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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

the last month or so, has been very hard work between myself and partner, been there b4 but always made up, yesterday, he told me that he was going away 30th on his own, to think about our relationship. is this a sign that the end is near/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sure doesn't look promising does it. He needs time away, and on a milestone birthday to boot. I think the writing is on the wall, and I suspect you already know it judging by posting your thoughts on it here.

The death of a relationship is never nice, but sometimes it is inevitable.

Good luck x

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"the last month or so, has been very hard work between myself and partner, been there b4 but always made up, yesterday, he told me that he was going away 30th on his own, to think about our relationship. is this a sign that the end is near/"

not necessarily.

use the time yourself to reflect on why it has been such hard work, what changes could you make, do you seek, that would improve the relationship, turn the hard work into fun again?

if it is to be the end, whilst it may not seem so at the time, it is good for all concerned, move on to better things.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Maybe communicating with each other can resolve matters. I would hate to read on a forum how my partner was feeling if it had not been discussed. I am not having a dig by the way. I hope that you can sort it out maybe a frank discussion is in order... Or maybe write down questions for each other and get each other to write the answer down sometimes writing things down helps as sometimes we get frustrated when we speak.. Write each other a letter expressing how you feel.. Just a thought.. xx

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Maybe she meant the date 30th?

To the OP...I am not sure it will help you posting this, he may not like it.xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

FFS mush, now it looks like I am talking to myself....again !

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"FFS mush, now it looks like I am talking to myself....again ! "

I realised my error re the 30th and removed it.

Now if only you had any way of amending a prior post.

What's wrong with talking to yourself , i often do

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Good grief. If I were you I would be closing account down and trying to talk to partner about where we were heading. That's just me of course.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not sure it will help you posting this, he may not like it.xx"

I thought the same thing. Talk to your other half. Personally, if it's no longer fun and at a point time apart to think is needed...doesn't bode well.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like time out is needed and he is being quite sensible.

This time may make you realise a few things yourself!

I am VERY fond of the song "A little time" by Beautiful South

Good luck to you both x

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

If this were me and my relationship, I would be talking to my OH/close friends/family, certainly not posting in an open forum and seeking the advice or reassurance of virtual strangers. (Just my personal POV and certainly in no way an attack on the OP for doing so).

Hope things work out for you either way xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ty for the response, sorry i meant he was going away on the 30th of this month,

i have talked to close friends about this, but to be honest, it seems that they take the side of the person they are closest too, hence why i put it here, for a complete strangers point of view. also we have talked and talked about our probs time and time again, but nothing seems to work. my partner does have a lot of health probs which over the last few months has got worse, and is getting harder for him to cope with. he has told me that he feels it is to much for me to handle, and i am now wondering if this could be a reason for the change in him

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

only he can answer that im afraid .as total strangers we have no idea the state of your realionship , the background ,the issues ect ect .so to try and pass any comment on if its ending is nothing but grappling in the dark .

you said youve talked and still things arent improved . all i can advise is counciling as they will be able to talk to both of you with background and details we arent and dont need to be privey to. they will be in much better position to offer you the guidence and help you both need . what ever happens i wish you all the best x

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore


"ty for the response, sorry i meant he was going away on the 30th of this month,

i have talked to close friends about this, but to be honest, it seems that they take the side of the person they are closest too, hence why i put it here, for a complete strangers point of view. also we have talked and talked about our probs time and time again, but nothing seems to work. my partner does have a lot of health probs which over the last few months has got worse, and is getting harder for him to cope with. he has told me that he feels it is to much for me to handle, and i am now wondering if this could be a reason for the change in him"

ah now there you go,,as the old saying goese hurt the ones we love the most,,iv had my health issues of late and im sure others here will agree that your partner is always the one that you argue/fight and down right give hell to,,and after that you have the remorse,,if you ave had a big row recentley,,him saying hes goin away is his way of saying not just that he needs time away from you,but for both of you to think things true,,and also for you to hae your sef some relax time without the worries of him having another breakdown,

and when he says he thinks its too much for you to handle,,its not saying he doesnt want you to handle it,,its a mans silly way of saying,,he knows he is being a twat,,and hes also worried about you,,

well thats what i think,,

hope you get sorted good luck

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