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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thought I'd found someone completely on my level, ticked all the right boxes and was really respectful and attentive and yet he no longer speaks to me because I made a sarcastic remark about him having a hangover after cancelling on me just as I was heading out the door. Cancelling is fine, I've no problem with that but when you've organised childcare and end up paying your babysitter for the inconvenience to her it smarts a little.

Why am I the one left feeling like it's my fault and that I should apologise for my remark.

Sorry just feeling a bit crap today x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you shouldn't apologise at all. Whilst it's a shame you guys connected and got on well, he should know your sense of humour and understand you better. It is his loss for sure.

Turn that frown upside down xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No you shouldn't apologise at all. Whilst it's a shame you guys connected and got on well, he should know your sense of humour and understand you better. It is his loss for sure.

Turn that frown upside down xx "

Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he needs to man up a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like he needs to man up a little "

What she said

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If it was me I would have made much more than a sarcastic remark if they cancelled on me that late in the day due to a hangover!

So I think he got let off lightly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm not sure what to say, don't really want to blame the bloke whilst knowing 1 side of the story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For whatever reason he cancelled he had the decency to let you know. Lots don't. He may have had something terrible happen and wasn't in the mood for jokes, who knows.

As is often said to people on here who have been let down at the last minute, everyone is entitled to change their mind, which he may have done.

Chin up and carry on regardless.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

If it was me it wouldn't have been a sarcastic remark.

I would have abducted them, tied them up and force fed them 100% alcohol until their liver burst - bloody hangover tsk! THEN! I would harvest their skin and make a nice lampshade!

Can anyone beat this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm not sure what to say, don't really want to blame the bloke whilst knowing 1 side of the story. "

You can't blame him for anything. He cancelled a sexual encounter, as many do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it was me it wouldn't have been a sarcastic remark.

I would have abducted them, tied them up and force fed them 100% alcohol until their liver burst - bloody hangover tsk! THEN! I would harvest their skin and make a nice lampshade!

Can anyone beat this?"

You forgot, tattoo "Thou shalt not let me down" on his skin, before harvesting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm not sure what to say, don't really want to blame the bloke whilst knowing 1 side of the story.

You can't blame him for anything. He cancelled a sexual encounter, as many do. "

This.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"If it was me it wouldn't have been a sarcastic remark.

I would have abducted them, tied them up and force fed them 100% alcohol until their liver burst - bloody hangover tsk! THEN! I would harvest their skin and make a nice lampshade!

Can anyone beat this?

You forgot, tattoo "Thou shalt not let me down" on his skin, before harvesting it. "

Ooops my bad. I like the cut of your jib lady I may have work for you ...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Oh well, onwards and upwards

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Thought I'd found someone completely on my level, ticked all the right boxes and was really respectful and attentive and yet he no longer speaks to me because I made a sarcastic remark about him having a hangover after cancelling on me just as I was heading out the door. Cancelling is fine, I've no problem with that but when you've organised childcare and end up paying your babysitter for the inconvenience to her it smarts a little.

Why am I the one left feeling like it's my fault and that I should apologise for my remark.

Sorry just feeling a bit crap today x"

Come join us on the fuck bus, we have some gorgeous guys who don't have a hangover and would love to give you some attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's no longer speaking to you, you can't really sort it I guess. I get your frustration and it's annoying. I've got a friend who ages ago fell asleep and missed our meet. At the time I was fuming but although we no longer play , we are still friends to the extent he came to a hospital appointment with me recently. So maybe give it a bit of time and see how it all pans out. Space gives everyone a better perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One good thing he did let you know . Maybe don't mail and back off see if he mail you .

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By *aura66Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Thought I'd found someone completely on my level, ticked all the right boxes and was really respectful and attentive and yet he no longer speaks to me because I made a sarcastic remark about him having a hangover after cancelling on me just as I was heading out the door. Cancelling is fine, I've no problem with that but when you've organised childcare and end up paying your babysitter for the inconvenience to her it smarts a little.

Why am I the one left feeling like it's my fault and that I should apologise for my remark.

Sorry just feeling a bit crap today x"

I'm with you on this one.

I'm sure he'll have been well aware you forked out for a sitter.. And yet he decided to go get so pissed he had to cancel & then got all precious for calling him out on it.

Disrespectful - block and move on

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Thought I'd found someone completely on my level, ticked all the right boxes and was really respectful and attentive and yet he no longer speaks to me because I made a sarcastic remark about him having a hangover after cancelling on me just as I was heading out the door. Cancelling is fine, I've no problem with that but when you've organised childcare and end up paying your babysitter for the inconvenience to her it smarts a little.

Why am I the one left feeling like it's my fault and that I should apologise for my remark.

Sorry just feeling a bit crap today x"

I wouldn't worry yourself as he clearly wasn't on your level or he'd if understood your humour. So maybe it's a blessing in disguise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not dating... He doesn't care about you.

It's always a risk here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He probably lost his bottle at the last minute and came up with an excuse. It sounds like he's using your remark as an excuse not to speak to you when the reality is he's probably scared to death of meeting. Chin up x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's a bummer but unfortunately it does happen.

So, he had a hangover already? That's a bit lame if you ask me. Don't over think it OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds to me like a power play, usually rooted in characteristic flaws.

Don't let him win.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'd already met him once, we spent all week talking and he was telling me how excited he was to see me again. I know full well it was a hangover because he'd told me he was going out on the Friday.

I know it's not 'dating' but a little more notice than 20 mins isn't too much to ask especially knowing I'd organised child care.x

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Sounds a bit of a techy fucker I'd let that one go as a lucky escape

Shouldn't need to walk on eggshells with anyone let along a friendly fab acquaintance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can certainly blame him for getting totally shit faced the night before knowing full well he'd suffer a crappy hangover the next day. Maybe I'm just a bit more considerate in that respect x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have no reason to feel bad, the fault is on the person that cancels.

They chose to go out and get d*unk after you had prepared for an evening together and so a little sarcasm and/or frustration is to be expected on your behalf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd already met him once, we spent all week talking and he was telling me how excited he was to see me again. I know full well it was a hangover because he'd told me he was going out on the Friday.

I know it's not 'dating' but a little more notice than 20 mins isn't too much to ask especially knowing I'd organised child care.x

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A little respect is not a lot to ask for, sex site or not, we are all adults and should act accordingly, even when hungover....or just drink a bit more and make up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's got a nerve reacting the way he has after letting you down at the last minute

I wouldn't have been as polite as you so just put it behind you x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

20 mins? That's inconsiderate and makes him totally unreliable in my eyes. If he was that hungover he would of known sooner that he was still feeling too rough to meet you. Call it harsh but I'd bin that one off if I was you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it personally, he just sounds generally inconsiderate.

Get back on the horse and try again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't take it personally, he just sounds generally inconsiderate.

Get back on the horse and try again "

Anyone else now picturing a unicorn riding a horse?

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