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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I seem to be getting a massive come down after sex these days. It is not so bad usually as I am with my fwb, so get cuddles n stuff for a while afterwards, so it makes it kind of easier. But that has made me just think we need a FabSnugglers for nsa post sex snuggles to prevent a massive thump as ya hit the floor...if who ya had sex with needs to leave too soon to ease ya down gently just a thought

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

Lol can't imagine it taking off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lol can't imagine it taking off

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Nah me either...but would be nice

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By *8Roost88Man
over a year ago

Derby


" we need a FabSnugglers for nsa post sex snuggles to prevent a massive thump as ya hit the floor...if who ya had sex with needs to leave too soon to ease ya down gently just a thought"

so are you saying for every meet made on fabswingers, you'd have to make another on FabSnuggles to be ready for when it's all over?

If so I think most people would say it can be difficult to sort out meets on Fab without having to coordinate meeting people from another site at the same time :P

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By *ecretagentman7Man
over a year ago

wakefield


"I seem to be getting a massive come down after sex these days. It is not so bad usually as I am with my fwb, so get cuddles n stuff for a while afterwards, so it makes it kind of easier. But that has made me just think we need a FabSnugglers for nsa post sex snuggles to prevent a massive thump as ya hit the floor...if who ya had sex with needs to leave too soon to ease ya down gently just a thought"

I'd be down for a snuggle afterwards with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's completely normal.

It's called "post coital dysphoria" or "Post-coital tristesse" (PCT).

Sex is a high of sorts and Probably depletes certain neurochemicals associated with "feel good" states.

The effect is probably more pronounced in those who're prone to feeling a bit low. A 5-HTP may help combat the morose feelings. It's inevitable after a high of any type a come down of sorts will occur, some are probably much more sensitive to the "come down" though.

Here's an article on the independent website outlining the phenomenon..

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/post-coital-dysphoria-miserable-after-sex-sad-relationships-love-a7526501.html

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By * Kiwis and a BananaMan
over a year ago

Part of your 5 a day

Is the sex mandatory in order to have a snuggle? Sometimes I just want someone to stroke my head until I fall asleep in their arms

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

This is exactly why I don't do 'quickie' meets... Even with a fwb. There has to be time for snuggles and gradual disentanglement. Otherwise I just feel unsatisfied by the experience. Its as much about the affection and emotional connection with someone as the actual sex.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Aahhh the good ol' 'Sub Drop'!! luckily, only had it twice, and its only lasted up to a couple of days.

I keep some chocolate and good Beer handy, queue up some crappy films I love or new films to occupy myself, and just wait for the comedown to pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This type of thing shows some submissive tendencies as sounds like you are in need of after care to bring you back to the ground.

I'm not saying you are but it does have the same tendencies from what youv said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think that's bad, if you ever hit 'sub space'... that's next level which requires a lot of after care and needs a specific type of after care based on the subs need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly why I don't do 'quickie' meets... Even with a fwb. There has to be time for snuggles and gradual disentanglement. Otherwise I just feel unsatisfied by the experience. Its as much about the affection and emotional connection with someone as the actual sex. "

Do you think this could ever become a problem for partners who don't swing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You think that's bad, if you ever hit 'sub space'... that's next level which requires a lot of after care and needs a specific type of after care based on the subs need "

Sub drop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you just need a relationship, all this sub drop bullshit is totally stupid, it's a feeling of been used, and no affection, and dont get me started on the aftercare rubbish, find yourself a decent man. ..ive been there and got the numerous tee shirts....

.....we all need love in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is the sex mandatory in order to have a snuggle? Sometimes I just want someone to stroke my head until I fall asleep in their arms "

Bless you x

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"This is exactly why I don't do 'quickie' meets... Even with a fwb. There has to be time for snuggles and gradual disentanglement. Otherwise I just feel unsatisfied by the experience. Its as much about the affection and emotional connection with someone as the actual sex.

Do you think this could ever become a problem for partners who don't swing?"

In what way?? I don't get involved with non-swingers anyway, as there would be an expectation for a relationship to 'progress', which I can't offer anyone, but I don't see how it would be a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like you just need a relationship, all this sub drop bullshit is totally stupid, it's a feeling of been used, and no affection, and dont get me started on the aftercare rubbish, find yourself a decent man. ..ive been there and got the numerous tee shirts....

.....we all need love in the end. "

You can't really comment on something like that which you clearly don't understand..

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

This is really interesting tho x

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton


"Sounds like you just need a relationship, all this sub drop bullshit is totally stupid, it's a feeling of been used, and no affection, and dont get me started on the aftercare rubbish, find yourself a decent man. ..ive been there and got the numerous tee shirts....

.....we all need love in the end. "

LMFAO

OK then thats that sorted, thanks for your obviously deep knowledge in the matter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol can't imagine it taking off

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I can. . I'm all for this. I'll hug and snuggle. I can't promise that my hands won't get busy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly why I don't do 'quickie' meets... Even with a fwb. There has to be time for snuggles and gradual disentanglement. Otherwise I just feel unsatisfied by the experience. Its as much about the affection and emotional connection with someone as the actual sex. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly why I don't do 'quickie' meets... Even with a fwb. There has to be time for snuggles and gradual disentanglement. Otherwise I just feel unsatisfied by the experience. Its as much about the affection and emotional connection with someone as the actual sex.

This "

Surely not. 30min. Quicky, I'll order a Dominos meal deal before I leave. Pizza cheers everyone up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok...so I never said it would be easy...but would still be nice

I am not sub, nor feel used, it was a long and very good meet...although all the snuggling n stuff was in the middle instead of the end. I just think it is because I wasn't seeing my fwb as I normally would.

I probably could use a relationship....but I don't want one...not a full on bf/gf, commitment thing anyway....and especially not just to stop me feeling lonely for a couple of hours once in a while.

Oh and I am always up for snuggles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always like a cuddle post sex. After all, it might just turn out to be short breather before the next round...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The secret is to swallow the cum. It is a natural antidepresant

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201101/attention-ladies-semen-is-antidepressant

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The secret is to swallow the cum. It is a natural antidepresant

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201101/attention-ladies-semen-is-antidepressant "

I did! Lmao, maybe why it took a while for the comedown to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The secret is to swallow the cum. It is a natural antidepresant

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201101/attention-ladies-semen-is-antidepressant "

I am prepared to help depressed ladies...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to be getting a massive come down after sex these days. It is not so bad usually as I am with my fwb, so get cuddles n stuff for a while afterwards, so it makes it kind of easier. But that has made me just think we need a FabSnugglers for nsa post sex snuggles to prevent a massive thump as ya hit the floor...if who ya had sex with needs to leave too soon to ease ya down gently just a thought"

Solution... more sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is the sex mandatory in order to have a snuggle? Sometimes I just want someone to stroke my head until I fall asleep in their arms "

Me too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like you just need a relationship, all this sub drop bullshit is totally stupid, it's a feeling of been used, and no affection, and dont get me started on the aftercare rubbish, find yourself a decent man. ..ive been there and got the numerous tee shirts....

.....we all need love in the end.

LMFAO

OK then thats that sorted, thanks for your obviously deep knowledge in the matter! "

Oh sorry, did I touch a nerve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like you just need a relationship, all this sub drop bullshit is totally stupid, it's a feeling of been used, and no affection, and dont get me started on the aftercare rubbish, find yourself a decent man. ..ive been there and got the numerous tee shirts....

.....we all need love in the end.

You can't really comment on something like that which you clearly don't understand..

"

I understand it very well, and glad to say, I'm out the other side.........

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd like it - I don't even have a pet these days to cuddle up with.

Probably better to get someone either agreeing to the same desire upfront or handcuff them in and swallow their car key until ready to dump both the partner and the key.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I seem to be getting a massive come down after sex these days. It is not so bad usually as I am with my fwb, so get cuddles n stuff for a while afterwards, so it makes it kind of easier. But that has made me just think we need a FabSnugglers for nsa post sex snuggles to prevent a massive thump as ya hit the floor...if who ya had sex with needs to leave too soon to ease ya down gently just a thought

Solution... more sex "

This would work if the encounters that leave me this way left me needing more sex....but they don't...more sex is only really an option with a less connected fuck and I rarely do that anymore, so the rare occasions I do play (with anyone other than my fwb) I get the high and the low.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"This is exactly why I don't do 'quickie' meets... Even with a fwb. There has to be time for snuggles and gradual disentanglement. Otherwise I just feel unsatisfied by the experience. Its as much about the affection and emotional connection with someone as the actual sex.

This

Surely not. 30min. Quicky, I'll order a Dominos meal deal before I leave. Pizza cheers everyone up. "

Order garlic bread too... If you're out in 30min you won't be getting anywhere near me again anyway...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im one of those the more you have the more you want so if i had snuggles after sex - it 'might' lead to more sex - now lets see how many offer to snuggle up

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"im one of those the more you have the more you want so if i had snuggles after sex - it 'might' lead to more sex - now lets see how many offer to snuggle up "

I'm right there with ya... I'd keep repeating the sex-cuddle cycle until he's exhausted and falls asleep if time allows it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This type of thing shows some submissive tendencies as sounds like you are in need of after care to bring you back to the ground.

I'm not saying you are but it does have the same tendencies from what youv said "

Doms experience drop too which suggests it's not actually a submissive thing, it's just a come down from a high, but often its the sub that flies higher than the Dom thats all.

It also has nothing to do with needing to be in a relationship, it's a need for physical closeness , my hubby isn't going to take the day off work to give me on demand snuggles and tea just because he fucked me till I nearly fainted the night before, nothing would ever get done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is exactly why I don't do 'quickie' meets... Even with a fwb. There has to be time for snuggles and gradual disentanglement. Otherwise I just feel unsatisfied by the experience. Its as much about the affection and emotional connection with someone as the actual sex.

This

Surely not. 30min. Quicky, I'll order a Dominos meal deal before I leave. Pizza cheers everyone up.

Order garlic bread too... If you're out in 30min you won't be getting anywhere near me again anyway... "

Next you'll be asking me to pay for it as well. ?

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"This is exactly why I don't do 'quickie' meets... Even with a fwb. There has to be time for snuggles and gradual disentanglement. Otherwise I just feel unsatisfied by the experience. Its as much about the affection and emotional connection with someone as the actual sex.

This

Surely not. 30min. Quicky, I'll order a Dominos meal deal before I leave. Pizza cheers everyone up.

Order garlic bread too... If you're out in 30min you won't be getting anywhere near me again anyway...

Next you'll be asking me to pay for it as well. ? "

Nah... Its fine... I'll have filched 20 quid from your wallet while you were putting your socks back on

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