it, they call me wee willy winky running through your town. "

Hahaha i know 2 lads who have the biggest cocks ive ever seen 3 handed male hands. You'd love them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do everything you can to take your mind off them .......... and put things like family first .

Like going to thailand ?"

well yes if the family is living there . lol my kids come first and other things last .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you can necessarily stop feelings from developing once they start.

Depends on what context too ~ if you're falling for someone where it can't be reciprocal because for example they're attached then you have no choice really but to walk away. Short term hurt for long term gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do everything you can to take your mind off them .......... and put things like family first .

Like going to thailand ? well yes if the family is living there . lol my kids come first and other things last . "

Well maybe when they are old enough you can jet off to somewhere exotic. The maldives or seychelles i recommend

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I cry in front of a mirror. I then decorate my room black and get a new tattoo to cover up their name. "

And candles...... there has to be candles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do everything you can to take your mind off them .......... and put things like family first .

Like going to thailand ? well yes if the family is living there . lol my kids come first and other things last .

Well maybe when they are old enough you can jet off to somewhere exotic. The maldives or seychelles i recommend "

god been there 8 times I take them all too , lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do everything you can to take your mind off them .......... and put things like family first .

Like going to thailand ? well yes if the family is living there . lol my kids come first and other things last .

Well maybe when they are old enough you can jet off to somewhere exotic. The maldives or seychelles i recommend god been there 8 times I take them all too , lol "

Wow haha good taste

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I like to make a voodoo doll

Send knickers to their homes or make friends with their wife and put photos of us enjoying drinks on Facebook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to make a voodoo doll

Send knickers to their homes or make friends with their wife and put photos of us enjoying drinks on Facebook "

Very sick lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I read threads like this I often wonder if I'm a cold person. I've felt friendship for people on fab. I've felt lust for people I've fucked. But romantic feelings have never entered my radar.

Maybe it's because I'm part of a couple rather than single, but this has just never been an issue for me.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I like to make a voodoo doll

Send knickers to their homes or make friends with their wife and put photos of us enjoying drinks on Facebook

Very sick lol"

Surely not.

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

are we talking about having feelings for someone we met off of here or of someone in life in general

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like to make a voodoo doll

Send knickers to their homes or make friends with their wife and put photos of us enjoying drinks on Facebook "

pmsl...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"are we talking about having feelings for someone we met off of here or of someone in life in general"

either.. its just feelings for someone you shouldnt have feelings for in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"are we talking about having feelings for someone we met off of here or of someone in life in general"

General

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you developed feelings for someone what, if anything, could they do to help you? Would it help or make it worse if they held your hand and talked you through it? Would the best thing be for them to turn cold and block you? I'm genuinely interested. Is there a nice way to help someone overcome feelings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hahaha i know 2 lads who have the biggest cocks ive ever seen 3 handed male hands. You'd love them"

Oh, I measure in hand potatoes as well, I don't need massive just 7-9 inches would do anyway hi-jacking this thread now sorry c&s

Yeah feelings are shit if they aren't reciprocated, when I find someone I like I always get blown off. Need to get the balance right and not come on too strong but despite warning everyone that I'm hardwork, they don't anticipate how much hard work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I read threads like this I often wonder if I'm a cold person. I've felt friendship for people on fab. I've felt lust for people I've fucked. But romantic feelings have never entered my radar.

Maybe it's because I'm part of a couple rather than single, but this has just never been an issue for me."

i was just curious as on another thread a married person confessed to having feelings for someone.. guess these bloomin feelings can potentially attack anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings are feelings. Sometimes they come sometimes they go sometimes they stick around. People say all sorts of shit build barriers and walls to protect themselves but the feelings still get through. Perhaps it's better to simply be open ask the questions and then deal with the answer rather than simply going for cut and run. The only things we ever regret are those we don't try for whatever reason and life is too precious to live with regrets. Who knows sometimes the answer may surprise you...and if they are not the answers you want then given time life goes on and one day that void you feel is filled by something or someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hahaha i know 2 lads who have the biggest cocks ive ever seen 3 handed male hands. You'd love them

Oh, I measure in hand potatoes as well, I don't need massive just 7-9 inches would do anyway hi-jacking this thread now sorry c&s

Well your profile is good and pictures are spot on. So i think your heading in the right direction. As long as your not a serial killer your good to go!! Lol

Yeah feelings are shit if they aren't reciprocated, when I find someone I like I always get blown off. Need to get the balance right and not come on too strong but despite warning everyone that I'm hardwork, they don't anticipate how much hard work. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hahaha i know 2 lads who have the biggest cocks ive ever seen 3 handed male hands. You'd love them

Oh, I measure in hand potatoes as well, I don't need massive just 7-9 inches would do anyway hi-jacking this thread now sorry c&s

Yeah feelings are shit if they aren't reciprocated, when I find someone I like I always get blown off. Need to get the balance right and not come on too strong but despite warning everyone that I'm hardwork, they don't anticipate how much hard work. "

The message got muddled up in that one above

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you developed feelings for someone what, if anything, could they do to help you? Would it help or make it worse if they held your hand and talked you through it? Would the best thing be for them to turn cold and block you? I'm genuinely interested. Is there a nice way to help someone overcome feelings? "

oooh interesting..

if it was me who had the feelings.. id probs tell the poor sod.. and pray that he was the one to cut ties/block me if it was a situation that could not work out.

Id have no will power.. every part of me would want to stay and have the feelings.

Im weak

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"are we talking about having feelings for someone we met off of here or of someone in life in general"

I'm talking about life in general.

The only feeling I want on here is someone feeling my vagina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I read threads like this I often wonder if I'm a cold person. I've felt friendship for people on fab. I've felt lust for people I've fucked. But romantic feelings have never entered my radar.

Maybe it's because I'm part of a couple rather than single, but this has just never been an issue for me."

Yep I'm exactly the same. I think for me I just have no room for another in my heart. I have no need to look elsewhere for emotional involvement because my needs in that respect are met fully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

No I don't think it is in all honesty. I'd be a hypocrite to say it was! Especially when you have let your barriers down with someone.

Think thats gotta be the difficult thing about it.. we have barriers/walls protecting us.. then slowly but surely it gets taken down and have no real control over what the heck your feeling..

your desperate to stop it as it makes you vulnerable.. the situation is a bloody nightmare.. your afraid yet it feels sooooo good

is it actually physically hurting to allow those feel good emotions?

but then reality smacks you in the face and its cold.

...well thats what my friend would say anyways

Yeah it is a feeling of being vulnerable when you have let your barriers down. I think my automatic reaction in that case is to put my defences straight back up again and try and cut them off. Easier said than done and I've relapsed a few times but you have to think what is right for yourself in the long run and try and move on.

Kicks like a bitch, letting someone in telling them things you don't tell anyone, opening up in a way you never have and then kapow.

Then you shuffle off and listen to The Cure for days

Can I fall into your arms? "

Crying for the death of your heart?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Going on from bunnyhops's married thread.. How would you stop feelings for someone if they kinda accidentally happened?

Especially if its one sided. "

All kinds of wrong going on in this question .....

1. There aren't any feelings you shouldn't have.

2. If you have decided that you shouldn't have them then they must go against your own moral conscience.

3. If they are going against your own moral conscience and you don't step back from them then own them. It's not an accident.

4. The fact that it's 'one sided' could actually be one of the reasons the game is so good. There is no chance of 'the other' reciprocating so you can have your 'shouldn't have' feelings safely in the knowledge that it won't go further.

5. It's easier to admit that you like the feelings and the game but as a logical adult you are able to ensure that no animals will be harmed in the perpetuation of your fantasy.

P.S. I don't know if this Q is hypothetical or who is asking really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to make a voodoo doll

Send knickers to their homes or make friends with their wife and put photos of us enjoying drinks on Facebook "

You go drinking with a voodoo doll

Never going to let you cut my hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck knows.

They keep falling in love with me "

And following you with hat pulled down, sorry, did I post this !

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.P.S sorry .........

You stop the game by stopping the feelings.

AND if you ( by you I mean anyone ) tell me you cannot stop the feeling and you are not responsible then don't ask me to be angry with murderers ........etc.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

From my experience, turn into a total arse throw some insults when pissed, then forget exactly what they had said.

I then block, then they become mystified about why.....start a new profile, they beg, they apologise and ask for a second chance, without remembering what they were apologising for, but say 'hey, they do say we hurt the one's we care about'

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, fuck off

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton


"

Ahh thought you were inviting people to the barracks, would be a dream come true to go room to room sucking people off! (If they had given prior consent of course- for the people that call me a rapist) haha that can be arranged easily. But i dont think you could keep up lol"

Bagsy help out if keeping up needs help!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"From my experience, turn into a total arse throw some insults when pissed, then forget exactly what they had said.

I then block, then they become mystified about why.....start a new profile, they beg, they apologise and ask for a second chance, without remembering what they were apologising for, but say 'hey, they do say we hurt the one's we care about'

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, fuck off "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

That's you all told. Don't mess about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's you all told. Don't mess about. "

You speak so much sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hahaha i know 2 lads who have the biggest cocks ive ever seen 3 handed male hands. You'd love them

Oh, I measure in hand potatoes as well, I don't need massive just 7-9 inches would do anyway hi-jacking this thread now sorry c&s

Yeah feelings are shit if they aren't reciprocated, when I find someone I like I always get blown off. Need to get the balance right and not come on too strong but despite warning everyone that I'm hardwork, they don't anticipate how much hard work.

The message got muddled up in that one above"

I saw it and thanks, not a serial killer, just like to know everything and need constant reassurance, I think I have low self esteem and a fear that everyone leaves. I'm fucked basically, I'm a lovely looking person with issues good shag and filthy but will drain you mentally. Think I'd need a very mentally strong person to put up with me.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"That's you all told. Don't mess about. "

Yes boss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just think about them coved in poo ........... yukkkkkkkkkkkk Will put you right off ..

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings


"are we talking about having feelings for someone we met off of here or of someone in life in general

either.. its just feelings for someone you shouldnt have feelings for in general "

ive had feelings for someone for years, was a hard one as it was the best mates brother and we were all really close, but over time i didnt see him so much...but last year saw him again first time in 5 years, the feelings were still there and it all came back for me bigtime, ive had these feelings for him now for about 15//16 years, they just dont go away, sometimes it is out of sight out of mind with him, i dont think there is a day i go by without thinking bout him, but it doesnt hurt or ache like it used to.

in terms of on here and developing feelings for someone, i feel very strongly in a friendship way to some guys ive met more than once, im really protective of one in particular, but nothing that is in a relationship way. i do get a little jelous if they meet others but that is more because i dont get to meet often so i wish i got to see more of them, its not coz i want to be their only or nothing.

i think you have to assess what is better for you and in what sense are your feelings x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hahaha i know 2 lads who have the biggest cocks ive ever seen 3 handed male hands. You'd love them

Oh, I measure in hand potatoes as well, I don't need massive just 7-9 inches would do anyway hi-jacking this thread now sorry c&s

Yeah feelings are shit if they aren't reciprocated, when I find someone I like I always get blown off. Need to get the balance right and not come on too strong but despite warning everyone that I'm hardwork, they don't anticipate how much hard work.

The message got muddled up in that one above

I saw it and thanks, not a serial killer, just like to know everything and need constant reassurance, I think I have low self esteem and a fear that everyone leaves. I'm fucked basically, I'm a lovely looking person with issues good shag and filthy but will drain you mentally. Think I'd need a very mentally strong person to put up with me. "

if i wasnt with someone id marry you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my recent meets said she wanted to meet again and was looking for a relationship if it felt right I told her I've done the relationship thing and I'm only after fun for now but things can happen who knows ,anyway she had to have an operation for an ongoing injury so we kept in touch whilst she was in recovery and nthen she stopped replying to my texts and yesterday she finally answered and said she was now in a relationship so guess she got what she wanted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

tempted to start a new thread and leave Empress and James too it

carry on :D

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One of my recent meets said she wanted to meet again and was looking for a relationship if it felt right I told her I've done the relationship thing and I'm only after fun for now but things can happen who knows ,anyway she had to have an operation for an ongoing injury so we kept in touch whilst she was in recovery and nthen she stopped replying to my texts and yesterday she finally answered and said she was now in a relationship so guess she got what she wanted "

She got a happy ending then

This is the thing with this website.. you can have your prefernces on a profile and state what your after... but sometimes the goal posts move as things progress..

can it ever truly be fixed?

again im a single lass so different for couples naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most of the time people say they've developed feelings for someone they've recently met they haven't really. They've just fallen in love with themselves; with how the other person makes them feel. Once they've got through this initial honeymoon period many people realise it wasn't the person they loved, just how they made them feel, so they move on. Those who still feel a strong attraction start to develop a deeper friendship with the person. It's only as you're really starting to get to know someone on a deep level that you can begin to say you've developed feelings for them.

This kind of talk "oh we shared so much in common. we like the same food, watch the same films, wear the same underwear. we really clicked in a deep way". That's just bunny boiler bs. Really all that's happened is the person feels elated and they're enjoying exuding that out to the world. A few weeks later and it'll be "yeah we didn't really have much in common".

Once you recognise that in these situations you're really only ever falling in love with yourself you can decide if you want to ride the buzz and enjoy it... or run away from the source of the stimulation and go into cold turkey. That's my take anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot feel for anyone off the site Never mind on it!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tempted to start a new thread and leave Empress and James too it

carry on :D "

so have you fallen for a fab meet or is it just hypothesis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tempted to start a new thread and leave Empress and James too it

carry on :D "

Haha sorry

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over a year ago


"tempted to start a new thread and leave Empress and James too it

carry on :D so have you fallen for a fab meet or is it just hypothesis "

lol ive not fallen for anyone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's you all told. Don't mess about. "

I knew that award was well deserved

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think most of the time people say they've developed feelings for someone they've recently met they haven't really. They've just fallen in love with themselves; with how the other person makes them feel. Once they've got through this initial honeymoon period many people realise it wasn't the person they loved, just how they made them feel, so they move on. Those who still feel a strong attraction start to develop a deeper friendship with the person. It's only as you're really starting to get to know someone on a deep level that you can begin to say you've developed feelings for them.

This kind of talk "oh we shared so much in common. we like the same food, watch the same films, wear the same underwear. we really clicked in a deep way". That's just bunny boiler bs. Really all that's happened is the person feels elated and they're enjoying exuding that out to the world. A few weeks later and it'll be "yeah we didn't really have much in common".

Once you recognise that in these situations you're really only ever falling in love with yourself you can decide if you want to ride the buzz and enjoy it... or run away from the source of the stimulation and go into cold turkey. That's my take anyway "

Think that makes a whole load of sense really. Great post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tempted to start a new thread and leave Empress and James too it

carry on :D so have you fallen for a fab meet or is it just hypothesis

lol ive not fallen for anyone.. "

but if you did would u be able to walk away be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"tempted to start a new thread and leave Empress and James too it

carry on :D so have you fallen for a fab meet or is it just hypothesis

lol ive not fallen for anyone.. but if you did would u be able to walk away be honest "

Id struggle with walking away from something id want.. its not logical :D

Id hope they would be kind and end all contact with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tempted to start a new thread and leave Empress and James too it

carry on :D so have you fallen for a fab meet or is it just hypothesis

lol ive not fallen for anyone.. but if you did would u be able to walk away be honest

Id struggle with walking away from something id want.. its not logical :D

Id hope they would be kind and end all contact with me "

that's what kinda happened with that meet I was on about for months we've been arranging to meet up after her op been chatting most days her hinting about us becoming more then all of a sudden nothing then hi I've met someone ,lucky didn't get emotionally involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't. I stayed friends and said nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think most of the time people say they've developed feelings for someone they've recently met they haven't really. They've just fallen in love with themselves; with how the other person makes them feel. Once they've got through this initial honeymoon period many people realise it wasn't the person they loved, just how they made them feel, so they move on. Those who still feel a strong attraction start to develop a deeper friendship with the person. It's only as you're really starting to get to know someone on a deep level that you can begin to say you've developed feelings for them.

This kind of talk "oh we shared so much in common. we like the same food, watch the same films, wear the same underwear. we really clicked in a deep way". That's just bunny boiler bs. Really all that's happened is the person feels elated and they're enjoying exuding that out to the world. A few weeks later and it'll be "yeah we didn't really have much in common".

Once you recognise that in these situations you're really only ever falling in love with yourself you can decide if you want to ride the buzz and enjoy it... or run away from the source of the stimulation and go into cold turkey. That's my take anyway "

I love this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't. I stayed friends and said nothing. "
I told her I'm there when she wants to chat it's all you can do

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I think most of the time people say they've developed feelings for someone they've recently met they haven't really. They've just fallen in love with themselves; with how the other person makes them feel. Once they've got through this initial honeymoon period many people realise it wasn't the person they loved, just how they made them feel, so they move on. Those who still feel a strong attraction start to develop a deeper friendship with the person. It's only as you're really starting to get to know someone on a deep level that you can begin to say you've developed feelings for them.

This kind of talk "oh we shared so much in common. we like the same food, watch the same films, wear the same underwear. we really clicked in a deep way". That's just bunny boiler bs. Really all that's happened is the person feels elated and they're enjoying exuding that out to the world. A few weeks later and it'll be "yeah we didn't really have much in common".

Once you recognise that in these situations you're really only ever falling in love with yourself you can decide if you want to ride the buzz and enjoy it... or run away from the source of the stimulation and go into cold turkey. That's my take anyway "

I was avoiding the, 'it's just your own chemicals' truth.......

I agree with this post AND i'll wager you are the male half of the couple.

If I'm wrong it'll be cos you are the female.... and that can't be wrong.

G'wan ... which one is it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hahaha i know 2 lads who have the biggest cocks ive ever seen 3 handed male hands. You'd love them

Oh, I measure in hand potatoes as well, I don't need massive just 7-9 inches would do anyway hi-jacking this thread now sorry c&s

Yeah feelings are shit if they aren't reciprocated, when I find someone I like I always get blown off. Need to get the balance right and not come on too strong but despite warning everyone that I'm hardwork, they don't anticipate how much hard work.

The message got muddled up in that one above

I saw it and thanks, not a serial killer, just like to know everything and need constant reassurance, I think I have low self esteem and a fear that everyone leaves. I'm fucked basically, I'm a lovely looking person with issues good shag and filthy but will drain you mentally. Think I'd need a very mentally strong person to put up with me.

if i wasnt with someone id marry you. X"

Sound, as long as I know that I'd be marriage material to some people that's good enough for me! Thanks that's nice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing to do is accept your only here to fuck like minded people and go back to your seperate lives after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hahaha i know 2 lads who have the biggest cocks ive ever seen 3 handed male hands. You'd love them

Oh, I measure in hand potatoes as well, I don't need massive just 7-9 inches would do anyway hi-jacking this thread now sorry c&s

Yeah feelings are shit if they aren't reciprocated, when I find someone I like I always get blown off. Need to get the balance right and not come on too strong but despite warning everyone that I'm hardwork, they don't anticipate how much hard work.

The message got muddled up in that one above

I saw it and thanks, not a serial killer, just like to know everything and need constant reassurance, I think I have low self esteem and a fear that everyone leaves. I'm fucked basically, I'm a lovely looking person with issues good shag and filthy but will drain you mentally. Think I'd need a very mentally strong person to put up with me.

if i wasnt with someone id marry you. X

Sound, as long as I know that I'd be marriage material to some people that's good enough for me! Thanks that's nice!"

can u cook and iron lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Going on from bunnyhops's married thread.. How would you stop feelings for someone if they kinda accidentally happened?

Especially if its one sided.

All kinds of wrong going on in this question .....

1. There aren't any feelings you shouldn't have.

2. If you have decided that you shouldn't have them then they must go against your own moral conscience.

3. If they are going against your own moral conscience and you don't step back from them then own them. It's not an accident.

4. The fact that it's 'one sided' could actually be one of the reasons the game is so good. There is no chance of 'the other' reciprocating so you can have your 'shouldn't have' feelings safely in the knowledge that it won't go further.

5. It's easier to admit that you like the feelings and the game but as a logical adult you are able to ensure that no animals will be harmed in the perpetuation of your fantasy.

P.S. I don't know if this Q is hypothetical or who is asking really.

"

That saved me a lot of typing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hahaha i know 2 lads who have the biggest cocks ive ever seen 3 handed male hands. You'd love them

Oh, I measure in hand potatoes as well, I don't need massive just 7-9 inches would do anyway hi-jacking this thread now sorry c&s

Yeah feelings are shit if they aren't reciprocated, when I find someone I like I always get blown off. Need to get the balance right and not come on too strong but despite warning everyone that I'm hardwork, they don't anticipate how much hard work.

The message got muddled up in that one above

I saw it and thanks, not a serial killer, just like to know everything and need constant reassurance, I think I have low self esteem and a fear that everyone leaves. I'm fucked basically, I'm a lovely looking person with issues good shag and filthy but will drain you mentally. Think I'd need a very mentally strong person to put up with me.

if i wasnt with someone id marry you. X

Sound, as long as I know that I'd be marriage material to some people that's good enough for me! Thanks that's nice!"

No probs!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Is it always a really bad thing?

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"You know what kind of site this is, right?"

What? So because we enjoy sex without love - none of us ever have feelings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it always a really bad thing? "
what ??

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

This might sound really cold but I know that I'll never fall for anyone on here. I've had 3 'regular' guys which I saw for months. They were never anymore than really good friends because that's as far as it was ever going to go and they were fine with that

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think most of the time people say they've developed feelings for someone they've recently met they haven't really. They've just fallen in love with themselves; with how the other person makes them feel. Once they've got through this initial honeymoon period many people realise it wasn't the person they loved, just how they made them feel, so they move on. Those who still feel a strong attraction start to develop a deeper friendship with the person. It's only as you're really starting to get to know someone on a deep level that you can begin to say you've developed feelings for them.

This kind of talk "oh we shared so much in common. we like the same food, watch the same films, wear the same underwear. we really clicked in a deep way". That's just bunny boiler bs. Really all that's happened is the person feels elated and they're enjoying exuding that out to the world. A few weeks later and it'll be "yeah we didn't really have much in common".

Once you recognise that in these situations you're really only ever falling in love with yourself you can decide if you want to ride the buzz and enjoy it... or run away from the source of the stimulation and go into cold turkey. That's my take anyway

I love this!!! "

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This might sound really cold but I know that I'll never fall for anyone on here. I've had 3 'regular' guys which I saw for months. They were never anymore than really good friends because that's as far as it was ever going to go and they were fine with that "
so your ruling out the fact u might find someone here who might make you think time to end this and settle down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going on from bunnyhops's married thread.. How would you stop feelings for someone if they kinda accidentally happened?

Especially if its one sided. "

Maybe ask yourself... am I being a bit stalkerish.

If the answers yes then leave it

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Fuck knows.

They keep falling in love with me "

And we block and move on

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"This might sound really cold but I know that I'll never fall for anyone on here. I've had 3 'regular' guys which I saw for months. They were never anymore than really good friends because that's as far as it was ever going to go and they were fine with that so your ruling out the fact u might find someone here who might make you think time to end this and settle down"

Yes because I'm already married

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Is it always a really bad thing? what ??"

The feelings thing.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it always a really bad thing? what ??

The feelings thing....."

No i dint think its bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This might sound really cold but I know that I'll never fall for anyone on here. I've had 3 'regular' guys which I saw for months. They were never anymore than really good friends because that's as far as it was ever going to go and they were fine with that so your ruling out the fact u might find someone here who might make you think time to end this and settle down

Yes because I'm already married "

so was the lady I bought my house off buy it didn't stop her and now she's living across the rd with her new guy

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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

When I figure it out I'll let you know.

I seemed doomed to keep repeating the same mistake.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Fuck knows.

They keep falling in love with me

And we block and move on "

I could never block you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had feelings for someone i shouldnt have. I found out it wasnt one sided though so we became a couple, been together over ten years, married (to each other) several years. Life is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think most of the time people say they've developed feelings for someone they've recently met they haven't really. They've just fallen in love with themselves; with how the other person makes them feel. Once they've got through this initial honeymoon period many people realise it wasn't the person they loved, just how they made them feel, so they move on. Those who still feel a strong attraction start to develop a deeper friendship with the person. It's only as you're really starting to get to know someone on a deep level that you can begin to say you've developed feelings for them.

This kind of talk "oh we shared so much in common. we like the same food, watch the same films, wear the same underwear. we really clicked in a deep way". That's just bunny boiler bs. Really all that's happened is the person feels elated and they're enjoying exuding that out to the world. A few weeks later and it'll be "yeah we didn't really have much in common".

Once you recognise that in these situations you're really only ever falling in love with yourself you can decide if you want to ride the buzz and enjoy it... or run away from the source of the stimulation and go into cold turkey. That's my take anyway "

I've fallen in love with myself a lot then, and I am gonna continue to ride that buzz, as the highs ARE worth the lows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think most of the time people say they've developed feelings for someone they've recently met they haven't really. They've just fallen in love with themselves; with how the other person makes them feel. Once they've got through this initial honeymoon period many people realise it wasn't the person they loved, just how they made them feel, so they move on. Those who still feel a strong attraction start to develop a deeper friendship with the person. It's only as you're really starting to get to know someone on a deep level that you can begin to say you've developed feelings for them.

This kind of talk "oh we shared so much in common. we like the same food, watch the same films, wear the same underwear. we really clicked in a deep way". That's just bunny boiler bs. Really all that's happened is the person feels elated and they're enjoying exuding that out to the world. A few weeks later and it'll be "yeah we didn't really have much in common".

Once you recognise that in these situations you're really only ever falling in love with yourself you can decide if you want to ride the buzz and enjoy it... or run away from the source of the stimulation and go into cold turkey. That's my take anyway

I've fallen in love with myself a lot then, and I am gonna continue to ride that buzz, as the highs ARE worth the lows."

knock the cider on the head lol

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Awww, the feels.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3ZskbLa_Io

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Awww, the feels.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3ZskbLa_Io"

Can I feel you?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Fuck knows.

They keep falling in love with me

And we block and move on

I could never block you "

I know

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Awww, the feels.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3ZskbLa_Io

Can I feel you? "

It could be arranged.....

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Fuck knows.

They keep falling in love with me

And we block and move on

I could never block you

I know "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I distance myself and think of their bad points. It helps...

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Awww, the feels.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3ZskbLa_Io

Can I feel you?

It could be arranged....."

Can I sit on your quads?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I distance myself and think of their bad points. It helps... "

Reminding yourself they are a cunt helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I distance myself and think of their bad points. It helps...

Reminding yourself they are a cunt helps "

doesn't work for me that's what caused the trouble in first place lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I distance myself and think of their bad points. It helps...

Reminding yourself they are a cunt helps "

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Awww, the feels.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3ZskbLa_Io

Can I feel you?

It could be arranged.....

Can I sit on your quads? "

That's the oddest way of asking to sit on my knee, but.....If ya like.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Awww, the feels.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3ZskbLa_Io

Can I feel you?

It could be arranged.....

Can I sit on your quads?

That's the oddest way of asking to sit on my knee, but.....If ya like. "

Well, I didn't want to be too blunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going on from bunnyhops's married thread.. How would you stop feelings for someone if they kinda accidentally happened?

Especially if its one sided. "

Try and discourage being in that position with a lady I was meeting a while back

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd focus elsewhere and cut off 100% from all contact. Then seek any support necessary. Plus learn from it, with the intention to never repeat

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

if I feel that I really want to meet someone again right away- i don't until I know its safe again. but I don't develope feelings easy, I think its more the closeness that can easely be mistaken for feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The incurable romantic in me says...

Just follow your heart..

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"Going on from bunnyhops's married thread.. How would you stop feelings for someone if they kinda accidentally happened?

Especially if its one sided. "

Marry them. It will soon cure it.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

have the feelings, they won't kill you and being able to love others feels nice, but also do whatever it takes to not get hurt.

you don't have to fuck them off, just understand the feeling is not reciprocated or at least not going to be acted upon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not act on them like a functioning human being.

Everyone has feelings that would be wrong to act on.

Everyone over the age of 6 should have a pretty good handle on it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it can be hard to just walk away, but sometimes its a case of need be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not act on them like a functioning human being.

Everyone has feelings that would be wrong to act on.

Everyone over the age of 6 should have a pretty good handle on it though"

It can be hard though, I've an addictive personality and find it hard to walk away from anything I enjoy or like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not act on them like a functioning human being.

Everyone has feelings that would be wrong to act on.

Everyone over the age of 6 should have a pretty good handle on it though

It can be hard though, I've an addictive personality and find it hard to walk away from anything I enjoy or like. "

Oh and I'm not 6

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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago

Bradford


"Cut off contact and walk away

Is it that easy?

It has to be. I started falling for a married fb, it was stop seeing him or get my heart broken as it obviously couldn't go anywhere...

before you cut contact did you tell him the truth or just give him another reason?"

No, I just kept making excuses...

Till he stopped contacting me- coward...

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