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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey forumites a little help and advice wouldn't go a miss. Been here for a few years now and in all fairness I haven't done too badly. Made some friends and had a few meets, but since I moved to Sheffield I have had nothing, zip, Nada. Even struggle to get replies to my messages. I mean being a single guy here I know that ratio of unanswered messages is quite high but it's never been this bad. some advice would be great wether it means changing my profile or my pics I don't mind

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Firstly your profile name sounds sad. Sad isn't sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly your profile name sounds sad. Sad isn't sexy. "

Actually that's really good feedback. It's totally true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Firstly your profile name sounds sad. Sad isn't sexy.

Actually that's really good feedback. It's totally true. "

Then I put it out there for name suggestions, though I may regret it lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Ey up, that's rayt bad. Clean lug oils and take mind, don't be a mardy bum sevn taymes three tha'll get meet w' lass.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

And change your avatar. I was surprised when i read that you were 44. From your thumbnail i thought you were an elderly widower!

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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a lot of guys from sheffield message me, and i think it's fair far to travel for a meet. so it could be the area?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

To be honest OP your profile blurb contradicts itself a few times, and that may put people off - it suggests this is a new profile for you, and yet you've been here over a year and have had veris in that time, which would suggest to me you've not bothered with it for a year.

You then state your pics are hidden when they're not. Also saying they're nothing special and in fact quite plain, contradicts the statement that ipens your blurb saying you're confident.

Being totally honest (and sorry if this sounds harsh, it's not meant to), your pics aren't that great - maybe consider some that show you off a little better.

I'd suggest a blurb overhaul with a focus on the positive, as others have suggested a username change (pick something uniquely you), and redoing pics.

If you're new to Sheffield, why not look out some socials up that way, or go to a few clubs that way.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly your profile name sounds sad. Sad isn't sexy.

Actually that's really good feedback. It's totally true.

Then I put it out there for name suggestions, though I may regret it lol"

Happynow? Or BullForRent or flirtymcflirtface.

Just a few.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Ah, g'wan OP, 'fess up on massaging the truth about your age.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

And if there are any Sheffield folk on here, could you let me know if my Sheffieldian accent was good (see above) thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ah, g'wan OP, 'fess up on massaging the truth about your age. "

But I am 44 lol x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

When you take a photo, think about what you are tryibg to convey to the viewer and mind those distracting background details.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Gonna change the name and have a go at the profile, and try and do some new pics

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Gonna change the name and have a go at the profile, and try and do some new pics "

Cool. What style photos will you take?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I don't have the body to take any clothes off lol. But I will try and make the happy looking, big smiles etc, may even try a but pic lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I don't have the body to take any clothes off lol. But I will try and make the happy looking, big smiles etc, may even try a but pic lol x"

Do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I don't have the body to take any clothes off lol. But I will try and make the happy looking, big smiles etc, may even try a but pic lol x

Do it "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

1. New photos

2. Rewrite profile

Have photos taken where you are most of the image, so others don't have to squint. And ensure most of them have you smiling and relaxed. Take lots and lots of photos to get a smaller number to use. Ensure you appear warm and welcoming as a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that was a single fem profile I'd click straight off that.

Purely based on the text.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Well I don't have the body to take any clothes off lol. But I will try and make the happy looking, big smiles etc, may even try a but pic lol x"

Firstly, don't assume all ladies like muscle guys - if you trawl through the forum history you'll see a fair few preferring the larger figure. Play to your strengths so a suit will look good, try using a timer not a mirror, try and b&w photo, try taking a photo of part of you by all of you, smiling is good as no one likes a miserable sod. Try and be objective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try and be objective. "

^

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"If that was a single fem profile I'd click straight off that.

Purely based on the text."

Same but he's gonna do a rewrite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm getting no interest from women in my area. I live in a city and I'm a 9 or a 10 in looks. And the women seem to be real goers too. Try and figure that one out.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I'm getting no interest from women in my area. I live in a city and I'm a 9 or a 10 in looks. And the women seem to be real goers too. Try and figure that one out."

You need to say you'll give them free pantie liners to soak up their juices when they drive themselves home after a sesh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Updated. Name, avatar and profile changed. Better?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Updated. Name, avatar and profile changed. Better?"

well done, really good job.

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