FabSwingers.com forum: Has swinging changed?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all

I have just been sat pondering whether swinging has changed or if it's just my perception.

My wife and I have been swingers since the start of the internet and have found that the profiles and replies from "ladies" have become more aggressive and direct over the years resulting in NO lasting communication with decent ladies on here.

Has my expectation remained commensurate or are the "ladies" seeking revenge on years of perceived oppression?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The 'ladies' might be men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are seriously suggesting, that women come on here seeking revenge, for years of what we 'perceived' as oppression ?

Words actually fail me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol - yes!!

25302 online..,.. so that's 25000 guys, 302 women, 2 of which are genuine.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The art of conversation is dead, people communicate in short sentences, have no manners and just want a fuck not a person. This site particularly has gone much worse in ten years or so. Luckily due to by gender I can find other places to meet and chat to people like me.

I was part of a married couple, life for singles in many parts of the country is very hard. I know through dating sites that where I live people hide behind a veil more than other areas where I work as i look there too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No Sophee, I was not "seriously suggesting", it was a question.....

Anyone else see the irony in my question and Sophee's response about aggressiveness??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't really seem any different to me. But there are a lot more people into it thesedays.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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why is ladies in quotes?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good words Tasmin.

People hide behind the veil of anonymity.

Would you just ignore me in in the street if I said hello?

Would you tell me to f off??

Why do so on here then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No Sophee, I was not "seriously suggesting", it was a question.....

Anyone else see the irony in my question and Sophee's response about aggressiveness??"

Aggressive ? LMAO

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I like to refer to women as ladies. Maybe that's an old fashioned view?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is ladies in quotes? "

The implication is, that we are not ladies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bless you Sophee.

I do respect you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bless you Sophee.

I do respect you. "

My pleasure

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"why is ladies in quotes?

The implication is, that we are not ladies."

wouldn't make sense then. ladies is a polite way of referring to a woman.

wasn't sure if he thought they were men?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"why is ladies in quotes?

The implication is, that we are not ladies."

Not at all. Or at least, not all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging has certainly change. There was a time where conversation would take place. I am still in contact with those that I first meet all those years ago. Now, the scene has change beyond recognition. Is that due to numbers, society? Who knows

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you threesome queen.

You are, of course, correct my queen. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That isn't meant to sound as sarcastic as I now read it.

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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago

streatham

"Lol - yes!!

25302 online..,.. so that's 25000 guys, 302 women, 2 of which are genuine....."

Wow, me and who else??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is ladies in quotes?

The implication is, that we are not ladies.

wouldn't make sense then. ladies is a polite way of referring to a woman.

wasn't sure if he thought they were men?"

Ladies as in a positive, polite way. 'ladies', as in 'so called' ladies.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"why is ladies in quotes?

The implication is, that we are not ladies.

wouldn't make sense then. ladies is a polite way of referring to a woman.

wasn't sure if he thought they were men?

Ladies as in a positive, polite way. 'ladies', as in 'so called' ladies."

i'm becoming very pedantic in my old age. ignore me if you like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Swinging has certainly change. There was a time where conversation would take place. I am still in contact with those that I first meet all those years ago. Now, the scene has change beyond recognition. Is that due to numbers, society? Who knows "

I don't know. Perhaps. Friendships were formed. Would meet for a beverage. A chat. An evening out. If fun ensued, then cool, not just a swipe right.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Thank you threesome queen.

You are, of course, correct my queen. x"

acknowledged. you may now rise and are dismissed.

fuck i like being monarchy me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol - yes!!

25302 online..,.. so that's 25000 guys, 302 women, 2 of which are genuine.....

Wow, me and who else??

I reply politely to ALL mail, even the inappropriate approaches. Sometimes I have a short interaction for a few mails, any more, and the conversation can be misinterpreted as a possible meet. I am not one with an aggressive profile either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is ladies in quotes?

The implication is, that we are not ladies.

wouldn't make sense then. ladies is a polite way of referring to a woman.

wasn't sure if he thought they were men?

Ladies as in a positive, polite way. 'ladies', as in 'so called' ladies.

i'm becoming very pedantic in my old age. ignore me if you like.

Nah, you're too much fun to ignore

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you threesome queen.

You are, of course, correct my queen. x

acknowledged. you may now rise and are dismissed.

fuck i like being monarchy me.

Lol. May I stay on my knees??

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"why is ladies in quotes?

The implication is, that we are not ladies.

wouldn't make sense then. ladies is a polite way of referring to a woman.

wasn't sure if he thought they were men?

Ladies as in a positive, polite way. 'ladies', as in 'so called' ladies.

i'm becoming very pedantic in my old age. ignore me if you like.

Nah, you're too much fun to ignore

aw thanks.

i'm off to sleep, think i've done way too much today. night.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Thank you threesome queen.

You are, of course, correct my queen. x

acknowledged. you may now rise and are dismissed.

fuck i like being monarchy me.

Lol. May I stay on my knees??

if you want but i'm going to bed to watch a DVD, you'll have to stay there until morning. if you need anything call for one of my skivvies.

i have queening duties and need to rest. my sister is arriving from the continent in the morning and we shall be going over treaties and other such trivials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know. Perhaps. Friendships were formed. Would meet for a beverage. A chat. An evening out. If fun ensued, then cool, not just a swipe right.

I am genuinely not having a pop at you, but I haven't got enough hours in the day to say yes to a social/brew/beer, to everyone who asks. So yes, I often say no thank you. That doesn't mean I come on here to make men's life a misery for previous life events.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"Lol - yes!!

25302 online..,.. so that's 25000 guys, 302 women, 2 of which are genuine....."

You are SERIOUSLY suggesting that only 2 of 302 women on here are genuine???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't know. Perhaps. Friendships were formed. Would meet for a beverage. A chat. An evening out. If fun ensued, then cool, not just a swipe right.

I fully appreciate that and a "No, thank you" would be nice. I fully understand that I'm not everyone's cup of tea but as a respectful person that gives a rather personal, detailed and thoughtful introduction as opposed to "wanna fuck", I get frustrated at being ignored. My issue I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lol - yes!!

25302 online..,.. so that's 25000 guys, 302 women, 2 of which are genuine.....

You are SERIOUSLY suggesting that only 2 of 302 women on here are genuine??? "

No, not seriously. Exaggerating to highlight a point.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"Good words Tasmin.

People hide behind the veil of anonymity.

Would you just ignore me in in the street if I said hello?

Would you tell me to f off??#

Why do so on here then?"

I doubt you would speak to me on the street as many man do to women on here. Don't have the balls or maybe you were raised to address people with a bit of respect...in person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good words Tasmin.

People hide behind the veil of anonymity.

Would you just ignore me in in the street if I said hello?

Would you tell me to f off??#

Why do so on here then?

I doubt you would speak to me on the street as many man do to women on here. Don't have the balls or maybe you were raised to address people with a bit of respect...in person."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good words Tasmin.

People hide behind the veil of anonymity.

Would you just ignore me in in the street if I said hello?

Would you tell me to f off??#

Why do so on here then?

I doubt you would speak to me on the street as many man do to women on here. Don't have the balls or maybe you were raised to address people with a bit of respect...in person."

Precisely my point.

I like to treat people with respect. I like to be treated with respect.

The messages my wife receives on here are despicable.

What frustrates me is when I treat ladies with respect I get treated like a leper.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"Good words Tasmin.

People hide behind the veil of anonymity.

Would you just ignore me in in the street if I said hello?

Would you tell me to f off??#

Why do so on here then?

I doubt you would speak to me on the street as many man do to women on here. Don't have the balls or maybe you were raised to address people with a bit of respect...in person.

Precisely my point.

I like to treat people with respect. I like to be treated with respect.

The messages my wife receives on here are despicable.

What frustrates me is when I treat ladies with respect I get treated like a leper."
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then you are adressing the wrong ones. I'd say MOST OF US like a bit of respect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good words Tasmin.

People hide behind the veil of anonymity.

Would you just ignore me in in the street if I said hello?

Would you tell me to f off??#

Why do so on here then?

I doubt you would speak to me on the street as many man do to women on here. Don't have the balls or maybe you were raised to address people with a bit of respect...in person.

Precisely my point.

I like to treat people with respect. I like to be treated with respect.

The messages my wife receives on here are despicable.

What frustrates me is when I treat ladies with respect I get treated like a leper.#

then you are adressing the wrong ones. I'd say MOST OF US like a bit of respect."

With respect, do you reciprocate that respect or just ignore us?

The fact that you are engaging in a conversation rather confirms my question.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"Good words Tasmin.

People hide behind the veil of anonymity.

Would you just ignore me in in the street if I said hello?

Would you tell me to f off??#

Why do so on here then?

I doubt you would speak to me on the street as many man do to women on here. Don't have the balls or maybe you were raised to address people with a bit of respect...in person.

Precisely my point.

I like to treat people with respect. I like to be treated with respect.

The messages my wife receives on here are despicable.

What frustrates me is when I treat ladies with respect I get treated like a leper.#

then you are adressing the wrong ones. I'd say MOST OF US like a bit of respect.

With respect, do you reciprocate that respect or just ignore us?

The fact that you are engaging in a conversation rather confirms my question.

"
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When I get respectful messages, I ALWAYS answer, and in a respectful manner. Though I do admit, I get a bit terse at times-- due to previous messages. Still, I try to be nice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you goddess. You are one of the few. X

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