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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have few female friends on here and I've seen there inboxes and 90% of men that message women on here are totally rude, disrespectful if they don't get what they want and the people that actually message nice don't ever get a look in.

What is this down to? A lot of men or women that post on here have total control however a very large percentage of people if met in a pub wouldn't give them the time or the day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all just very disposable here, aren't we?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah it's an option isn't it but then why isn't it made out like that??

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo


"I have few female friends on here and I've seen there inboxes and 90% of men that message women on here are totally rude, disrespectful if they don't get what they want and the people that actually message nice don't ever get a look in.

What is this down to? A lot of men or women that post on here have total control however a very large percentage of people if met in a pub wouldn't give them the time or the day! "

The *only* people that I ever give a look in to are the ones that 'message nice'. But unfortunately, that doesn't mean I owe anything to everyone in that category ... I still have to feel an attraction, I still have to be in the right frame of mind, I still have to have the time to respond ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that although there are lots of men on this site, it hasn't given me any greater choice

I have preferences of the type of man I would meet in the world beyond this site and there are less men on this site which meet my preferences than do in the big-wide world

But we are here mainly to meet with couples and single women. It would be impossible for us to meet with couples outside of this site or outside of swinger's clubs

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men shouldn't lower their standards then.

If they're messaging women who are substandard (women they wouldn't even approach in a pub) and those women won't even give them the time of day then guys are bound to get their noses out of joint.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah of course and yet again being inpatient isn't gona work either. Yeah you can't just put out coz he's sent a nice msg. Yet again a lot of women treat this site like a dating website the for what it actually is x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh you're absolutely right I ain't just stating men lowering their standards it's two way traffic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh you're absolutely right I ain't just stating men lowering their standards it's two way traffic."

I've never received an angry response from a guy after I've told him he wasn't my type. If I bother sending a response (I will if there's thought in the message) I'll send a response. Half the time I get replies back saying they didn't think they were my type and they were just trying their luck or the rest just say thanks for getting back to me and then wish me well.

The angry responses come from guys messaging women who they deem not worthy in the first place, it's obvious. If you message a real hanging buzzard and even they say no then you're gonna be pissed off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" If you message a real hanging buzzard… "

Fucking LOL

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is very true to be honest. I always reply saying thanks or no thanks coz at the end of the day I treat people the way I'd like to be treated myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh you're absolutely right I ain't just stating men lowering their standards it's two way traffic.

I've never received an angry response from a guy after I've told him he wasn't my type. If I bother sending a response (I will if there's thought in the message) I'll send a response. Half the time I get replies back saying they didn't think they were my type and they were just trying their luck or the rest just say thanks for getting back to me and then wish me well.

The angry responses come from guys messaging women who they deem not worthy in the first place, it's obvious. If you message a real hanging buzzard and even they say no then you're gonna be pissed off. "

Ah, that explains the diatribes I get.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I think theres a danger for men (and women) to objectify on here.

One of the side effects of this is this brash 'fuck? yes or no' type approach which obviously doesn't appeal to many.

It is what it is. Plenty of normal people who see beyond that still. So each to their own. Peace and love

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well it's a shame I am out of ur age range as I'd love to have a conversation with you but I am also he other end of the country as well ?? X

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By *04davidMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Annie...Empress...the head-line to your profile is the funniest, most attention grabbing few words that I've read in years. I'd award you a medal for it...if I could find somewhere to pin it on your chest xxx( O )( O )xxx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I have few female friends on here and I've seen there inboxes and 90% of men that message women on here are totally rude, disrespectful if they don't get what they want and the people that actually message nice don't ever get a look in.

What is this down to? A lot of men or women that post on here have total control however a very large percentage of people if met in a pub wouldn't give them the time or the day! "

Yeap we're all munters on here, how dare we think we have the right to choose who to meet

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I have few female friends on here and I've seen there inboxes and 90% of men that message women on here are totally rude, disrespectful if they don't get what they want and the people that actually message nice don't ever get a look in.

What is this down to? A lot of men or women that post on here have total control however a very large percentage of people if met in a pub wouldn't give them the time or the day! "

Try not to let the actions of strangers on a website affect you then you might find your fab experience is a little more fulfilling

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I ant taking it personally at all I am just putting it out there to everyone

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i think such sites as this one and others, and looking for sex on them, are stressful for both men and women in different ways.

men in that they aren't that popular and will struggle to find what they want, and for women they will get too many men wanting them and offering them shit stuff that's usually selfish from the guys end.

it means women become more demanding, and not coz they are up themselves or punching above their weight, but it's coz they've had enough of the shit already. it can get to you at times when people look at you as a wank sock or blow up doll, or just not consider you to be a person at all. i just take the piss outta such men coz it's stress relieving.

you can get mad or change things, and the first thing you can change is yourself. it's supposed to be fun here, but a lot of men think fun is sticking their cock in you and that's it. whoop do doo. no seduction, nothing more than a friggin compliment on your looks like that gives them access to your fanny.

idk about women when it comes to wanting sex with them, i don't seek that. but that's my experience online of most men, and yeah i am generalising coz i can do that as it's a high majority of men who see us as nothing more than here to service them.

if i ever find a man that can actually chat i get way over the top excited about that. anyway i cba with this NSA let me stick my dick in you way of thinking so i don't even have an open inbox on here and have mostly had men blocked for about 9 months now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have few female friends on here and I've seen there inboxes and 90% of men that message women on here are totally rude, disrespectful if they don't get what they want and the people that actually message nice don't ever get a look in."

Not entirely sure what your question is, but I think actually a) it's unfair to say 90% of men on here are rude, we get some poor one liners and some really awful stuff but wouldn't describe the vast majority as rude. If your friends are really finding that 90% are obnoxious maybe they have pics or text that those kind of guys home in on and b) on the contrary the rude guys make it easier for the good guys to stand out. Doesn't guarantee them anything but definitely helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think such sites as this one and others, and looking for sex on them, are stressful for both men and women in different ways.

men in that they aren't that popular and will struggle to find what they want, and for women they will get too many men wanting them and offering them shit stuff that's usually selfish from the guys end.

it means women become more demanding, and not coz they are up themselves or punching above their weight, but it's coz they've had enough of the shit already. it can get to you at times when people look at you as a wank sock or blow up doll, or just not consider you to be a person at all. i just take the piss outta such men coz it's stress relieving.

you can get mad or change things, and the first thing you can change is yourself. it's supposed to be fun here, but a lot of men think fun is sticking their cock in you and that's it. whoop do doo. no seduction, nothing more than a friggin compliment on your looks like that gives them access to your fanny.

idk about women when it comes to wanting sex with them, i don't seek that. but that's my experience online of most men, and yeah i am generalising coz i can do that as it's a high majority of men who see us as nothing more than here to service them.

if i ever find a man that can actually chat i get way over the top excited about that. anyway i cba with this NSA let me stick my dick in you way of thinking so i don't even have an open inbox on here and have mostly had men blocked for about 9 months now. "

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I have few female friends on here and I've seen there inboxes and 90% of men that message women on here are totally rude, disrespectful if they don't get what they want and the people that actually message nice don't ever get a look in.

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Your logic is flawed - people who send engaging messages stand out a mile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anybody here play on pokerstars?

Reckon its a wee bit the same as getting knocked out of a tourney .

More irrational than anything else i reckon.

Think the ladies need to think of it more irrational than cockhead behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more rude, obnoxious, fools the better in my opinion. Gives me a better chance

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