FabSwingers.com forum: Getting to know you

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't worry this isn't a King & I thread

It's to do with social interaction prior to meeting someone you interested in in a primarily sexual way.

Other than meeting people in pubs and clubs and taking them home, this isn't something I've had much experience of.

Not because I don't like getting to know people, but more because it detracts from the sexual excitement I take from the situation.

The more I know about someone upfront, the greater the likelyhood that I will start to find them less attractive.

And if I start regarding you as a friend then the sex just drops right off the agenda.

The fewer messages that lead up to a meet, the better for me.

And on an actual meet, I like to meet and get straight down to it.

Afterwards, some people leave straight away, some stay and have a brew / chat and some stay round for seconds and in the latter 2 scenario's I am more than happy to sit and yap til the cows come home about all sorts.

Maybe I am this way because for me the initial attraction for sex is a largely physical (looks) one ? Or maybe I'm just an odd ball !

I understand that situation is going to be different for many ladies and for couples who enjoy the social aspect but just wondered if there was anyone else (other than single males) who feel this way ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually take my time in selection. Safety is an issue in the TG world so I like to feel comfortable with somebody. Some guys think they want it then they get it and feel so guilty they beat a gurl up. So come on too strong and I'll just cut you off. Start in the areas of interest I expressly mentioned on my profile and I'll cut you off because even if I explain and you say you're cool I won't trust you not to push it again if we did meet.

I'm fickle. So sue me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all different in how we select our friends and playmates.

We like to interact socially before we meet for "combat" lol, but we have done first meet play too.

A lot depends on the moment, on the people and how the first 20 seconds go.

I don't know if it's only me, but I usually know in the first 20 seconds or so if it's going to be "game on"

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

We enjoy the social side of swinging too. Although to be honest as long as I fancy the guy and the sexual chemistry is there I could cut the social bit short but its more for my husbands benefit. He likes to feel at ease with a guy and trust him to touch his wife.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We enjoy the social side of swinging too. Although to be honest as long as I fancy the guy and the sexual chemistry is there I could cut the social bit short but its more for my husbands benefit. He likes to feel at ease with a guy and trust him to touch his wife.

Mistress x"

+ 1 but partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could it be that your in a very happy relationship and you just do what you gotta do and move on?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"could it be that your in a very happy relationship and you just do what you gotta do and move on?

that is a good part of it sassy (well noted btw lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nahhh meeting someone, having a drink and flirting and playing the game me thinks. ok no need to get into deep and personal conversations but a laugh a smile a flick of the hair the long silky legs slightly parted is all part of the fun...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nahhh meeting someone, having a drink and flirting and playing the game me thinks. ok no need to get into deep and personal conversations but a laugh a smile a flick of the hair the long silky legs slightly parted is all part of the fun..."

you wouldn't wanna see me flick any of my hair believe me !

(tip : there is none on my head)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"could it be that your in a very happy relationship and you just do what you gotta do and move on?

that is a good part of it sassy (well noted btw lol)"

yes, specially as you have a single profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"could it be that your in a very happy relationship and you just do what you gotta do and move on?

that is a good part of it sassy (well noted btw lol)

yes, specially as you have a single profile

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I have a single profile an i want to get to no folk before anything else

i like to be safe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"could it be that your in a very happy relationship and you just do what you gotta do and move on?

that is a good part of it sassy (well noted btw lol)

yes, specially as you have a single profile

under normal circumstances, my profile quite clearly states i am in a MF (non swinging relationship) and am looking to meet guys only - as that what is the constraints of my relat allows.

i normally have pics up too but as i am not meeting at the mo (due to a friend being in the latter stages of a terminal illness and the effect that is having on me), i have taken the pics down along with the profile content.

i have been trading exchanges with (the ever so lovely) sassy on here for some time and she has the benefit of knowing about my situation.

and as i said, she reads me well and was spot on with her observation !

so nerrr !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"could it be that your in a very happy relationship and you just do what you gotta do and move on?

that is a good part of it sassy (well noted btw lol)

yes, specially as you have a single profile

Im sure i only know he has a long term partner because i read it on his profile at some stage.. i went to go check and all the text has gone because he isnt meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol.. what iso said haha.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"lol.. what iso said haha. "

but just so we're clear, here is what my usual profile says :

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If you can see my pics, I'm looking

If my pics are in the private gallery, I'm not

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If they are there, take a look at the pictures

Message me if you like what you see

Click off if you don't

Simple as that really !

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I am looking for MALES 18-45 who want some discrete fun.

OK with kissing, wanking, oral, cum and (if you are clean) a bit of ass play / rimming.

None are 'essential' parts of a meet however.

NOT INTERESTED in anal sex (either way), WS, roleplay, dressing or sub/dom situations.

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I live alone, but have a long term partner who is both aware of & accepting of my bi-side

As much as I love women, I don't meet ladies in a sexual context (as singles or as part of a couple).

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PLEASE NOTE :

If your profiles says straight, then the chances are I won't message you first.

I am not a predatory 'straight catcher' who gets a kick out of 'converting' straight blokes.

But, if you are curious and are ready to act on that curiosity, drop me a line.

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I'm a direct and a 'no messing about' kinda guy.

You are always assured of a genuine response.

I am very chilled, friendly, decent and not in this to mess anyone around.

Discretion and cleanliness are both assured and expected.

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I don't accept friends requests and very rarely respond to winks.

If you want to make contact, message me.

One final thing :

Talking about sex online bores the arse off me and it is the quickest way to lose my attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just need to know that there's a click, and that I'm going to be safe.

I'm not interested in going for a pint first or making idle small-talk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"lol.. what iso said haha.

am goin home now

and for information, i am taking my toys (and rattle) with me lol

(ps sassy, i am so hoping dorothy the dinosaur and her friends aren't on when i get in)

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Yes, us.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

My first meet through a site like this is ALWAYS a social meet only....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol.. what iso said haha.

am goin home now

and for information, i am taking my toys (and rattle) with me lol

(ps sassy, i am so hoping dorothy the dinosaur and her friends aren't on when i get in)"

ooops, sorry if I caused upset

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I do wonder when people really want no social interaction if they are slightly ashamed or feel guilty and just want to keep everything as a minimal exchange.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"lol.. what iso said haha.

am goin home now

and for information, i am taking my toys (and rattle) with me lol

(ps sassy, i am so hoping dorothy the dinosaur and her friends aren't on when i get in)

ooops, sorry if I caused upset

nah no offence taken - i just thought i'd clarify things

i have fell foul of opening me big gob without knowing the full details before now, so am certainly in no position to be throwing stones

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I really enjoy the social interaction of getting to know someone before i meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol.. what iso said haha.

am goin home now

and for information, i am taking my toys (and rattle) with me lol

(ps sassy, i am so hoping dorothy the dinosaur and her friends aren't on when i get in)

ooops, sorry if I caused upset

nah no offence taken - i just thought i'd clarify things

i have fell foul of opening me big gob without knowing the full details before now, so am certainly in no position to be throwing stones

oi! u saying I've got a big gob?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"lol.. what iso said haha.

am goin home now

and for information, i am taking my toys (and rattle) with me lol

(ps sassy, i am so hoping dorothy the dinosaur and her friends aren't on when i get in)

ooops, sorry if I caused upset

nah no offence taken - i just thought i'd clarify things

i have fell foul of opening me big gob without knowing the full details before now, so am certainly in no position to be throwing stones

oi! u saying I've got a big gob?

not at all

(btw mods, why are there no emoticons with fitting caps)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol.. what iso said haha.

am goin home now

and for information, i am taking my toys (and rattle) with me lol

(ps sassy, i am so hoping dorothy the dinosaur and her friends aren't on when i get in)

ooops, sorry if I caused upset

nah no offence taken - i just thought i'd clarify things

i have fell foul of opening me big gob without knowing the full details before now, so am certainly in no position to be throwing stones

oi! u saying I've got a big gob?

not at all

(btw mods, why are there no emoticons with fitting caps)

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Right, now have time to write a proper reply.

The sexual excitement for me is the stranger thing. We like to know as little about their life as possible and just need to know that we get on enough to be able to chat inbetween the play.

We meet socially on the night, and if we all like each other then we play the same night. We have repeats if they were fun, but inbetween the repeats we have limited contact.

We like it this way, it means we know the person enough to want to meet them, but not too much that we know the in's and out's of their lives.

If I ( Mrs ) get to know someone too much, the whole stranger thing goes out of the window and then I don't want to play with them.

People will scoff at this way of playing and even try and analyze it, wrongly normally and I suppose I could do the same for the people who play a different way.....but all it means is we are all different and like different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather scoff some cadbury's mesel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a bit of chat and then get down to it and then chat some more after but I'm probably more relaxed after all the adrenalin has been burnt off!

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