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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Being a single woman on here I feel safety is a huge barrier, I was wondering how other single women tackle this problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on as a total single girl I always had a friend know when I had a meet even a social, or went to swingers clubs and if you chat to staff they will always look out for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was well confused as you come up as a couple.

Personally I spend a lot of time chatting and getting to know a potential meet. I meet socially somewhere very public and have a safety text buddy who knows where I am. Obviously that still doesn't 100% guarantee my safety but I think it helps minimise being in an unsafe situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See im probably farrrrrrr to open for my own good.

Folk know my name, im friends with several people from here on facebook, ive given out my number..

Think im just dead lucky with stuff

Ive not met properly for a very long time but would always let people know where im going. I actually was honest with my mum when i started on here aged 22 and would be straight with her. Never went into details obviously.

One of my best mates is a landlady of a pub and are also on here,, so thats my safe place for social meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I used to meet with a friend but not anymore since i put that on my profile fab decided it was a couple profile. This us no longer the case but unable to put as single profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to meet with a friend but not anymore since i put that on my profile fab decided it was a couple profile. This us no longer the case but unable to put as single profile. "

You can get it altered if you ask admin.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

As a man, safety issues come up also, as you just do t know whether you're meeting a genuine person or a group of thugs out to gay bash. So, I have also notified a close friend whenever I was meeting someone and he had the phone feature to share location. We had a code that if I messaged, it would be to confirm everywas ok or if it was asking a blatantly obviously wrong message, that something was wrong. I always trusted instinct though and tried to meet in a public place to suss out personality face to face.

I believe there are sites and apps which you can join where everyone helps each other as an anonymous friend. I don't have experience of them, but in theory, the good ones are a good idea.

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By *oyuer99Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

Safety issues effect all of us, similar issues inviting people into my home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk to people for a while before I meet, someone always knows where I am and who I with (I often use the excuse that it's from a dating site). I make sure we meet in a public place and that there's a mutual acknowledgment that it's primarily a social only but open to more if both are happy. Also, the people I meet come to my town so I can always make a safe getaway if needs be - I haven't had to yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im lucky enough that My Partner lets me play alone so he always knows where i am..have you got a friend who knows what you do so you could tell them where you are meeting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good idea to let someone know where you going and if they should be worried if you don't return/answer calls after a certain amount of time.

Meeting strangers online will never be safe whether it's just for a social or something more.

People may appear nice and friendly at first and then when you're one on one with them they reveal their true selfs.

I recommend carrying pepper spray

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im lucky enough that My Partner lets me play alone so he always knows where i am..have you got a friend who knows what you do so you could tell them where you are meeting?"

Yeah I do I think meeting in public is a must. Surprising how many men just want to meet in my home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a man, safety issues come up also, as you just do t know whether you're meeting a genuine person or a group of thugs out to gay bash. So, I have also notified a close friend whenever I was meeting someone and he had the phone feature to share location. We had a code that if I messaged, it would be to confirm everywas ok or if it was asking a blatantly obviously wrong message, that something was wrong. I always trusted instinct though and tried to meet in a public place to suss out personality face to face.

I believe there are sites and apps which you can join where everyone helps each other as an anonymous friend. I don't have experience of them, but in theory, the good ones are a good idea. "

Definitely everyone on here needs to consider their safety regardless of gender.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I like to chat for a while online first to get a feel for someone,I just hope there's more people than not like myself that are pretty sane and not out to cause harm. I think we can be a little too paranoid at time's,just use your instincts. We can never be a 100% sure of someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When meeting for the first time I always suggest/offer a lady the option to meet in a public place of her choosing so that she feels safe and can leave anytime she chooses. That said I have been invited straight to her place on the first meet and pretty much pulled through the door....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to chat for a while online first to get a feel for someone,I just hope there's more people than not like myself that are pretty sane and not out to cause harm. I think we can be a little too paranoid at time's,just use your instincts. We can never be a 100% sure of someone."

I always prefer to chat, usually for quite a while, so that we really get a good idea of whether we are going to click if and when we meet.Flirty chat is also fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a man, safety issues come up also, as you just do t know whether you're meeting a genuine person or a group of thugs out to gay bash. So, I have also notified a close friend whenever I was meeting someone and he had the phone feature to share location. We had a code that if I messaged, it would be to confirm everywas ok or if it was asking a blatantly obviously wrong message, that something was wrong. I always trusted instinct though and tried to meet in a public place to suss out personality face to face.

I believe there are sites and apps which you can join where everyone helps each other as an anonymous friend. I don't have experience of them, but in theory, the good ones are a good idea.

Definitely everyone on here needs to consider their safety regardless of gender. "

True, men have been set up for some kind of robbery or other sting by a pretty lady/honey trap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel we all have are guard up when meeting someone for the first time but what if a regular meet suddenly turns nasty?

I've heard some horrible stories from women here regarding regular meets going very badly wrong. I try and trust my instincts and if something feels wrong I won't meet.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"It's good idea to let someone know where you going and if they should be worried if you don't return/answer calls after a certain amount of time.

Meeting strangers online will never be safe whether it's just for a social or something more.

People may appear nice and friendly at first and then when you're one on one with them they reveal their true selfs.

I recommend carrying pepper spray "

But bat shit crazy is difficult to hide for long and can generally be spotted with prolonged messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's good idea to let someone know where you going and if they should be worried if you don't return/answer calls after a certain amount of time.

Meeting strangers online will never be safe whether it's just for a social or something more.

People may appear nice and friendly at first and then when you're one on one with them they reveal their true selfs.

I recommend carrying pepper spray

But bat shit crazy is difficult to hide for long and can generally be spotted with prolonged messaging "

Yeah...tell that to Ted Bundy victims.

Psychopaths can be very intelligent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a single woman on here I feel safety is a huge barrier, I was wondering how other single women tackle this problem."
.Too me safety is very important. I need to chat with someone for a while and meet in a public place. Why do some men on here expect sex on first meet? Have had to fight a man off. I need to feel safe and comfortable with a man first. Before I even think I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a single woman on here I feel safety is a huge barrier, I was wondering how other single women tackle this problem..Too me safety is very important. I need to chat with someone for a while and meet in a public place. Why do some men on here expect sex on first meet? Have had to fight a man off. I need to feel safe and comfortable with a man first. Before I even think I will. "

That shouldn't happen having to fight someone off. Problem is even if you report it, there's little that can be done about it I guess. This is where a bad veri would be useful but then it wouldn't be displayed. That's the loophole in the whole veri system.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being a single woman on here I feel safety is a huge barrier, I was wondering how other single women tackle this problem..Too me safety is very important. I need to chat with someone for a while and meet in a public place. Why do some men on here expect sex on first meet? Have had to fight a man off. I need to feel safe and comfortable with a man first. Before I even think I will. "

I totally agree and gave also had a really nasty experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a single woman on here I feel safety is a huge barrier, I was wondering how other single women tackle this problem..Too me safety is very important. I need to chat with someone for a while and meet in a public place. Why do some men on here expect sex on first meet? Have had to fight a man off. I need to feel safe and comfortable with a man first. Before I even think I will.

I blocked and reported . But he is still on here. I would have left a truthful veri but that is not an option .

That shouldn't happen having to fight someone off. Problem is even if you report it, there's little that can be done about it I guess. This is where a bad veri would be useful but then it wouldn't be displayed. That's the loophole in the whole veri system."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's bad. Some men view women on here as just pieces of meat. Just intended for their pleasure.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I always chat for a while before meeting for a social in a coffee place or pub. My women's intuition is pretty good but nothing is 100% It's scary tbh

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"It's good idea to let someone know where you going and if they should be worried if you don't return/answer calls after a certain amount of time.

Meeting strangers online will never be safe whether it's just for a social or something more.

People may appear nice and friendly at first and then when you're one on one with them they reveal their true selfs.

I recommend carrying pepper spray

But bat shit crazy is difficult to hide for long and can generally be spotted with prolonged messaging

Yeah...tell that to Ted Bundy victims.

Psychopaths can be very intelligent."

There are signs and traits etc, I never said messaging was foolproof but it's a very good tool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meet first for a coffee. I also trust my gut instinct too.

I had a bad experience on another site that lead to some drama so i'm very wary these days, unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a single woman on here I feel safety is a huge barrier, I was wondering how other single women tackle this problem."

I never accommodate first meet and always tell my best friend where I am going. I've been on site since summer 2015 and happy to report I've had lots of successful meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always tell my best friend, and always meet socially first. That's about the gist of it? And talk for a long time before meets as it gives you a better idea of who they are

But always tell someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few guys have given me their full name to check on facebook before meeting.

If you get someone's number you can put that in facebook too to search for them.

Of course people can make up fake accounts etc but more often than not we have at least 1 mutual friend if local. Makes me feel a little safer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always tell my best friend, and always meet socially first. That's about the gist of it? And talk for a long time before meets as it gives you a better idea of who they are

But always tell someone "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was single I really didn’t think about my safety ever, I went to guys houses alone and didn’t tell anyone where I was going, looking back I took a huge risk.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs and socials are the safest and most clubs will keep an eye out on you and ring taxis etc.. also having a safe call in place telling someone where your going etc texting when get there and check up text or safe msg when you get home.

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