FabSwingers.com forum: For those with profiles stating racial preferences

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

TIME FOR A RANT: Why do you feel it's necessary to make statements about racial preferences on your profile? Fair enough, we're all attracted to different things, but what one finds sexy is deeply personal and surely it is not merely a question of colour or ethnicity? If someone you don't like the look of contacts you, the decent thing to do is either politely decline, ignore or block them; whatever their race may be. The point is that you just don't fancy them for whatever reason, so why must you make an issue of their colour? Why display so much hostility toward an entire race of people, so publicly? Why not just get a swastika tattooed to your forehead? Racial prejudice is not cool and never has been. Do we really need to discuss this?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Couldn't agree more with you. Don't know how you can disregard a whole race from being attractive.

But you'll get the my preference argument.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Suppose it can be a good thing,it shows you who to avoid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Do we really need to discuss this?"

Well you started the thread!

People are allowed their preferences which may be based on many factors - taste, previous experience or yes, in some instances, pure prejudice!

If you find it distasteful use it as a filter and block them.

As an aside, should anyone asking for 'BBC only' also not be allowed to express their preference?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Hi OP! Welcome to the lounge firstly.

If you search for threads on this very subject, you'll find preference cited as being the main reason for doing so however right or wrong that may be.

Yeah, it's frustrating for myself personally but I take joy in turning down those who have such things on their profiles - they aren't the type I want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's that bad an issue. People have their preferences, and stating them on their profiles to avoid wasting anyone's time and effort shouldn't be seen as a necessarily bad thing.

Some people aren't attracted to black people, in the same way others aren't attracted to short people but I don't see anyone standing up for the little guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read my profile lol

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

" Do we really need to discuss this?"

Again ? Probably not.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Some people aren't attracted to black people, in the same way others aren't attracted to short people but I don't see anyone standing up for the little guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who are you to tell people how they should act on here.

I would imagine people get ALOT of unwanted mail, especially the single women. Some people don't find others with different skin tones, body types etc attractive, so what? Its entirely up to that individual.

It doesn't make someone a racist just because they don't fancy someone with a certain skin tone.

You mentioned they should just block and move on, maybe you should block the people that have this on their profile and you can move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who are you to tell people how they should act on here.

It doesn't make someone a racist just because they don't fancy someone with a certain skin tone.

You mentioned they should just block and move on, maybe you should block the people that have this on their profile and you can move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefer someone to have no middle aged, over weight, white women on their profile, if I would be wasting my time messaging them.

If a man stated black or Asian women only, I would know not to message. It's useful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh, but what about white women who only meet black men OP? Would you consider that racist?

Personally I think judging ANYONE on their skin colour is ridiculous - I judge a person on who they are as a person.

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By *ig_will_11Man
over a year ago

town

"I don't think it's that bad an issue. People have their preferences, and stating them on their profiles to avoid wasting anyone's time and effort shouldn't be seen as a necessarily bad thing.

Some people aren't attracted to black people, in the same way others aren't attracted to short people but I don't see anyone standing up for the little guy

I agree with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally see it no differently to people who graphically state that they won't meet fat ( their words ) people, on their profile.

It's borderline discrimination but they get away with it you know why ?

Because they're seeking adult fun something the vast majority of the population don't.

If you're offended it's tough I'm afraid that's just the way it is.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I agree with the OP that if you find someone unattractive, whether its because of their age, colour, body shape, or anything, the best things to do is state 'no thanks' or delete, without having a big banner on your profile to rile up the people you are not interested in.

However, people are people, and trying to force them to change will just end up with them biting back. Use it as a filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If folk wish to state it, let them. You can just use it as a filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it's that bad an issue. People have their preferences, and stating them on their profiles to avoid wasting anyone's time and effort shouldn't be seen as a necessarily bad thing.

Some people aren't attracted to black people, in the same way others aren't attracted to short people but I don't see anyone standing up for the little guy

I agree with that."

People write something like "Looking for men over 6ft" I haven't seen anyone writing "No short men!!"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I read a comment on another thread just now that I think applies here. Basically it said that if you restrict your choices to to those you actually want its a good thing and I agree.

I wonder what the op would suggest the owners of BBC only profiles get tattooed on their forehead.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I find it's alway's more polite to say what you do like rather than what you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read a comment on another thread just now that I think applies here. Basically it said that if you restrict your choices to to those you actually want its a good thing and I agree.

I wonder what the op would suggest the owners of BBC only profiles get tattooed on their forehead."

Look up mudshark on Urban Dictionary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"TIME FOR A RANT: Why do you feel it's necessary to make statements about racial preferences on your profile? Fair enough, we're all attracted to different things, but what one finds sexy is deeply personal and surely it is not merely a question of colour or ethnicity? If someone you don't like the look of contacts you, the decent thing to do is either politely decline, ignore or block them; whatever their race may be. The point is that you just don't fancy them for whatever reason, so why must you make an issue of their colour? Why display so much hostility toward an entire race of people, so publicly? Why not just get a swastika tattooed to your forehead? Racial prejudice is not cool and never has been. Do we really need to discuss this?"

Nope.

End of thread. _____________

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Some people aren't remotely attracted to anyone with dark or pale skin so they state what they don't want to increase the chances of not having unnecessary messages

But I know exactly what your saying it's nicer to just not say it and disregard the messages you don't want from people you're not attracted to

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over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I read a comment on another thread just now that I think applies here. Basically it said that if you restrict your choices to to those you actually want its a good thing and I agree.

I wonder what the op would suggest the owners of BBC only profiles get tattooed on their forehead.

Look up mudshark on Urban Dictionary.

Whoa!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Do we really need to discuss this?

Well you started the thread!

People are allowed their preferences which may be based on many factors - taste, previous experience or yes, in some instances, pure prejudice!

If you find it distasteful use it as a filter and block them.

As an aside, should anyone asking for 'BBC only' also not be allowed to express their preference? "
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I noticed that as well!

Incredbeblay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read a comment on another thread just now that I think applies here. Basically it said that if you restrict your choices to to those you actually want its a good thing and I agree.

I wonder what the op would suggest the owners of BBC only profiles get tattooed on their forehead.

Look up mudshark on Urban Dictionary.

Whoa!

I know, I know.

I saw it on a thread a few weeks ago and I looked it up out of curiosity. Deeply unpleasant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it's alway's more polite to say what you do like rather than what you don't."

blimey a sensible answer

OP despite the clumsy language for those receiving lots of messages, restricting through profile preferences can be of service to both sides.

My profile states I am not meeting anyone, that in itself does not make me prejudiced against the entire human race.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blimey a sensible answer

Blimey. I'm glad I never get accused of that.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

This topic again...

How come it's almost always from a certain group of colour that bring this matter up.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Who are you to tell people how they should act on here.

It doesn't make someone a racist just because they don't fancy someone with a certain skin tone.

You mentioned they should just block and move on, maybe you should block the people that have this on their profile and you can move on

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

blimey a sensible answer

Blimey. I'm glad I never get accused of that.

Yes are you feeling well Racheal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it's alway's more polite to say what you do like rather than what you don't."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look up mudshark on Urban Dictionary.

Well I learnt something new today

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I don't think it's that bad an issue. People have their preferences, and stating them on their profiles to avoid wasting anyone's time and effort shouldn't be seen as a necessarily bad thing.

Some people aren't attracted to black people, in the same way others aren't attracted to short people but I don't see anyone standing up for the little guy

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ahhh, but what about white women who only meet black men OP? Would you consider that racist?

Personally I think judging ANYONE on their skin colour is ridiculous - I judge a person on who they are as a person."

Or black women who only meet white men, like myself.

Why do people assume it's racist/ridiculous if you have a racial preference?

What about fantasy?

My ex-husband, father of my children is black. I only meet high flying older white submissive men. My other half, who I met on here can't even pronounce "submissive, he's a white Dutch plumber, he just made a comment about my profile and it blossomed from there.

My playmates are always in control and relish handing over sexual responsibility to me. How I play my playmates have to be a specific type. Bi, married, short, fat, dominant men are also excluded...no "phobias", "isms" or judgement...just looking for like minded playmates.

Some people do have "issues", some lack the intelligence to express what they want without being offensive, but surely it saves time if you state what you want?

It's far too easy to automatically assume it's racist.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I find it's alway's more polite to say what you do like rather than what you don't."

I like big butts, and i cannot lie. ( although that's not strictly true ).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally prefer white dick, always have and I always will, it's not stated on my profile as I'm not on here looking to meet anyone, now if I was to state on my profile "BBC not interested, not going to happen, ewwwww" as a person of colour myself does that make me a racist, no, it's me making a reference to what I do and do not like. Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see what the difference is between stating a colour preference as same as stating a height, weight, gender even. It does not make someone racist because they state they won't play with someone of a different race. i don't like guys having huge cock does that make me cockist, I don't sleep with people 60+ does that make me ageist?

No, it's a preference and it's a persons choice what they choose to write on their profile. If you don't like it move to the next profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see what the difference is between stating a colour preference as same as stating a height, weight, gender even. It does not make someone racist because they state they won't play with someone of a different race. i don't like guys having huge cock does that make me cockist, I don't sleep with people 60+ does that make me ageist?

No, it's a preference and it's a persons choice what they choose to write on their profile. If you don't like it move to the next profile. "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If folk wish to state it, let them. You can just use it as a filter

Exactly!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

No, it's a preference and it's a persons choice what they choose to write on their profile. If you don't like it move to the next profile. "

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Everyone is here for their own reasons, you have no idea of their personal life and experiences.

Some people discount alsorts. We discount men from contacting us. Guess that makes us sexist.

Other discount young, old. Ageism.

If you are looking for a specific type then I see no reason to waste peoples time.

People using words like nazi are under playing the seriousness of what nazism is.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

People will write what they want on their own profiles. It's their profile and they are entitled to state what they are looking for and what they are not looking for. Preferences come in all shapes and forms on here be it height, weight, skin colour, eye colour, hair colour or bald or not bald, shaven body, hairy body, etc.....

If you find yourself excluded for what ever reason then simply move on, plenty more profiles where you will fit the preferences. No amount of whinging and moaning on here is going to change anyone else's profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Experience tells me that this is an age old argument and frankly I do not think it will be resolved any time soon. Objectively speaking I can see the merits of both sides of the argument, but subjectively I cannot say that my swinging experience is necessarily better for it.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

Why not get "Bi" tattooed on your forehead seeing as you state you are ONLY looking for bi guys on your profile OP?

Why are you allowed to have this preference and you object to other people having their preferences?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Why not get "Bi" tattooed on your forehead seeing as you state you are ONLY looking for bi guys on your profile OP?

Why are you allowed to have this preference and you object to other people having their preferences? "

It's different for girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Experience tells me that this is an age old argument and frankly I do not think it will be resolved any time soon. Objectively speaking I can see the merits of both sides of the argument, but subjectively I cannot say that my swinging experience is necessarily better for it. "

Best comment I've seen in a long time

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Fancy a meet OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People will write what they want on their own profiles. It's their profile and they are entitled to state what they are looking for and what they are not looking for. Preferences come in all shapes and forms on here be it height, weight, skin colour, eye colour, hair colour or bald or not bald, shaven body, hairy body, etc.....

Yes, ofcourse people are entitled to write what they want. And equally so, we're entitled to rant about something that irks us. We're not interested in those who feel they need to state their racial preference on their profile so it's not about us feeling excluded - you're completely missing the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blimey a sensible answer

Blimey. I'm glad I never get accused of that.

Yes are you feeling well Racheal? "

I am. Where would you like feeling?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Fancy a meet OP?"

No Clem, no they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's not pretend there won't be racists, homophobes etc on here. Anyone looking like that could be them are making it easy for us to avoid them.

I've met more than one person from here who, after chatting for ages and having sex with, has come out with racist and /or homophobic talk. Too late to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because its my profile and my choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

couldn't agree more! if anything its a great filter.

if some woman wants a BBC (most of the London ladies do, that's their prerogative) I simply don't message them. Quite easy when you think about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's plenty of dicks to go around, figuratively and literally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finally someone is talking sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a social point of view, I find having something on your profile stating racial preferences incredibly insensitive and prejudicial. Yes, it may be preference, but from my point of view, racial preference is very different from body size/shape/height.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fancy a meet OP?

No Clem, no they don't. "
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I've got a bit of Filipino in me if your interested!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let's not pretend there won't be racists, homophobes etc on here. Anyone looking like that could be them are making it easy for us to avoid them.

I've met more than one person from here who, after chatting for ages and having sex with, has come out with racist and /or homophobic talk. Too late to avoid. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

use it as an additional filter - i know some things on profiles make me say no thanks to myself before i even go there

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