FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

A question for those who insist on a social first

Jump to newest
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester

So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most are all talk and no action on here when they social or tell go try a social club

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *earandmonkeyCouple
over a year ago

uxbridge

Interested in this thread never been on a socail first meet so watching

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Interested in this thread never been on a socail first meet so watching "

Nor have we , so we are interested too

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

Good question op. We would say 80% end up with a play meet.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its perfectly reasonable to ask to chat over a coffee or glass of wine 1st,,before going any further,,lol,,why is that a bad thing

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Interested in this thread never been on a socail first meet so watching

Nor have we , so we are interested too "

Fancy a pint

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *harliehobbesMan
over a year ago

Vlissingen

I really enjoyed the few socials I went to. It changes the dynamic somewhat though but it's nice.

I like getting to know new people though so I guess I'm biased.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do a social 1st meet and do arrange a play meet if we both want to.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I think its perfectly reasonable to ask to chat over a coffee or glass of wine 1st,,before going any further,,lol,,why is that a bad thing "

Who said it was a bad thing ?

We totally respect that people have this rule , we just wondered how many socials actually lead into a second meet for play

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

A very small percentage but that's the point for me - I insist on a social because I am not sure I want to play with them - they don't often convince me I do!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I always do a social 1st meet and do arrange a play meet if we both want to. "

So roughly how many socials lead to a further play meet ?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I really enjoyed the few socials I went to. It changes the dynamic somewhat though but it's nice.

I like getting to know new people though so I guess I'm biased.

"

And the answer to the question ...... ?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Interested in this thread never been on a socail first meet so watching

Nor have we , so we are interested too

Fancy a pint "

We'd love one

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a proper social. But I have felt pressured into playing with people I didn't want to, many, many times.

Let's not slate something that might give people an escape.

I certainly wish I'd had more meets that were just 'socials'!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Majority of socials I've had have resulted in same day play. I think that that's because I'm sure beforehand that it'll progress (well nearly all the time!).

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its perfectly reasonable to ask to chat over a coffee or glass of wine 1st,,before going any further,,lol,,why is that a bad thing

Who said it was a bad thing ?

We totally respect that people have this rule , we just wondered how many socials actually lead into a second meet for play "

lol,ive no idea,,but ive said very politely to people ive met on the internet then in a bar,,no thankyou,,but fuck ive no idea what the % is

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

A very small percentage but that's the point for me - I insist on a social because I am not sure I want to play with them - they don't often convince me I do! "

Do you find that this leads to you finding it harder to get meets when you want one with new people ?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

social to fuck date ratio is around 60% for me.

(Thats only counting solo socials.... not including FAB general socials for anyone who wants to get picky sherlocking my veri count lol)

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some result in more intimate meets, some dont. Often it is mutual that they dont.

Photos and a few messages dont tell you if you want sex with a person. Meeting is a better way of finding out. Unless of course you just want sex and no personal connection.

A quick coffee with no commitment gives both parties a chance to say No thanks without egos being ruffled.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I've never had a proper social. But I have felt pressured into playing with people I didn't want to, many, many times.

Let's not slate something that might give people an escape.

I certainly wish I'd had more meets that were just 'socials'!"

I'm not slating anyone !

Just interested in the likelihood of a social leading to a play .

Totally understand that it's an escape clause

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always do a social 1st meet and do arrange a play meet if we both want to.

So roughly how many socials lead to a further play meet ?"
I would say its about about 50%

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Some result in more intimate meets, some dont. Often it is mutual that they dont.

Photos and a few messages dont tell you if you want sex with a person. Meeting is a better way of finding out. Unless of course you just want sex and no personal connection.

A quick coffee with no commitment gives both parties a chance to say No thanks without egos being ruffled. "

What would you say was the rough estimate of a further play meet ? 50/50 ?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *harliehobbesMan
over a year ago

Vlissingen


"I really enjoyed the few socials I went to. It changes the dynamic somewhat though but it's nice.

I like getting to know new people though so I guess I'm biased.

And the answer to the question ...... ?"

for me, so far 100%

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Interested in this thread never been on a socail first meet so watching

Nor have we , so we are interested too

Fancy a pint

We'd love one "

On my way

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actually ive a crap ratio of good meets off any site,,its always been a big no no from me,,but had plenty fun meeting total strangers in clubs n pubs,random but fun

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 2 social meets which both resulted in future play meets.

I had 1 meet without a social first and it was awkward and I asked him to leave

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"actually ive a crap ratio of good meets off any site,,its always been a big no no from me,,but had plenty fun meeting total strangers in clubs n pubs,random but fun"

We too have enjoyed this scenario of late

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

95%, same play as meets too.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I've had 2 social meets which both resulted in future play meets.

I had 1 meet without a social first and it was awkward and I asked him to leave "

We have walked away without playing plenty of times too .

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met 3 men

Man 1 = met for social, made plans for another meet but he cancelled.

Man 2= met for social, making plans for further meet.

Man 3 = had a social, a play meet and arranging another play meet.

It works for me

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I've met 3 men

Man 1 = met for social, made plans for another meet but he cancelled.

Man 2= met for social, making plans for further meet.

Man 3 = had a social, a play meet and arranging another play meet.

It works for me "

That's great , and we have no doubt it works

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

I always have a social first. It just break the ice; thats all!!.

90% I had the luck of a second date to play; some ended straight to play on later the same day

Yes...I definitely suggest it!!!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

A very small percentage but that's the point for me - I insist on a social because I am not sure I want to play with them - they don't often convince me I do! "

And some you just want to rip their clothes off

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton

I like to have a social first and will at the very least check out their kissing skills on the first day as you got to see whether the chemistry there! A bad kisser will put me off no matter how cute they are!

Often it starts as a glass of wine or coffee and turns into more though I generally like to leave them wanting more so I try not to go all the way, however sometimes I just have to give in to the horniness!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

I insist on a social meet initially with no guarantee of play.

All my 'socials' however have mostly ended up in play on the first meet. I just don't like people thinking anything is a given, as I've been stung in the past on another site, where the guy looked nothing like his pics. The shock on the person's face when I tell them they're getting banged on the first meet is normally priceless!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

A very small percentage but that's the point for me - I insist on a social because I am not sure I want to play with them - they don't often convince me I do!

And some you just want to rip their clothes off "

Haha they're the best kind!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

A very small percentage but that's the point for me - I insist on a social because I am not sure I want to play with them - they don't often convince me I do!

Do you find that this leads to you finding it harder to get meets when you want one with new people ? "

No, like all women here I have to beat them off with a stick! My main problem is finding people I like enough to even want to meet for a social, but I am only interested in something specific now, finding people for nsa was easy, lots of hot tottie on fab!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

A very small percentage but that's the point for me - I insist on a social because I am not sure I want to play with them - they don't often convince me I do!

Do you find that this leads to you finding it harder to get meets when you want one with new people ? "

Why would it?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I just weird or am I not getting the context or lingo here? How do you know you want to fuck someone until you've spent some time in their company? I've had dates where we didn't finish our first drink but the meet is the beginning of foreplay, no?

Hooe that doesn't sound judgey, I don't mean it to be. Just what are the practicalities? Do you invite them in to your house / hotel and start snogging before you've heard their voice?

Do you have lots of phone calls and skype maybe? That woukd make sense I guess...

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

A very small percentage but that's the point for me - I insist on a social because I am not sure I want to play with them - they don't often convince me I do!

Do you find that this leads to you finding it harder to get meets when you want one with new people ?

No, like all women here I have to beat them off with a stick! My main problem is finding people I like enough to even want to meet for a social, but I am only interested in something specific now, finding people for nsa was easy, lots of hot tottie on fab! "

Bet you like the rugby player type..lol

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always insist on a social with no guaranteed play as said above a lot of men look nothing like their pics so do a lot of wemon lucky for me only had 1 single male social not been what I expected rest I've had an attraction too and arranged play at later date

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

would only ever have a social first!who would ever agree to play on a first meet? what if you did not fancy them?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

All have except one guy we had a social with. Thats the ratio of guys who have contacted us via here.

We go to clubs and always chat to guys there and sometimes play with them then or meet them at the club another time.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

42.

Only 2 out of all the people I've sat down and had a coffee with. But that was 100 percent of those I wanted to and then built up the courage to ask faf.

So far may I add. I still talk to friends I've met. And as time and meeting people is awkward. I might get that second play meet in the future.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Nessarosa writing)

We only have a social first on this site and a few other sites.

Our first time around on fab we met more people on social meets and played the next meet...sometimes within days.

This time (second time on fab) we have had 3 social meeting....one girl did not want to verification because she was cheating on another member ( go figure).

But not played this time around.

(Seems everyone is looking for quick action)

we have had more success lately on Fet_life and inst_gram with social meets and then play.

We also met a couple from Glasgow from a porn site and had a wonderful dinner and drinks. We will be meeting them for play again.

So to answer the question...about 2/3 of the people we meet we then meet again for play.

****

You have to understand also at a social meet you realise, these people are not for us, the photos they posted does not look like them, they have other standards to physical hygiene (unwashed) or have a vocabulary that is best suited for the Jeremy Kyle show.

This stops us from a second meet.

Xxx

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

About 50% in our case.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I would say about 95% of my social first meets then went on to a second play meet. A very high % ended up having some kind of play on the social anyway

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10%

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester

So for us , ( and we don't guarantee play but will if there's a connection ), our % of first meets which end up with a play is about 80% .

Reasons we don't play are the person doesn't look like their pics , or that they can't have a conversation , or there is no connection at all .

Thanks for all the responses

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty high, probably 80-90%. We're usually pretty confident the attraction will be there and a social is just to confirm they are who they've presented themselves as and that in person they're not a total dick. Sometimes we've played straight after, other times we've made arrangements to meet another day.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

No idea of % of fun from a social meet but it just shows you don't always click with people you chat to on here.

Probably quite a low percentage end up in playing but it makes those where I do play all the more fun. It also shows some respect for each other.

It's easier to turn someone down at a social or just after one than turning up at someone's door then deciding they're not for you. Takes more time time to get ready for a play meet whereas I can go for a coffee after work.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all different and all have our own individual way of doing things.

I always meet on the basis of nothing expected or taken for granted - but if the right mood is there then move on to play.

For me, it's the thrill of going out and meeting strangers and maybe having fun with them - so if I meet them first without play then they are no longer strangers, so there's no impulse at all for me to meet them a second time for sex.

I learned early on that a "social first" never leads me to a second meet - it just ends my interest... no matter how nice the other people are...

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely depends on whether I find them attractive or not (and vice versa). I would say maybe 1 in 20, whatever that is in percentage terms, maths not being my strong point.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv had two social meets both of which led to play within an hour of meeting. I may well be wrong but always just thought of an insisted upon social first meet as a way for people to let u know play isn't guaranteed and if I'm not their cup of tea then there's no pressure from me for anything more than a drink and a chat. I think social first meets are a great idea, and you can always decide after two minutes or after two hours, to hell with just a social, I'm gonna fuck this person silly, or try my best anyway lol

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't meet privately very often as we're more into clubs and parties, but in over 2 years we have met 9 men privately. Only 1 we never played with or saw again, but that was him that prevented that due to complications on his part. Of the 8 we played with, 6 were on the same night, and again that was them that were unable to play the same night, it was not our choice to delay. With regards to expecting a social for first meet, we expect a social for every meet. The guys we meet privately we treat as friends and we expect the same. However when we meet, we meet to play as we don't have time to meet and not play. Therefore we make sure we get it right before we meet someone new.

Mrs

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

Some do some don't. X

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

If I play with him there, no social is required. If I meet alone which I rarely do, I meet socially first. Just my preference.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i attend forum socials where i may meet someone and then go on to arrange a meet from it - as for people im hoping to play with yes social with maybe the intention to play on first meet if all happy - have done this and also had socials and gone on to arrange meets afterwards most times - only once where we were totally rejected by text message after a drink and chat but we had got that vibe already so no shocker

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social first. 99% end in play. It usually just to settle nerves

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

Sometimes my socials lead to play after - I just don't mention any more that it can as there's an unneccesary pressure created if you say so.

Those I meet and just have a social with? Probably about 9/10 go on to be a play meet on a second meet. By the time we're at the having a social point I've already decided I really want to meet them and fuck them.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *uddlybear2015Man
over a year ago

BEDFORD


"I think its perfectly reasonable to ask to chat over a coffee or glass of wine 1st,,before going any further,,lol,,why is that a bad thing "

And who doesn't like a nice glass of wine first??

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes my socials lead to play after - I just don't mention any more that it can as there's an unneccesary pressure created if you say so.

Those I meet and just have a social with? Probably about 9/10 go on to be a play meet on a second meet. By the time we're at the having a social point I've already decided I really want to meet them and fuck them. "

meet me for a coffee please

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience, social meets tend to lead to friends who you meet socially with again, but never for play.

Maybe this is just me and I'm too friendly on a social, which ends up with a line in the sand being drawn almost immediately.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

For me, it's been 100%. The exception is going to the Secret Tea Party group social, which was purely to socialise.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to have a social first and will at the very least check out their kissing skills on the first day as you got to see whether the chemistry there! A bad kisser will put me off no matter how cute they are!

Often it starts as a glass of wine or coffee and turns into more though I generally like to leave them wanting more so I try not to go all the way, however sometimes I just have to give in to the horniness! "

It isn't just me then who does the kiss test!!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *XMandMXxCouple
over a year ago

swindon

80%

If the person/people we meet are pushy or we don't fancy them then we don't have a play date.... simples

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of them have resulted in meeting again for more than coffee i think.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow


"Some result in more intimate meets, some dont. Often it is mutual that they dont.

Photos and a few messages dont tell you if you want sex with a person. Meeting is a better way of finding out. Unless of course you just want sex and no personal connection.

A quick coffee with no commitment gives both parties a chance to say No thanks without egos being ruffled. "

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our % is high because i spend time getting to know them via messeges here so we have already decided we like them and are likely to play anyway. It means less time is wasted too.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *otchillicoupleCouple
over a year ago

all over

We decided to ask for socials first as we had two no shows in quick succession. We figured if someone didn't turn up for a social it was no big deal we would be out having a drink anyway. If they did turn up they were likely to turn up for the play meet. Better than me sitting there dressed to the nines, on tenterhooks waiting for a play date to end up feeling let down. I would say 75% of socials have turned into play dates.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to meet 100% of my social meets again for sex but that's only because I talk for ages on here and if it gets to a social then I already like them

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I can serve tea, coffee, some alcohol etc during or instead of a social meet.

If people don't like the social meet first, it's easy enough to filter people wanting those out. Otherwise it can sometimes be sensible to be seen publicly with someone who just might be dangerous or a pest

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest when we have had socials first think ive backed out of about90% as it puts me off... much rather get straight to it.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet very often but I prefer to focus on a social meet aspect. Realistically, if I meet a couple it probably won't happen as I'm yet to find a couple where I find them both attractive enough to want sex with both of them. With a single man it's more likely that some intimacy will happen on a first meet but not full sex. I've only had full sex once after around five meets.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Had a social once, decided they're not for us, the nervous energy wasn't there when the meet occurred which is a big aspect for us. 100% strike rate though.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't match dot com.

By the time I meet someone after few days getting to know each other via whatsapp facetime ect no point dragging it out anymore the attraction is already sealed so its party time.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

33%

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I think its perfectly reasonable to ask to chat over a coffee or glass of wine 1st,,before going any further,,lol,,why is that a bad thing "

I don't think he's arguing against a pre fuck drinkies ..... He means the JUST a social people and don't get back to use we'll get back to you sort of thing. Y know a meet without sex. Like coffee with your mum.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only met on a social basis first, but all have led to play on first or second meet, so 100%. That said, we are talking a very low number of meets followed by longer term arrangements, and we spent quite a long time chatting before the first meeting. I prefer one regular to lots of one offs (even if I had that opportunity )

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *layful Couple For YouCouple
over a year ago

Lust

For us, we'd say about 50% result in a further play date. Also about 5% end up with us playing the same night as everyone is instantly aware that there's real attraction that quickly builds into a simmering sexual tension that just has to be pursued

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at it this way

Woman and couples have plenty of choices (even old grotbags women - stolen from another thread) that they could never dream of getting such fit handsome men in here in real life (I excuse myself for being a fat git) thus fab is the man Slave market where women select their slaves.

A social is the equivalent (in Slave market terms) of expecting the teeth of the man slaves and picking the best and wasting the time of the rest

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll do a social with a view to play but I won't do a pure social just for the hell of it.

You aleady know if the attraction is there both physically and mentally after pics and extensive chatting so I'm not going to do an interview first then wait to find out if I've got the job later.

Saying that almost all my socials have lead to play on the first meet.

I've had that a few times and now state on my profile what I'm looking for.

I also think a social with a view to play in that same meet is a good idea as I wouldn't want anyone to feel pressured into shagging me either.

But social just for a social, generally speaking no. Unless they are reasonably close so then it hasn't been a waste of time.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the majority of my meets are clubs meets at lot of talking can lead to forking. Most of my repeat meets have come from club meets first. Xx

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

If I meet for a coffee during the day, 50% of the time we'll arrange for a further meet. If I meet for an evening drink then it's 10% (which is why I don't meet for evening drinks anymore). If I'm dined, then 90% it turns into a naughty meet.

No guesses as to what type of meet I prefer

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

If memory serves me correct only two of my social first meets haven't led to anything further. So that would be a good 80% or so that led to playing later that day or at a subsequent meet.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2.67%

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

100% - as many have said nice to meet, chat, see if they actually match their profile.....then what happens that hour, day, week or month is up to the people you meet.

I think when people are meeting single guys a social seems important, like a security blanket just in case he's scary where as couple seem to chat online more etc and arrange a mutual meet as they feel safer together. Just my opinion x

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a social. Only because I don't meet that many people, and the ones I have, we message for so long beforehand that when we do finally meet it all tends to get a bit heated !! Quite fancy trying a social now

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say about 80% of our socials have a follow-up play meet (or we play later that night).

And, to be fair, its mostly our socials with other couples that end up going nowhere (usually because the dynamic doesn't feel right). With single guys, socials almost always turn into play meets, and with single guys we usually have a social with the intent to play that night if everyone's happy.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

I'm happy to offer a social first. What I have found is that a significantly high % of these turn into play meets anyway....without the need for a second meet. Also , having spoken to the lady/couple etc and offered the social, I find a fair few then just say sod it...let's just meet for fun!

A few are still just socials initially. Of those I can think of just two that did not result in the second fun meet. One mutually (oddly she thought I would be black?). The other I turned down.

I quite enjoy an initial social meet..... would be quite happy if more stayed that way but it is what it is.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

None, because if I'm having a social it's because I'm pretty sure I don't want anything else. I sometimes just want to check my gut wasn't wrong, or we're just friends anyway. I know if I want to meet someone or not we've spent that much time messaging etc a social is a pointless exercise

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Interesting thread.

My social to shag ratio is pretty low. That's basically because I haven't been attracted to them at social level enough to want to play with them, for various reasons

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Very few and that's the very reason I insist on a social. Mr N isn't bothered either way. If we didn't insist on a social first I simply wouldn't do this at all.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I spend quite some time and effort getting to know someone, my attraction is on a personal level, a meeting of minds. So being honest the social meet isn't really necessary... I know who I want.

Purely social meets for me generally happen for 3 reasons.

1) I know I'm not interested but they persuade me to meet for coffee anyway 'to try to change my mind' (I never do change it... My instincts are good).

2) I've become friendly with the person and they mention that they're struggling to get meets/club invites because they're not verified... If I've the time and they're willing to travel to me, I'll meet them for a coffee and verify them as genuine. Honesty is refreshing and I'll happily help them out.

3) I fancy the arse off someone but the timing is wrong for anything more than a social ~ sometimes, much as you'd like to, you just can't give someone the time they deserve for a more intimate experience... But a frustrating coffee and chat for an hour is far preferable than not spending any time with them at all.

Its all about the connection

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few things to consider

Where is the social taking place ie club greater potential for play to happen as is a meet at their hotel, coffee at costas less chance

How much communication has there been - lots and rapport is there greater chance if only few messages exchanged less likely as you may not like there personality

Generally any social I've been on as a single or as a cple have been a ration of 50 per cent but I would say never go on a social with an expectation to play that way you won't be disappointed

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I think its perfectly reasonable to ask to chat over a coffee or glass of wine 1st,,before going any further,,lol,,why is that a bad thing

I don't think he's arguing against a pre fuck drinkies ..... He means the JUST a social people and don't get back to use we'll get back to you sort of thing. Y know a meet without sex. Like coffee with your mum. "

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always do a social 1st meet and do arrange a play meet if we both want to. "

Me too. Albeit the second meet is usually the same day!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

For me around 70%

There needs to be attraction, photos as we all know can be 10 years/stone out of date

Also for safety reasons x

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

42%

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't match dot com.

By the time I meet someone after few days getting to know each other via whatsapp facetime ect no point dragging it out anymore the attraction is already sealed so its party time. "

I don't think anyone on this thread thinks it is?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

80-90%

By the time a social is arranged I'm generally of the opinion I like who I'm meeting. So unless they are entirely different in real life then it's normal for me to arrange a second date, providing they feel the same obviously.

The 10-20% just didn't click

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Umm don't know what my meet to sex ratio wouldn't be. I've met well over 400 guys for socials in 6 years and actually followed up and had sex with 3 people!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Umm don't know what my meet to sex ratio wouldn't be. I've met well over 400 guys for socials in 6 years and actually followed up and had sex with 3 people! "

0.00something %

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Umm don't know what my meet to sex ratio wouldn't be. I've met well over 400 guys for socials in 6 years and actually followed up and had sex with 3 people!

0.00something % "

To be fair my socials aren't really full on socials, they're mainly just meeting the guy quickly somewhere so we can see each other in the flesh. Quick once over and a flash of his knob and that's it.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if it takes the average man 4 hours to get ready, travel, meet you, go home you have wasted 66 man days in total

We salute you chief time waster

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if it takes the average man 4 hours to get ready, travel, meet you, go home you have wasted 66 man days in total

We salute you chief time waster "

Hasn't the guy wasted his own time?!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Umm don't know what my meet to sex ratio wouldn't be. I've met well over 400 guys for socials in 6 years and actually followed up and had sex with 3 people!

0.00something %

To be fair my socials aren't really full on socials, they're mainly just meeting the guy quickly somewhere so we can see each other in the flesh. Quick once over and a flash of his knob and that's it. "

Same with all my socials...I've banged them all!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *andm288Couple
over a year ago

oxford

We always insist on a social meet like others but we also prefer a 2nd social meet we prefer to take things slower and build on the chemistry , Tease & Temptation

Just our preference

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if it takes the average man 4 hours to get ready, travel, meet you, go home you have wasted 66 man days in total

We salute you chief time waster

Hasn't the guy wasted his own time?! "

Not unless she told them they have 133/1 chance of every having sex with her beforehand - this is a sex site after all

It's said if you just walk down the road and ask 100 people for sex 1 will say yes - so it's worse odds that that

Tinder is about 50% sex on the 1st date ffs

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

80-90%

By the time a social is arranged I'm generally of the opinion I like who I'm meeting. So unless they are entirely different in real life then it's normal for me to arrange a second date, providing they feel the same obviously.

The 10-20% just didn't click"

This is exactly my findings from the social meets I have had.....taking time to get to know them reduces the risk of also wasting ones time on risking no shows too.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 02/06/17 11:29:44]

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if it takes the average man 4 hours to get ready, travel, meet you, go home you have wasted 66 man days in total

We salute you chief time waster

Hasn't the guy wasted his own time?!

Not unless she told them they have 133/1 chance of every having sex with her beforehand - this is a sex site after all

It's said if you just walk down the road and ask 100 people for sex 1 will say yes - so it's worse odds that that

Tinder is about 50% sex on the 1st date ffs "

Nope. Even if she had been, surely she's been honest and the odds are against the guys anyway. They have chosen to go regardless and have therefore wasted their own time.

It's also not a sex site. Swinging is as much about the social element.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Always a social first, there is nothing like building anticipation when exploring boundaries

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It shouldn't really matter, just be pleased to socialise.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

80-90%

By the time a social is arranged I'm generally of the opinion I like who I'm meeting. So unless they are entirely different in real life then it's normal for me to arrange a second date, providing they feel the same obviously.

The 10-20% just didn't click

This is exactly my findings from the social meets I have had.....taking time to get to know them reduces the risk of also wasting ones time on risking no shows too. "

Reduces the risk but certainly not fool proof unfortunately.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

very very small percentage but I don't play often

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Swinging is as much about the social element.

"

For women perhaps it is, realistically for 95% of guys it's the sex

At your next meet ask the guy if he would rather chat about life, love, hold hands, soft kisses, grab a pizza perhaps or bend you over and stick it up your ass

If he goes for a pizza report back and I'll admit I was wrong

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


" Swinging is as much about the social element.

For women perhaps it is, realistically for 95% of guys it's the sex

At your next meet ask the guy if he would rather chat about life, love, hold hands, soft kisses, grab a pizza perhaps or bend you over and stick it up your ass

If he goes for a pizza report back and I'll admit I was wrong "

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Swinging is as much about the social element.

For women perhaps it is, realistically for 95% of guys it's the sex

At your next meet ask the guy if he would rather chat about life, love, hold hands, soft kisses, grab a pizza perhaps or bend you over and stick it up your ass

If he goes for a pizza report back and I'll admit I was wrong "

No I don't need to ask because I understand what men are after on here. It doesn't mean women have to provide it, which is why the guy chooses to waste his own time at no fault of the woman.

Personally for me it's about the sex, but I don't expect to bang everyone I meet due to a small thing called attraction. So you guys meet women who've asked for a social at your own peril I'm afraid.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE


"Majority of socials I've had have resulted in same day play. I think that that's because I'm sure beforehand that it'll progress (well nearly all the time!)."

thats us as well..we all need to click before moving on to play.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would typically only meet some for a one on one social I had every intention of playing with. I wouldn't meet anyone I was 50/50 on, ever.

The social is more so to eradicate any 1st nerves and to ensue that the attraction (physical and emotional). I'm not everyone's cup of tea and accept that so by meeting socially people know what they are getting

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would typically only meet some for a one on one social I had every intention of playing with. I wouldn't meet anyone I was 50/50 on, ever.

The social is more so to eradicate any 1st nerves and to ensue that the attraction (physical and emotional). I'm not everyone's cup of tea and accept that so by meeting socially people know what they are getting

"

Yeah agreed. I'd only arrange a social with someone I was at least 90% sure I was going to bang. Not to chat about life and eat pizza (WTAF) or whatever the other guy said.

Any less than 90 and I wouldn't even bother meeting.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Always a social first, there is nothing like building anticipation when exploring boundaries "

So how many socials lead to a play date afterwards ?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


" Swinging is as much about the social element.

For women perhaps it is, realistically for 95% of guys it's the sex

At your next meet ask the guy if he would rather chat about life, love, hold hands, soft kisses, grab a pizza perhaps or bend you over and stick it up your ass

If he goes for a pizza report back and I'll admit I was wrong

No I don't need to ask because I understand what men are after on here. It doesn't mean women have to provide it, which is why the guy chooses to waste his own time at no fault of the woman.

Personally for me it's about the sex, but I don't expect to bang everyone I meet due to a small thing called attraction. So you guys meet women who've asked for a social at your own peril I'm afraid.

"

I agree. Men are under no obligation to meet women or couples who want socials first. If they feel their time has been wasted its them who've wasted it.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


" Swinging is as much about the social element.

For women perhaps it is, realistically for 95% of guys it's the sex

At your next meet ask the guy if he would rather chat about life, love, hold hands, soft kisses, grab a pizza perhaps or bend you over and stick it up your ass

If he goes for a pizza report back and I'll admit I was wrong

No I don't need to ask because I understand what men are after on here. It doesn't mean women have to provide it, which is why the guy chooses to waste his own time at no fault of the woman.

Personally for me it's about the sex, but I don't expect to bang everyone I meet due to a small thing called attraction. So you guys meet women who've asked for a social at your own peril I'm afraid.

I agree. Men are under no obligation to meet women or couples who want socials first. If they feel their time has been wasted its them who've wasted it."

Absolutely right and this thread is about helping people make a more informed choice

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i've found most guys prefer the easiest option. the more effort they have to put in and they won't bother. they'd really rather have something casual and the only effort they have to make is turn up and stick their dick in. that's ok, they can fuck off and go for the easy women, i used to be one and enjoyed it for a while, got bored of having to trawl for new guys to replace them.

had socials that led to nothing, led to sex later, or led to further meets for sex. majority of guys don't even want a social, they don't want friendship, they want time fillers for when they're bored and holes to fill.

i don't think you can really make meets some kind of mathematical equation. got to go for what you want really and if that's harder to get then that's just how it is.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've found most guys prefer the easiest option. the more effort they have to put in and they won't bother. they'd really rather have something casual and the only effort they have to make is turn up and stick their dick in. that's ok, they can fuck off and go for the easy women, i used to be one and enjoyed it for a while, got bored of having to trawl for new guys to replace them.

had socials that led to nothing, led to sex later, or led to further meets for sex. majority of guys don't even want a social, they don't want friendship, they want time fillers for when they're bored and holes to fill.

i don't think you can really make meets some kind of mathematical equation. got to go for what you want really and if that's harder to get then that's just how it is. "

I like this

I agree about the holes thing, though guys think we actually don't realise this! We all know exactly what the majority (certainly in my area) are after and they use every trick in the book to pretend they don't, or there's the other ones just talk to you you're just a hole with no body attached, in which case I normally send a link for a fleshlight.

I'm happy to go without and/or have a wank rather than meet these types. Much more fulfilling.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've found most guys prefer the easiest option. the more effort they have to put in and they won't bother. they'd really rather have something casual and the only effort they have to make is turn up and stick their dick in. that's ok, they can fuck off and go for the easy women, i used to be one and enjoyed it for a while, got bored of having to trawl for new guys to replace them.

had socials that led to nothing, led to sex later, or led to further meets for sex. majority of guys don't even want a social, they don't want friendship, they want time fillers for when they're bored and holes to fill.

i don't think you can really make meets some kind of mathematical equation. got to go for what you want really and if that's harder to get then that's just how it is. "

'Social first' works as a great filter. It puts off all the men that aren't compatible with what I want. If they just want a shag they won't waste time having a coffee with me, so we're both happy and no time is wasted.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Swinging is as much about the social element.

For women perhaps it is, realistically for 95% of guys it's the sex

At your next meet ask the guy if he would rather chat about life, love, hold hands, soft kisses, grab a pizza perhaps or bend you over and stick it up your ass

If he goes for a pizza report back and I'll admit I was wrong "

Stick a pizza up her arse? A new fetish

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Swinging is as much about the social element.

For women perhaps it is, realistically for 95% of guys it's the sex

At your next meet ask the guy if he would rather chat about life, love, hold hands, soft kisses, grab a pizza perhaps or bend you over and stick it up your ass

If he goes for a pizza report back and I'll admit I was wrong

Stick a pizza up her arse? A new fetish "

What a waste of pepperoni! Then again, the guys I meet would prefer to eat it after regardless

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Swinging is as much about the social element.

For women perhaps it is, realistically for 95% of guys it's the sex

At your next meet ask the guy if he would rather chat about life, love, hold hands, soft kisses, grab a pizza perhaps or bend you over and stick it up your ass

If he goes for a pizza report back and I'll admit I was wrong

No I don't need to ask because I understand what men are after on here. It doesn't mean women have to provide it, which is why the guy chooses to waste his own time at no fault of the woman.

Personally for me it's about the sex, but I don't expect to bang everyone I meet due to a small thing called attraction. So you guys meet women who've asked for a social at your own peril I'm afraid.

"

I'm happy to report my stats to guys. If they want to meet just for a drink, the chances are nothing will happen at a later date. It's though I cannot be seduced over a soda and lime or latte.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends for me if theres chemistry there may be same day play or play on another meet sometimes theres no play at all so hard to say a %

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

In the last five years only two haven't led to play meets.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had very few socials compared to sexual meets. I think 4 haven't followed up with a sexual meet after and 3/4 have.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every social I have had has been at the request of the man.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

When I think about it mosrr socials I've had on a one to one basis have led to more, usually within a few hours. However I've had a few over the years that were separate and still resulted in further meets.

I like having the escape if its not going well and prefer them to have that too.

That said I've had a few encounters over the years that skipped the social. All except one were mostly great experiences too.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had 1 social that didn't turn into a future play meet. Mr just felt there was something off about them.

All our other meets have been socials that resulted in same day play. We do normally have a good idea from messages and talking to them that we want to play x

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we are meeting a couple in the past we have arranged a social first , but out of say 5 socials only one went on to play and that was the same evening . The others we have never met again .. when meeting single guys we don't do socials or dogging events we just turn up ..

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My socials have resulted in 100% play at a later date.

I normally suss them out with messages first so I have an inkling how well we'll get on.

I guess I'm lucky that I just go with my gut instinct.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of the socials I've had have lead to a play meet some on the same night. Only because I don't do socials at mine. They might not look like there profile pic or there's no attraction when you meet.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 70% here.

If I'm not sure... They don't even get to the social round

A few have been fast tracked to fuck me now status, without a social..

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

I wouldn't exaggerate to 99%..

So I say a full 75%

But then...I don't get 100 meets...lol (I wish ).

But you can always feel from the chatting. Also...I'm totally honest on what I look like, my expectations also; so when we meet they get what they were expecting to meet (if that makes sense...lol )

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm kind of inbetween as I don't do meet and fucks last min or will I meet anyone without talking for a few days weeks or even months to be certain there is a chemistry. Then I will arrange a social/play meet.

If that person won't wait or is persistent to 'meet now' then I know they are not the type of person I want to meet let alone having their cock inside me!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

See post in the lounge for why a social is more an more a must... Shit some peeps are fucked up!!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

Sorry Swingers Chat. Titled Why!!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will play on a first meet but prefer to meet for a drink on nutrel ground before agreeing to go further as not here for bed post notches

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a new couple and new yo this we ask for a social first to have a chat, flirt or drink. I like flirting first makes you want it more for one . Plus if any of you ain't into it is easy to get out of it ..

Plus like others have said there is some weirdos out there who pretend to be one person and there not x

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet socially first...

And have always ended up with an second meet, with those that ive liked.

Oh and a 3Rd, 4th, 5th....you get my drift

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

We've played with the majority of the couple's we've arranged a social with. It's more just to ensure everyone is on the same page.

Nobody wants to play with a couple who's relationship is on the rocks, or with a single who's trying to steal your partner.

Obviously you also have the people who look nothing like their pics. Attraction is massively important, but that doesn't mean you only want model types. Just means you want to fancy someone.

.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've not met up with anyone on here yet. But I have met someone on another Fetish website. We met for a drink and liked each other. Next time we met she came to mine and we played.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All but one of my social meets have lead to further meets. I suppose ive been lucky

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm kind of inbetween as I don't do meet and fucks last min or will I meet anyone without talking for a few days weeks or even months to be certain there is a chemistry. Then I will arrange a social/play meet.

If that person won't wait or is persistent to 'meet now' then I know they are not the type of person I want to meet let alone having their cock inside me! "

This is a good way to out some people, but do you not find people think they're being strung along? Personally we try not to prolong chat periods as we think we know in a few hours - days if we want to meet them.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only insist on a social first so as to out the ones who've lied about their age and height

once that's been sorted it will probably end in a play meet if there is any chemistry there, but I wont take one for the team just because they turned up anyway

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We couldn't possibly be sure about what percentage lead to play, but it's often enough that we feel justified in doing social only first meets.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ammy-leeWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

I always meet for a drink and if we click it goes from there that night but it gives you the get out clause if needed

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm kind of inbetween as I don't do meet and fucks last min or will I meet anyone without talking for a few days weeks or even months to be certain there is a chemistry. Then I will arrange a social/play meet.

If that person won't wait or is persistent to 'meet now' then I know they are not the type of person I want to meet let alone having their cock inside me!

This is a good way to out some people, but do you not find people think they're being strung along? Personally we try not to prolong chat periods as we think we know in a few hours - days if we want to meet them.

"

Yes il usually know within first few messages then maybe arrange a meet for following week or whenever convenient but in that time we will still be chatting every other day or so. It's usually down to intuition and how they converse that's the deal breaker for me

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I don't no.

I've not met anyone yet

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i very much view social meets as "try before you buy"....

i get to see what people are really like... and the same them with me,

as for a percentage... i would say more rather than less, just becdause if i didn't think we would click i would have already filtered those people out......

I judge the process as part of my process.....

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"I only insist on a social first so as to out the ones who've lied about their age and height

once that's been sorted it will probably end in a play meet if there is any chemistry there, but I wont take one for the team just because they turned up anyway "

I am 36 (though profile text says 35 - I haven't changed it yet from yesterday), 6ft 1 and a bit

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to a social with full intention of not playing but by the end of the night I seem to have their cock deep inside me .

Now I don't even pretend, I know exactly how it will end

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

Personally, I have a 100% record from social meets

*Wish I could do a smug face*

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

14.7% of the social meets I've had have continued on to a second play meet.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I met s guy for a social a few months ago then recently he got back in touch. We had another brief social then played later the same day. Wouldn't have happened without the first social as he was really nervous. Now we're arranging a second play date.

Sometimes the groundwork is worth the effort.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *essThePirateWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

If your only goal is a drive by shag then you will find the like minded.

I like a meet and a banter. Whether it ends up beyond depends.on schedules like only got an hour because of kids.

If I don't fancy first time I won't second but if I do then I will move diary room

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *renchy19Man
over a year ago

Heathrow

I think a social first is a must. I have had and many others also on here that I have chatted to the experience of ppl turning up who are very different to thier profiles. Not too mention I think there should be some form of spark.

I don't blame ppl who simply jump in and play but that's there choice

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It was about 50/50. These days I prefer to meet people I already know (although that often proves difficult) or arrange to meet at a club and have the social part of it there. There's no guarantee but it increases the chances.

Although, not many are prepared to meet at a club. They're happy to suggest they come to my home without a social (I don't accommodate).

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

None for me. I know enough that if I'm inviting someone back to my home, I need time to contemplate.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only insist on a social first so as to out the ones who've lied about their age and height

once that's been sorted it will probably end in a play meet if there is any chemistry there, but I wont take one for the team just because they turned up anyway

I am 36 (though profile text says 35 - I haven't changed it yet from yesterday), 6ft 1 and a bit "

is that your idea of 'social banter'?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester

It's funny to see this thread open up again .

And thanks to everyone who got the point of it . That being how many social only meets end up with a second play meet .

Everyone who said they insist on socials etc ... clearly didn't get the gist of the op . Hey ho ....

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It's funny to see this thread open up again .

And thanks to everyone who got the point of it . That being how many social only meets end up with a second play meet .

Everyone who said they insist on socials etc ... clearly didn't get the gist of the op . Hey ho ...."

Someone will be along to tell you that you asked the wrong question.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

Personally 90% - I think the social is just an ice breaker - text and phone calls can only tell so much

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples


"So it's common knowledge that lots of you insist on a social first before any play . Many of you say that the first meet must be a non play social , so here is my question . How many as a % of these social first meets end up with a second play meet ?

"

Every social i have, if there's mutual attraction and a spark, leads to a play meet.

I've even had many socials that have had the opportunity to take things further, so we have.

For me, the point of a social is with a view that, if everyone likes each other, play well happen, if not after the social, then soon after.

But then I also believe in trying to sort a social out as early on as possible, as no amount of messages replace if that sexual chemistry is there.

I've found what works, for me.

Don't have any percentages though, as i don't keep count or numbers

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

[Removed by poster at 24/06/17 19:47:08]

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes


"I'm kind of inbetween as I don't do meet and fucks last min or will I meet anyone without talking for a few days weeks or even months to be certain there is a chemistry. Then I will arrange a social/play meet.

If that person won't wait or is persistent to 'meet now' then I know they are not the type of person I want to meet let alone having their cock inside me!

This is a good way to out some people, but do you not find people think they're being strung along? Personally we try not to prolong chat periods as we think we know in a few hours - days if we want to meet them.

Yes il usually know within first few messages then maybe arrange a meet for following week or whenever convenient but in that time we will still be chatting every other day or so. It's usually down to intuition and how they converse that's the deal breaker for me "

I think when you say few weeks everyone would accept (everydaylife always comes first) but i dont know if you start prolong in to months (for a first meet that saying).

I would take you as one that is there only for enjoing the chat-flirt you get!

But...that's me .. (just my opinion )

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably about 20% end up in a follow up play meet. You can find somebody's face pic attractive but then when you meet there's just no chemistry.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was here on a different profile last summer, I met 4 socially but only played with one so a 25% conversion rate. I'm happy with that, this year I've only met one socially and we won't be playing lol. For me a social is a good filter.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
back to top