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" Do we really need to discuss this?" Well you started the thread! People are allowed their preferences which may be based on many factors - taste, previous experience or yes, in some instances, pure prejudice! If you find it distasteful use it as a filter and block them. As an aside, should anyone asking for 'BBC only' also not be allowed to express their preference? | |||
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" Do we really need to discuss this?" Again ? Probably not. | |||
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" Some people aren't attracted to black people, in the same way others aren't attracted to short people but I don't see anyone standing up for the little guy" | |||
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"Who are you to tell people how they should act on here. I would imagine people get ALOT of unwanted mail, especially the single women. Some people don't find others with different skin tones, body types etc attractive, so what? Its entirely up to that individual. It doesn't make someone a racist just because they don't fancy someone with a certain skin tone. You mentioned they should just block and move on, maybe you should block the people that have this on their profile and you can move on " | |||
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"I don't think it's that bad an issue. People have their preferences, and stating them on their profiles to avoid wasting anyone's time and effort shouldn't be seen as a necessarily bad thing. Some people aren't attracted to black people, in the same way others aren't attracted to short people but I don't see anyone standing up for the little guy" I agree with that. | |||
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"I don't think it's that bad an issue. People have their preferences, and stating them on their profiles to avoid wasting anyone's time and effort shouldn't be seen as a necessarily bad thing. Some people aren't attracted to black people, in the same way others aren't attracted to short people but I don't see anyone standing up for the little guy I agree with that." People write something like "Looking for men over 6ft" I haven't seen anyone writing "No short men!!" | |||
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"I read a comment on another thread just now that I think applies here. Basically it said that if you restrict your choices to to those you actually want its a good thing and I agree. I wonder what the op would suggest the owners of BBC only profiles get tattooed on their forehead." Look up mudshark on Urban Dictionary. | |||
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"TIME FOR A RANT: Why do you feel it's necessary to make statements about racial preferences on your profile? Fair enough, we're all attracted to different things, but what one finds sexy is deeply personal and surely it is not merely a question of colour or ethnicity? If someone you don't like the look of contacts you, the decent thing to do is either politely decline, ignore or block them; whatever their race may be. The point is that you just don't fancy them for whatever reason, so why must you make an issue of their colour? Why display so much hostility toward an entire race of people, so publicly? Why not just get a swastika tattooed to your forehead? Racial prejudice is not cool and never has been. Do we really need to discuss this?" Nope. End of thread. _____________ | |||
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"TIME FOR A RANT: Why do you feel it's necessary to make statements about racial preferences on your profile? Fair enough, we're all attracted to different things, but what one finds sexy is deeply personal and surely it is not merely a question of colour or ethnicity? If someone you don't like the look of contacts you, the decent thing to do is either politely decline, ignore or block them; whatever their race may be. The point is that you just don't fancy them for whatever reason, so why must you make an issue of their colour? Why display so much hostility toward an entire race of people, so publicly? Why not just get a swastika tattooed to your forehead? Racial prejudice is not cool and never has been. Do we really need to discuss this?" this is an age old criticism but here its really just about limiting messages ,these people probably say no beards but really love tatts and bald heads and football shirts ,its generalising for the sake of it ,I hate the saying 'it acts like a filter,youre blocked' but here it does and you are | |||
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"I read a comment on another thread just now that I think applies here. Basically it said that if you restrict your choices to to those you actually want its a good thing and I agree. I wonder what the op would suggest the owners of BBC only profiles get tattooed on their forehead. Look up mudshark on Urban Dictionary. " Whoa! | |||
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" Do we really need to discuss this? Well you started the thread! People are allowed their preferences which may be based on many factors - taste, previous experience or yes, in some instances, pure prejudice! If you find it distasteful use it as a filter and block them. As an aside, should anyone asking for 'BBC only' also not be allowed to express their preference? " . I noticed that as well! Incredbeblay | |||
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"I read a comment on another thread just now that I think applies here. Basically it said that if you restrict your choices to to those you actually want its a good thing and I agree. I wonder what the op would suggest the owners of BBC only profiles get tattooed on their forehead. Look up mudshark on Urban Dictionary. Whoa! " I know, I know. I saw it on a thread a few weeks ago and I looked it up out of curiosity. Deeply unpleasant. | |||
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"I find it's alway's more polite to say what you do like rather than what you don't." blimey a sensible answer OP despite the clumsy language for those receiving lots of messages, restricting through profile preferences can be of service to both sides. My profile states I am not meeting anyone, that in itself does not make me prejudiced against the entire human race. | |||
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" blimey a sensible answer " Blimey. I'm glad I never get accused of that. | |||
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"Who are you to tell people how they should act on here. I would imagine people get ALOT of unwanted mail, especially the single women. Some people don't find others with different skin tones, body types etc attractive, so what? Its entirely up to that individual. It doesn't make someone a racist just because they don't fancy someone with a certain skin tone. You mentioned they should just block and move on, maybe you should block the people that have this on their profile and you can move on " | |||
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" blimey a sensible answer Blimey. I'm glad I never get accused of that. " Yes are you feeling well Racheal? | |||
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"I find it's alway's more polite to say what you do like rather than what you don't." | |||
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"Look up mudshark on Urban Dictionary. " Well I learnt something new today | |||
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"I don't think it's that bad an issue. People have their preferences, and stating them on their profiles to avoid wasting anyone's time and effort shouldn't be seen as a necessarily bad thing. Some people aren't attracted to black people, in the same way others aren't attracted to short people but I don't see anyone standing up for the little guy" | |||
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"Ahhh, but what about white women who only meet black men OP? Would you consider that racist? Personally I think judging ANYONE on their skin colour is ridiculous - I judge a person on who they are as a person." Or black women who only meet white men, like myself. Why do people assume it's racist/ridiculous if you have a racial preference? What about fantasy? My ex-husband, father of my children is black. I only meet high flying older white submissive men. My other half, who I met on here can't even pronounce "submissive, he's a white Dutch plumber, he just made a comment about my profile and it blossomed from there. My playmates are always in control and relish handing over sexual responsibility to me. How I play my playmates have to be a specific type. Bi, married, short, fat, dominant men are also excluded...no "phobias", "isms" or judgement...just looking for like minded playmates. Some people do have "issues", some lack the intelligence to express what they want without being offensive, but surely it saves time if you state what you want? It's far too easy to automatically assume it's racist. | |||
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"I find it's alway's more polite to say what you do like rather than what you don't." I like big butts, and i cannot lie. ( although that's not strictly true ). | |||
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"I don't see what the difference is between stating a colour preference as same as stating a height, weight, gender even. It does not make someone racist because they state they won't play with someone of a different race. i don't like guys having huge cock does that make me cockist, I don't sleep with people 60+ does that make me ageist? No, it's a preference and it's a persons choice what they choose to write on their profile. If you don't like it move to the next profile. " | |||
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"If folk wish to state it, let them. You can just use it as a filter " Exactly! | |||
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"I don't see what the difference is between stating a colour preference as same as stating a height, weight, gender even. It does not make someone racist because they state they won't play with someone of a different race. i don't like guys having huge cock does that make me cockist, I don't sleep with people 60+ does that make me ageist? No, it's a preference and it's a persons choice what they choose to write on their profile. If you don't like it move to the next profile. " | |||
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"TIME FOR A RANT: Why do you feel it's necessary to make statements about racial preferences on your profile? Fair enough, we're all attracted to different things, but what one finds sexy is deeply personal and surely it is not merely a question of colour or ethnicity? If someone you don't like the look of contacts you, the decent thing to do is either politely decline, ignore or block them; whatever their race may be. The point is that you just don't fancy them for whatever reason, so why must you make an issue of their colour? Why display so much hostility toward an entire race of people, so publicly? Why not just get a swastika tattooed to your forehead? Racial prejudice is not cool and never has been. Do we really need to discuss this?" Why not get "Bi" tattooed on your forehead seeing as you state you are ONLY looking for bi guys on your profile OP? Why are you allowed to have this preference and you object to other people having their preferences? | |||
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"TIME FOR A RANT: Why do you feel it's necessary to make statements about racial preferences on your profile? Fair enough, we're all attracted to different things, but what one finds sexy is deeply personal and surely it is not merely a question of colour or ethnicity? If someone you don't like the look of contacts you, the decent thing to do is either politely decline, ignore or block them; whatever their race may be. The point is that you just don't fancy them for whatever reason, so why must you make an issue of their colour? Why display so much hostility toward an entire race of people, so publicly? Why not just get a swastika tattooed to your forehead? Racial prejudice is not cool and never has been. Do we really need to discuss this? Why not get "Bi" tattooed on your forehead seeing as you state you are ONLY looking for bi guys on your profile OP? Why are you allowed to have this preference and you object to other people having their preferences? " It's different for girls. | |||
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"Experience tells me that this is an age old argument and frankly I do not think it will be resolved any time soon. Objectively speaking I can see the merits of both sides of the argument, but subjectively I cannot say that my swinging experience is necessarily better for it. " Best comment I've seen in a long time | |||
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"People will write what they want on their own profiles. It's their profile and they are entitled to state what they are looking for and what they are not looking for. Preferences come in all shapes and forms on here be it height, weight, skin colour, eye colour, hair colour or bald or not bald, shaven body, hairy body, etc..... If you find yourself excluded for what ever reason then simply move on, plenty more profiles where you will fit the preferences. No amount of whinging and moaning on here is going to change anyone else's profile. " Yes, ofcourse people are entitled to write what they want. And equally so, we're entitled to rant about something that irks us. We're not interested in those who feel they need to state their racial preference on their profile so it's not about us feeling excluded - you're completely missing the point. | |||
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" blimey a sensible answer Blimey. I'm glad I never get accused of that. Yes are you feeling well Racheal? " I am. Where would you like feeling? | |||
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"Fancy a meet OP?" No Clem, no they don't. | |||
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"TIME FOR A RANT: Why do you feel it's necessary to make statements about racial preferences on your profile? Fair enough, we're all attracted to different things, but what one finds sexy is deeply personal and surely it is not merely a question of colour or ethnicity? If someone you don't like the look of contacts you, the decent thing to do is either politely decline, ignore or block them; whatever their race may be. The point is that you just don't fancy them for whatever reason, so why must you make an issue of their colour? Why display so much hostility toward an entire race of people, so publicly? Why not just get a swastika tattooed to your forehead? Racial prejudice is not cool and never has been. Do we really need to discuss this?" Finally someone is talking sense | |||
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"Fancy a meet OP? No Clem, no they don't. " . I've got a bit of Filipino in me if your interested! | |||
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"Let's not pretend there won't be racists, homophobes etc on here. Anyone looking like that could be them are making it easy for us to avoid them. I've met more than one person from here who, after chatting for ages and having sex with, has come out with racist and /or homophobic talk. Too late to avoid. " | |||
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