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That first contact....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just wondered if there were any words of advice from fellow peers....on the best way forward when making the initial contact with people....your wise words will be greatly appreciated....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Also....to wink or not to wink...that is the question...are these utterly pointless?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

erm would suggest something creative, funny, to the point that is personal to that person. Perhaps comment of a photo or make a reference to their profile text. Its very much a personal thing,, that's the kind of message id prefer anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

winks can be pointless especially if someone says dont want winks, i encourage them as then know people like my profile and want to chat and hopefully from that meet.

always be polite in your messages and dont cut and paste, we all have done it when being lazy, it shows you are lazy and will be when meet up a little effort goes alongway. dont scatter gun but target the right people for you and be honest about who and what you are bi straight tv etc.

good luck

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

Just be yourself!!

Winks are ok, I just delete them myself, but do have a look at the profile, if I like the look of the profile pic, also have been known to wink back!!!

They are a good ice breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it short and sweet, that's all i can say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i tend not to take notice of winks but some do. Also a message shouldn't be war and peace, it should be specific to who you are sending it to and also if someone sends one they have read my profile and noted distance, age limits etc. After that you just have to make it individual and interesting and that has to come from you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks guys and girls...so in a nutshell...keep it punchy, to the point with a little wit thrown in....oh and keep it personal...

winks are like marmite from the sounds...either you love them or hate them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you find interesting then, Katie? :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i tend not to take notice of winks but some do. Also a message shouldn't be war and peace, it should be specific to who you are sending it to and also if someone sends one they have read my profile and noted distance, age limits etc. After that you just have to make it individual and interesting and that has to come from you. "

i did that and u ignored me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to make statements. I find it difficult to reply to emails that say I like your profile/mouth/smile/tits so I tend not too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be respectfull too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And for the love of god, dont copy and paste it in every message you send!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not send one of them cut and paste letters like some do here ....... puts people right of meeting if thay feel your sending it out to everyone same lettter. Take time to wright 4 or 5 lines and like some others say be respectfull ... and truthfull about what your looking for xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like something to me, be it something gleaned from my profile or something witty. I quite like a long message, makes a change from the hi how are you type

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Play hard to get.

My lack of sending PMs must be driving the chicks mad by now! I've only been on here a year and I think it's just a matter of time before I receive my first message.

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By *ojo1964Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I have a lot "Been Read" does that mean people are interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also....to wink or not to wink...that is the question...are these utterly pointless?"

to wink gets blocked here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find the inclusion of a face pic can go a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like some good advice, have given it a go this evening and its looking good.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I like threads when people ask for good advice in a good way! Top marks!

Read the profiles and if you're not what the person is looking for then don't contact them cause "if you don't ask, you don't get", take their preferences on board and find someone who does have boxes you can tick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just wondered if there were any words of advice from fellow peers....on the best way forward when making the initial contact with people....your wise words will be greatly appreciated...."

Make up a really long generic message with some googled porn in it and cut and paste to everyone you can

Ok seriously pay people complements, read profiles and comment on things and be yourself because that's who they want to meet.

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