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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

.... upon meeting someone, that you decide to, or not to play with them?

I'm of the mind that I know very quickly, in the first 20-30 seconds or so.

On the other side, you can tell too, from their first reactions, body language, and or facial expressions if you meet their expectations too.

Sometimes people can grow on you and you on them, as the meet progresses, but on the whole, first impressions mean a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".... upon meeting someone, that you decide to, or not to play with them?

I'm of the mind that I know very quickly, in the first 20-30 seconds or so.

On the other side, you can tell too, from their first reactions, body language, and or facial expressions if you meet their expectations too.

Sometimes people can grow on you and you on them, as the meet progresses, but on the whole, first impressions mean a lot "

i make my mind up before i meet

as i said in an earlier thread, i have only had 1 occasion where it's gone tits up on me (no shows excluded)

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


".... upon meeting someone, that you decide to, or not to play with them?

I'm of the mind that I know very quickly, in the first 20-30 seconds or so.

On the other side, you can tell too, from their first reactions, body language, and or facial expressions if you meet their expectations too.

Sometimes people can grow on you and you on them, as the meet progresses, but on the whole, first impressions mean a lot "

exactly the same for us.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they only write one line we won't be meeting.

If they make it obvious in anyw ay they haven't read my profile we won;t be meeting.

I have met somebody based purely on their initial message, which was lengthy and interesting without any expectation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I start to moan about feeling lonely etc...and get sympathy shags for it YAY, i'm a top class liar!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one can resist me. No one I say mwahahaha!!

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

within the first 5 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Within the blink of an eye. Don't let them know straight away tho usually. Don't leave them hanging on too long. Will arrange a playtime meet as soon as possible if interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

According to The Naked Ape by Desmond Morris we decide in approx 2.6 seconds if we are going to fight, run from or mate with a stranger we meet for the first time. Its a primitive survival reaction. If course we can't apply the fight flee and fuck reaction in these evolved days so we usually smile politely and varying crinkleness around the eyes as we smile signals to the person in an instant whether or not we like them and vice versa.

Then there are those who simply say 'good grief you're minging' and off they trot......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My biggest problem on meeting strangers is the goodbye in the carpark if you don't fancy them. I know I'm gonna write and say no thanks but when they lean in for a kiss bye bye I don't know how to react as I don't want to encourage false hopes. Yeah its pretty mean if you snog their face off and say no thanks in a mail but to me kissing is a sign of affection - even on the cheek but a handshake is so cold...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually have a good idea that we are gonna play before we meet otherwise we wouldn't meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Online 3/4 messages and then in person under 30 seconds. If i meet for a drink though i don't rush off in the first min if i am not keen because some people do grow on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online 3/4 messages and then in person under 30 seconds. If i meet for a drink though i don't rush off in the first min if i am not keen because some people do grow on you. "

Keep saying stuff - I love it when your torso pops up in posts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online 3/4 messages and then in person under 30 seconds. If i meet for a drink though i don't rush off in the first min if i am not keen because some people do grow on you.

Keep saying stuff - I love it when your torso pops up in posts..."

It sometimes needs a bit of help you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online 3/4 messages and then in person under 30 seconds. If i meet for a drink though i don't rush off in the first min if i am not keen because some people do grow on you.

Keep saying stuff - I love it when your torso pops up in posts...

It sometimes needs a bit of help you know "

Don't make me go all Carry On movie with you - I have so many responses in my head to that and not one of them is sophisticated.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"According to The Naked Ape by Desmond Morris we decide in approx 2.6 seconds if we are going to fight, run from or mate with a stranger we meet for the first time. Its a primitive survival reaction. "

There's been a few I should have fought instead of fucking though, but anybody can make a mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"According to The Naked Ape by Desmond Morris we decide in approx 2.6 seconds if we are going to fight, run from or mate with a stranger we meet for the first time. Its a primitive survival reaction.

There's been a few I should have fought instead of fucking though, but anybody can make a mistake "

he he, funny thing about fucking what you see is not always what you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"According to The Naked Ape by Desmond Morris we decide in approx 2.6 seconds if we are going to fight, run from or mate with a stranger we meet for the first time."

How long does it take the male to decide whether they're going to turn up, wank or just be an arsehole?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"According to The Naked Ape by Desmond Morris we decide in approx 2.6 seconds if we are going to fight, run from or mate with a stranger we meet for the first time.

How long does it take the male to decide whether they're going to turn up, wank or just be an arsehole?"

I think thats probably answered by Denise Robertson!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".... upon meeting someone, that you decide to, or not to play with them?

I'm of the mind that I know very quickly, in the first 20-30 seconds or so.

On the other side, you can tell too, from their first reactions, body language, and or facial expressions if you meet their expectations too.

Sometimes people can grow on you and you on them, as the meet progresses, but on the whole, first impressions mean a lot "

I wouldn't take i have a time scale. Some people i really i take a quick liking to or dislike them but lots i am in the middle with and think they are ok and wait to see if they grow on me. I guess i like to be open minded and take my time.

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Online 3/4 messages and then in person under 30 seconds. If i meet for a drink though i don't rush off in the first min if i am not keen because some people do grow on you.

Keep saying stuff - I love it when your torso pops up in posts..."

+ 1

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have usually decided before a meet!! But then I like to get to know a person before hand. If a guy can make me laugh, its hlaf the battle!!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Within the first minute I know if I find them attractive physically.

Have usually decided if I am going to get on with them socially within the first 30 minutes or so.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive already decided before i meet them that i will want to play unless they turn out to have bad hygene which is the one thing you have to take your chance with

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a bit surprised at the number of people who decide they are going to play before they have met

So many people have said on previous threads that physical attraction is paramount, and then with the number of people who turn up looking nothing like their pics, I'm thinking how you can make your decision under such circumstances?

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