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Taking bi women seriously

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

An article just came up on a bisexual page that I follow on Facebook, and here's a snippet of it that I thought was appropriate for fab...

"As a bi woman, it can be a challenge to get society to take our identity seriously. In a world where relationships between women are continually sexualized by the media, we face the same reactions almost every day. You must be doing it for attention, to turn men on, or only be interested in woman in a sexual, and not romantic, capacity.

Relationships between women are overwhelmingly sexualized in popular media. This is evident in films especially— scenes depicting two woman getting it on have no logic or authenticity. There is a sense of voyeurism about these scenes that makes it feel like we’re watching it from the perspective of a fourteen year old straight boy. These two women are getting it on, not for their own pleasure, but for the pleasure of the viewer.

By no means am I saying that every time two woman have sex on screen it has to be deep and meaningful, but more often than not these scenes are two straight women “experimenting.” Every gratuitous and illogical scene featuring curious straight girls feeds into the myth that bisexuality is a quirky kink, and not a legitimate identity. It also implies that women can be attracted to other women sexually, very rarely is that attraction romantic. How many more sex scenes feature two woman compared to scenes of two women romancing one another? The answer is: metric tons. This imbalance creates the stigma that bi women are only interested in kinky sex, not romance."

Thoughts, people? I found the first paragraph to be particularly applicable as I do have a romantic interest in women as well as sexual, nor do I play on my sexuality to turn someone on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give us a kiss, OP.

*checks to ensure some men are watching*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give us a kiss, OP.

*checks to ensure some men are watching*

"

I will be

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

In this environment, 99% of the bi women are ONLY interested in Sex with women, not on romance and relationships.

But then this site isn't generally a dating site it's a swinging (sexually hooking up) site. Im sure that there is a lot more romance available through dating sites.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get it. Often the bisexual thing comes up in conversation on here and people are sometimes shocked its not just a sexual thing. Ive had girlfriends in the past and my feelings for them were the same as any boyfriend.

Its seen as a sexual kink and lets face it we all know some "bi" ladies who do it as a show for their man!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Meh. I don't put too much weight on the comments you get on here - like the 'pseudo lesbianism' and crap of that ilk.

I was a lesbian before I was bi and will just carry on doing what I want with who I want regardless of if 'they' want to make it for a patriarchal gaze or claim it's something it isn't.

I do think on here a lot of women are only interested sexually and that's cool. The only time it bugs me is when it's put on as a sort of viagra. Fuck that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shouldn't we all respect a woman's choice to play with other women purely to please her man?

That's what the majority seem to do, with no interest in romantic attachments. Each to their own and all that

It may boil down to the vast majority of women knowing and feeling their lives would never be complete without a man. Hence the lack of serious interest in women beyond the superficial. This is probably just heterosexuality. Not exactly a fashionable stance these days but something we should maybe all respect.

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