FabSwingers.com forum: Emotional Eating

By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Is there anyone that really does struggle with this as I'm a big emotional eater and I'm really struggling to kick my arse back into gear and stop myself

Long story short my grandad passed away a little over a month ago and my life as been a spiralling down the shitter ever since, so I keep shovelling in that crap as a coping mechanism. I've worked so hard to loose weight and get in shape and with my PCOS I pile weight on if I'm not busting my arse to keep/get it off

So any suggestions that may help? As giving my own head a wobble seems to work for all 5 minutes.

Honestly feeling totally shit with it all

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Can you try doing something else, like colouring in or getting a fidget toy?

I've been eating too much since my mother died. We need to address the grief to control the eating. We know it's in our heads.

Stop beating yourself up about it, get back to making changes and don't sabotage yourself further with the old lie that once you've fallen off the wagon you might as well keep going.

I hope you fell better soon.

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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

Mine's boredom eating. I'm so knackered when I get in from work, I can't face going out again. I used to love swimming and yoga, and I know it'll give me more energy, but I just want to eat and sleep!

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By *uimlickerCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Just change one thing at a time as a lot of small changes seems less daunting than diving in head first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to constantly distract myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try drinking more water firstly, that will help you feel fuller. And take each day but by bit. If you have a bad day then the next is a fresh day. Try unsweetened popcorn as well to snack on, even better if you can make it fresh. The less sugar you have the less you will want it. X

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Can you try doing something else, like colouring in or getting a fidget toy?

I've been eating too much since my mother died. We need to address the grief to control the eating. We know it's in our heads.

Stop beating yourself up about it, get back to making changes and don't sabotage yourself further with the old lie that once you've fallen off the wagon you might as well keep going.

I hope you fell better soon.

I used to really like cross stitching but not really done any since having the kids, as they keep me so busy

My running used to help if I had any problems I used to just, stick on shorts and a t-shirt, put on my headphones and just pound out my problems on the pavement for a few miles, but since having my knee surgery earlier this year and a recent illness, I just can't run like I could before I'm still building myself back up

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Mine's boredom eating. I'm so knackered when I get in from work, I can't face going out again. I used to love swimming and yoga, and I know it'll give me more energy, but I just want to eat and sleep!"

I'm sure boredom eating is just as big of an issue for some

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Just change one thing at a time as a lot of small changes seems less daunting than diving in head first."

Starting a food diary up tomorrow if I have to write stuff down before eating it, it may just stop me from eating it

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Try drinking more water firstly, that will help you feel fuller. And take each day but by bit. If you have a bad day then the next is a fresh day. Try unsweetened popcorn as well to snack on, even better if you can make it fresh. The less sugar you have the less you will want it. X "

I always drink lots of water but still doesn't help me much at the moment, I feelfull from the glass of water but then eat the bad of crisps out of sheer greed/comfort craving (I'm more of a savoury person that a sweet one)

Not a massive fan of popcorn but thanks for the suggestions

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I have to constantly distract myself

Shit, ain't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep moving.. And stop the crisps.

Eat cherry tomatoes instead!

Grief hasn't a time limit.

Don't be too hard on yourself.

Bad day?

Start back on track the next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm an emotional eater. I eat both when I'm really happy and really sad. I find distracting myself by doing other things is the best thing for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain. Worked really hard to lose weight last year and a combination of personal events knocked me about emotionally in March so gained nearly a stone since then. Even though I am aware of the triggers, I feel a bit powerless currently xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there anyone that really does struggle with this as I'm a big emotional eater and I'm really struggling to kick my arse back into gear and stop myself

So any suggestions that may help? As giving my own head a wobble seems to work for all 5 minutes.

Honestly feeling totally shit with it all

This is me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I startee comfort eating when my dad then my best friend died within months. It cut me up so badly.

Now i'm dieting.....i have good days and bad days but so does everyone. Treat yourself once in a while and dont be hard on yourself if you have a bad day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knocked the on the head by thinking 'Im bored of this'

Every time I got half way through a splif,maybe even after a few drags I would start thinking 'this is boring,why am I doing this?'

Now Im doing the same with drinking. Weed or beer,its a routine thing and it became routine,like work which is boring!

Find a focus to replace the eating like I did with the and beer. I restored a motorbike when I ditched the as I focused my time and money on research,finding parts and building it. Bored of ,in love with a Kawasaki instead. And something brilliant to show for it.

Now Im on the second restoration project and my focus is not so much on having a beer but the new bike. Yes I still like a beer but tonight I have had 2 stubby bottles instead of an 8 pack,some nights nothing at all which goes to show that the beer got boring but a Suzuki aint!

Just find that one distraction,something to get lost and engrossed in and hopefully you just may get bored of comfort eating and have something big or small to show for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I'm an emotional eater. I eat both when I'm really happy and really sad. I find distracting myself by doing other things is the best thing for me..."

This and I come on the forums here to distract me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try making small changes

Cut out white bread

No dairy products

Butter

Go for a walk

Distract yourself

Eat more veggies and fruit

I wish you good luck

Not easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice I can give is to start every day as a new day. Some days you might falter, but the next day start again.

We all crave something to make us feel better, but the problem with 'highs' is that they come with 'lows'.

Keep going, as it takes a long time to change our habits. Look out for the small steps as one day you will look back and see just how far you have travelled

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Is there anyone that really does struggle with this as I'm a big emotional eater and I'm really struggling to kick my arse back into gear and stop myself

So any suggestions that may help? As giving my own head a wobble seems to work for all 5 minutes.

Honestly feeling totally shit with it all

Try 'comfort eating' on amazing low carb foods to get you off the roller coaster - great recipes at dietdoctor.com, that will control insulin whilst allowing you to indulge your appetite to start with.

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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago

Bradford

Why does all the crap stuff taste so good?

Is there any link between depression and craving carbs/sugar?

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Change one thing..

give yourself a day.. little milestone.. then try it for a week.. another milestone.. then start on something else..

For me it was having a few glasses of wine in the evenings so I didn't have to deal with stuff (nothing major) but it became a habit, a crutch.

I just got to a point and said, nope.. this isn't getting me anywhere.. I need to stop drinking a few glasses of wine every night and deal with it.

I'm 4 weeks in.. almost a stone down-not that, that was the reason for it, and feeling really good and in control.

Best of luck.. baby steps. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is tough. I got into a healthy low carb lifestyle a couple of years ago and dropped 2 dress sizes with another 2 to lose. Unfortunately in the first 4 months of this year I gained a dress size mainly due to lack of focus.

I'm now back on track. To do this I started initially by overindulging in a variety of low carb food, making lots of soups and reading inspirational success stories (Mark's Daily Apple and the Diet Doctor websites are both v good for low carb lifestyles). I'm now nicely back on track, cooking lots of v tasty low carb food, lots of soups and back in the pool twice a week. My clothes are fitting better and psychologically it's a great feeling. Good luck OP x

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

Dark chocolate instead of milk can help, I do it quite alot now too :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there anyone that really does struggle with this as I'm a big emotional eater and I'm really struggling to kick my arse back into gear and stop myself

So any suggestions that may help? As giving my own head a wobble seems to work for all 5 minutes.

Honestly feeling totally shit with it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy id go to your GP and ask to attend a Tier 3 Weight Management program, its the best thing i ever did on how to deal with emotional eating and mindfuless x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Why does all the crap stuff taste so good?

Is there any link between depression and craving carbs/sugar?

I think there is but I haven't seen research on this.

There appears to be a link between insomnia, sugar spikes and craving sweet/comfort food.

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Why does all the crap stuff taste so good?

Is there any link between depression and craving carbs/sugar?

I think there is but I haven't seen research on this.

There appears to be a link between insomnia, sugar spikes and craving sweet/comfort food. "

That could explain a lot as I am an insomniac I don't sleep much at all

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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Curvy id go to your GP and ask to attend a Tier 3 Weight Management program, its the best thing i ever did on how to deal with emotional eating and mindfuless x "

I will I've seen you mention before that it's really helped you get the better of it

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I know where you are coming from with this curvy, used to do a lot of it when I was unhappy, especially around previous job.

I still get urges and tend to go through spells where I have to resort to chewing gum.

I try the old breathing techniques as well if I'm feeling particularly stressed.

As another person said on the thread don't be too hard on yourself as well. Take time to grieve and give a little time for yourself.

Best wishes xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's potentially worth considering whether you could get some support, such as via grief counselling. This addresses part of the cause for you to have felt this spiral downwards.

I don't think it will be particularly helpful for you to pile pressure on yourself. I think you probably need caring for and more tenderness. Maybe there are things that could help lighten your life for a while too? I'd probably not go for a single solution - nor make things not simple. If you can find some easy ways to enrich your life,including social support, it may help.

An extra step may be to commit to a long term healthy eating plan but only make small changes at this point - it's tough being burdened with major changes when you've gone through significant shocks and loss. Small incremental eating changes could at least mean that if you're eating as now, there's something else going on too. Perhaps only one fruit extra each day or adding two new vegetables a week later on. You could decide what could be meaningful but not shocking.

Those don't help sustain an emotional you but do add something new and different.

Finally, I'm curious about whether anyone really understands you and your comfort eating. I think this could be good for you, so at least there's someone who gets you and won't judge you.

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