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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmmm I recently got a load of abuse from a single guy I turned down ...he said and quote ..'I couldnt be a real swinger if I had to fancy the guy I slept with '.

Made me doubt myself but theres no way I'll shag owt ....any thoughts ...I know its just sex but hell I have to have that spark !!!!

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Sounds like sour grapes to me.

I have to find some sort of physical attraction. Not looking for baby making material, but there has to be something there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless someone is just there for the notches on the bedpost, there has to be some sort of attraction, physical or mental.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

Be true to yourself, the majority of us have standards. You will always get pricks that cant stand the thought of being turned down. Just laugh and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report, then block anyone who is abusive.

Everyone has his/her own selection criteria, stick to them I'd say!

As for myself, no spark = no meet, full stop.

However, some sparks last more than the others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ONLY play with people that I can connect with and be attracted too. Tell him to "go forth and multiply" he's a rat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ONLY play with people that I can connect with and be attracted too. Tell him to "go forth and multiply" he's a rat "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ONLY play with people that I can connect with and be attracted too. Tell him to "go forth and multiply" he's a rat "

*agrees*

Do not lower your standards to please the desperate. EVER!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys ...you get used to the abuse when you turn some people down but this one was so bloody venomous !!!

Shame as they really spoil it for the genuine ones .......

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Hmmm I recently got a load of abuse from a single guy I turned down ...he said and quote ..'I couldnt be a real swinger if I had to fancy the guy I slept with '.

Made me doubt myself but theres no way I'll shag owt ....any thoughts ...I know its just sex but hell I have to have that spark !!!!"

so people just don't get it and don't take rejection well...

and some people think that just because you swing and like sex, that you will have sex with anyone...

what it shows is that you were right with your decision in the first place...

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

For me there has to be a physical or mental attraction otherwise it wont work.

If that makes me fussy so be it and i know what works for me with a meeting.

Mercedes x

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

3 words hun thats fuck you and block ,wrks for us every time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks guys ...you get used to the abuse when you turn some people down but this one was so bloody venomous !!!

Shame as they really spoil it for the genuine ones ......."

Report to admin if he sent you abusive mail, copy and paste it to them if possible. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What he said wasn't abusive as such and hardly worth reporting. He expressed his somewhat restricted _iew that all swingers were up for sex with just about anyone. He was wrong about that and with his attitude he's not going to be doing much swinging, ergo, he's not going to be around here much longer is he. His is a self-defeating tactless approach to swinging whereas yours is a self-fulfilling positive one.

Who's the winner here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive just used the block button was asked to cancel a meet ive got planned so i could meet him im steaming and i dont mean steaming d*unk !

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Hmmm I recently got a load of abuse from a single guy I turned down ...he said and quote ..'I couldnt be a real swinger if I had to fancy the guy I slept with '.

Made me doubt myself but theres no way I'll shag owt ....any thoughts ...I know its just sex but hell I have to have that spark !!!!"

didnt you get the memo??? Sparks are forbidden on fab now, you must be available 24/7 for all and sundry to come and get their rocks off and you mustn't have any preferences with regards to race/age/endowment/sex/sexual orientation/smelliness

i will make sure you are on the distribution list from now on

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I got properly told off yesterday because I responded to a one liner who asked if we could chat by saying yes, if you can manage a whole sentence!

Don't let it worry you! Block and delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

chill pill time

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

Weve ad the same problem a few times with ppl who proper assume we will shag anyone wich isnt the case ,a phisicall attraction is a must and npo matter how many varies they have if they look like Anne Whiticome and Rod Hull we will not be going there at all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"chill pill time "

can i have 2 please i a greedy girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks guys ...you get used to the abuse when you turn some people down but this one was so bloody venomous !!!

Shame as they really spoil it for the genuine ones ......."

They very do, xx

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By *milerboyMan
over a year ago

scotland

It's about respect, mixed with a tad of chemistry....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Hmmm I recently got a load of abuse from a single guy I turned down ...he said and quote ..'I couldnt be a real swinger if I had to fancy the guy I slept with '.

Made me doubt myself but theres no way I'll shag owt ....any thoughts ...I know its just sex but hell I have to have that spark !!!!"

I would have blocked then.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol see post "Attraction !!!"

no surprise that the nice, genuine single guys have a bad reputation and find it hard to get meets if the desperate once behave like this!

x

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

Same for me too!

If there is no attraction, spark or connection then I'm not going there!!!

The block button is so handy

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

i regularly get this problem. Just had to block someone i been chatting with for a while cos he told me he was attached. He didn't bother to answer when i said that i wasn't too happy with that unless his partner knew what he did, but he did start asking me lots of questions and got nasty when i suggested that it was out of order to be so paranoid that he wanted to know everything about me in case i know his wife... Of course his reason for being so nasty was that hes only just realised that i look like the back end of a bus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm I recently got a load of abuse from a single guy I turned down ...he said and quote ..'I couldnt be a real swinger if I had to fancy the guy I slept with '.

Made me doubt myself but theres no way I'll shag owt ....any thoughts ...I know its just sex but hell I have to have that spark !!!!"

I think the only thing it doesn't make you is a real slut. There's a whole world of difference between that and a real swinger. No spark = no shag. Don't doubt yourself, 'cos you are in the right.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Love guys like that.... they make me laugh so much its worth being on Fab just for that!

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it doesnt matter to me.. For gangbangs for instance.. for that I just state, white/straight and between 25-45.

But one on one there has to be some attraction..

I would just block and ignore him.. he isnt a proper swinger not being able to understand that he wont be for everyone..or with that attitude anyone even..

Katie. x

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham


"Hmmm I recently got a load of abuse from a single guy I turned down ...he said and quote ..'I couldnt be a real swinger if I had to fancy the guy I slept with '.

Made me doubt myself but theres no way I'll shag owt ....any thoughts ...I know its just sex but hell I have to have that spark !!!!"

Be careful quoting from a private message. I got a 48 hour forum ban for doing exactly the same as you just have. Beware

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By *rSteve6Man
over a year ago

Bolton and Pattaya,Thailand

Can I ask why you block if there's no attraction? Surely a simple thanks but no thanks would be appropriate and then if you get abuse/continued pestering,the block can then come into use.

If you're not interested,you could just delete.

I'm sure the genuine guys on here would understand and not be abusive.

I personnally would never be abusive if turned down.Some guys need a reality check and not be so self obsessed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a poorly spelled, grammatically lacking msg from a guy whose profile could've been written by Stephen Fry. Something not computing there. So I said he looked fake and had stolen the profile. Got dog's abuse about me being fake, that's not me in that pic blah blah blah, all poorly spelled and grammatically incorrect. Even when he was busted he still blustered. Wot a twat, innit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not under any circumstances doubt yourself as you are right, there has to be a spark for sex, notches on a bedpost is not one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ONLY play with people that I can connect with and be attracted too. Tell him to "go forth and multiply" he's a rat

*agrees*

Do not lower your standards to please the desperate. EVER!"

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't spoil it for the genuine ones it only spoils it for him and those like him, you on the other hand can just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got properly told off yesterday because I responded to a one liner who asked if we could chat by saying yes, if you can manage a whole sentence!

Don't let it worry you! Block and delete. "

I find those short "let's chat" most confusing. You just don't know what to do with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why you block if there's no attraction? Surely a simple thanks but no thanks would be appropriate and then if you get abuse/continued pestering,the block can then come into use.

If you're not interested,you could just delete.

I'm sure the genuine guys on here would understand and not be abusive.

I personnally would never be abusive if turned down.Some guys need a reality check and not be so self obsessed. "

My profile is hidden. You don't have to be a Rhodes scholar to work out it means I'm not meeting, yet I get messages to meet. I got a message from a 22 year old from Liverpool asking to meet, I deleted the message without reading. A minute later he wrote again stating what he'd do to me, that got him blocked!

By your reckoning he warranted a "thanks, but no thanks". You're tripping if you think that! With the thousand of visible profiles why take "pot luck?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why you block if there's no attraction? Surely a simple thanks but no thanks would be appropriate and then if you get abuse/continued pestering,the block can then come into use.

If you're not interested,you could just delete.

I'm sure the genuine guys on here would understand and not be abusive.

I personnally would never be abusive if turned down.Some guys need a reality check and not be so self obsessed. "

sometimes a polite "no thanks" leads to several more messages asking why! block = no further contact!

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