FabSwingers.com forum: I've done all I can

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So why no offers? Am I spreading myself to thin with my wants?

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By *erfect TenWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

There are lots of guys on here so what do you expect? People have choices who they meet its not an automatic yes just because you message someone.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Be the tasty filling not the thin margerine in the swinging sandwich

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There was some good advice given in the thread you posted along similar lines yesterday OP, maybe take some of that on board?

You've been here nine weeks and already had at least one meet - which by Fab standards is pretty good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are lots of guys on here so what do you expect? People have choices who they meet its not an automatic yes just because you message someone. "

I don't expect any automatic meets, yes there are a load of single guys and less women but I'd like to think I wasn't that bad looking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There was some good advice given in the thread you posted along similar lines yesterday OP, maybe take some of that on board?

You've been here nine weeks and already had at least one meet - which by Fab standards is pretty good.

True, I thought id word the question different. Once every 9 weeks? I see people with new veris very few days lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friend, there's only a small elite band of fellas on here that get lots of inward offers, most of us mere mortals have to go and do the searching.. and even then it's a struggle!

As you've been told on other threads its not instashag and multiple complaining threads won't help your cause.

You're a good looking chap (and I say that as a straight fella) so I'm sure that a positive attitude and patience will pay off for you! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My friend, there's only a small elite band of fellas on here that get lots of inward offers, most of us mere mortals have to go and do the searching.. and even then it's a struggle!

As you've been told on other threads its not instashag and multiple complaining threads won't help your cause.

You're a good looking chap (and I say that as a straight fella) so I'm sure that a positive attitude and patience will pay off for you! Good luck!

Why do people think I'm moaning, its advice not bashing that's needed

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Jesus...another whiney thread?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jesus...another whiney thread?

The response when you ask for help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When all else fails shave you legs and buy a frock...

Worked for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My friend, there's only a small elite band of fellas on here that get lots of inward offers, most of us mere mortals have to go and do the searching.. and even then it's a struggle!

As you've been told on other threads its not instashag and multiple complaining threads won't help your cause.

You're a good looking chap (and I say that as a straight fella) so I'm sure that a positive attitude and patience will pay off for you! Good luck!

Why do people think I'm moaning, its advice not bashing that's needed"

Ah that's the problem with the written word isn't it? You don't hear the 'tone of voice' or see the body language it's written with!

As an independent looking in it did seem a bit whiney to me but that was just my interpretation- so if I've misinterpreted I apologise.

In that case do a forum search on 'why can't I get a meet' and there's multiple historical threads out there that give some excellent advice for males seeking meets! Good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"There are lots of guys on here so what do you expect? People have choices who they meet its not an automatic yes just because you message someone.

I don't expect any automatic meets, yes there are a load of single guys and less women but I'd like to think I wasn't that bad looking "

so who said it was soley based on looks?

that is where people make mistakes... looks don't just tell the whole picture....

so look at it like this.... ask yourself this? would you answer your own profile if thats all you knew about you?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"There was some good advice given in the thread you posted along similar lines yesterday OP, maybe take some of that on board?

You've been here nine weeks and already had at least one meet - which by Fab standards is pretty good.

True, I thought id word the question different. Once every 9 weeks? I see people with new veris very few days lol "

As I said yesterday, try focussing on yourself and not others success or lack of. There are very few I would think who have different veris every few days anyway, apart from those that maybe have regular play partners, or attend clubs.

Plenty of the advice you seek was given in yesterday's thread, perhaps try acting on some of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was some good advice given in the thread you posted along similar lines yesterday OP, maybe take some of that on board?

You've been here nine weeks and already had at least one meet - which by Fab standards is pretty good.

True, I thought id word the question different. Once every 9 weeks? I see people with new veris very few days lol "

They will be going to clubs.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My friend, there's only a small elite band of fellas on here that get lots of inward offers, most of us mere mortals have to go and do the searching.. and even then it's a struggle!

As you've been told on other threads its not instashag and multiple complaining threads won't help your cause.

You're a good looking chap (and I say that as a straight fella) so I'm sure that a positive attitude and patience will pay off for you! Good luck!

Why do people think I'm moaning, its advice not bashing that's needed"

It does sound like you're moaning though. There's no bigger turn off for me than someone complaining about how no-one wants to fuck them. Makes then sound like they're entitled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So why no offers? Am I spreading myself to thin with my wants? "
Saying your a Sex addict makes you sound like you will shag everything around . lol Chill out get to know people and sex may come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So why no offers? Am I spreading myself to thin with my wants? "

Just be patient brother, I'm sure your princess will come!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"There are lots of guys on here so what do you expect? People have choices who they meet its not an automatic yes just because you message someone.

I don't expect any automatic meets, yes there are a load of single guys and less women but I'd like to think I wasn't that bad looking "

Its not all about looks, we seek fun and sexy guys who will play. Being open minded is a must.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get along to clubs and mingle, chit chat and make friends, they may not want or be able to take you into a room that day, but if you are a friend but not OTT then they could well keep you on their 'if he's there next time' list

Patience, be friendly and enjoy, it's not all about knotches on the bedpost, it's also about lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very nice and kind lady on here is helping me with my profile.

Apparently guys and girls think differently. ( shocker). What a guy writes and what girls reads is not always the same. ( another shocker). So find a charming and sensible lady who will help, guide and provide a ladies perspective.

If after a year or two, you still get no where. Just give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When all else fails shave you legs and buy a frock...

Worked for me...

but read the 'do you like your men in stockings' Forum thread first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very nice and kind lady on here is helping me with my profile.

If after a year or two, you still get no where. Just give up.

Hmm, while I can see the reasoning for this and why a female perspective to 'polish' the profile and offer tweaks here and there would be a good thing (particularly to avoid common pitfalls), my view is that you still need to make sure that YOUR personality comes through and that a 'ghost-written' profile doesn't mask the 'real' you. So I agree this is good advice provided the central message is still essentially yours.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"A very nice and kind lady on here is helping me with my profile.

If after a year or two, you still get no where. Just give up.

Even the best written (even if someone good at writing profiles writes it for you) profile will fail if the owner of the profile doesn't have the necessary social and communication skills to progress in to chatting. A dychotomy between what is written and what is said will soon become apparent. We had a car a few days ago of a guy who was really good looking and a lady said she was suspicious because what he said in messages to her was nothing like what was written in his profile. He turned out to have nicked an Italian artist face photo. I'm not saying you're fake or anything but bear in mind you will do better with what you write not what someone else writes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Down to sheer luck...

You happen to message when they're looking to meet, Bingo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When all else fails shave you legs and buy a frock...

Worked for me...

but read the 'do you like your men in stockings' Forum thread first"

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By *wFunGuy4YouMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

"So why no offers? Am I spreading myself to thin with my wants? "

You only been on 9weeks, what you expecting a mad rush cause its a swinging site

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Hi. As a couple. It would seem to us that you would f@&k anything. You come across a bit desperate. To look at your pics you seem a good lookin guy. N i wouldnt mind you to have pleasure with my wife. We like to chat to guys before hand Prior to a meet. To get to know them. I know its a sex site. And everybody wants/ likes different things. I think its what or how you have wrote your profile. Just saying. Hope it helps somewhat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be you.

Be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be you.

Be patient.

I'm me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be you.

Be patient.

I'm me

Hi me

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"My friend, there's only a small elite band of fellas on here that get lots of inward offers, most of us mere mortals have to go and do the searching.. and even then it's a struggle!

As you've been told on other threads its not instashag and multiple complaining threads won't help your cause.

You're a good looking chap (and I say that as a straight fella) so I'm sure that a positive attitude and patience will pay off for you! Good luck!

Why do people think I'm moaning, its advice not bashing that's needed

It does sound like you're moaning though. There's no bigger turn off for me than someone complaining about how no-one wants to fuck them. Makes then sound like they're entitled. "

But they ARE entitled, aren't they??

Lots think so it seems.

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"There are lots of guys on here so what do you expect? People have choices who they meet its not an automatic yes just because you message someone. "

It's a simple case of supply & demand, and you as a single guy happen to be a commodity that is available in significantly more numbers than this market needs.

So, you've got several choices:

1. Find a way to increase your perceived value to make you stand out from the crowd

2. Find a niche part of the market that will be attracted to specific features & benefits you have that isn't generally available, highlight those in your marketing campaigns and only target this niche group.

3. Do nothing and hope for the best. But then you'll need a healthy does of patience & perseverance.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today's UNLOS has been brought to you by MS Games 'bringing you 'Patience' since windows 95'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He left. shame. Anyone we know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When all else fails shave you legs and buy a frock...

Worked for me...

Me too.

And I didn't give up and leave either.

I'm never going away mwahahahahaaaaa

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Oh! Gone! He was quite personable but lacking patience. It's an unforeseen negative influence of computer games and instant gratification. The younger folk lack resilience to negativity whereas when you get to my age it just bounces off like a cum filled condom off a wall.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Will you lot stop scaring people away!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Be the tasty filling not the thin margerine in the swinging sandwich

So much for my advice. What can I do with it now?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"He left. shame. Anyone we know? "

Don't know,but I thought he was good looking!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Fab needs people with guts and determination - not everyone has this or is willing to stretch themselves

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"There are lots of guys on here so what do you expect? People have choices who they meet its not an automatic yes just because you message someone.

It's a simple case of supply & demand, and you as a single guy happen to be a commodity that is available in significantly more numbers than this market needs.

So, you've got several choices:

1. Find a way to increase your perceived value to make you stand out from the crowd

3. Do nothing and hope for the best. But then you'll need a healthy does of patience & perseverance.

Good luck!"

That's gratitude for you

You offer a bloke some good advise, and what does he do, throws it back in your face and flees.

That's the thanks you get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His patience ran out lol

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

"Down to sheer luck...

You happen to message when they're looking to meet, Bingo!"
someone is naming and shaming you on here sorry I can't pm you as you have females blocked

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