FabSwingers.com forum: Tick boxes

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

With so much talk on the site about preferences and whist people are looking for do you agree there should be more tick boxes? If there were what would you have?

Do you ever worry you're so focused on the ideal you'll miss out on something amazing that just doesn't fit your specifics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I unticked most boxes. I decided I'd rather just gather from chatting if we like similar things. I just felt people tried to fit in with what I'd ticked as preferences rather than it was actually what they were into.

Maybe more specific ones would hone it more as they are fairly generic at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally, I think tick boxes and pigeonholing can mean you miss out on new experiences and opportunities, not to mention they make things a little boring!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have very few filters on my profile. The main one being age but I like to contact those outwit that range directly if I see something about them that I like.

I wouldn't use any other filters, i like getting to know someone to see if there's an attraction. I wouldn't want to restrict by a physical attribute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there should be more boxes to cover like voyeur/ exhibitionist. Anal give or take.. things like that.

I think newbies think the tick boxes are a sex menu of what's on offer, so same as Miss Argo I tend not to tick many as people say they are into whatever I say in my profile.

No offers for grass cutting or laundry lately though. Fuckers.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I unticked most boxes. I decided I'd rather just gather from chatting if we like similar things. I just felt people tried to fit in with what I'd ticked as preferences rather than it was actually what they were into.

Maybe more specific ones would hone it more as they are fairly generic at the moment. "

I've unticked mine now for that very reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I completely agree. You can't embrace new things with filters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. I never turned up with a check list. I've been attracted to different people my whole life. They have a few things in common. Theyre friendly, I like their outlook on life. I can understand them and I think they're cute.

I would sell my soul to meet someone who looks like Marylin Monroe. I've not ever had sex with anyone who looks like her.

Hopefully that explains something, because it makes no sense to me.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

Maybe more specific ones would hone it more as they are fairly generic at the moment. "

I totally agree with you

I used to have various interests stated but found a lot of people would get fixated on a particular thing, or make incorrect assumptions about what exactly those interests entailed, and treat them more like a sexy shopping list they were entitled to choose from rather than actually talk to me properly. The only reason I bothered to show them in the first place was to try and convey that I was open minded and (potentially) experimental but it often backfired and got me the wrong sort of attention I think.

I like talking to people about what they like, it's part of the fun and you get a far better idea of what really makes them tick than by looking at some rather generalised categories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't use any other filters, i like getting to know someone to see if there's an attraction. I wouldn't want to restrict by a physical attribute."

Lots say this, but I feel very few actually mean it.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I rarely look at them in others (unless I'm being curious about something).

So imagined many would be the same. In which case it almost does not matter what you do.

In the end I pretty much ticked everything "just in case"!

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish that couples had the option of separate tick boxes for each person.

For example, I'm not generally attracted to older men, so we filter out by age. Whereas Marc likes women of a larger age range (same with me, really) but they are filtered out anyway because of my restrictions on men.

Or just other likes, generally. Marc and I are into different things but that can't really be expressed in the interests section because the profile is treated as a single entity, rather than two people acting in common. If that makes sense...

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

My stated preferences are more to do with whittling down the numbers of people who will contact me than anything else (not an ego trip - I know every female gets inundated). But I do step outside my preferences for someone who I find attractive on multiple levels... I seem to be particularly attracted to the man-child type... Mature enough to handle anything, but still has that sense of whimsy, spontaneity and fun that if I say lets go make sandcastles and skip stones on the water, they'll turn up with a bucket and spade and challenge me to a contest

lots of lighthearted playful giggles and shenanigans as well as everything else that goes with being an adult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can always find friends in the most unusual places...

So I've never filtered anyone..

I think

Must go and check..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wouldn't use any other filters, i like getting to know someone to see if there's an attraction. I wouldn't want to restrict by a physical attribute.

Lots say this, but I feel very few actually mean it.

I genuinely do. I get this so much on here about "out of my league" and all that nonsense. Yes I agree there needs to be attraction but it doesn't necessarily mean what the mainstream like or that it can be whittled down to a tickable attribute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether there should or shouldn't be, doesn't really bother me.

If I'm attracted to someone, I let them know. If they're attracted to me as well then great

If for some people to have great time, their partner needs to tick boxes; then I feel sorry for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the tick boxes are just a guide, there is much more you can learn from a nice wee flirt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me the tick boxes are just a guide, there is much more you can learn from a nice wee flirt

That's the thing though, Im much more attracted to people on the forum because you can see personality rather than just pics. You're all a flirty bunch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanna tick my box?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't use any other filters, i like getting to know someone to see if there's an attraction. I wouldn't want to restrict by a physical attribute.

Lots say this, but I feel very few actually mean it.

It's rare op. People on here are at least honest. Some have openly said as much for being shallow and superficial when it comes to choosing someone off Fab for sex.

I'm not. I'm stuck on the forums for the same reason as you. I find I'm attracted to a person rather than their pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wanna lick my box? "

You know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be more boxes to cover like voyeur/ exhibitionist. Anal give or take.. things like that.

I think newbies think the tick boxes are a sex menu of what's on offer, so same as Miss Argo I tend not to tick many as people say they are into whatever I say in my profile.

No offers for grass cutting or laundry lately though. Fuckers.

I did the laundry, cleaned the house, mowed the lawn and have time for naked sunbathing while Fabbing in the garden.

Dunno what the tick box for that would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wanna lick my box?

You know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me the tick boxes are just a guide, there is much more you can learn from a nice wee flirt

That's the thing though, Im much more attracted to people on the forum because you can see personality rather than just pics. You're all a flirty bunch! "

Exactly, I know lots don't use the forums but I find it a very good way to gauge who I'll click with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like ticking boxes so I don't have any reason to want anymore. .. but I do know what I'm looking for and what I like. I probably won't deviate from that because it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me the tick boxes are just a guide, there is much more you can learn from a nice wee flirt

That's the thing though, Im much more attracted to people on the forum because you can see personality rather than just pics. You're all a flirty bunch! "

For that reason I'm less attracted to those on the forum.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"For me the tick boxes are just a guide, there is much more you can learn from a nice wee flirt

That's the thing though, Im much more attracted to people on the forum because you can see personality rather than just pics. You're all a flirty bunch! "

. I'm not flirty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me the tick boxes are just a guide, there is much more you can learn from a nice wee flirt

That's the thing though, Im much more attracted to people on the forum because you can see personality rather than just pics. You're all a flirty bunch!

For that reason I'm less attracted to those on the forum. "

I love honesty in a woman....FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me the tick boxes are just a guide, there is much more you can learn from a nice wee flirt

That's the thing though, Im much more attracted to people on the forum because you can see personality rather than just pics. You're all a flirty bunch!

For that reason I'm less attracted to those on the forum.

I love honesty in a woman....FAF?

Not really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me the tick boxes are just a guide, there is much more you can learn from a nice wee flirt

That's the thing though, Im much more attracted to people on the forum because you can see personality rather than just pics. You're all a flirty bunch!

For that reason I'm less attracted to those on the forum.

I love honesty in a woman....FAF?

Not really

Your honest to the core.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wanna tick my box? "

I already did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wanna tick my box?

I already did

Phwoaaaar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have no tick boxes and I'd make it mandatory for people to write a bio that clearly explains what the offer and expect with potential partners,,

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

A good old matter is a much better way for me to get a sense of the person. I understand the point of the tick boxes but I wouldn't limit my options to that only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Less tick boxes please, increase the love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be more boxes to cover like voyeur/ exhibitionist. Anal give or take.. things like that.

I think newbies think the tick boxes are a sex menu of what's on offer, so same as Miss Argo I tend not to tick many as people say they are into whatever I say in my profile.

No offers for grass cutting or laundry lately though. Fuckers.

I did the laundry, cleaned the house, mowed the lawn and have time for naked sunbathing while Fabbing in the garden.

Dunno what the tick box for that would be

Perfection

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"I'd have no tick boxes and I'd make it mandatory for people to write a bio that clearly explains what the offer and expect with potential partners,,

Hmmm, there may be a small flaw in that plan!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd have no tick boxes and I'd make it mandatory for people to write a bio that clearly explains what the offer and expect with potential partners,,

Seconded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd have no tick boxes and I'd make it mandatory for people to write a bio that clearly explains what the offer and expect with potential partners,,

I offer crappy sex but good sense of humour

I expect no starfishing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd have no tick boxes and I'd make it mandatory for people to write a bio that clearly explains what the offer and expect with potential partners,,

Mine does

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

3sums mmf or ffm, so that guys don't ask me for 3sums with a woman.

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By *rjpinkMan
over a year ago

winterfell

Good point... cant have a tick box for a personal spark/ connection.

Thats what its all about. Someone could have the exact same interests and should be perfect on paper but if you don't click it aint no fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good point... cant have a tick box for a personal spark/ connection.

Thats what its all about. Someone could have the exact same interests and should be perfect on paper but if you don't click it aint no fun"

Ive met a few of those!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me the tick boxes are just a guide, there is much more you can learn from a nice wee flirt

That's the thing though, Im much more attracted to people on the forum because you can see personality rather than just pics. You're all a flirty bunch!

Exactly, I know lots don't use the forums but I find it a very good way to gauge who I'll click with

I like the combination of forum flanter and private messaging.

I know many people who don't use the forums, but have a peak. They go straight into private and cause chaos!

Cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, it's really simple.

Just write your profile in such a way that people can either count themselves in or out.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm not bothered about focusing on my ideal as I weigh up all applications to the mad house

I'm open to some extra interest boxes and possibly some of them could be friends only?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Tea or coffee drinker?

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