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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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Following on from another thread, I thought I'd start this one as I'm curious (yeah, nosy) about how a person _iews their posts.

So would you say you're a positive or a negative poster? Do you add to the positive vibe or do you find yourself inadvertently (or deliberately!) creating negative vibes?

And do you think that you're consistent in your posts?

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

Definitely positive.. try to make them funny too

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I generally like to think I post positively and consistently so, for me I don't see any value in negativity round here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say positive. Im generally a positive person and drive my friends insane by always being able to appreciate both sides of an argument.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes positive. Today, negative. But I don't believe anyone is either one thing or the other all the time. And you could say that some, many, posts are a reaction to another post, rather than born out of the posters personality. For instance, I know I react negatively to the smug and self important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following from my thread and being true to my sign, I'm split! Sometimes I'm positive sometimes I'm negative. The only thing I'm consistent about is penis size.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Definitely positive.. try to make them funny too "

I wish I could be more like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say definitely positive. Just try to scroll past the negative posts x

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry

Definitely positive You don't need to be negative just because you disagree with what someone else has posted

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Following from my thread and being true to my sign, I'm split! Sometimes I'm positive sometimes I'm negative. The only thing I'm consistent about is penis size. "

Hahaha! I'm both too, but never just for the sake of it, always authentic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to make mine positively humourous. Probably fail miserably, but still try lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely positive.. try to make them funny too "

Exactly this ^^^^^

We like to laugh

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I generally like to think I post positively and consistently so, for me I don't see any value in negativity round here. "

Yes; you're one of the ones I see as having both positivity and consistency.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a positive person. ( not today because someone thinks pouring salt in my honey makes there's taste better).

So my posts are generally postive, if ave not thrown out half a dozen gags/quips/one liners before dinner. It's unusual.

Apart from Thursday, can I still be negative in Thursday?

The problem by being one type of person, your change in mood really shows online. The way you post can be picked up on.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Id say positive. Im generally a positive person and drive my friends insane by always being able to appreciate both sides of an argument. "

Do you find that you do that on here? Or do you avoid arguments/debates?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Positive, although maybe a little too protective at times that can occasionally have a negative impact

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sometimes positive. Today, negative. But I don't believe anyone is either one thing or the other all the time. And you could say that some, many, posts are a reaction to another post, rather than born out of the posters personality. For instance, I know I react negatively to the smug and self important. "

That's how I see myself but thought I was odd! My posts vary from positive to 'negative' often depending on the words being read, rather than the poster. Yes, there are certain posts I should avoid but meh. Thanks for putting into words what I was thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This feels far too introspective for me

I don't think my posts are either positive or negative. I think they are more neutral yet opinionated.

And I think a lot depends on the person reading, anyway. I've often said how postmodern the forums feel, at times. And I think that sentiment is reflected in how we read posts, not just how the poster meant a post to be taken. I've seen perfectly reasonable posts been misconstrued by the reader. It all depends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think I'm a positive poster, however some of my responses are sugarcoated from time to time

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Following from my thread and being true to my sign, I'm split! Sometimes I'm positive sometimes I'm negative. The only thing I'm consistent about is penis size. "

Yes, since my early days I've always remembered you and your penis size ideals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of both but mostly just post crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first forays in to the forum were almost always positive.

Alas, I fear I may be steadily succumbing to making more grumbly or reactive posts.

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By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

I think I'm generally positive on here? With a tendency towards flippancy perhaps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id say positive. Im generally a positive person and drive my friends insane by always being able to appreciate both sides of an argument.

Do you find that you do that on here? Or do you avoid arguments/debates?"

I tend not to get involved because I think I would get lost in the louder more "aggressive" posts, those are the ones people notice and react to. While I have my opinions I dont always feel the need to express them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what mood I'm in. I'm fickle like that.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Following on from another thread, I thought I'd start this one as I'm curious (yeah, nosy) about how a person _iews their posts.

So would you say you're a positive or a negative poster? Do you add to the positive vibe or do you find yourself inadvertently (or deliberately!) creating negative vibes?

And do you think that you're consistent in your posts? "

how do you see your posts Meli...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I not deliberately positive or negative but tend to sat what I feel appropriate at the time.

Whether I'm consistent or not is for others to say. I *think* I am and certainly try not to be inconsistent but on t'interweb it's always easy for those with way too much time on their hands to go back and find inconsistencies.

Most of what I post depends on my mood at the time!

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Try and be positive most of the time! Sometimes sarcastic.. lol

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm both I guess. I much prefer having a laugh than having a moan, but there are occasions when I feel someone has overstepped a mark and I will speak up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be quite negative, probably still a little negative on some threads but overall these days I try to be a positive soul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my posts are generally positive, but probably have a negative edge to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy poster, always cheeky, cheerful & positive thinking. Build people up not down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my posts reflect my feels. I can be horny and filthsome, flirty and irritating, sarcastic and attempting humour, loving and caring, assertive and belligerent when enraged by injustice, patronising and dogged, melancholy and broken, lost and overwhelmed. I hope that even within this range, that I'm consistent in having an authentic voice that is me -- and that I err towards being full of hope and positive about possibilities, rather than negative.

But I guess it depends how another is "hearing/reading" me and the assumptions they will have made about how they'd like to frame me.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I would say definitely positive. Just try to scroll past the negative posts x "

Do you think that's how you are in the real world?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a Libra I probably post up as much positivity as negativity. I do think I'm generally consistent. My _iews and attitudes to things haven't changed by virtue of being on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But I guess it depends how another is "hearing/reading" me and the assumptions they will have made about how they'd like to frame me. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am 98% positive... can't be positive all the time... I always look on the bright side .. always find a silver lining ...

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Definitely positive You don't need to be negative just because you disagree with what someone else has posted "

That's very true. It's something I struggle with but I think language can be so subjective it's difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what mood I'm in. I'm fickle like that."

You're a Linda you should be balanced and logical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what mood I'm in. I'm fickle like that.

You're a Linda you should be balanced and logical. "

Only on weekends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what mood I'm in. I'm fickle like that.

You're a Linda you should be balanced and logical. "

Ha I meant libra but I actually prefer you as Linda!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually a Scorpio if that's what you mean though.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Hahaha! I'm both too, but never just for the sake of it, always authentic."

Authentic is the best way to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am 98% positive... can't be positive all the time... I always look on the bright side .. always find a silver lining ... "

That's because it's about to piss it down with rain.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I try to make mine positively humourous. Probably fail miserably, but still try lol x"

I doubt that you fail!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm actually a Scorpio if that's what you mean though. "

Are you, I'm sure I remember you levelling up in October, I dunno.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am 98% positive... can't be positive all the time... I always look on the bright side .. always find a silver lining ...

That's because it's about to piss it down with rain. "

Ha ha true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm actually a Scorpio if that's what you mean though.

Are you, I'm sure I remember you levelling up in October, I dunno. "

25th.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to be positive. I also find myself sticking up for the underdog too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope I'm positive, that is my aim. Although I tend to just wade in on anyone's thread wether it's serious or not and got them with what I feel are, amusing posts.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"The problem by being one type of person, your change in mood really shows online. The way you post can be picked up on. "

Of course you can be negative on Thursday!

Yes, if anything it's more apparent when someone is upset. But does that mean they were 'one type' to begin with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive on here and in life. Try not to offend anyone but doesn't mean I won't challenge something I consider wrong.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I am always a little ray of sunshine

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Positive, although maybe a little too protective at times that can occasionally have a negative impact "

Do you mean that you can be negative towards others whilst trying to protect? If you don't want to clarify, that's ok. I really am too curious at times!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Generally positive

Though I have the odd bitchy off day but can't that be said of us all every now and again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I am very positive poster and I like my trademark word, patience is the key lol

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"This feels far too introspective for me

I don't think my posts are either positive or negative. I think they are more neutral yet opinionated.

And I think a lot depends on the person reading, anyway. I've often said how postmodern the forums feel, at times. And I think that sentiment is reflected in how we read posts, not just how the poster meant a post to be taken. I've seen perfectly reasonable posts been misconstrued by the reader. It all depends. "

Sorry! It's one of those days for Yes, opinionated is a good way to describe your posts.

Do you think it's possible for there to be a way in which posts are never misconstrued?

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I like to think I'm a positive poster, however some of my responses are sugarcoated from time to time "

Why do you sugercoat? Do you think people can see through the frosting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say definitely positive. Just try to scroll past the negative posts x

Do you think that's how you are in the real world? "

I'm a fixer, if things are going wrong and people are arguing I try to be the voice of reason and soothe troubled waters. So yes very like that. Doesn't mean I ignore the bad, I just try and find alternatives x

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Bit of both but mostly just post crap"

No, you self deprecate a lot but I don't think it's crap.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

As a rule I tend to change the subject.

Hats!!!

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I think I'm mostly positive and if I am at all negative, it's usually directed at myself, I have a tendency to be rather self deprecating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit of both but mostly just post crap

No, you self defecate a lot but I don't think it's crap. "

FTFY

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"My first forays in to the forum were almost always positive.

Alas, I fear I may be steadily succumbing to making more grumbly or reactive posts. "

Save yourself! Unless of course you don't want to and are enjoying it.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Positive, although maybe a little too protective at times that can occasionally have a negative impact

Do you mean that you can be negative towards others whilst trying to protect? If you don't want to clarify, that's ok. I really am too curious at times! "

Yes usually indirectly and not necessarily where the hate was displayed but in favour of the ppl I care about

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I think I'm generally positive on here? With a tendency towards flippancy and poetry perhaps."

FTFY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly flippant, I think. But I will call you out on bull!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This feels far too introspective for me

I don't think my posts are either positive or negative. I think they are more neutral yet opinionated.

And I think a lot depends on the person reading, anyway. I've often said how postmodern the forums feel, at times. And I think that sentiment is reflected in how we read posts, not just how the poster meant a post to be taken. I've seen perfectly reasonable posts been misconstrued by the reader. It all depends.

Sorry! It's one of those days for Yes, opinionated is a good way to describe your posts.

Do you think it's possible for there to be a way in which posts are never misconstrued? "

I know this wasn't addressed to me, but it's a good question and personally, I think it's difficult especially as if the person wants to find something negative in a post, they will. Having said that, there are enough passive aggressive posters here who will call 'negative' when all you were doing was acknowledging their sniping, bitchy post about or to you.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Id say positive. Im generally a positive person and drive my friends insane by always being able to appreciate both sides of an argument.

Do you find that you do that on here? Or do you avoid arguments/debates?

I tend not to get involved because I think I would get lost in the louder more "aggressive" posts, those are the ones people notice and react to. While I have my opinions I dont always feel the need to express them. "

As an "aggressive" poster, I think that can be the case often.

I respect the latter point a lot - genuinely.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Depends what mood I'm in. I'm fickle like that."

Yes. Yes you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit of both but mostly just post crap

No, you self deprecate a lot but I don't think it's crap. "

The self-deprecation is crap.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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I try and join in on the positive, Flirty/funny threads and avoid the others, I find if am around negative people it starts to rub of on me and put me in a bad mood,

I walked out of a restaurant a few weeks ago when 2 couples I was with started getting into a heated argument,

On here I just move onto another thread, go into the chat rooms or log off

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Following on from another thread, I thought I'd start this one as I'm curious (yeah, nosy) about how a person _iews their posts.

So would you say you're a positive or a negative poster? Do you add to the positive vibe or do you find yourself inadvertently (or deliberately!) creating negative vibes?

And do you think that you're consistent in your posts?

how do you see your posts Meli...?

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I think I went into it up there ^. It depends on the words of the post. I am both in different measures on different days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be positive as don't believe anyone benefits from negative advice but also would keep it truthful as no point sugar coating at cow pat

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I not deliberately positive or negative but tend to sat what I feel appropriate at the time.

Whether I'm consistent or not is for others to say. I *think* I am and certainly try not to be inconsistent but on t'interweb it's always easy for those with way too much time on their hands to go back and find inconsistencies.

Most of what I post depends on my mood at the time! "

You're the resident Puck!

I guess we all try to post what we feel appropriate to a certain degree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I know this wasn't addressed to me, but it's a good question and personally, I think it's difficult especially as if the person wants to find something negative in a post, they will. Having said that, there are enough passive aggressive posters here who will call 'negative' when all you were doing was acknowledging their sniping, bitchy post about or to you. "

there's a lot of that around!

I always have a giggle at the sly little remarks that some posters put in their replies, having a little dig but worded in such a way that they can be 'defended' as innocent or misconstrued!

As Shag says these forums can be comedy gold and it is fascinating seeing all the game-playing going on at times!

A real Psychologist's dream!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Most of the time I'm positive.

On the odd occasion I have been negative it's a response to anothers persons comments.

I don't like to see bitchiness on the forums or people ganging up on others,so I won't post on certain threads.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Try and be positive most of the time! Sometimes sarcastic.. lol "

Sarcasm can be satisfying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be both.

Depends.

But I do think people take the forums way too seriously.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


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I know this wasn't addressed to me, but it's a good question and personally, I think it's difficult especially as if the person wants to find something negative in a post, they will. Having said that, there are enough passive aggressive posters here who will call 'negative' when all you were doing was acknowledging their sniping, bitchy post about or to you.

there's a lot of that around!

I always have a giggle at the sly little remarks that some posters put in their replies, having a little dig but worded in such a way that they can be 'defended' as innocent or misconstrued!

As Shag says these forums can be comedy gold and it is fascinating seeing all the game-playing going on at times!

A real Psychologist's dream! "

dan your a bloody sod you really are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post utter shite. Make of that what you will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I know this wasn't addressed to me, but it's a good question and personally, I think it's difficult especially as if the person wants to find something negative in a post, they will. Having said that, there are enough passive aggressive posters here who will call 'negative' when all you were doing was acknowledging their sniping, bitchy post about or to you.

there's a lot of that around!

I always have a giggle at the sly little remarks that some posters put in their replies, having a little dig but worded in such a way that they can be 'defended' as innocent or misconstrued!

As Shag says these forums can be comedy gold and it is fascinating seeing all the game-playing going on at times!

A real Psychologist's dream! "

Does shag ever say anything else?

I put it down to jealousy.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I'm a stupid poster - I post silliness generally but if I'm serious then I think it's usually positive x x

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I'm both I guess. I much prefer having a laugh than having a moan, but there are occasions when I feel someone has overstepped a mark and I will speak up.

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Would you say that you've spoken up a lot recently?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think I'm positive, real and honest. I would like to think others see that to but sometimes I'm not sure!

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I used to be quite negative, probably still a little negative on some threads but overall these days I try to be a positive soul. "

Hopefully you'll remain a positive soul

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"

I know this wasn't addressed to me, but it's a good question and personally, I think it's difficult especially as if the person wants to find something negative in a post, they will. Having said that, there are enough passive aggressive posters here who will call 'negative' when all you were doing was acknowledging their sniping, bitchy post about or to you.

there's a lot of that around!

I always have a giggle at the sly little remarks that some posters put in their replies, having a little dig but worded in such a way that they can be 'defended' as innocent or misconstrued!

As Shag says these forums can be comedy gold and it is fascinating seeing all the game-playing going on at times!

A real Psychologist's dream!

Does shag ever say anything else?

I put it down to jealousy. "

Patience is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try and make them funny, amusing, naughty, definitely more a positive vibe for me, well look where we are we're happy fabbers the vibe has to be positive ????

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I think my posts are generally positive, but probably have a negative edge to them."

Is that because of how you are?

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Happy poster, always cheeky, cheerful & positive thinking. Build people up not down"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive, unless of course I'm declining a meet,

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Most of the time I'm positive.

On the odd occasion I have been negative it's a response to anothers persons comments.

I don't like to see bitchiness on the forums or people ganging up on others,so I won't post on certain threads.

"

well said i don't like seeing it and a call it out when i do which of coarse has made me more than my fair shear of hidden and not so well hidden haters ,

but hay i will take that result any day rather than stand idly by and watch others gang up on someone . i wouldn't stand by and watch such behaviour in the real world ether .

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I think my posts reflect my feels. I can be horny and filthsome, flirty and irritating, sarcastic and attempting humour, loving and caring, assertive and belligerent when enraged by injustice, patronising and dogged, melancholy and broken, lost and overwhelmed. I hope that even within this range, that I'm consistent in having an authentic voice that is me -- and that I err towards being full of hope and positive about possibilities, rather than negative.

But I guess it depends how another is "hearing/reading" me and the assumptions they will have made about how they'd like to frame me. "

Your authentic voice is one of the truest on this site. Your latter point - so much yes! I think people put their own interpretation into your words often and that's more of a reflection of them.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I'm generally quite positive and try to spread positivity where I can. But everyone has off days or sometimes the negativity is so overwhelming it can be stifling and you find yourself reacting to it in a negative way. That's life though, its not always rainbows and butterflies.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I'm both I guess. I much prefer having a laugh than having a moan, but there are occasions when I feel someone has overstepped a mark and I will speak up.

Would you say that you've spoken up a lot recently?"

Not recently, I have found myself in the "what's the point? I doubt they'll listen anyway" frame of mind of late. That could be because I'm feeling that way at work and it's projecting into other aspects of my life.

Hmmmm, that actually makes sense!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm generally quite positive and try to spread positivity where I can. But everyone has off days or sometimes the negativity is so overwhelming it can be stifling and you find yourself reacting to it in a negative way. That's life though, its not always rainbows and butterflies."

It's compromise that moves us along

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"Most of the time I'm positive.

On the odd occasion I have been negative it's a response to anothers persons comments.

I don't like to see bitchiness on the forums or people ganging up on others,so I won't post on certain threads.

well said i don't like seeing it and a call it out when i do which of coarse has made me more than my fair shear of hidden and not so well hidden haters ,

but hay i will take that result any day rather than stand idly by and watch others gang up on someone . i wouldn't stand by and watch such behaviour in the real world ether ."

Threads like that are not as common as people make out, Yes you do get some but its usually the op who says something that sets everyone off, Won't back down when they know they are in the wrong or are just trolling for the fun of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely positive

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This feels far too introspective for me

I don't think my posts are either positive or negative. I think they are more neutral yet opinionated.

And I think a lot depends on the person reading, anyway. I've often said how postmodern the forums feel, at times. And I think that sentiment is reflected in how we read posts, not just how the poster meant a post to be taken. I've seen perfectly reasonable posts been misconstrued by the reader. It all depends.

Sorry! It's one of those days for Yes, opinionated is a good way to describe your posts.

Do you think it's possible for there to be a way in which posts are never misconstrued? "

No. People will always misunderstand one another. The fact that internet interactions are largely text based exacerbates this problem.

But I think what Estella said further up is true as well - people form opinions of one another and read into their posts accordingly. I know I do it (both for the positive and for the negative), and I've seen others do it, too.

It is what it is. With such a diverse array of people and opinions I think its unavoidable.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Being a Libra I probably post up as much positivity as negativity. I do think I'm generally consistent. My _iews and attitudes to things haven't changed by virtue of being on here "

Libra! Yes, you can be consistent in posting both types of ways.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I'm generally quite positive and try to spread positivity where I can. But everyone has off days or sometimes the negativity is so overwhelming it can be stifling and you find yourself reacting to it in a negative way. That's life though, its not always rainbows and butterflies.

It's compromise that moves us along

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I am 98% positive... can't be positive all the time... I always look on the bright side .. always find a silver lining ... "

There are silver linings even in the most unexpected of places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm neither all negative nor all positive. I like to think that I'm not malicious in what I say but I don't suffer fools and I tend not to sugar coat. Some see that as negative but I see it as not being artificial. If I were to attempt to lob glitter everywhere you'd all see through that straight away

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I am most certainly a positive poster. I'm drawn to the positive threads and positive people.

I feel that sometimes negativity breeds negativity and can undermine the purpose of a thread which is unfortunate.

I will always seek out the positive

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I am most certainly a positive poster. I'm drawn to the positive threads and positive people.

I feel that sometimes negativity breeds negativity and can undermine the purpose of a thread which is unfortunate.

I will always seek out the positive "

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Negative with a bit of positive thrown in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm neither all negative nor all positive. I like to think that I'm not malicious in what I say but I don't suffer fools and I tend not to sugar coat. Some see that as negative but I see it as not being artificial. If I were to attempt to lob glitter everywhere you'd all see through that straight away "

I'd do your husband up the glitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I'm about 50/50. I would like to think I don't upset people but I like a bit of a debate. Hearing others people opinions is great and can lead to more interesting chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not very good at fluffy and not overly good at niceties so know mt posts come across far more negative than intended

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By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago

Wrexham


"I would say I'm about 50/50. I would like to think I don't upset people but I like a bit of a debate. Hearing others people opinions is great and can lead to more interesting chat. "

I love to debate but only with people as willing to change their mind on a subject as I am.

Debate without the potential to sway or be swayed is just stubborn people shouting at each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to say a bit more. I use self-deprecation as an antidote to posts that do the opposite. I also use it as a form of self-protection and a repellent. If I had the self-image I portray through the self-deprecation I would be mired in self-loathing which I'm not.

I try post positively when I'm being serious and it's a subject I know a little bit about. I sometimes call out things that I really dislike, like I did on the body-shaming thread the other night or when I've simply lost my patience with bullshit.

I try to steer clear of threads where I could say things I later regret.

I do post things that I find funny but humour is one of those things that can be both misinterpreted and fall flat, so no doubt both of those things happen frequently when I think I'm being witty. Hey but at least it made me laugh. I'd make a terrible comedian because I'd be the only laughing at my jokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I know this wasn't addressed to me, but it's a good question and personally, I think it's difficult especially as if the person wants to find something negative in a post, they will. Having said that, there are enough passive aggressive posters here who will call 'negative' when all you were doing was acknowledging their sniping, bitchy post about or to you.

there's a lot of that around!

I always have a giggle at the sly little remarks that some posters put in their replies, having a little dig but worded in such a way that they can be 'defended' as innocent or misconstrued!

As Shag says these forums can be comedy gold and it is fascinating seeing all the game-playing going on at times!

A real Psychologist's dream!

Does shag ever say anything else?

I put it down to jealousy.

Patience is the key "

And it's that sort of passive aggressive in joke that makes people feel there is a clique at times. If you have something to say about me I don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say I'm about 50/50. I would like to think I don't upset people but I like a bit of a debate. Hearing others people opinions is great and can lead to more interesting chat.

I love to debate but only with people as willing to change their mind on a subject as I am.

Debate without the potential to sway or be swayed is just stubborn people shouting at each other."

Very right. There is nothing worse then when someone knows they are wrong and just dig there heels in more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm neither all negative nor all positive. I like to think that I'm not malicious in what I say but I don't suffer fools and I tend not to sugar coat. Some see that as negative but I see it as not being artificial. If I were to attempt to lob glitter everywhere you'd all see through that straight away "

This is exactly how I **think** I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going to say a bit more. I use self-deprecation as an antidote to posts that do the opposite. I also use it as a form of self-protection and a repellent. If I had the self-image I portray through the self-deprecation I would be mired in self-loathing which I'm not.

I try to post positively when I'm being serious and it's a subject I know a little bit about. I sometimes call out things that I really dislike, like I did on the body-shaming thread the other night or when I've simply lost my patience with what I consider bullshit.

I try to steer clear of posting on threads where I could say things I later regret or I know very little about the subject.

I do post things that I find funny but humour is one of those things that can be both misinterpreted and fall flat, so no doubt both of those things happen frequently when I think I'm being witty. Hey but at least it made me laugh. I'd make a terrible comedian because I'd be the only one laughing at my jokes "

Oh and I post my stream of consciousness and never check my posts before I post them - lazy bugger that I am. So I often remove posts because I can't live with the typos and auto-carrot word replacements or on the odd occasion errors of judgement and don't wish the post to continue in existence.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Neither. I just tell the truth.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't know. I suppose I can come across as a tad acerbic at times but generally speaking I'm quite a friendly and jokey sort of poster.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"

I know this wasn't addressed to me, but it's a good question and personally, I think it's difficult especially as if the person wants to find something negative in a post, they will. Having said that, there are enough passive aggressive posters here who will call 'negative' when all you were doing was acknowledging their sniping, bitchy post about or to you.

there's a lot of that around!

I always have a giggle at the sly little remarks that some posters put in their replies, having a little dig but worded in such a way that they can be 'defended' as innocent or misconstrued!

As Shag says these forums can be comedy gold and it is fascinating seeing all the game-playing going on at times!

A real Psychologist's dream!

Does shag ever say anything else?

I put it down to jealousy.

Patience is the key

And it's that sort of passive aggressive in joke that makes people feel there is a clique at times. If you have something to say about me I don't care"

I think we have a classic case of misconstrued, that's Shag's other catchphrase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I know this wasn't addressed to me, but it's a good question and personally, I think it's difficult especially as if the person wants to find something negative in a post, they will. Having said that, there are enough passive aggressive posters here who will call 'negative' when all you were doing was acknowledging their sniping, bitchy post about or to you.

there's a lot of that around!

I always have a giggle at the sly little remarks that some posters put in their replies, having a little dig but worded in such a way that they can be 'defended' as innocent or misconstrued!

As Shag says these forums can be comedy gold and it is fascinating seeing all the game-playing going on at times!

A real Psychologist's dream!

Does shag ever say anything else?

I put it down to jealousy.

Patience is the key

And it's that sort of passive aggressive in joke that makes people feel there is a clique at times. If you have something to say about me I don't care

I think we have a classic case of misconstrued, that's Shag's other catchphrase "

And not spelt out by the poster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from another thread, I thought I'd start this one as I'm curious (yeah, nosy) about how a person _iews their posts.

So would you say you're a positive or a negative poster? Do you add to the positive vibe or do you find yourself inadvertently (or deliberately!) creating negative vibes?

And do you think that you're consistent in your posts? "

Positive I'd say. Highly sarcastic, but positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i post trying to get a meet ...

positive in posting

negative in getting replies lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither. I just tell the truth. "

So, you really are commenting and having a shit?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Neither. I just tell the truth.

So, you really are commenting and having a shit? "

Yes. And I'm getting time and a half for it at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither. I just tell the truth.

So, you really are commenting and having a shit?

Yes. And I'm getting time and a half for it at the moment. "

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Neither. I just tell the truth.

So, you really are commenting and having a shit?

Yes. And I'm getting time and a half for it at the moment.

"

Used to be "time and a turd" back in the day of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither. I just tell the truth.

So, you really are commenting and having a shit?

Yes. And I'm getting time and a half for it at the moment.

Used to be "time and a turd" back in the day of course. "

Great craic that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

penguin walks into a bar and says to the barman "have you seen my brother"

barman replies "whats he look like "

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I always try to be positive. I also find myself sticking up for the underdog too "

Yes, I try and do this too. But one person's underdog may be another's bitch and vice versa!

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I hope I'm positive, that is my aim. Although I tend to just wade in on anyone's thread wether it's serious or not and got them with what I feel are, amusing posts."

If you aim to be a certain way, quite often that comes through.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Positive on here and in life. Try not to offend anyone but doesn't mean I won't challenge something I consider wrong."

I think you can offend without intention if that makes sense? Keep challenging

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I think I'm consistent in my opinions. If they come across as positive or negative that probably comes down to whether or not anyone bothering reading them agrees or not.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I am always a little ray of sunshine "

You are my sunshine

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Generally positive

Though I have the odd bitchy off day but can't that be said of us all every now and again? "

Yes, I guess to an extent it can be. It's a bit odd for me personally to read something out of Fab character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be positive - it's meant to be fun after all.

But, I am aware that it hasn't always worked and I've annoyed people. Some I can live with, some I kick myself for regularly.

I would say I'm consistently boring.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I would say I am very positive poster and I like my trademark word, patience is the key lol "

The infamous trademark!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am so dashed positive it can be annoying ha ha i blame Pooch

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I am always a little ray of sunshine

You are my sunshine "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno...

I'd like to think we come across positive but who knows... people seem to be able to take offence to everyone else on here so why not us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am always a little ray of sunshine

You are my sunshine "

My only sunshine

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I think I'm mostly positive and if I am at all negative, it's usually directed at myself, I have a tendency to be rather self deprecating"

You're wonderfully positive but far too harsh on yourself at times!

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I try and join in on the positive, Flirty/funny threads and avoid the others, I find if am around negative people it starts to rub of on me and put me in a bad mood,

I walked out of a restaurant a few weeks ago when 2 couples I was with started getting into a heated argument,

On here I just move onto another thread, go into the chat rooms or log off"

Ah, I'm trying to do this. It's a sensible way of doing things but can be hard at times. Kudos to you though.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I try to be positive as don't believe anyone benefits from negative advice but also would keep it truthful as no point sugar coating at cow pat "

I like that! I may well start using that.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"

I know this wasn't addressed to me, but it's a good question and personally, I think it's difficult especially as if the person wants to find something negative in a post, they will. Having said that, there are enough passive aggressive posters here who will call 'negative' when all you were doing was acknowledging their sniping, bitchy post about or to you.

there's a lot of that around!

I always have a giggle at the sly little remarks that some posters put in their replies, having a little dig but worded in such a way that they can be 'defended' as innocent or misconstrued!

As Shag says these forums can be comedy gold and it is fascinating seeing all the game-playing going on at times!

A real Psychologist's dream! "

As has been said earlier, people read what they wish to into posts quite often. This thread came about due to my genuine curiosity that was misconstrued in another thread and called 'shit'. That's a shame but from it I've done this one and enjoyed reading the responses. So silver linings.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Most of the time I'm positive.

On the odd occasion I have been negative it's a response to anothers persons comments.

I don't like to see bitchiness on the forums or people ganging up on others,so I won't post on certain threads.

"

Is that in response to the poster or the words?

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I can be both.

Depends.

But I do think people take the forums way too seriously. "

Or people think they do.

No, fair point.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I post utter shite. Make of that what you will. "

Shush wife of Lib, you do not!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I believe I am authentic. I will post positive but I don't walk past hypocrites and call that out, that will be labelled negative.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I don't no bit of both I guess.....

I try to be positive about stuff but sum time I'm.just not in a positive mood so I wood gees my posts go negative

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I am so dashed positive it can be annoying ha ha i blame Pooch "

Awww come on Taff, he can't take all the credit

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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Hanky Panky - you are the one of the usually positive posters (imo). Silliness is good.

Lady Lick - your voice always rings true in your posts.

RodofCorrection - Happy vibes are good on a site like this! When you're fucking it's not good if it's a morose vibe.

Miss Tyre - Don't you decline a meet with a smile on your face?;-)

PlayD8 - Sometimes the lack butterflies can be quite upsetting. But what with your smile thread helping combat that, your positivity is working.

NoiretBlanc2017 - You really are.

Scarlet Seduction - Your bluntness is real. Fuck what others think (as long as you're not maliciously creating harm). I doubt you care anyways!

Babsjoan -

Ignitemybody - I always _iew you as being the other way around in all honesty.

Shy gent - I like a bit of debate too. It doesn't mean you can't be positive.

Bike Monkey - Do you try and change that? Or is it not an issue?

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I'm going to say a bit more. I use self-deprecation as an antidote to posts that do the opposite. I also use it as a form of self-protection and a repellent. If I had the self-image I portray through the self-deprecation I would be mired in self-loathing which I'm not.

I try post positively when I'm being serious and it's a subject I know a little bit about. I sometimes call out things that I really dislike, like I did on the body-shaming thread the other night or when I've simply lost my patience with bullshit.

I try to steer clear of threads where I could say things I later regret.

I do post things that I find funny but humour is one of those things that can be both misinterpreted and fall flat, so no doubt both of those things happen frequently when I think I'm being witty. Hey but at least it made me laugh. I'd make a terrible comedian because I'd be the only laughing at my jokes "

Say as much as you want! I really am a nosy so and so and find it interesting seeing why and how others themselves in certain ways.

Steering clear of certain threads can be difficult - it's one you learn after awhile (five years on and I'm still trying!). As long as you make yourself laugh, that's what matters. You'd probably be surprised by those who do laugh but don't respond.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I don't know. I suppose I can come across as a tad acerbic at times but generally speaking I'm quite a friendly and jokey sort of poster. "

People can without intention. You are friendly and jokey.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I think I'm consistent in my opinions. If they come across as positive or negative that probably comes down to whether or not anyone bothering reading them agrees or not."

People bother. And agree a lot.

(I do and I am a person)

No smoke was blown in the typing of this response.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I am so dashed positive it can be annoying ha ha i blame Pooch "

Leave poor Pooch out of it!

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Dunno...

I'd like to think we come across positive but who knows... people seem to be able to take offence to everyone else on here so why not us "

Because that's impossible. Even the grumpiest of grumpy arses couldn't take offence at you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god, I'm a positive poster mainly these days but a few years ago...

PTU xxx

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Hanky Panky - you are the one of the usually positive posters (imo). Silliness is good.

Lady Lick - your voice always rings true in your posts.

RodofCorrection - Happy vibes are good on a site like this! When you're fucking it's not good if it's a morose vibe.

Miss Tyre - Don't you decline a meet with a smile on your face?;-)

PlayD8 - Sometimes the lack butterflies can be quite upsetting. But what with your smile thread helping combat that, your positivity is working.

NoiretBlanc2017 - You really are.

Scarlet Seduction - Your bluntness is real. Fuck what others think (as long as you're not maliciously creating harm). I doubt you care anyways!

Babsjoan -

Ignitemybody - I always _iew you as being the other way around in all honesty.

Shy gent - I like a bit of debate too. It doesn't mean you can't be positive.

Bike Monkey - Do you try and change that? Or is it not an issue?

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Cheers much

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Most of the time I'm positive.

On the odd occasion I have been negative it's a response to anothers persons comments.

I don't like to see bitchiness on the forums or people ganging up on others,so I won't post on certain threads.

Is that in response to the poster or the words? "

The words or the subject.

I don't dislike anyone on the forum. I may not agree with what some people have to say but it doesn't mean I dislike them as a person.

So people come across better via text than others.

I've, we, have met people whose worded posts I've not agreed with or have made me uncomfortable but in person they come across differently.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I believe I am authentic. I will post positive but I don't walk past hypocrites and call that out, that will be labelled negative."

You do seem authentic. Apart from the dislike for snuggles. That's not true really!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I am negative - I am a moody sod that moans a lot lol

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I don't no bit of both I guess.....

I try to be positive about stuff but sum time I'm.just not in a positive mood so I wood gees my posts go negative "

Your consistent and true to yourself. If you're not in a positive mood, it can help not pretending to be. Sometimes it works the other way though. I dunno!

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Oh god, I'm a positive poster mainly these days but a few years ago...

PTU xxx "

It makes me happy to read your posts now. I hope you remain this way for some time to come

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Most of the time I'm positive.

On the odd occasion I have been negative it's a response to anothers persons comments.

I don't like to see bitchiness on the forums or people ganging up on others,so I won't post on certain threads.

Is that in response to the poster or the words?

The words or the subject.

I don't dislike anyone on the forum. I may not agree with what some people have to say but it doesn't mean I dislike them as a person.

So people come across better via text than others.

I've, we, have met people whose worded posts I've not agreed with or have made me uncomfortable but in person they come across differently."

I try and emphasise that a lot. Unless the person is a horrible ist, there's no dislike as such. In text I am blunt and fairly raaahh. In reality less so unless you get me started on certain topics.

Good points (in a not patronising way!)

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm kinda like a good bullshit detector so I am both!

If it's warranted I will say it, I'm not here to be loved by everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think I act exactly how I would in reality. I try to be positive, mostly. However, sometimes I can react to things negatively but even then, I like to think I can put a reasonable point of _iew across.

I wouldn't say anything on here that I wouldn't willingly say to people.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I am negative - I am a moody sod that moans a lot lol "

Own it!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Most of the time I'm positive.

On the odd occasion I have been negative it's a response to anothers persons comments.

I don't like to see bitchiness on the forums or people ganging up on others,so I won't post on certain threads.

Is that in response to the poster or the words?

The words or the subject.

I don't dislike anyone on the forum. I may not agree with what some people have to say but it doesn't mean I dislike them as a person.

So people come across better via text than others.

I've, we, have met people whose worded posts I've not agreed with or have made me uncomfortable but in person they come across differently.

I try and emphasise that a lot. Unless the person is a horrible ist, there's no dislike as such. In text I am blunt and fairly raaahh. In reality less so unless you get me started on certain topics.

Good points (in a not patronising way!) "

This is why I avoid certain topics

I wouldn't want a ' holiday' for saying exactly how I feel.

Typing doesn't always convey the emotional response a topic can bring up.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I'm kinda like a good bullshit detector so I am both!

If it's warranted I will say it, I'm not here to be loved by everyone "

What happens if the detector is a bit glitchy?

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

I try to make level headed, diplomatic posts and if I feel compelled to disagree with someone (usually when they've written something I perceive as unpleasant, bullying, dangerously ignorant etc.) I'll try to explain my opinion rather than just ram it down their throat. I know I've rubbed a few people up the wrong way but that's never been my intention. I do try to be positive towards others when I can but sometimes find direct personal interaction difficult, never knowing quite the right thing to say, so sometimes hold back ... and I suspect that might convey a (false) impression of aloofness.

Most, if not all, of any negativity I spout is directed at myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm more negative. Normally I'm just trying to make myself laugh and sometimes it's at the expense of others but I'm not negative to regular forum users, at least I hope I'm not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit of both but mostly just post crap"

Hahaha same here

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I like to think I act exactly how I would in reality. I try to be positive, mostly. However, sometimes I can react to things negatively but even then, I like to think I can put a reasonable point of _iew across.

I wouldn't say anything on here that I wouldn't willingly say to people. "

You do act the same (but with less quotes). Putting across a reasonable _iew point when it's some thing you're passionate about can be tough but you do it well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I act exactly how I would in reality. I try to be positive, mostly. However, sometimes I can react to things negatively but even then, I like to think I can put a reasonable point of _iew across.

I wouldn't say anything on here that I wouldn't willingly say to people.

You do act the same (but with less quotes). Putting across a reasonable _iew point when it's some thing you're passionate about can be tough but you do it well "

Great ass too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Bike Monkey - Do you try and change that? Or is it not an issue?

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It's not a huge issue, I have never craved popularity and that goes for on here too bit sometimes I don't always like the impression I know other people have of me. But people that have met me know that I'm not the miserable cantankerous dick I possibly seem to be on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took a couple of hours away from the forum. I'm positive again

The Sunshine helped

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I try to make level headed, diplomatic posts and if I feel compelled to disagree with someone (usually when they've written something I perceive as unpleasant, bullying, dangerously ignorant etc.) I'll try to explain my opinion rather than just ram it down their throat. I know I've rubbed a few people up the wrong way but that's never been my intention. I do try to be positive towards others when I can but sometimes find direct personal interaction difficult, never knowing quite the right thing to say, so sometimes hold back ... and I suspect that might convey a (false) impression of aloofness.

Most, if not all, of any negativity I spout is directed at myself "

You do have an air of diplomacy about you. It's not difficult to rub people up the wrong way on here sadly, language is far too subjective and people interpret it and you in a myriad of ways. Yes, not interacting in a typical way can make navigating the forums at time difficult to say the least! Yeah, stop doing the last part!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I act exactly how I would in reality. I try to be positive, mostly. However, sometimes I can react to things negatively but even then, I like to think I can put a reasonable point of _iew across.

I wouldn't say anything on here that I wouldn't willingly say to people.

You do act the same (but with less quotes). Putting across a reasonable _iew point when it's some thing you're passionate about can be tough but you do it well "

I fucking love an air quote!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think we can end this thread with the agreement - and 47 people have agreed with me on this - that my bicep (left) is indeed mouth-wateringly tasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I act exactly how I would in reality. I try to be positive, mostly. However, sometimes I can react to things negatively but even then, I like to think I can put a reasonable point of _iew across.

I wouldn't say anything on here that I wouldn't willingly say to people.

You do act the same (but with less quotes). Putting across a reasonable _iew point when it's some thing you're passionate about can be tough but you do it well

Great ass too "

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I think I'm more negative. Normally I'm just trying to make myself laugh and sometimes it's at the expense of others but I'm not negative to regular forum users, at least I hope I'm not lol"

You're not! Keep laughing.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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Thanks everyone who responded - you helped sate my curiosity for the time being!

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