FabSwingers.com forum: Icebreakers at a club

By *anRudeyGirl OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

So... you're in a club.. Probably a little nervous and you see another couple or female you really fancy.. What's an acceptable way to introduce yourself...? Or let them know you want to take things beyond the occasional glance?? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"So... you're in a club.. Probably a little nervous and you see another couple or female you really fancy.. What's an acceptable way to introduce yourself...? Or let them know you want to take things beyond the occasional glance?? X "

Have you considered "Hi, I'm Dan and this is Rudy. You look nice, so we thought we'd come and say hello" ?

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use my mate Theodore. He's a polar bear with a sledge hammer and no-one breaks ice better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you considered "Hi, I'm Dan and this is Rudy. You look nice, so we thought we'd come and say hello" ?

Cal"

This method works well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective. "

Doesn't work as well for white single males.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

Doesn't work as well for white single males."

It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

Doesn't work as well for white single males.

It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.

Cal"

You are a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

Doesn't work as well for white single males."

Works perfectly well for some of my male friends, maybe they're just friendly.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

Doesn't work as well for white single males.

It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.

Cal

You are a couple."

So, it's useful for single guys to know what a couple thinks. A simple, friendly approach would be welcomed by most people, regardless of gender or relationship status.

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

I wear a kilt... Regularly asked what's under it... My answer of "do you have warm hands?" is a great ice breaker

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

I tend to go with, hey smell this... Once it kicks in ... Captured.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

Doesn't work as well for white single males.

It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.

Cal

You are a couple.

So, it's useful for single guys to know what a couple thinks. A simple, friendly approach would be welcomed by most people, regardless of gender or relationship status."

What works for women and couples doesn't apply. People project negative things onto single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to go with, hey smell this... Once it kicks in ... Captured.

What if a guy sticks his hand under your nose and says " smell this " you'd probably kick him in the bollocks

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester

I tend to talk shoes, everyone loves shoes

Mrs blue eyes

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

Doesn't work as well for white single males.

It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.

Cal

You are a couple.

So, it's useful for single guys to know what a couple thinks. A simple, friendly approach would be welcomed by most people, regardless of gender or relationship status.

What works for women and couples doesn't apply. People project negative things onto single men."

That poster and us are both couples. We know how we would be happy for a single guy to approach us. Most people like friendly single guys.

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

"I tend to go with, hey smell this... Once it kicks in ... Captured.

What if a guy sticks his hand under your nose and says " smell this " you'd probably kick him in the bollocks

No cos its my pulling trick i would look for the ropes and chains before i smelt lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

Doesn't work as well for white single males.

It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.

Cal

You are a couple.

So, it's useful for single guys to know what a couple thinks. A simple, friendly approach would be welcomed by most people, regardless of gender or relationship status.

What works for women and couples doesn't apply. People project negative things onto single men.

That poster and us are both couples. We know how we would be happy for a single guy to approach us. Most people like friendly single guys."

I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off

I think a positive attitude is a good start

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

What works for women and couples doesn't apply. People project negative things onto single men.

That poster and us are both couples. We know how we would be happy for a single guy to approach us. Most people like friendly single guys.

I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off

That couple and us don't slag single guys off. We appreciate meeting nice guys in clubs. Why do you say that about us?

What works for you in clubs? Advice for others would be useful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What works for you in clubs? Advice for others would be useful."

I haven't been to a club (Sex Club) in 3 years.

But when I did, I was always quite up front and just spat it out it out as opposed to beat around the bush and it seemed to work out "alright". I'm not a shy person anyway.

Especially couples, because a couple I met in a club , I actually met also a few weeks later aswell and they said there is nothing more annoying for couples than a guy who is shy or skirts around it.

I've found couples generally ok at clubs, it's just on here they can be a bit funny.

I don't go to clubs anymore but this was my take on it when I did.

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

"I tend to go with, hey smell this... Once it kicks in ... Captured.

Pmsl... I was actually reading that and before I got to the end imagined you doing the playground 'smell the cheese' and then punching them in the nose. Glad you went for something more sophisticated instead!

-Matt

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off

I think a positive attitude is a good start

This.

We play with single guys in clubs quite a lot. Recently my wife was at a club on her own and it was pretty quiet, was mainly single women and couples there. She went upstairs to find four single guys just chatting together. They'd been there most of the night. She literally dragged them downstairs and said 'you ain't going to et anywhere huddled up here in the corner on your own'.

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off

I think a positive attitude is a good start

This.

-Matt"

VERY rare behaviour. I'm surprised the bouncer never threw them out for loitering. After they pay the money of course.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say 'hi'. They either want to talk to me or they don't. Sometimes they say hi and move away. Other times they beam and leap into conversation.

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off

I think a positive attitude is a good start

This.

-Matt

VERY rare behaviour. I'm surprised the bouncer never threw them out for loitering. After they pay the money of course."

No, not rare at all. And I've never seen a bouncer throw someone out for it. Nor would I expect them or want them to.

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off

I think a positive attitude is a good start

This.

-Matt

VERY rare behaviour. I'm surprised the bouncer never threw them out for loitering. After they pay the money of course.

No, not rare at all. And I've never seen a bouncer throw someone out for it. Nor would I expect them or want them to.

-Matt"

Not even those dastardly single men?!?!?

You are saintly, sir.

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off

I think a positive attitude is a good start

This.

-Matt

VERY rare behaviour. I'm surprised the bouncer never threw them out for loitering. After they pay the money of course.

No, not rare at all. And I've never seen a bouncer throw someone out for it. Nor would I expect them or want them to.

-Matt

Not even those dastardly single men?!?!?

You are saintly, sir."

I think you responses really are saying a lot more about your own feelings you are projecting. We love playing with single guys (check our veris). Most single guys we meet at clubs are fine, and then ones we know who are positive, considerate and fun seem to be knee deep in women wanting to meet them. Yes, there are the few idiots, but that is par for life.

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually just go for a hi too

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Not even those dastardly single men?!?!?

You are saintly, sir.

-Matt"

Same here. The single guys we've seen at clubs who are friendly and socialise (ie the majority) all have a great time.

There arw the odd ones who stick in a corner etc but on the whole everybody has a great time.

In the non-virtual world there is no men/women/couples antagonism. It is something that a small minority of people like to peddle on here for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We usually just go for a hi too "

Simple. Innit.

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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

Doesn't work as well for white single males."

OMG whiny single males...

Grrr...

We were sat at Quest chatting about nothing to another couple and this single guy came and sat in the middle of us and said absolutely nothing for at least 20 mins!

When the other couple asked if we wanted to go to a room his face was a picture!!

If only he'd tried to join the conversation or introduced himself he'd have been invited to join us.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off

I think a positive attitude is a good start

Some people don't know what a positive attitude is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree. Most of you are never done slagging us off

I think a positive attitude is a good start

This.

-Matt

VERY rare behaviour. I'm surprised the bouncer never threw them out for loitering. After they pay the money of course.

No, not rare at all. And I've never seen a bouncer throw someone out for it. Nor would I expect them or want them to.

-Matt

Not even those dastardly single men?!?!?

You are saintly, sir."

Have you ever actually ventured into a club? You may be surprised, it's not the same as website warriors when you talk to real people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My top tip for single men is; smile!

I've seen so many single guys whizzing around looking for where 'it's happening ' with grumpy faces.

Smile fellas. Slow down. Say 'hi' ffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My top tip for single men is; smile!

I've seen so many single guys whizzing around looking for where 'it's happening ' with grumpy faces.

Smile fellas. Slow down. Say 'hi' ffs. "

Spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My top tip for single men is; smile!

I've seen so many single guys whizzing around looking for where 'it's happening ' with grumpy faces.

Smile fellas. Slow down. Say 'hi' ffs.

Spot on. "

Used to drive me and my wife nuts. She'd see a guy she wanted and I'd almost have to trip him up to stop him flying past to engage him in a brief conversation before she wrapped her legs around him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I was in a club someone thought I had a tag on. That got the conversation going. I was putting my key around my ankle lol. Ending well though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

Doesn't work as well for white single males."
it works fine for us if that's what we are looking for.

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

Mr dreams

You have come across as pretty negative in this thread. Would you like to tell us why you seem so angry?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I generally go with saying hello and introducing myself. Not terribly original, but effective.

Doesn't work as well for white single males.

It works fine with us, works much better than standing in the corner of the room watching the porn and talking to yourself.

Cal

You are a couple."

I mean that it has worked with us... for single guys.

Cal

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over a year ago

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I wear a kilt... Regularly asked what's under it... My answer of "do you have warm hands?" is a great ice breaker

Warm hands would be more of an ice melter than breaker, I'd have thought.

When I used to go to clubs as a couple, I found it was just a matter of saying hello and chatting. If nothing happens then you've had a chat. If you're on the same wavelength for the night then it's off for a bit of privacy.

The other way was to just start with each other and see who wants to join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To go back on point, come on over and talk to us. We'll talk to anyone when we're out n about. Nerves are ok, let the people you approach know that and they can react accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My top tip for single men is; smile!

I've seen so many single guys whizzing around looking for where 'it's happening ' with grumpy faces.

Smile fellas. Slow down. Say 'hi' ffs.

Spot on. "

Just trying to get this back to the spirt of the original post - thanks for this thread. As a single bloke who visited a club last night - I really wish I'd smiled more. And followed up returned smiles! To be honest it was my first visit to a club and I was terrified! There seemed to be some lovely couples there and I don't think I came across as friendly, probably just awkward - my fault, or more precisely my nerves fault entirely. Next time I'll take your advice - relax, smile, say hi.

Ta!

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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Alcester

"I tend to go with, hey smell this... Once it kicks in ... Captured.

I got totally knocked out by a female once...

... who on earth puts chloroform in their knickers. LoL x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My top tip for single men is; smile!

I've seen so many single guys whizzing around looking for where 'it's happening ' with grumpy faces.

Smile fellas. Slow down. Say 'hi' ffs.

Spot on.

Ta!"

Believe me. It works. Relax and be friendly xx

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

My advice.

Smile, be confident, say "hi" and introduce yourself.

Don't Ignore the guy, compliment the woman, be genuine and relax. Also, don't stick around like a bad smell, and cramp their style, speak for a while and say that you'd love to play a bit later if they'd be interested. Take it from there.

Thank me later

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