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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies and gents

What are the signs that your husband, boyfriend, lover, FB, Fwb just isn't that interested or into you anymore?

What do you do?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Ladies and gents

What are the signs that your husband, boyfriend, lover, FB, Fwb just isn't that interested or into you anymore?

What do you do?"

I don't want to make a flippant comment in case it's in poor taste. Is this something you are worried about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Tink.

Hope all is okay? ((hugs))

In answer, I don't know. I find it hard to really understand if someone is *into* me, so I don't know how I'd be at computing that then going once I'd accepted it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ladies and gents

What are the signs that your husband, boyfriend, lover, FB, Fwb just isn't that interested or into you anymore?

What do you do?

I don't want to make a flippant comment in case it's in poor taste. Is this something you are worried about? "

Be yourself but know that I am really touch by your consideration. You are super sweet thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you okay Tink!?

I'd say that you know I'm your gut if something isn't right. I'm guessing you have that feeling!? X

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Communication becomes perfunctory. That's the first and most telling sign. As to what you can do about it, or whether you even should, that's tricky. If it is down to waning interest then it's a fine line between desparation and knowing when to give up gracefully. Or a balancing act of maintaining composure if the waning is temporary or due to external factors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you okay Tink!?

I'd say that you know in your gut if something isn't right. I'm guessing you have that feeling!? X"

I fixed it!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Well don't ignore it for starters!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi Tink.

Hope all is okay? ((hugs))

In answer, I don't know. I find it hard to really understand if someone is *into* me, so I don't know how I'd be at computing that then going once I'd accepted it.

Thanks I am fine I guess I am just confused by how people can change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope all okay's chickie

For me - when they start talking about someone else a lot, and you go from nonstop talking* to no replies. I've been in that position before on here and it sucked.

* obviously there may be other reasons why there's a sudden lapse in contact where a lack of interest isn't the cause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say gut feeling too. I got the feeling for a while and talked myself out of it, thinking I was crazy. Turned out I was right all along

If you are going through anything like that, I'd suggest having an honest talk with whoever it is sooner rather than later. Wish I'd done that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you okay Tink!?

I'd say that you know I'm your gut if something isn't right. I'm guessing you have that feeling!? X"

I do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Communication becomes perfunctory. That's the first and most telling sign. As to what you can do about it, or whether you even should, that's tricky. If it is down to waning interest then it's a fine line between desparation and knowing when to give up gracefully. Or a balancing act of maintaining composure if the waning is temporary or due to external factors."
Thank you sweet. I am rather good at a graceful excite thank goodness

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hope all okay's chickie

For me - when they start talking about someone else a lot, and you go from nonstop talking* to no replies. I've been in that position before on here and it sucked.

* obviously there may be other reasons why there's a sudden lapse in contact where a lack of interest isn't the cause."

Thank you honey. It's more the tone of conversation

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't really know about any set signs as such. Last time it was just a feeling, I opened up about it and was right sadly. I think if it's a thought in your head now, there must be a reason for it - even if you discuss it and find it to be unfounded that's better than ignoring it. Just try and remain composed and discuss it in a rational way as possible.

Well that's what I did. I think only you will know what you deel comfortable with in the end Tink. Best of luck whatever it is you decide to do, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope all okay's chickie

For me - when they start talking about someone else a lot, and you go from nonstop talking* to no replies. I've been in that position before on here and it sucked.

* obviously there may be other reasons why there's a sudden lapse in contact where a lack of interest isn't the cause.

Thank you honey. It's more the tone of conversation

Such as?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd say gut feeling too. I got the feeling for a while and talked myself out of it, thinking I was crazy. Turned out I was right all along

If you are going through anything like that, I'd suggest having an honest talk with whoever it is sooner rather than later. Wish I'd done that.

Thank you

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

From experience:

The kiss becomes a peck;

Talking about the person they have moved on to;

Significant drop in communication;

Scrabble instead of sex;

Comments about my size - as if I hadn't always been this short or fat and it is sudden revelation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say gut feeling too. I got the feeling for a while and talked myself out of it, thinking I was crazy. Turned out I was right all along

If you are going through anything like that, I'd suggest having an honest talk with whoever it is sooner rather than later. Wish I'd done that.

I've done that. He seems incapable of talking about how he feels/what he wants.

Left the ball in his court and feel I have to leave it be x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't really know about any set signs as such. Last time it was just a feeling, I opened up about it and was right sadly. I think if it's a thought in your head now, there must be a reason for it - even if you discuss it and find it to be unfounded that's better than ignoring it. Just try and remain composed and discuss it in a rational way as possible.

Well that's what I did. I think only you will know what you deel comfortable with in the end Tink. Best of luck whatever it is you decide to do, x

Thank you Meli

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, I agree that you should totally talk and see what's going on. It might be an innocent explanation.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I think you need to trust your instincts Tink. You must sense something isn't quite right or you wouldn't be questioning it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hope all okay's chickie

For me - when they start talking about someone else a lot, and you go from nonstop talking* to no replies. I've been in that position before on here and it sucked.

* obviously there may be other reasons why there's a sudden lapse in contact where a lack of interest isn't the cause.

Thank you honey. It's more the tone of conversation

Such as?"

Dismissive really or lack of.time. just not so interested tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From experience:

The kiss becomes a peck;

Talking about the person they have moved on to;

Significant drop in communication;

Scrabble instead of sex;

Comments about my size - as if I hadn't always been this short or fat and it is sudden revelation.

Thank you. FYI you are adorably tiny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you need to trust your instincts Tink. You must sense something isn't quite right or you wouldn't be questioning it x"

This, Tink!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd say gut feeling too. I got the feeling for a while and talked myself out of it, thinking I was crazy. Turned out I was right all along

If you are going through anything like that, I'd suggest having an honest talk with whoever it is sooner rather than later. Wish I'd done that.

I've done that. He seems incapable of talking about how he feels/what he wants.

Left the ball in his court and feel I have to leave it be x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you need to trust your instincts Tink. You must sense something isn't quite right or you wouldn't be questioning it x"

I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes familiarity breeds contempt u stay with each other fr too long and suddenly the tiny cute things that made them unique become the reason u want to kill them.

A sexy lady like u if he's not interested ure sure to know lack of contact, lack of communication (this one is very important). Cld also have nothing to do with u but rather a worry he might have.

Best thing to do is communication ask it straight out best thing me and hubby ever done is talked it out without holding anything back it cld have Meade or broken us but thankfully it made us and we're a lot stronger fr it.

Hope all is good with u and good luck with whatever u decide to do xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Hope all okay's chickie

For me - when they start talking about someone else a lot, and you go from nonstop talking* to no replies. I've been in that position before on here and it sucked.

* obviously there may be other reasons why there's a sudden lapse in contact where a lack of interest isn't the cause.

Thank you honey. It's more the tone of conversation

Such as?

Dismissive really or lack of.time. just not so interested tbh"

There may be other things going on in his life but if you feel left out then you probably are being left out.

Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Tink.

Hope all is okay? ((hugs))

In answer, I don't know. I find it hard to really understand if someone is *into* me, so I don't know how I'd be at computing that then going once I'd accepted it.

Thanks I am fine I guess I am just confused by how people can change

Firstly breathe. And I would advise being vulnerable and asking them.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"From experience:

The kiss becomes a peck;

Talking about the person they have moved on to;

Significant drop in communication;

Scrabble instead of sex;

Comments about my size - as if I hadn't always been this short or fat and it is sudden revelation.

Thank you. FYI you are adorably tiny

They've all been over 6ft so my adorably tiny suddenly becomes embarrassingly too small to be seen with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you need to trust your instincts Tink. You must sense something isn't quite right or you wouldn't be questioning it x

I know

Hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope all okay's chickie

For me - when they start talking about someone else a lot, and you go from nonstop talking* to no replies. I've been in that position before on here and it sucked.

* obviously there may be other reasons why there's a sudden lapse in contact where a lack of interest isn't the cause.

Thank you honey. It's more the tone of conversation

Such as?

Dismissive really or lack of.time. just not so interested tbh"

Do you mind if I say something terribly bluntly?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes familiarity breeds contempt u stay with each other fr too long and suddenly the tiny cute things that made them unique become the reason u want to kill them.

A sexy lady like u if he's not interested ure sure to know lack of contact, lack of communication (this one is very important). Cld also have nothing to do with u but rather a worry he might have.

Hope all is good with u and good luck with whatever u decide to do xx"

I'm so happy it worked for you both

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hope all okay's chickie

For me - when they start talking about someone else a lot, and you go from nonstop talking* to no replies. I've been in that position before on here and it sucked.

* obviously there may be other reasons why there's a sudden lapse in contact where a lack of interest isn't the cause.

Thank you honey. It's more the tone of conversation

Such as?

Dismissive really or lack of.time. just not so interested tbh

There may be other things going on in his life but if you feel left out then you probably are being left out.

Sorry.

That was what I thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hope all okay's chickie

For me - when they start talking about someone else a lot, and you go from nonstop talking* to no replies. I've been in that position before on here and it sucked.

* obviously there may be other reasons why there's a sudden lapse in contact where a lack of interest isn't the cause.

Thank you honey. It's more the tone of conversation

Such as?

Dismissive really or lack of.time. just not so interested tbh

Do you mind if I say something terribly bluntly?"

Of course please do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience : A feeling of disconnection. He stops talking about "our" future. I felt really confused and couldn't figure out what was happening.. thought it was all in my head. His friends acting strange and distancing themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies and gents

What are the signs that your husband, boyfriend, lover, FB, Fwb just isn't that interested or into you anymore?

What do you do?"

I sleep with his friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops. Sorry. I thought you ask what I do if he's not that into me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi Tink.

Hope all is okay? ((hugs))

In answer, I don't know. I find it hard to really understand if someone is *into* me, so I don't know how I'd be at computing that then going once I'd accepted it.

Thanks I am fine I guess I am just confused by how people can change

Firstly breathe. And I would advise being vulnerable and asking them. "

Not my strong suit hence all the glitter

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you need to trust your instincts Tink. You must sense something isn't quite right or you wouldn't be questioning it x

I know

Hugs xx"

Thank you

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By *r_BBW_LoverMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"From experience:

The kiss becomes a peck;

Talking about the person they have moved on to;

Significant drop in communication;

Scrabble instead of sex;

Comments about my size - as if I hadn't always been this short or fat and it is sudden revelation.

Some of these applied to me when my wife and I divorced. It started with the drop in communication and going from doing things together to wanting to do things alone. And as for the declining sex, she insisted we sleep in separate rooms at one point due to my apparent snoring. And the comments about physical appearance made an appearance too... In fact, are you my ex-wife, by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oops. Sorry. I thought you ask what I do if he's not that into me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hope all okay's chickie

For me - when they start talking about someone else a lot, and you go from nonstop talking* to no replies. I've been in that position before on here and it sucked.

* obviously there may be other reasons why there's a sudden lapse in contact where a lack of interest isn't the cause.

Thank you honey. It's more the tone of conversation

Such as?

Dismissive really or lack of.time. just not so interested tbh

Do you mind if I say something terribly bluntly?

Of course please do"

He could be having a shit time in his personal life and has mental health issues, and I've noticed that men clam up about those things, but after you've known someone for a while you kinda see how their moods ebb and flow, and when they just need time for themselves.

But if it's come out of no where... if he really wants to talk he'd make time and effort to do so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From experience:

The kiss becomes a peck;

Talking about the person they have moved on to;

Significant drop in communication;

Scrabble instead of sex;

Comments about my size - as if I hadn't always been this short or fat and it is sudden revelation.

Blimey I don't think so

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By *ssey2015Man
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

you are so lovely...

simple as...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hope all okay's chickie

For me - when they start talking about someone else a lot, and you go from nonstop talking* to no replies. I've been in that position before on here and it sucked.

* obviously there may be other reasons why there's a sudden lapse in contact where a lack of interest isn't the cause.

Thank you honey. It's more the tone of conversation

Such as?

Dismissive really or lack of.time. just not so interested tbh

Do you mind if I say something terribly bluntly?

Of course please do

But if it's come out of no where... if he really wants to talk he'd make time and effort to do so."

Thank you that's actually really helpful as to his mood

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Its a horrible and lonely feeling. Depending on how new the relationship is then it can be a bit of a quandary.

Does asking make you seem clingy? Does he want space because he has the same fears?

If it was me I'd stop trying and see what happens, then discuss openly after a couple of days.

Communication is key to strongest relationships, regardless of what type they are.

Good luck x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"From experience:

The kiss becomes a peck;

Talking about the person they have moved on to;

Significant drop in communication;

Scrabble instead of sex;

Comments about my size - as if I hadn't always been this short or fat and it is sudden revelation.

I can guarantee that I am no one's ex wife. No one has ever been that in to me to marry me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From experience:

The kiss becomes a peck;

Talking about the person they have moved on to;

Significant drop in communication;

Scrabble instead of sex;

Comments about my size - as if I hadn't always been this short or fat and it is sudden revelation.

I can guarantee that I am no one's ex wife. No one has ever been that in to me to marry me.

Aw bless. Shall we marry? We can divorce tomorrow

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Relationship distancing typically starts with secrets - they may just be secret thought processes but could become behavioural.

This isn't gender specific but someone can somehow engage a part of themselves that becomes secret and thus is disengaged from their partner. Over time it may realise a fantasy of what they want, realisations that what they have isn't potentially right for them and what they may do about it. It may also be somewhat of a crisis for them, if their lover - possibly their normal confidante, isn't entrusted with this personal secret. So it may also trouble them, they'll potentially be transgressing their moral code of not being fully open.

An inner secret stash helps someone become more distant, as they're not fully with you at any point - they're with you in part.

This is my take on things.

What can help undermine such troubles is openness and communication that's not forced but supports someone to share more of themselves again.

An ongoing habit of keeping something hidden isn't a good thing as it can spiral more into something bigger. It may help engender someone spending more time alone, where they can cultivate their space and try to gain more comfort with being this way and understanding things and themselves better.

Falling out of love reverses many of the processes that we've gone through to be there in the first place. We can incrementally do this, piece by piece. And someone would start to chip away at their identity that's a coupled identity, reestablishing their own as an individual. you could see new pursuits explored or old patterns reengaged with.

Some food for thought.

I hope you're ok Tink, as it would potentially be upsetting for me and I'd hope you're not getting there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationship distancing typically starts with secrets - they may just be secret thought processes but could become behavioural.

An inner secret stash helps someone become more distant, as they're not fully with you at any point - they're with you in part.

This is my take on things.

What can help undermine such troubles is openness and communication that's not forced but supports someone to share more of themselves again.

Some food for thought.

I hope you're ok Tink, as it would potentially be upsetting for me and I'd hope you're not getting there."

Wow. Deep.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Ladies and gents

What are the signs that your husband, boyfriend, lover, FB, Fwb just isn't that interested or into you anymore?

What do you do?"

Only you would know that, but don't be second best!

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Relationship distancing typically starts with secrets - they may just be secret thought processes but could become behavioural.

An inner secret stash helps someone become more distant, as they're not fully with you at any point - they're with you in part.

This is my take on things.

What can help undermine such troubles is openness and communication that's not forced but supports someone to share more of themselves again.

Some food for thought.

I hope you're ok Tink, as it would potentially be upsetting for me and I'd hope you're not getting there."

Sophie I love you and I promise I am truly okay

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"From experience:

The kiss becomes a peck;

Talking about the person they have moved on to;

Significant drop in communication;

Scrabble instead of sex;

Comments about my size - as if I hadn't always been this short or fat and it is sudden revelation.

I can guarantee that I am no one's ex wife. No one has ever been that in to me to marry me.

Aw bless. Shall we marry? We can divorce tomorrow

A marriage proposal with a rejection already built in. Typical.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Ladies and gents

What are the signs that your husband, boyfriend, lover, FB, Fwb just isn't that interested or into you anymore?

What do you do?"

It doesn't matter wether it is there or not. By asking the question you're already admitting you feel that way, which means you now need to decide wether you want to talk it out and try and put it right or walk away depending on your relationship and situation.

One thing is for certain though... don't put up with feeling that way these things generally never turn themselves around, you will just prolong your own unhappiness.

Whatever you do we wish you the very best of luck and happiness in the future. Xxxx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I've not read the whole thread but I'd say the first thing to do is to try and find out what the issue actually is.

Distance, lack of sex etc. can mean another person in their life but it can also mean a problem or issue that they are afraid to tell you about.

Not because you'll freak out, but because they have it in their head that you'll see them as less of a man for having this 'problem'.

And if they go distant and then we go worried, they think we're acting weird and the whole thing can spiral out of proportion.

If there is another person or a lack of love then all I can say from experience is that it's better to know and be on your own than with the wrong person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From experience:

The kiss becomes a peck;

Talking about the person they have moved on to;

Significant drop in communication;

Scrabble instead of sex;

Comments about my size - as if I hadn't always been this short or fat and it is sudden revelation.

I can guarantee that I am no one's ex wife. No one has ever been that in to me to marry me.

Aw bless. Shall we marry? We can divorce tomorrow

A marriage proposal with a rejection already built in. Typical.

That's not rejection. That's progress.

I'm not known for lasting long

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

As the late great Maya Angelou says:

Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

You need to establish if you are optional.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Thanks Tink - glad you're ok. Love you too

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"As the late great Maya Angelou says:

Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

You need to establish if you are optional.

An amazing woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know that my fb isn't into me. He says he'll call cpl days in a row & doesn't. He never comments on flirty msgs anymore oh & my new pics r just fab lol.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Hi Tink.

Hope all is okay? ((hugs))

In answer, I don't know. I find it hard to really understand if someone is *into* me, so I don't know how I'd be at computing that then going once I'd accepted it.

Thanks I am fine I guess I am just confused by how people can change

people usually show their true self when they feel comfortable to do so, but can keep an act up for quite some time beforehand.

sucks how they mess with your head that way but they know if they showed their true self they would not be as attractive initially and you wouldn't invest yourself in them.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Hi Tink.

Hope all is okay? ((hugs))

In answer, I don't know. I find it hard to really understand if someone is *into* me, so I don't know how I'd be at computing that then going once I'd accepted it.

Thanks I am fine I guess I am just confused by how people can change

people usually show their true self when they feel comfortable to do so, but can keep an act up for quite some time beforehand.

sucks how they mess with your head that way but they know if they showed their true self they would not be as attractive initially and you wouldn't invest yourself in them."

Yes, that's a good point, it can be a deception to start with. I would want to talk about what's going on with them, and if they won't be open about it I lose interest myself normally.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Hi Tink.

Hope all is okay? ((hugs))

In answer, I don't know. I find it hard to really understand if someone is *into* me, so I don't know how I'd be at computing that then going once I'd accepted it.

Thanks I am fine I guess I am just confused by how people can change

people usually show their true self when they feel comfortable to do so, but can keep an act up for quite some time beforehand.

sucks how they mess with your head that way but they know if they showed their true self they would not be as attractive initially and you wouldn't invest yourself in them.

Yes, that's a good point, it can be a deception to start with. I would want to talk about what's going on with them, and if they won't be open about it I lose interest myself normally.

i just let them have their freedom. never feel like fighting for someone who doesn't want me.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Hi Tink.

Hope all is okay? ((hugs))

In answer, I don't know. I find it hard to really understand if someone is *into* me, so I don't know how I'd be at computing that then going once I'd accepted it.

Thanks I am fine I guess I am just confused by how people can change

people usually show their true self when they feel comfortable to do so, but can keep an act up for quite some time beforehand.

sucks how they mess with your head that way but they know if they showed their true self they would not be as attractive initially and you wouldn't invest yourself in them.

Yes, that's a good point, it can be a deception to start with. I would want to talk about what's going on with them, and if they won't be open about it I lose interest myself normally.

i just let them have their freedom. never feel like fighting for someone who doesn't want me."

This. If I can't be number one, with my partner, I won't be number 2!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies and gents

What are the signs that your husband, boyfriend, lover, FB, Fwb just isn't that interested or into you anymore?

What do you do?"

Surely what you do next depends on if the person you are talking about is either your husband / boyfriend or more casual lover / FB / FWB...?!

I would think the signs / response would be different depending on how serious the relationship is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate that feeling. Really knocks the shit back up into your stomach.

Was having a great day yesterday and then someone today kind of knocked the confidence a wee bit and feel I've went back into my quiet shell.

I guess when you start to ask the question then the signs are already there

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you're uncertain, it may be that -

you're picking up their signals

you're hoping they are, as you've gone off them

you've got self-belief issues

There's a long list but there's a starter portion. Read my post from when this was originally posted too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate that feeling. Really knocks the shit back up into your stomach.

Was having a great day yesterday and then someone today kind of knocked the confidence a wee bit and feel I've went back into my quiet shell.

I guess when you start to ask the question then the signs are already there

Chin up. Hope you feel better today. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a horrible feeling esp when u put alot of effort in to receive absolutely nothing in return.

U ask the question but they just won't give u an answer. Ur kept dangling constantly knowing that ur not good enough.

Thats how i'm feeling atm.

Pen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Little bit of attention is always nice. Its not hard to give if still interested in someone.

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By *iss InnocenceWoman
over a year ago

Coventry/Bristol

Trust your gut feeling.when the txts and calls get less and less they more than likely talking/meeting someone else esp when u used to talk 20 times a day,when they makes excuses why they can't see u, and u know they lieing

At the end of the day u make time for the ppl u want to spend time wiv no matter how busy u are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you figure it out in ten wks op? You should know if he's I to you by now. I normally figure it out quicker than that, and I'm pretty hopeless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trust your gut feeling.when the txts and calls get less and less they more than likely talking/meeting someone else esp when u used to talk 20 times a day,when they makes excuses why they can't see u, and u know they lieing

At the end of the day u make time for the ppl u want to spend time wiv no matter how busy u are "

U hit the nail 100% on the head

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