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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always the one's that you love that hurt you the most

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's always the one's that you love that hurt you the most "
But alot of the time its so silly ,, when i say that she go off on one ...... its like she blow everything up so big and no need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i try to blank everything out.

my daughter was a miracle and saved me from destruction. As Jack said. its the ones you love who hurt you the most

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i try to blank everything out.

my daughter was a miracle and saved me from destruction. As Jack said. its the ones you love who hurt you the most "
i am doing food at Auties funrel my mum say i am being used and a mug i say i loved her and she was a big part of my life i am doing it for her. And to make sure its all lovely how it should be ...... i am no mug x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughter is getting married next year. Her dad and my youngest go to church on a Saturday: she knows this (they are very much into the Sabbath worship), but has set her wedding for a Saturday and now all hell is breaking loose as her dad says he wont walk her down the aisle, her sister wont be a bridesmaid...and I'm piggy in the middle.

The irony is my ex-husband walked my youngest sister down the aisle as my dad wouldn't do it because of religion either - and he had a lot to say - now he's doing the same thing.

What should be a happy occasion is turning into war!

Families!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it's just your moms choice of words?

Maybe she meant to say something else but the words came out wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My daughter is getting married next year. Her dad and my youngest go to church on a Saturday: she knows this (they are very much into the Sabbath worship), but has set her wedding for a Saturday and now all hell is breaking loose as her dad says he wont walk her down the aisle, her sister wont be a bridesmaid...and I'm piggy in the middle.

The irony is my ex-husband walked my youngest sister down the aisle as my dad wouldn't do it because of religion either - and he had a lot to say - now he's doing the same thing.

What should be a happy occasion is turning into war!

Families! "
poor you are you working on making them see the bigger pic its her Day ...... ooo was sons wedding last year i had a ear full ...... why i say xmas funrels and weddings bring out the worst in people. Hate to think what divorce is like must be living Hell .. for some.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps it's just your moms choice of words?

Maybe she meant to say something else but the words came out wrong?

"
and my cream only some going after church and because she has not been asked she say she being singled out all family are asked i told her ,,, so silly and no need for it .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats Crematorium .. lol x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?"

Massive hugsxxxx

To be honest because of the history with certain family members i simply avoided events for a number of years.Protecting myself from pain and stress came first.

People with a drink problem don't like to be confronted with the fact they drink, is there any way you can avoid her while attending ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter is getting married next year. Her dad and my youngest go to church on a Saturday: she knows this (they are very much into the Sabbath worship), but has set her wedding for a Saturday and now all hell is breaking loose as her dad says he wont walk her down the aisle, her sister wont be a bridesmaid...and I'm piggy in the middle.

The irony is my ex-husband walked my youngest sister down the aisle as my dad wouldn't do it because of religion either - and he had a lot to say - now he's doing the same thing.

What should be a happy occasion is turning into war!

Families! "

Suggest to your daughter that she goes off to the Bahamas and get married there - and you'll come with her for a nice holibob too! If her dad and sister aren't going to be there anyway it won't matter where it's held will it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sadly we can't pick our families - but we can ignore the ones we don't like !

well my sister can anyway

she stood next to our cousin in the queue at asda and didn't speak to her.

now even if i don't particularly care for someone, i would at last acknowledge their presence - i don't know how she does it !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?

Massive hugsxxxx

To be honest because of the history with certain family members i simply avoided events for a number of years.Protecting myself from pain and stress came first.

People with a drink problem don't like to be confronted with the fact they drink, is there any way you can avoid her while attending ?"
she drinks far more then i know and i am sure now drinking driving too . Just hope next week she say off it ....at funral.

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

Same happened at my dad's funeral some ten years ago when my bossy sister and her daughter tried to boss everyone around. I told em both to f**** off and I would be the one orchestrating things, they were not happy and were wailing to my mum, who likes to keep everyone one happy all the time. Thank god I live 500 miles away from them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?

Massive hugsxxxx

To be honest because of the history with certain family members i simply avoided events for a number of years.Protecting myself from pain and stress came first.

People with a drink problem don't like to be confronted with the fact they drink, is there any way you can avoid her while attending ? she drinks far more then i know and i am sure now drinking driving too . Just hope next week she say off it ....at funral."

just nick her keys when she ain't lookin

either that or her bottle opener

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter is getting married next year. Her dad and my youngest go to church on a Saturday: she knows this (they are very much into the Sabbath worship), but has set her wedding for a Saturday and now all hell is breaking loose as her dad says he wont walk her down the aisle, her sister wont be a bridesmaid...and I'm piggy in the middle.

The irony is my ex-husband walked my youngest sister down the aisle as my dad wouldn't do it because of religion either - and he had a lot to say - now he's doing the same thing.

What should be a happy occasion is turning into war!

Families!

Suggest to your daughter that she goes off to the Bahamas and get married there - and you'll come with her for a nice holibob too! If her dad and sister aren't going to be there anyway it won't matter where it's held will it."

She was thinking the very same thing: but her fiance talked her out of it.

Oh well...sigh!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?

Massive hugsxxxx

To be honest because of the history with certain family members i simply avoided events for a number of years.Protecting myself from pain and stress came first.

People with a drink problem don't like to be confronted with the fact they drink, is there any way you can avoid her while attending ? she drinks far more then i know and i am sure now drinking driving too . Just hope next week she say off it ....at funral.

just nick her keys when she ain't lookin

either that or her bottle opener "
its Gin , or wiskey .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Suggest to your daughter that she goes off to the Bahamas and get married there - and you'll come with her for a nice holibob too! If her dad and sister aren't going to be there anyway it won't matter where it's held will it.

She was thinking the very same thing: but her fiance talked her out of it.

Oh well...sigh! "

tbh if I had been faced with this dilemma in either of my marriages I'd have said to the person causing the friction that if they were prepared to ruin this most important of days then they could kiss goodbye to ever seeing my children when they're born.

People can be such selfish assholes sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?

Massive hugsxxxx

To be honest because of the history with certain family members i simply avoided events for a number of years.Protecting myself from pain and stress came first.

People with a drink problem don't like to be confronted with the fact they drink, is there any way you can avoid her while attending ? she drinks far more then i know and i am sure now drinking driving too . Just hope next week she say off it ....at funral.

just nick her keys when she ain't lookin

either that or her bottle opener its Gin , or wiskey ....."

oooh lethal

i don't wish to make light of your situation btw

i've seen what drink does to people on more than 1 occasion and it isn't nice

i also had a short (tho not short enough) relat with a drug addict who constantly ruined every gathering we attended, family or otherwise

old story, once i found out about the drugs, thought i could change things, help out etc - wrong !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?

Massive hugsxxxx

To be honest because of the history with certain family members i simply avoided events for a number of years.Protecting myself from pain and stress came first.

People with a drink problem don't like to be confronted with the fact they drink, is there any way you can avoid her while attending ? she drinks far more then i know and i am sure now drinking driving too . Just hope next week she say off it ....at funral.

just nick her keys when she ain't lookin

either that or her bottle opener its Gin , or wiskey .....

oooh lethal

i don't wish to make light of your situation btw

i've seen what drink does to people on more than 1 occasion and it isn't nice

i also had a short (tho not short enough) relat with a drug addict who constantly ruined every gathering we attended, family or otherwise

old story, once i found out about the drugs, thought i could change things, help out etc - wrong !"
its not easy she been drinking years and knowing how to handle her is hard at times .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

its just people who drink the next day ..... it like thay know nothing about it all . But we remember what was going on . Family s ....

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

My daughter is getting married in 2 weeks times. My other daughter is doing bridemaid. The 2 of them have constantly clashed over the years, and im forever being acused of picking one over the other,(by both of them) which isnt true.It has been worse the last few months tryint o get wedding sorted out for dresses,shoes, hair ect Any wonder im going grey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God gave us our relatives. Thank god we can choose our friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?

Massive hugsxxxx

To be honest because of the history with certain family members i simply avoided events for a number of years.Protecting myself from pain and stress came first.

People with a drink problem don't like to be confronted with the fact they drink, is there any way you can avoid her while attending ? she drinks far more then i know and i am sure now drinking driving too . Just hope next week she say off it ....at funral."

This may sound horribly harsh, but if you know she's drinking and driving, you should report her to the police. Not only are you potentially saving her life and the lives of others, it may also be the kick up the arse she needs to sort herself out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?

Massive hugsxxxx

To be honest because of the history with certain family members i simply avoided events for a number of years.Protecting myself from pain and stress came first.

People with a drink problem don't like to be confronted with the fact they drink, is there any way you can avoid her while attending ? she drinks far more then i know and i am sure now drinking driving too . Just hope next week she say off it ....at funral.

This may sound horribly harsh, but if you know she's drinking and driving, you should report her to the police. Not only are you potentially saving her life and the lives of others, it may also be the kick up the arse she needs to sort herself out."
it do not sound harsh your just telling me the truth ,, she looks after my dad who had a strock 4 years ago and he cant drive now ..... so it would be a big thing if she had it taken away . Its just if i say somthing about drink she go mad and she do it away from everyone even dad her drinking . When i was a girl she was drinking so been years now .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?

Massive hugsxxxx

To be honest because of the history with certain family members i simply avoided events for a number of years.Protecting myself from pain and stress came first.

People with a drink problem don't like to be confronted with the fact they drink, is there any way you can avoid her while attending ? she drinks far more then i know and i am sure now drinking driving too . Just hope next week she say off it ....at funral.

This may sound horribly harsh, but if you know she's drinking and driving, you should report her to the police. Not only are you potentially saving her life and the lives of others, it may also be the kick up the arse she needs to sort herself out. it do not sound harsh your just telling me the truth ,, she looks after my dad who had a strock 4 years ago and he cant drive now ..... so it would be a big thing if she had it taken away . Its just if i say somthing about drink she go mad and she do it away from everyone even dad her drinking . When i was a girl she was drinking so been years now ."

She's driving your dad around whilst d*unk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hate to be in your position, and my heart goes out to you, but I'm 100% sure what I'd do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She's driving your dad around whilst d*unk? Well i get the feeling she is drinking in day time and my sisters saying same thing . So yes Just dont know how much .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have my lovely Auties funeral next week and my mums been a right pain .... Why is it family get togethers bring out the worst in some people ...... wedding and xmas and funerls my mum think she can say what she like to me and get away with it ...... but last two or 3 times standing my grownd and she hates it ..... use to get hit now she has stoped that but its her drinking if i say about it she go mad. . Do you have family like this ....how do you cope?"

my own family are very close and loving but had these problems with my ex and his family. Just did not rise to it for many years until the kids were old enough to understand.

Then there I was - gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many years ago I made a decision in my life......

If you were not related.......would I take anything to do with you as a human being.............NO then sod off

99.9% of my family are arseholes so I cleaned them out of my life......

I have a younger brother across the Atlantic I keep in touch with but the rest can kiss my arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cope by trying to stay away from my mum, the less I am near her, the better for me. When my niece knew that she was dying, she said that under no circumstances was my mother to be told and she didn't want her at the funeral because she hated her so much what hurts is not just that no-one told me because they thought that I would tell her, but more because she is my mother and I would so love to have a nice mother that I can share things with and do all those things that loving families do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many years ago I made a decision in my life......

If you were not related.......would I take anything to do with you as a human being.............NO then sod off

99.9% of my family are arseholes so I cleaned them out of my life......

"

It will seem harsh to some but very true .......... I have done exactly the same and my life has been so much better for it

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By *o Peep n WoodyCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

Put your blinkers on

You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i try to blank everything out.

my daughter was a miracle and saved me from destruction. As Jack said. its the ones you love who hurt you the most i am doing food at Auties funrel my mum say i am being used and a mug i say i loved her and she was a big part of my life i am doing it for her. And to make sure its all lovely how it should be ...... i am no mug x"

and this is your Mums sisters funeral ?? or not ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i try to blank everything out.

my daughter was a miracle and saved me from destruction. As Jack said. its the ones you love who hurt you the most i am doing food at Auties funrel my mum say i am being used and a mug i say i loved her and she was a big part of my life i am doing it for her. And to make sure its all lovely how it should be ...... i am no mug x

and this is your Mums sisters funeral ?? or not ?"
Dads sister she was a lovely lady. Like me very high sex drive She would tell me about all her lovers most 2o years younger .. when she was married she had a live in lover for years and it was normal living to her 3 in a bed ... even when ill going to hospitel she was on about the sexy young men who helped get her there ..... she never new she was doing there to die as so full of life ... she worked for years in a childrens home end up running it . people loved her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

2 years ago i even go her a local date from this site she was 72 and thay had fun ..Age she never felt it ... He was 50s had a thing for older sexy ladys. She was very diffrent.

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