FabSwingers.com forum: Nasty Comments

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

During my time on Fab I've had a couple of really nasty (and uncalled for) comments.

Both times this has happened it's been the first message they've sent and when I go to reply or view their profile I've found they've blocked me.

I don't understand why people do it.

Anyone else experienced this?

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

Like any walks of life there are plenty of arseholes.

Just report and move on. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It boils down to some people are arse holes with nothing better to do.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Keyboard warriors. It's sad what people do when they think they have anonymity.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Yes. It's probably down to their own insecurities so report, block and move on x

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I've had it a few times over the years. Just makes me laugh.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

In 11 yrs, I've had some pretty weird & bizarre messages, but never any nasty ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I think they do it because they can. They feel the need to try make others feel as bitter as they do. Dont take it personally, theyre just upset because youre having fun and theyre not x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"In 11 yrs, I've had some pretty weird & bizarre messages, but never any nasty ones

Were you on B.G.T last night ?

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

Because some people are dicks.

Don't let it spoil fab for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"During my time on Fab I've had a couple of really nasty (and uncalled for) comments.

Both times this has happened it's been the first message they've sent and when I go to reply or view their profile I've found they've blocked me.

I don't understand why people do it.

Anyone else experienced this?

Yep, usually as a reply to a polite , non offensive, introductory message.

Some people must get a kick out of putting others down.

Easier said than done, but rise above it, after all, if they are like that in a message, what would they be like face to face? I certainly wouldn't find the time to meet them.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

How do you report someone when they have blocked You?

Admin says just add the username to the blocklist but can't seem to find a place to do that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect that there are those who find that fab isn't working for them and when they see people who are having success, they decide to rain on their parade.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id rather have an abusive message than the patronising ones I normally get, I'm sorry to say.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Only one really nasty one, I reported it and the profile was removed; whether by her, or by admin i do not know, but it was pretty bad (and no i am not repeating it here).

Other than that i get some now and again suggesting i am too old for fab (but not put quite that nicely).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had this yesterday from someone asking advise on profile gave a few polite pointers and was told to fuck off not taking advice from a moron and duly blocked so I'm guessing being advised wasn't what they really wanted rarher oh yes dear you look like a truly wonderful find lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twice. I'm pretty sure it was the same woman.

I've been here getting on for five years, I think, so I'm not going to let tiny incidents get to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also happens if in forums you have a different opinion that someone can't agree with

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"Id rather have an abusive message than the patronising ones I normally get, I'm sorry to say. "

Oh sweetheart, don't bother your pretty little head about the patronising people.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I Had one like that a few weeks ago, it is really odd when they have no idea about you apart from profile or photos. Suppose that can make some nasty.

Just move on dont take it to heart. Some people are just not nice who needs them!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"Also happens if in forums you have a different opinion that someone can't agree with"

No it doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id rather have an abusive message than the patronising ones I normally get, I'm sorry to say.

Oh sweetheart, don't bother your pretty little head about the patronising people. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you report someone when they have blocked You?

Admin says just add the username to the blocklist but can't seem to find a place to do that.."
do you have a message off them? If so you can block them that way

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id rather have an abusive message than the patronising ones I normally get, I'm sorry to say.

Oh sweetheart, don't bother your pretty little head about the patronising people. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in life, there are nice people and nasty people on fab, ignore it and move on, sometimes people get nasty about something in your profile, your success etc etc it's there own insecurities x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, regularly. Usually from women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"During my time on Fab I've had a couple of really nasty (and uncalled for) comments.

Both times this has happened it's been the first message they've sent and when I go to reply or view their profile I've found they've blocked me.

I don't understand why people do it.

Anyone else experienced this?

"
yes a couple of days ago she sent me a really quite scathing message based on a thread then blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont know why.. Vith your lublic photos are rather attractive and tasteful.

Sounds like keyboard warriors who get off on abuse but cant handle structured retorts

Block and move on to real people.

Dave

"During my time on Fab I've had a couple of really nasty (and uncalled for) comments.

Both times this has happened it's been the first message they've sent and when I go to reply or view their profile I've found they've blocked me.

I don't understand why people do it.

Anyone else experienced this?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

It happened a few times when I first joined. At first I was slightly puzzled by it since it made no sense whatsoever to do so but I think I've just outlasted them since it hasn't happened in ages.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

"How do you report someone when they have blocked You?

Admin says just add the username to the blocklist but can't seem to find a place to do that.."

Use the full site, there is a type box at the top of your block list, put their profile name in there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"During my time on Fab I've had a couple of really nasty (and uncalled for) comments.

Both times this has happened it's been the first message they've sent and when I go to reply or view their profile I've found they've blocked me.

I don't understand why people do it.

Anyone else experienced this?

yes a couple of days ago she sent me a really quite scathing message based on a thread then blocked me "
this is what I was on about thank you for confirming this happens as ladies here don't believe it does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't consign to memory or allow myself to become frustrated by events that illustrate any negatives of Fab-membership .....

I just enjoy the benefits ....

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Keyboard warriors,some people get off on trolling.Report them and forget them and try not to take it to heart x

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a free site and without filters literally anybody can message anybody.

The comments can only be nasty if they actually know you personally, the chances of that are pretty slim.

Block delete and treat such messages with the contempt they deserve.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for being so supportive. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It beggars belief how some will attack, insult and accuse either because they downright get a kick out of it, or perhaps because they have decided you deserve it or have done something that they have interpreted or perceived (without actually checking in on your intent) as meriting their abuse - this is more for those who 'take things to PM' to have a bully/go at posters in the forums that they disagree with or when they want to defend another that they feel you disagree with.

The best response to anyone that wants to cast judgement and attack you over PM, is to report/block and move on - it is far sadder an existence that they operate in. Often it is those that accuse others of bullying that are wildly unaware of their own bullying behaviour and positioning.

For those that make derogatory comments based on no interaction with you previously, well it's laughable. And for those that do so based on no interaction with you beyond rigid black and white decision making on what they think you mean, again the lack of emotional maturity and intelligence staggers me. Perception is loaded with our personal experiences and prejudices. Communication is in bridging the gap in between and learning/questioning/clarifying another's meaning and intent before you decide to put intent in their mouth and take on your perceived righteous action to address their wrongdoing. And even then, why take it to PM - a challenge on a thread as a counter to a written statement you disagree with is one thing/for the permanence of not wanting to leave something unchallenged, but to PM at someone a tirade of chastising, or of abuse, and not take the time to explain how you are interpreting it and ask the poster's intent and seek clarification, well that attack's intent is really only to hurt someone. And then you need to take a long look at your motives and at yourself, and perhaps ask yourself some tough questions.

(just an observation)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As in life, there are nice people and nasty people on fab, ignore it and move on, sometimes people get nasty about something in your profile, your success etc etc it's there own insecurities x"

This!

Simply block OP as others have already said. Some really good advice in this thread.

Also if they follow your posts and try to indirectly communicate with you after on block list please report. That is not allowed in forums.

Happened to me last night. A woman following me then proceeded to create a thread about it... not even funny, but made me laugh out loud.

Never let anyone spoil your fun and time on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes my first 8 weeks on here were a nightmare, the messages I got were vile and nasty. Plus anyone I met also got messages of pure lies to put people off me wasn't nice and almost made me delete my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keyboard warriors,some people get off on trolling.Report them and forget them and try not to take it to heart x

Miss"

This. Mostly spineless and wouldn't say a word face to face.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"In 11 yrs, I've had some pretty weird & bizarre messages, but never any nasty ones

Were you on B.G.T last night ?"

Ha ha, I knew someone would say that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As in life, there are nice people and nasty people on fab, ignore it and move on, sometimes people get nasty about something in your profile, your success etc etc it's there own insecurities x

This!

Simply block OP as others have already said. Some really good advice in this thread.

Also if they follow your posts and try to indirectly communicate with you after on block list please report. That is not allowed in forums.

Happened to me last night. A woman following me then proceeded to create a thread about it... not even funny, but made me laugh out loud.

Never let anyone spoil your fun and time on Fab."

It's interesting you say that for I read on another thread that it isn't actually against the rules to comment on threads or another person's comments on forum if they've blocked you. (I hasten to point out I am not the woman you refer to in your post, as I am sure you would testify!! I would gently suggest though that is it not a bit namey/shamey yourself to make comment about this person like that in your own post? Pot kettle...!!)

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"During my time on Fab I've had a couple of really nasty (and uncalled for) comments.

Both times this has happened it's been the first message they've sent and when I go to reply or view their profile I've found they've blocked me.

I don't understand why people do it.

Anyone else experienced this?

this and far worst op by that i mean I personally have had threads started about me by a rather sad individual of coarse said person worded it in a way as to not fall fowl of the mods but still .

oh and they block me long before they started said thread and yes they had never spoken to me privates or ever . its still on here by the way said thread as i don't run to the mods i prefer to leave the hang mans rope up if you get my meaning op .

to answer why people behave in that way in private messages and even in forum posts directed at others its simple op .

people tend to project there own negative feeling about themselves and their life's onto others

they see other people being more successful more happy than they are and it hurts them so they lash out at the person they see as having a better life than then in a effort to make said person feel the same misery as they are feeling .

when you see it like that its very easy to pity people who act as your post and my response out lines op .

i pity then even when I'm taking them to town over there behaviour because its a misery trying to spread misery in my book .

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"During my time on Fab I've had a couple of really nasty (and uncalled for) comments.

Both times this has happened it's been the first message they've sent and when I go to reply or view their profile I've found they've blocked me.

I don't understand why people do it.

Anyone else experienced this?

Yes a few times,pisses me off for about 10 seconds... what annoys me most is I can't ask why they feel that way. They usually have no veris If get to see the profile before being blocked.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"How do you report someone when they have blocked You?

Admin says just add the username to the blocklist but can't seem to find a place to do that..

Use the full site, there is a type box at the top of your block list, put their profile name in there."

Thank you..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"In 11 yrs, I've had some pretty weird & bizarre messages, but never any nasty ones

Were you on B.G.T last night ?

Ha ha, I knew someone would say that

Im just fooking mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only had one really nasty example. Messaged someone to say 'nice pics' and received a vile & abusive tirade of insulting foulness, in return.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"How do you report someone when they have blocked You?

Admin says just add the username to the blocklist but can't seem to find a place to do that.."

Report the message x

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"How do you report someone when they have blocked You?

Admin says just add the username to the blocklist but can't seem to find a place to do that..

Use the full site, there is a type box at the top of your block list, put their profile name in there."

You can also block them from the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ...happens and when it does I just counterblock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I've had a few completely out of the blue, only ever responded to one. He'd blocked me but used his phone number as the subject line of the message

I just ignore them to be fair, people are sad at times, dont let it get to you xx

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By *haneleviMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster

I've just had one. Mine always with it fail are off couple profiles. Not saying that all couple profiles are guilty, I've spoken to some lovely ones actually..just where mine always come from unfortunately

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

yeah ive had this, trouble is you cant report them once they blocked you so all you can do is go back onto the message and use the block button there as some in the past have unblocked me to remake comments and reblocked me again

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Never had it.

Life is good.

My friend gets some quite startling messages post rejecting them. Saying no turns you from an object of desire to the exact opposite it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeah ive had this, trouble is you cant report them once they blocked you so all you can do is go back onto the message and use the block button there as some in the past have unblocked me to remake comments and reblocked me again"

Yup - counterblock asserts your control. Removes their ability to unblock and re-offend.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Yeap I have had some horrendous messages over the years on here, was shocked at first as I had never spoke to them before, now it's I go 'meh' and block, water off a ducks back here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had any nasty ones......but then I hardly get any of any kind!

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Have had a few, usually when upsetting someone on a forum discussion...and tadaaaa that fake profile is out after blood, but hey cannot let a miniorty spoil your day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like I'm missing out. I've never had any nasty comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"During my time on Fab I've had a couple of really nasty (and uncalled for) comments.

Both times this has happened it's been the first message they've sent and when I go to reply or view their profile I've found they've blocked me.

I don't understand why people do it.

Anyone else experienced this?

I do. They're dicks.

Have a great day op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few times in the chat room I've had single males attack with out provacation, some people just seem to get off on seeing others hurt, embarrassed or belittled by their actions. It's a shame they don't receive an instant ban from fab instead of a ban from the rooms.

I'll never understand the need to be purposely cruel, these people (and I use the term loosely) have no conscience, empathy or regard for anyone but themselves x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yes. Usually from men I say no to

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By *AA123Couple
over a year ago

Lichfield

Yup - counterblock asserts your control. Removes their ability to unblock and re-offend."

Agreed. Counterblock to avoid them reoffending. They are cowards trolling and blocking.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"During my time on Fab I've had a couple of really nasty (and uncalled for) comments.

Both times this has happened it's been the first message they've sent and when I go to reply or view their profile I've found they've blocked me.

I don't understand why people do it.

Anyone else experienced this?

In seven years on Fab: no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"During my time on Fab I've had a couple of really nasty (and uncalled for) comments.

Both times this has happened it's been the first message they've sent and when I go to reply or view their profile I've found they've blocked me.

I don't understand why people do it.

Anyone else experienced this?

Not on here but I have on FL. Some people are just arseholes and it's not worth worrying about.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Of course you can, there is a report function in a message

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I can't remember a totally unprovoked attack - there have been a few react badly to being turned down and the odd forum nasty....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some have, some haven't. I'm one of those who hasn't.

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