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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A friend of mine who is 30 is dating a 16 yr old.do u think this is a bit ott.i tried to tell him but he went in a huff.now shes preggers.I have an age limit and stick to it,what about the rest of u or do u not bother about age?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are they cousins?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an age limit that is slightly flexible that takes into account "life experience". 30 to 16 is not good in my opinion, not enough life experience at 16 to make a good judgement call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are not same age as my parents or kids then game on.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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14 year age gap isn't that bad

Friend of mine met her hubby at 16, there was a 15 year age gap between them, not saying it was all smooth sailing, but they stayed together a lot longer than friends who had only a couple of years between them.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"A friend of mine who is 30 is dating a 16 yr old.do u think this is a bit ott.i tried to tell him but he went in a huff.now shes preggers.I have an age limit and stick to it,what about the rest of u or do u not bother about age?"

Its a judgement call isnt it? At thirty I cant imagine being interested in a 16 yo child but some seem to be. People decide for themselves I guess but I will admit that if it was my 16 yo I wouldnt be impressed!

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a 14yr age gap at 16 is a different kettle of fish to the same age gap at 50.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/63432

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The youngest I have played with is 23, and I am 46!

However, he is an exception rather than the norm.

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

All i can say is that if my 16 yr old daughter came in and said she was shagging a 30 yr old guy id be livid ,at 16 what do they know bout the wide world and sexuall incounters and at 30 that guy should know better so for us its a no no and its border line phedophelia if you ask us ,christ most kids at 16 and a kid she is are usually still in skwl at that age

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"14 year age gap isn't that bad

Friend of mine met her hubby at 16, there was a 15 year age gap between them, not saying it was all smooth sailing, but they stayed together a lot longer than friends who had only a couple of years between them.

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Sorry should have said they were together until he passed away last year

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

My sister at 17 went to live with a guy of 48. My mother went spare, but when she realized he treated her like a queen she accepted it. They where blissfully happy for 6 years until he died.

To be honest i dont see what the age difference has to do with him cheating on her, cheating isnt an age thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my ex hubby 10 years older them me .i was 16 when we meet ,we been together over 18 years,but grown apart.well can say i grown up and he didnt like it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All i can say is that if my 16 yr old daughter came in and said she was shagging a 30 yr old guy id be livid ,at 16 what do they know bout the wide world and sexuall incounters and at 30 that guy should know better so for us its a no no and its border line phedophelia if you ask us ,christ most kids at 16 and a kid she is are usually still in skwl at that age "

Im kinda with you on this one despite the fact i dated someone when i was 16 and he was 32. At the time i was obviously very young and hung on every word he said.. looking back i just cringe and thought how dodgey the whole set up was .. i was blinded by 'lust' and the fact that someone wanted me and idolised me.

I still do prefer older men (ex being 20 years older than me) but if my daughter came home at 16 id try to be honest about my experiences and just ask her to be cautious. I was happy at the time and cried for weeks when it ended. Learning curve i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of someone whose sister went out with a gent 14y her senior when she was 16/17, and the family was not at all happy.

That was over 15y ago and they are still together, with a family of their own.

So it can work for some.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"All i can say is that if my 16 yr old daughter came in and said she was shagging a 30 yr old guy id be livid ,at 16 what do they know bout the wide world and sexuall incounters and at 30 that guy should know better so for us its a no no and its border line phedophelia if you ask us ,christ most kids at 16 and a kid she is are usually still in skwl at that age "

Do you actually know what peodophilia is??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's put it into perspective for a minute. She's barely left school and she's pregnant to a guy who let's face it cant be much younger than her dad. And he's bisexual and cheating on her, it's doomed to failure. Poor girl, if she's lacking life experience she's in for a hell of a big package of it in the next 12 months or so. And he's probably a nonce anyway!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Nonce?

Peodophilia?

While this kind of relationship may not sit well with peole there is nothing illegal about it. Good god, get a grip.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Ive taken a post off that was abusive and any posts that have quoted it

please debate in an adult manner without resorting to swearing

thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive taken a post off that was abusive and any posts that have quoted it

please debate in an adult manner without resorting to swearing

thanks "

Here here Honey potty couple. It's Sunday ffs. A day of peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's perfectly legal to marry at age 16 in Scotland.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I could remember what profile I am in!!!

(must be an age thing)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It's perfectly legal to marry at age 16 in Scotland. "

and in england with parents consent.

Also our parents/grandparents generation all got married young you where consided on the shelf if you werent married by 25. My mum was married and had had a baby at 17.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

may I be as bold as to suggest that some 16 year old girls may be more mature than some 30 year old guys....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The age of consent is 12 in many "civilised" countries.

And there are many knowing 12yo girls about.

Boys at that age are usually rather clueless though, IMHO.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

our daughter is married to a guy 14 years older than her, don't think I would have been very happy if she had only been 16 when they started seeing eachother though. My biggest fear now is when he is in his 70's and she in her 50's the age gap starts making a difference again - at least in my opinion anyway

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"our daughter is married to a guy 14 years older than her, don't think I would have been very happy if she had only been 16 when they started seeing eachother though. My biggest fear now is when he is in his 70's and she in her 50's the age gap starts making a difference again - at least in my opinion anyway"

Jay will be 70 before im 50 and sometimes he is starting to show his age.

But ive never been happier in my life and im in it for the long haul

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"our daughter is married to a guy 14 years older than her, don't think I would have been very happy if she had only been 16 when they started seeing eachother though. My biggest fear now is when he is in his 70's and she in her 50's the age gap starts making a difference again - at least in my opinion anyway

Jay will be 70 before im 50 and sometimes he is starting to show his age.

But ive never been happier in my life and im in it for the long haul"

Have to say our daughter is extremley happy to, but us dad's just worry lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"our daughter is married to a guy 14 years older than her, don't think I would have been very happy if she had only been 16 when they started seeing eachother though. My biggest fear now is when he is in his 70's and she in her 50's the age gap starts making a difference again - at least in my opinion anyway"

Alex is 13 years older than me. I'd be lying if i said i didn't sometimes worry about what might happen when we're older. I hate the idea of him leaving me behind, or me watching him get ill, but that can happen regardless of an age gap, much more important to be with someone you love.

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

In my opinion I'd be mortified if this happenes to my daughter when she is 16, (14 at the moment) but if it was someone else then I would be more pragmatic. Double standards? Maybe but honest.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Can I just say that at 16 it is not classes as phedophilla because the 16 year old is no longer classed as a "minor" as we all know the age of consent is 16 in this country.

So I think that term needs to be addressed and not used in context to this thread. We all make choices and at 16 my parents let me make my own choices as they wanted me to learn that sometimes we make mistakes.

There is nothing wrong with an age gap in a relationship I used to date this guy that was so hung up on the age gap the relationship was doomed. We can date who we want to date and be who we want to be. As long as we are not breaking any laws doing it.. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

okay as a mother to several girls around that age.. I would not be impressed.. but it is their lives.. we have to let our children live...

I would be more concerned with if he was a decent guy and would he be looking after her than anything else.. If he was going to stand by her, and be a good dad then the age would be not a factor..

I would be more concerned that my daughter was pregnant at 16 rather than the age and would feel that I had failed on my "dont make my mistakes" lectures..

If they were happy, then I would not really take issue with it.. I know at 16 I was more worldy wise than many older girls I knew at the time..

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend of mine who is 30 is dating a 16 yr old.do u think this is a bit ott.i tried to tell him but he went in a huff.now shes preggers.I have an age limit and stick to it,what about the rest of u or do u not bother about age?

Its a judgement call isnt it? At thirty I cant imagine being interested in a 16 yo child but some seem to be. People decide for themselves I guess but I will admit that if it was my 16 yo I wouldnt be impressed!

Mistress x"

here here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"our daughter is married to a guy 14 years older than her, don't think I would have been very happy if she had only been 16 when they started seeing eachother though. My biggest fear now is when he is in his 70's and she in her 50's the age gap starts making a difference again - at least in my opinion anyway

Alex is 13 years older than me. I'd be lying if i said i didn't sometimes worry about what might happen when we're older. I hate the idea of him leaving me behind, or me watching him get ill, but that can happen regardless of an age gap, much more important to be with someone you love."

yes, it's a worry in the reverse for me but it's more important to be happy.

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!


"Nonce?

Peodophilia?

While this kind of relationship may not sit well with peole there is nothing illegal about it. Good god, get a grip.

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A relationship between my almost 16 yr old daughter and a 30 yr old perv wouldent sit right and im sure ppl wi kids the same age as me would think the same and because its not illegal dosent make it morally right now does it???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh 16: old enough to have sex and get married. Too young to have a glass of champagne to celebrate.

Age ain't nothing but a number. We have to live and let live. But the way I see it is if he/she can't take their older or younger +1 to a family event then neither of them are mature enough to engage in such a relationship. If it's out in the open, it's far less seedy than keeping it a "secret."

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

Ive realy not got a problem with age gaps as sugar is 12 yrs younger than me but she was almost 19 wen we first got together after a 4 sum i may add, she was working full time ,living on her own and had been since she was 17 and owned a car so she was self sufficiant and very mature for her age which was 18 but youve got2 draw the line when it comes to kids ov the tender age of 16,they fresh out of skwl or may even still be in skwl probarbly proper mixed up coz ov hormones and they tend to rebelle at that age coz they are still immiture children clucking to be adults so why would a 30 yr old bloke wanna be with a adalesant???? that thought is pervy to me tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I've had some fantastic experiences with girls and ladies) of various ages

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Ive realy not got a problem with age gaps as sugar is 12 yrs younger than me but she was almost 19 wen we first got together after a 4 sum i may add, she was working full time ,living on her own and had been since she was 17 and owned a car so she was self sufficiant and very mature for her age which was 18 but youve got2 draw the line when it comes to kids ov the tender age of 16,they fresh out of skwl or may even still be in skwl probarbly proper mixed up coz ov hormones and they tend to rebelle at that age coz they are still immiture children clucking to be adults so why would a 30 yr old bloke wanna be with a adalesant???? that thought is pervy to me tbh "

How is it Pervy ermmm a 16 year old boy can be just as pervy as a 30 year old man. In the olden days it was not thought of for 16 year old girls to marry older gentleman.. As long as they are getting treated correctly then who is anyone to judge. A 16 year old can be just as mature as a 18 year old..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i did go out with a guy 14 years older than me. I was 24 and he was 38. Only lasted a month. I finished with him though. His moods were immature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is important to me.

I couldn't even entertain the thought of a younger partner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a 16yr old were to chat me up id find it uncomfortable and im only 23,, let alone a 16yr old boy chatting up a 30yr old woman

but it is very much each to their own. Attraction works in many ways, can be instant or developed over time

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

Age gaps really are not important if their happy BUT ....... Imo a 16 yr old is still very much a child!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kate had just turned 17 when we met. (was 17yrs and 1 month)

I was 24.

That was back in 1981.

When I first took Kate home to meet my parents, my mom wasn't too happy about it, as she thought Kate was way too young for me.

On the otherside of the coin, Kate's parents were quite happy for us.

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

Well like i said ive a daughter ov 15 so id have a big problem with it and i could never look at a 16 yr old girl and think mmmmmmmmmmm aii aii as for me it would be morraly wrong so no way ere

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Age bothers me, wouldnt like playmates too old or too young, hence sticking to age criteria

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Les & I met at the age of 14 for her and 16 ish for me! so no big age gap for us. However, both of us think there is something wrong with a guy or gal of over 30 dating a 16 year old!

At the age of 16, most kids are jumbled up and eager to prove they are adults! Well, ask yourself just how adult you were back then and perhaps this age gap may seem just a little odd, although some of you will no doubt tell us that you were the most mature person at that age!

The use of the word paedophile earlier in the thread was preceeded by the word "Borderline". I can see what they meant. At 15, he would be considered a paedophile and would be put on the sex offenders register and for very good reason. At 16, apparently she is fair game and we shouldn't judge. Seems to me that he is just getting as close to the age he really wants without stepping over the line...

As you get older with more experience, age doesn't make too much difference until you reach the other end of life, but may be hard for other reasons. That is a decision that the couple would make for themselves based on their maturity. No matter how mature some on here think a 16 year old girl is, she is still a child!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All i can say is that if my 16 yr old daughter came in and said she was shagging a 30 yr old guy id be livid "

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