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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They'll soon learn to grow a thick skin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just grumpy some days then happy on others it could be they have had a cack day and can not shake it off and vent it in the forums which is wrong cos we do not know they have had a bad day. Others are just twats and need a kick in the nuts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts. "
i totally agree with you

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts. "

Is it REALLY that bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hopefully you will stick around though and join in. I admit to being a bit abrupt at times, we all have bad days. Im sure it wasnt personal, but the forums are full of lots of opinionated people..

Enjoy them

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

On the other hand there are some very harsh and unfriendly threads started. Op's who post such threads can hardly expect people to bow and scrape at their feet for a liss or a shag. Can they?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I agree with you,sometimes I cringe when people are a bit harsh,but on other occassions I feel all warm when some people are given great advice and made to feel welcome,it does happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew.

Just wait till the Pissy Pussies and Borises see this thread. Ouch lol.

(you're right though OP)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts.

Is it REALLY that bad?

"

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's normaly the guys that get a hard time.

Ladies don't get the same treatment

But sometimes, people can be a bit too sensitive, and perhaps read things that aren't there, tending to read the words behind the words, rather than what's written here in the posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One man's harsh is another man's straight talking. There, there diddums never mind is not always the best response, especially if someone is asking for advice!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It's normaly the guys that get a hard time.

Ladies don't get the same treatment

But sometimes, people can be a bit too sensitive, and perhaps read things that aren't there, tending to read the words behind the words, rather than what's written here in the posts "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life. "

I agree cept there are no bar snacks to fill up on

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"It's normaly the guys that get a hard time.

Ladies don't get the same treatment

But sometimes, people can be a bit too sensitive, and perhaps read things that aren't there, tending to read the words behind the words, rather than what's written here in the posts "

I disagree, some woman have been given bad times on here. but you take the rough with the smooth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life.

I agree cept there are no bar snacks to fill up on"

or alcohol dammit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometime i do over step the mark but only to protect myself in what i was trying to explain;

its suppose to be a fun adult site

not a bitching site: there is plenty of other sites for that

comon lets have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's normaly the guys that get a hard time.

Ladies don't get the same treatment

But sometimes, people can be a bit too sensitive, and perhaps read things that aren't there, tending to read the words behind the words, rather than what's written here in the posts

I disagree, some woman have been given bad times on here. but you take the rough with the smooth"

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont think i ever come on here d*unk again

just not worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life.

I agree cept there are no bar snacks to fill up on

or alcohol dammit lol"

Could go a Brandy and Babycham right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havent posted or read the forums for several months and when I got back into the swing of it what I did note was that it was a lot less hostile than I had previously experienced. Everyone seems a little less forceful in their judgements and a lot more witty and laid back. Then again, I know which thread subjects to avoid lol!

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Rough with the smooth eh? There's still hope yet then. Yay.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

Sometimes I think it has more to do with the topic and how strongly people's opinions are on that topic, as I have said before it can be hard to judge someones tone on here. Personally I try to stay away from the serious threads, I will read the thread and keep updated with it,and sometimes will post an opinion on it.

Some people ask for answers/opinions and get them and not like the answers/opinions that have been given.

Ive only been posting on the forums for around 4 months now, but all sadi and done, I like them. They can cheer me up on a bad day. Can be educational (and i have learnt a few things)

Its like anything in life you get out of it what you put into it.

Ok enough waffling from me

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts. "

Not too long ago there was a thread started on how much the forum has calmed down and become less of a war zone.

Perception is a strange thing.

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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands


"Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life.

I agree cept there are no bar snacks to fill up on"
You mean the bowl of newbies on the bar isn't for chomping on? shame, and I was enjoying the new wingeing newbie flavour

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm fine because I have been on fab a few times now over the years then I take a break and come back . I'm familiar with the forums so I don't take people's comments or opinions to heart as I love discussions and debates. I just think that for a new poster who is still finding the bearings on here people could be a bit more understanding.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts. "

it depends on which was you look at things... I think some people get upset really quickly is posts don't go the way they expected or if people don't agree with opinions... after all it is a forum and sometimes "there there there" isn't going to be what people want to hear....

you are never going to agree with everything.. so I don't see why you should sugarcoat something just because someone happens to be new.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life.

I agree cept there are no bar snacks to fill up on You mean the bowl of newbies on the bar isn't for chomping on? shame, and I was enjoying the new wingeing newbie flavour

"

Well Im full of newbie flava (or should that be flavour)! Those Newbie Snacks go great with a Bust-A-Nut Bar!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts.

it depends on which was you look at things... I think some people get upset really quickly is posts don't go the way they expected or if people don't agree with opinions... after all it is a forum and sometimes "there there there" isn't going to be what people want to hear....

you are never going to agree with everything.. so I don't see why you should sugarcoat something just because someone happens to be new.....

"

I think you sometimes do have to supress your opinions in life and do an awful lot of sugar coating to those who need it along lifes way otherwise you do yourself more damage. Id rather weigh up a situation and be frienndly to someone who is a regular feature in my life (say a work colleague or a wholesale supplier) than to create an atmosphere through unnecessary bluntness. We all play the game to a certain extent or it would be like that Ricky Gervais movie - and how dull was that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They'll soon learn to grow a thick skin "
Thay dont most of us are BIG softys xx and we love the new people posting ...group hugs all around xx

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I'm fine because I have been on fab a few times now over the years then I take a break and come back . I'm familiar with the forums so I don't take people's comments or opinions to heart as I love discussions and debates. I just think that for a new poster who is still finding the bearings on here people could be a bit more understanding. "

So are you the official Newbie health and well being representative?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life.

I agree cept there are no bar snacks to fill up on

or alcohol dammit lol"

We need interweb alcohol. But how?

*scuttles away to design business plan*

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Posters would do well to remember the old adage.

When a man is hard he's soft and when he's soft he is hard.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm fine because I have been on fab a few times now over the years then I take a break and come back . I'm familiar with the forums so I don't take people's comments or opinions to heart as I love discussions and debates. I just think that for a new poster who is still finding the bearings on here people could be a bit more understanding.

So are you the official Newbie health and well being representative?

"
your point is ?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

My point is.....maybe it's for the Newbies that are feeling hard done by to bring it up....or report to Admin, rather than people appointing themselves as their carers?

It's not a big problem on these forums after all.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i have been on forums now years and i find if people see others getting picked on and nasty things going on here others will say somthing and not let it go on ....... and the mods will step in .. as theres no need ...... some may get out of bed wronge side at times .. But most are ok here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My point is.....maybe it's for the Newbies that are feeling hard done by to bring it up....or report to Admin, rather than people appointing themselves as their carers?

It's not a big problem on these forums after all....."
hmmm how should I reply to this ? Lol

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

As look at me threads go I'd give it 4/10.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its a case of being any newbies carer I think its just common courtesy to welcome newcomers. How would we like it if we started work oand everyone gave us a hard time with curt responses or went off to lunch as usual with their reg colleagues leaving you behind like a spare part - that would be premeditated hostility and I think its easier to practice on here than in real life but it still exists. Some people are hell bent on being nasty in any situation - its their nature. As I said earlier you sharp learn who to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life.

I agree cept there are no bar snacks to fill up on

or alcohol dammit lol"

Voddy and popcorn...;-);-)

...from a demon Doris...

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By *hristopher WalksMan
over a year ago

somewhere

What I have notice is that if the OP ask a a question instead the people forum answering the question the attack the person asking the question. Which to me doesn't really do any good. Or hey I'm an American what do I know

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"As look at me threads go I'd give it 4/10. "

Harsh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The funny thing is I'm not bothered when its directed at me as I love debates and conversation . Now the carer comment was just laughable . How can anybody deduce that from what I've said .

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"As look at me threads go I'd give it 4/10.

Harsh.

"

It is rather harsh....it's a 'Look at me, I care about newbies' thread.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Perhaps we should just point newbies in the direction of the chat rooms for a sociable, warm and friendly welcome?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I have notice is that if the OP ask a a question instead the people forum answering the question the attack the person asking the question. Which to me doesn't really do any good. Or hey I'm an American what do I know "

You know rude behaviour when you see it. When anyone starts arguing the person and not the point they've lost the debate in my very humble opinion x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Perhaps we should just point newbies in the direction of the chat rooms for a sociable, warm and friendly welcome?"
i was told thay can be very clicky , lol thay are better here with us .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts. "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy has a point, some like to nibble on newbies but most forums are like that.

To the OP try the chat rooms! You could loose a leg in there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I have notice is that if the OP ask a a question instead the people forum answering the question the attack the person asking the question. Which to me doesn't really do any good. Or hey I'm an American what do I know

You know rude behaviour when you see it. When anyone starts arguing the person and not the point they've lost the debate in my very humble opinion x"
: I'm very good at ignoring people also so I'm good . I definitely won't be drawn into some tit for tat arguement on here over an opinion .

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By *hristopher WalksMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I think there is a difference between being straight with someone with your answer to their question. Than attacking the person just for even asking a question or quickly going to their profile to get "dirt" so you people can rub their answer in their face. I think different opinions are great and I for one have change the way I _iew things because of someone's answer to my question.


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts.

it depends on which was you look at things... I think some people get upset really quickly is posts don't go the way they expected or if people don't agree with opinions... after all it is a forum and sometimes "there there there" isn't going to be what people want to hear....

you are never going to agree with everything.. so I don't see why you should sugarcoat something just because someone happens to be new.....

"

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I have way more respect for newbies who just get on and join in with the banter! There's a prime example thread next door called 'Dirty Arses' - top marks for someone joining in the forums and taking a bit of a piss take with genuine questions.

Eat a spoonful of cement and harden the fuck up!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I have way more respect for newbies who just get on and join in with the banter! There's a prime example thread next door called 'Dirty Arses' - top marks for someone joining in the forums and taking a bit of a piss take with genuine questions.

Eat a spoonful of cement and harden the fuck up! "

So I take it you are not voting for the Op to be the official 'Site Carer' then?

I say give him the job!

He cares!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I have way more respect for newbies who just get on and join in with the banter! There's a prime example thread next door called 'Dirty Arses' - top marks for someone joining in the forums and taking a bit of a piss take with genuine questions.

Eat a spoonful of cement and harden the fuck up!

So I take it you are not voting for the Op to be the official 'Site Carer' then?

I say give him the job!

He cares!"

My comment wasn't necessarily directed at the OP... more to the people who come in, make a post (a whinging one mostly) and then throw their toys out of the pram because they don't like the answers.

Pick up toys, behave like a grown up and take the advice that you don't want to hear. Come back and join in and get to know the humour and the personalities of people who potter round here. We're all fairly normal, we all have a posting style and once you know how our humour works you find that actually, we're a nice bunch and low and behold you're in the clique!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts. "

ach fuck up ya big jessie.

you write this after one persons post,they instantly know,it's said, tongue in cheek.

you write it after another persons post,they're instantly up in arms.

perception,perception,perception.

i think the forums have calmed down a lot.

at times last year,you had to arm yourself with a machette,just to read them.

forums cant be sychophantic,it would be boring.

if you dont want to take pelters,dont post piss.

although i have problems,remembering that rule myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your contribution people . Was just sharing my thoughts .

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Thanks for your contribution people . Was just sharing my thoughts . "

That's ok....you've got the job as site 'Newbie-Buddy', and as such you are expected to check all responses to their posts until they reach their six month anniversary on the site.

It's unpaid....but you might get lucky and get a blow job for your troubles.

Good luck!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my mom always said....if you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all...

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Everyone was new here once.

My own personal _iew is that the people that tend to stay around tend to be the more well adjusted.

So suck it up and have a laugh!... or talk about pocket fluff for 6 months it worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone was new here once.

My own personal _iew is that the people that tend to stay around tend to be the more well adjusted.

So suck it up and have a laugh!... or talk about pocket fluff for 6 months it worked for me."

You've been here ages and use the words 'well adjusted'... I think theres a queue forming to respond to that wee howler....

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts. "

I must admit I have picked up on that..more so if a newbie has a rant about something thats commonly brought up...their rant is sometimes treated as trivial and not worth the effort, generally brushed aside with a 'thats life deal, with it, no pint in moaning' approach...but when one of the older members has a grumble about the same thing is all hands to the pump with and people all sympathising and offering support and or suggestions..

It doesnt happen much but its not a nice way of making a newbie feel welcome/wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for your contribution people . Was just sharing my thoughts . "

Most welcome thank you for opening the debate. As most newbies in the past have also done. Strange recurring theme that innit?

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Thanks for your contribution people . Was just sharing my thoughts .

That's ok....you've got the job as site 'Newbie-Buddy', and as such you are expected to check all responses to their posts until they reach their six month anniversary on the site.

It's unpaid....but you might get lucky and get a blow job for your troubles.

Good luck!!

"

what about me jane,i've looked after some newbie's,can i have a blow job.

i'll just get my knob out.right go for it.

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford


"

Perhaps we should just point newbies in the direction of the chat rooms for a sociable, warm and friendly welcome? i was told thay can be very clicky , lol thay are better here with us ."

Not always i have to admit. Its the same in both areas however the chatroom can be slightly harder.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Thanks for your contribution people . Was just sharing my thoughts .

That's ok....you've got the job as site 'Newbie-Buddy', and as such you are expected to check all responses to their posts until they reach their six month anniversary on the site.

It's unpaid....but you might get lucky and get a blow job for your troubles.

Good luck!!

what about me jane,i've looked after some newbie's,can i have a blow job.

i'll just get my knob out.right go for it. "

Should I take my false teeth out first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no doubt that at times the harsh tone of posters is more personal than just offering an opinion. However I believe we should be as honest and upfront as we can, not rude of course. If we have to tone down comments in case of upsetting people, then how can we enjoy a thought provoking discussion.

We are adults and if there is something we disagree with or we feel that we are receiving negativity from the same person to everything we post then challenge it. I always respond to the words written, if I'm on my phone and its a small screen, I won't even bother looking whose posted the comment. Therefore it is not personal, its an opinion.

I am quite passionate over certain topics, that may come across as a little harsh. I try and say things in a non confrontational way.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Thanks for your contribution people . Was just sharing my thoughts .

Most welcome thank you for opening the debate. As most newbies in the past have also done. Strange recurring theme that innit? "

Give it a couple of weeks so we can forget the thread....then you can start one about caring for newbies and we'll all have the debate all over again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anybody harsh here, you let me know, I'll hunt them down and force out their teeth one by one with a rusty spoon.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"Everyone was new here once.

My own personal _iew is that the people that tend to stay around tend to be the more well adjusted.

So suck it up and have a laugh!... or talk about pocket fluff for 6 months it worked for me.

You've been here ages and use the words 'well adjusted'... I think theres a queue forming to respond to that wee howler...."

Shut it you! I didn't say what they were 'well adjusted' to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone was new here once.

My own personal _iew is that the people that tend to stay around tend to be the more well adjusted.

So suck it up and have a laugh!... or talk about pocket fluff for 6 months it worked for me.

You've been here ages and use the words 'well adjusted'... I think theres a queue forming to respond to that wee howler....

Shut it you! I didn't say what they were 'well adjusted' to! "

Their eyes to the light? heh! Cheekeh monkeh!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ignoring still lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Perhaps we should just point newbies in the direction of the chat rooms for a sociable, warm and friendly welcome? i was told thay can be very clicky , lol thay are better here with us .

Not always i have to admit. Its the same in both areas however the chatroom can be slightly harder."
well chat rooms can move so fast at times hard to keep up . Yes both have there good and bad points but i have to say fab is one of the best sites after being years on some others you see how nasty bitchy people can get and its never as bad here as on there . When you see most of this is banter and not to take every word to heart its fine just light hearted fun ... you get the feel of people and learn its there way and not allways nasty just very much to the point some . Some can come across knowing everything but them you just smile at , lol xx

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Thanks for your contribution people . Was just sharing my thoughts .

That's ok....you've got the job as site 'Newbie-Buddy', and as such you are expected to check all responses to their posts until they reach their six month anniversary on the site.

It's unpaid....but you might get lucky and get a blow job for your troubles.

Good luck!!

what about me jane,i've looked after some newbie's,can i have a blow job.

i'll just get my knob out.right go for it.

Should I take my false teeth out first?

"

lol.

you can be so harsh at times,

but so fucking funny.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"

Perhaps we should just point newbies in the direction of the chat rooms for a sociable, warm and friendly welcome? i was told thay can be very clicky , lol thay are better here with us .

Not always i have to admit. Its the same in both areas however the chatroom can be slightly harder."

Crafty eh. Much harder with the right cams.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people here like to get there teeth into a good forum post now and again thay just love the panter really x most are lovely people ....

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


" people here like to get there teeth into a good forum post now and again thay just love the panter really x most are lovely people ...."

See. "Most". You're excluding ME aren't you. And may i say waht a time of the month to pick on me. Where's that crying icon when you need it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" people here like to get there teeth into a good forum post now and again thay just love the panter really x most are lovely people ....

See. "Most". You're excluding ME aren't you. And may i say waht a time of the month to pick on me. Where's that crying icon when you need it. "
god stop that or i will spank your bum i love you all , lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life.

I agree cept there are no bar snacks to fill up on

or alcohol dammit lol

Could go a Brandy and Babycham right now"

You are showing your age there as I didnt think one can get babychams anymore

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life.

I agree cept there are no bar snacks to fill up on

or alcohol dammit lol

Could go a Brandy and Babycham right now

You are showing your age there as I didnt think one can get babychams anymore "

Yeah you can....tescos sell Babycham, just brought some for a party we are having.

Big bottle though...never had the little ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is a few missing from this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just a sarcy sod who means no offence as I just like a laugh, some serious threads can get out of hand so avoid the fallout and enjoy yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just a sarcy sod who means no offence as I just like a laugh, some serious threads can get out of hand so avoid the fallout and enjoy yourself "
it made me wander why i do post when only trying 2 help users

and later its gets back stab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the whole from the short time i have been here, its mostly been ok, i tend to steer clear of the love in threads, as you tend to get ignored on them anyway, had some nice messages through them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I do find that some people have an air of misery over them when they come to the forums and others have an air of fun and laughter

I know which type I gravitate towards and which type I avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha ha he he he

I'm a laughing gnome and you can't catch me.

random post-it moment.... normal service shall be resumed as soon as possible.

eye thenk yow!

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow


"As my mom always said....if you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all... "

My lips are sealed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts. "

There have been some posts that have gotten so out of hand, they had to be pulled so I'd agree with the OP on some levels but generally forums are fun. Loads of laughs to be had and I love the humour of some of regulars here.

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

sums it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy the forums.

But I think there are some on here that just like to be rude/sarky/mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like real life in a pub, we have nice people and not so nice people on FAB, such is life.

I agree cept there are no bar snacks to fill up on

or alcohol dammit lol

Could go a Brandy and Babycham right now

You are showing your age there as I didnt think one can get babychams anymore

Yeah you can....tescos sell Babycham, just brought some for a party we are having.

Big bottle though...never had the little ones."

Blimey didn't know that but then I never go down the alcohol line in any supermarket and we don't sell the stuff at the pub I work at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im kinda new to the lounge forums etc, not new to forums as such, therefore i kinda recognise the headings that are a virtual hornets nest of mixed opinions and are going to encourage real strong feelings and such like and either avoid or add a balanced opinion on it or ok, sometimes the downside to the subject.

And if you've also been around long enough, you recognise the threads that are "check me out" or "why is" is usually someone peeved and not particularly liking the site or how things are, i think anyone has a pain threshold with those types of threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy the forums.

But I think there are some on here that just like to be rude/sarky/mean.

"

I would agree with that. Some look to pick and poke at others for little reason. Ignore if you don't like its far easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As my mom always said....if you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all...

My lips are sealed"

Think mine are too... its been a while

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts. "

And who the hell asked you for your thoughts !!!

Just teasing

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"

And if you've also been around long enough, you recognise the threads that are "check me out" or "why is" is usually someone peeved and not particularly liking the site or how things are, i think anyone has a pain threshold with those types of threads."

And I think thats where some problems lie....because those type of threads annoy some posters, it doesn't mean they are not allowed.

As has been said lots of times before, forums are not likely to be fluffy all the time, and we can't always have the subjects people want to hear either.

If posters can't handle their own "pain threshold" without complaining/ getting annoyed about anothers posts, then maybe it is the persons problem and not the person who posts the OP?

A good idea would be for everyone to let other posters enjoy the forums how they want to, and you ( a collective you ) enjoy them how you want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if the cap fits, wear it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I leave forums all the time because I think I've been unduly harsh. But really, if people are going to spout cliches from the Daily Mail I'm gonna rail against the dark forces of ignorance and stupidity.

I was once on a forum where smileys were banned, or a text message was put in their place, like "I am gay." There wer very few fights because people were able to interpret properly without assuming everything not covered in little yellow icons is a flame.

So suck on them lemons!

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"

And if you've also been around long enough, you recognise the threads that are "check me out" or "why is" is usually someone peeved and not particularly liking the site or how things are, i think anyone has a pain threshold with those types of threads.

And I think thats where some problems lie....because those type of threads annoy some posters, it doesn't mean they are not allowed.

As has been said lots of times before, forums are not likely to be fluffy all the time, and we can't always have the subjects people want to hear either.

If posters can't handle their own "pain threshold" without complaining/ getting annoyed about anothers posts, then maybe it is the persons problem and not the person who posts the OP?

A good idea would be for everyone to let other posters enjoy the forums how they want to, and you ( a collective you ) enjoy them how you want to "

Well said!

The point about Forums on any site, not just here, is that they are subjective!

You get out of them what you like to read and take in.

You get out of them with what you input in terms of replies or your own contributing posts.

Forum pages are the modern day equivalent of when people met in a public square to discuss matters of public concern, or to debate topics.

Sometimes we might agree with what is being said, sometimes we might not, but overall it's all part of daily life and it enriches us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for your contribution people . Was just sharing my thoughts .

Most welcome thank you for opening the debate. As most newbies in the past have also done. Strange recurring theme that innit?

Give it a couple of weeks so we can forget the thread....then you can start one about caring for newbies and we'll all have the debate all over again.

"

Me? I've never opened a debate on newbies before? Just my usual ten penneth like everyone else on most threads. Puzzled of Newcastle.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

[Removed by poster at 19/07/11 12:42:45]

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

For me it is always about honesty and respect.. honesty with yourself and honesty with others.

In my 3 years on the forums, I have gone way too far 3 times..

a little too far several more times..

I have been pulled up on it and I take that on the chin.. and learnt from it. I don't give it out without being able to take it.

I stand by every word of what I said on each occasion, but accept, I shouldn't have said it or said it differently.

I am accountable for my behaviours in life, no one else so I don't look to blame others or look for an excuse.

I have added to the positive atmosphere and sadly also added to the negative.

so apologies for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts.

Is it REALLY that bad?

"

Obviously Jane some think it is

It amazes me cause i just don't see it or don't wanna see it maybe xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I notice that some folks on here can be very harsh and unfriendly with some of their replies to people's posts . I see it even more when the person is not a regular poster . It's not a nice atmosphere for a newbie ,even if the post is not something we agree with . I think some people could be a little less harsh with their responses. Just my thoughts.

Is it REALLY that bad?

Obviously Jane some think it is

It amazes me cause i just don't see it or don't wanna see it maybe xx "
I dont see it .... yes i see some getting bit hot at times ... but its just light harted banter and next day post has gone from people mailing and no one cares .... and its all moving on to new posts new things , It should not get to people Or up-set them the forums just light hearted fun. We are all here together passing time and looking to chat and meet not be nasty to each other ....... we will all have diffrent _iews about posts but thats what makes this fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am afraid there is alot of keyboard warriors here, you have to take it with a pinch of salt, I am sure they are different people if you met them face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I look at this title in the topics list I have a little smile as it reminds me of a new Haze air freshener smell.... essence of Forum Atmosphere. Spray it lightly and instant harmony! Too much and its such a stink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am afraid there is alot of keyboard warriors here, you have to take it with a pinch of salt, I am sure they are different people if you met them face to face."

I aint im as daft in real life lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am afraid there is alot of keyboard warriors here, you have to take it with a pinch of salt, I am sure they are different people if you met them face to face.

I aint im as daft in real life lol xx "

same

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

And some ppl are just twats and thats the end of it

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"And some ppl are just twats and thats the end of it "

Don't be so hard on yourself!...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Certainly seems down today....

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

is it to late to get a pie,and a pint.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"is it to late to get a pie,and a pint. "

on it's way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Certainly seems down today...."

Read the dirty arses thread again, makes me laugh every time.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Certainly seems down today....

Read the dirty arses thread again, makes me laugh every time. "

I did, I missed that last night.... very good

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I bought a gorgeous looking cherry pie at a farm shop earlier

Then had a read of the forums and have gone right off it now

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Send it to me, nothing would put me off cherry pie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bought a gorgeous looking cherry pie at a farm shop earlier

Then had a read of the forums and have gone right off it now "

Oh dear, did you read the dirty arses one again?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I bought a gorgeous looking cherry pie at a farm shop earlier

Then had a read of the forums and have gone right off it now "

I love cherry pie and bramble pie... never been a great fan of apple.

get it down your neck

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I bought a gorgeous looking cherry pie at a farm shop earlier

Then had a read of the forums and have gone right off it now "

don't eat the cherry pie..... I just caught up

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"I bought a gorgeous looking cherry pie at a farm shop earlier

Then had a read of the forums and have gone right off it now

don't eat the cherry pie..... I just caught up"

Gonna need a big stiff drink before I even attempt to eat it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bought a gorgeous looking cherry pie at a farm shop earlier

Then had a read of the forums and have gone right off it now

don't eat the cherry pie..... I just caught up

Gonna need a big stiff drink before I even attempt to eat it now "

Just don't use a straw.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"is it to late to get a pie,and a pint.

on it's way"

cheers _iew,i'm not reading that dirty arse thread,before i eat my pie.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"I bought a gorgeous looking cherry pie at a farm shop earlier

Then had a read of the forums and have gone right off it now

don't eat the cherry pie..... I just caught up

Gonna need a big stiff drink before I even attempt to eat it now

Just don't use a straw. "

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"is it to late to get a pie,and a pint.

on it's way

cheers _iew,i'm not reading that dirty arse thread,before i eat my pie. "

don't dude... or the cherry pie thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it is always about honesty and respect.. honesty with yourself and honesty with others.

In my 3 years on the forums, I have gone way too far 3 times..

a little too far several more times..

I have been pulled up on it and I take that on the chin.. and learnt from it. I don't give it out without being able to take it.

I stand by every word of what I said on each occasion, but accept, I shouldn't have said it or said it differently.

I am accountable for my behaviours in life, no one else so I don't look to blame others or look for an excuse.

I have added to the positive atmosphere and sadly also added to the negative.

so apologies for that."

Well said _iew.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am afraid there is alot of keyboard warriors here, you have to take it with a pinch of salt, I am sure they are different people if you met them face to face.

I aint im as daft in real life lol xx "
i am same in real life as here x i see no need to be a warrior ... i just would like to be myself .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And some ppl are just twats and thats the end of it "
i am sure thats a gold fish having babys .. a twat ..... sure it is ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Certainly seems down today...."

Is a tuesday i guess,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

quiet tonight

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