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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Someone said it in a previous thread and I couldn't agree more.

But attraction is initially based on looks.

You don't see someone in the street and say to a friend I fancy her personality.

Just thought I would put that out there to quash any bitchyness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure looks aren't everything, they're pretty damn important though, in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't got personality either

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I haven't got personality either "

Me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone said it in a previous thread and I couldn't agree more.

But attraction is initially based on looks.

You don't see someone in the street and say to a friend I fancy her personality.

Just thought I would put that out there to quash any bitchyness. "

The other thread was in the context of chatting to someone though. In that context it doesn't matter how good looking someone is the conversation can still dry up if they don't have the personality. Hence the comments on the other thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's a combination of attributes. Not just down to a pretty face. If she looks great but walking on moving like she is on drugs or has something up her arse then it's a no from me however pretty. Or horrible teeth for example. Maybe that's picky to some I'm not sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's right.

Me. - Hey Dave, she's fit. I'm going talking to her.

After

Me - Dave, shes a dick, I can't believe I fancied her!!

That's how it sometimes works out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality can be displayed visually just as much as looks.

You can judge a person's personality by observing how the interact with other people.

If I was to notice a lady help someone out in public I would immediately find her a lot more attractive than someone who's being an asshole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone blessed with a face only a mother could love I'm quite pleased that's the case!

On here I think looks definitely play a huge part though - if it's NSA one-off sex you're after then most are going to go for the good looking and physically desirable people perhaps moreso than on a dating site when more 'all-round' attributes are desired beyond just physical looks.

Although - to contradict myself!- a lot of the women I take a little shine to on here is due to the way they present themselves in the forums etc and in many cases I haven't seen their faces initially.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i've noticed looks don't even matter at all, just act like you'll fuck anyone and all of a sudden attractiveness goes up loads...for women anyway, not so much for men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But manners and politeness are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to find men whi could dance quite attractive, back in my clubbing days.

Nothing like watching a man moondance across the dancefloor to get your heart fluttering

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Personality can be displayed visually just as much as looks.

You can judge a person's personality by observing how the interact with other people.

If I was to notice a lady help someone out in public I would immediately find her a lot more attractive than someone who's being an asshole. "

I like your thinking and it very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality can be displayed visually just as much as looks.

You can judge a person's personality by observing how the interact with other people.

If I was to notice a lady help someone out in public I would immediately find her a lot more attractive than someone who's being an asshole. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've noticed looks don't even matter at all, just act like you'll fuck anyone and all of a sudden attractiveness goes up loads...for women anyway, not so much for men."

That's where I'm going wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like to add that I have an awesome personality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like to add that I have an awesome personality! "

We all know that, but I'm still waiting for a book from you about all the different stories

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noones ugly on the outside but people are so quick to call people ugly on the inside

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i've noticed looks don't even matter at all, just act like you'll fuck anyone and all of a sudden attractiveness goes up loads...for women anyway, not so much for men.

That's where I'm going wrong "

it's where a lot of us are going wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like to add that I have an awesome personality!

We all know that, but I'm still waiting for a book from you about all the different stories "

Just putting it out there to the cyber sisters that said I have no personality

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

We find looks to be important to us when searching for meets. That being said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I'm sure we all look for different things when it comes to what makes some one good looking to ourselves.

But for us, when looking for singles to play with - we are not looking for a relationship, or a regular fb or someone to join us socially. When we meet, we meet to play. If there is no initial physical attraction then there will be no interaction. That being said, we do enjoy a bit of banter pre play and if our 'pretty' choices end up being 'ugly on the inside' we'll pass them by.

What I suppose we're looking at are looks first, for that initial attraction - then personality for that 'click' to play with.

Some people may be upset by that, but we don't want to play with someone we're not attracted to. I know we won't be everyone's cup of tea - and likewise - if they aren't attracted to us, we wouldn't expect them to feel they have to play with us just because we are attracted to and want to play with them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd say it's first impressions that are important. In most cases that is looks but that guy who sacrificed his time in the marathon to help the man on the point of collapse to finish won't have been short of female admirers I'll wager.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like to add that I have an awesome personality!

We all know that, but I'm still waiting for a book from you about all the different stories

Just putting it out there to the cyber sisters that said I have no personality "

No one said you had no personality. I was questioning the guy's reasoning not your personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like to add that I have an awesome personality!

We all know that, but I'm still waiting for a book from you about all the different stories

Just putting it out there to the cyber sisters that said I have no personality

No one said you had no personality. I was questioning the guy's reasoning not your personality. "

Don't roll your eyes at me. I had absolutely no control over what they said and you and two others just chirped in saying bull shit about not having a personality or not being interesting. Don't use me as an example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like to add that I have an awesome personality!

We all know that, but I'm still waiting for a book from you about all the different stories

Just putting it out there to the cyber sisters that said I have no personality

No one said you had no personality. I was questioning the guy's reasoning not your personality.

Don't roll your eyes at me. I had absolutely no control over what they said and you and two others just chirped in saying bull shit about not having a personality or not being interesting. Don't use me as an example. "

What? ?? I wasn't having a dig at you! !! I was questioning the guy who said that you were a looker. I'm questioning why that makes someone a good person to chat to! I've not once said you aren't interesting or lack personality. I'm questioning his logic. Not critiquing you! Talk about wrong end of the stick. So I will roll my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks can be solved with a hood, personality with a ball gag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like to add that I have an awesome personality!

We all know that, but I'm still waiting for a book from you about all the different stories

Just putting it out there to the cyber sisters that said I have no personality

No one said you had no personality. I was questioning the guy's reasoning not your personality.

Don't roll your eyes at me. I had absolutely no control over what they said and you and two others just chirped in saying bull shit about not having a personality or not being interesting. Don't use me as an example.

What? ?? I wasn't having a dig at you! !! I was questioning the guy who said that you were a looker. I'm questioning why that makes someone a good person to chat to! I've not once said you aren't interesting or lack personality. I'm questioning his logic. Not critiquing you! Talk about wrong end of the stick. So I will roll my eyes "

Have I, I can't gauge it, I'm on so I'm irritable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like to add that I have an awesome personality!

We all know that, but I'm still waiting for a book from you about all the different stories

Just putting it out there to the cyber sisters that said I have no personality

No one said you had no personality. I was questioning the guy's reasoning not your personality.

Don't roll your eyes at me. I had absolutely no control over what they said and you and two others just chirped in saying bull shit about not having a personality or not being interesting. Don't use me as an example.

What? ?? I wasn't having a dig at you! !! I was questioning the guy who said that you were a looker. I'm questioning why that makes someone a good person to chat to! I've not once said you aren't interesting or lack personality. I'm questioning his logic. Not critiquing you! Talk about wrong end of the stick. So I will roll my eyes

Have I, I can't gauge it, I'm on so I'm irritable."

I accept your apology

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like to add that I have an awesome personality!

We all know that, but I'm still waiting for a book from you about all the different stories

Just putting it out there to the cyber sisters that said I have no personality

No one said you had no personality. I was questioning the guy's reasoning not your personality.

Don't roll your eyes at me. I had absolutely no control over what they said and you and two others just chirped in saying bull shit about not having a personality or not being interesting. Don't use me as an example.

What? ?? I wasn't having a dig at you! !! I was questioning the guy who said that you were a looker. I'm questioning why that makes someone a good person to chat to! I've not once said you aren't interesting or lack personality. I'm questioning his logic. Not critiquing you! Talk about wrong end of the stick. So I will roll my eyes

Have I, I can't gauge it, I'm on so I'm irritable.

I accept your apology "

I'm gonna have a dairy milk and then come back on 5!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Attraction is not initially based on looks for me especially in this environment. An example for you, I was messaging someone for a few weeks quite extensively. The messaging was never initiated with the intention of meeting. Things eventually changed as the friendship developed and meeting was then discussed. So we were in agreement we wanted to meet and at that stage I hadn't even seen a face pic! He had seen mine that was how we ended up on kik in the first place, I'm just a silhouette here. So it wasn't about physical attraction for me, it was about who he was, his personality and how similar we are. There was a physical attraction once I saw a face pic and that was a wonderful bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attraction is not initially based on looks for me especially in this environment. An example for you, I was messaging someone for a few weeks quite extensively. The messaging was never initiated with the intention of meeting. Things eventually changed as the friendship developed and meeting was then discussed. So we were in agreement we wanted to meet and at that stage I hadn't even seen a face pic! He had seen mine that was how we ended up on kik in the first place, I'm just a silhouette here. So it wasn't about physical attraction for me, it was about who he was, his personality and how similar we are. There was a physical attraction once I saw a face pic and that was a wonderful bonus "

Lovely

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Attraction is not initially based on looks for me especially in this environment. An example for you, I was messaging someone for a few weeks quite extensively. The messaging was never initiated with the intention of meeting. Things eventually changed as the friendship developed and meeting was then discussed. So we were in agreement we wanted to meet and at that stage I hadn't even seen a face pic! He had seen mine that was how we ended up on kik in the first place, I'm just a silhouette here. So it wasn't about physical attraction for me, it was about who he was, his personality and how similar we are. There was a physical attraction once I saw a face pic and that was a wonderful bonus

Lovely "

Had I never conversed with you before I would have thought you were being flippant lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attraction is not initially based on looks for me especially in this environment. An example for you, I was messaging someone for a few weeks quite extensively. The messaging was never initiated with the intention of meeting. Things eventually changed as the friendship developed and meeting was then discussed. So we were in agreement we wanted to meet and at that stage I hadn't even seen a face pic! He had seen mine that was how we ended up on kik in the first place, I'm just a silhouette here. So it wasn't about physical attraction for me, it was about who he was, his personality and how similar we are. There was a physical attraction once I saw a face pic and that was a wonderful bonus

Lovely

Had I never conversed with you before I would have thought you were being flippant lol "

Never ......... I agreed with your sentiments

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Attraction is not initially based on looks for me especially in this environment. An example for you, I was messaging someone for a few weeks quite extensively. The messaging was never initiated with the intention of meeting. Things eventually changed as the friendship developed and meeting was then discussed. So we were in agreement we wanted to meet and at that stage I hadn't even seen a face pic! He had seen mine that was how we ended up on kik in the first place, I'm just a silhouette here. So it wasn't about physical attraction for me, it was about who he was, his personality and how similar we are. There was a physical attraction once I saw a face pic and that was a wonderful bonus

Lovely

Had I never conversed with you before I would have thought you were being flippant lol

Never ......... I agreed with your sentiments "

I know, now there's something you don't see often around here ppl agreeing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've noticed looks don't even matter at all, just act like you'll fuck anyone and all of a sudden attractiveness goes up loads...for women anyway, not so much for men."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh That's why I always make a better second impression

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

attraction can be anything for me; a smile, good chat, ace humour, beautiful eyes, dimples on the base of the back above a cute bum, nicely dressed, hot underwear, sexy hair, amazing scent, naughty risky personality

Widen the scope a little more than a pair of tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To some, looks are everything. Why, I don't know, because attraction works in many ways.

Fucking beautiful people may give others an ego boost, or give them a sense of self worth. They could feel repulsed by people who aren't hot, because of societal pressures, making them believe there's something bad about not being beautiful or handsome.

I like people who don't see the superficial stuff.

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By *kmanMan
over a year ago

Letterkenny


"Meh That's why I always make a better second impression "

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"Someone said it in a previous thread and I couldn't agree more.

But attraction is initially based on looks.

You don't see someone in the street and say to a friend I fancy her personality.

Just thought I would put that out there to quash any bitchyness. "

That's what messaging is for, you get to know the person. Then come the time of meeting them, there is more than just looks and a notch in the bed post.

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I've met plenty of people in this world that would be classed as "beautiful" that I would pass on in a minute.

Either they had no personality to speak of, bored out your arse chat wise. They are probably lazy because they don't really (think) they need to make any effort or they are just dicks anyway.

Give me a happy, horny and humble person any day of the week.

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By *punkymonkey40Man
over a year ago

derby

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and true beauty is from within

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree looks can catch your eye but if there's no personality its not worth hanging around.

I find different things attractive in different people. It might be their eyes or their smile or their bum, whatever it is that has attracted me to someone in the past its always been the way they act and react that has made want to be with them.

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"I agree looks can catch your eye but if there's no personality its not worth hanging around.

I find different things attractive in different people. It might be their eyes or their smile or their bum, whatever it is that has attracted me to someone in the past its always been the way they act and react that has made want to be with them. "

Yup same as above

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


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I've met plenty of people in this world that would be classed as "beautiful" that I would pass on in a minute.

Either they had no personality to speak of, bored out your arse chat wise. They are probably lazy because they don't really (think) they need to make any effort or they are just dicks anyway.

Give me a happy, horny and humble person any day of the week. "

Can't a beautiful person be happy, horny and humble?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I've met plenty of people in this world that would be classed as "beautiful" that I would pass on in a minute.

Either they had no personality to speak of, bored out your arse chat wise. They are probably lazy because they don't really (think) they need to make any effort or they are just dicks anyway.

Give me a happy, horny and humble person any day of the week.

Can't a beautiful person be happy, horny and humble?"

Of course not this is fab. You have to be one extreme or another. Whatever the subject. You can't be anything else otherwise it doesn't work!

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow


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I've met plenty of people in this world that would be classed as "beautiful" that I would pass on in a minute.

Either they had no personality to speak of, bored out your arse chat wise. They are probably lazy because they don't really (think) they need to make any effort or they are just dicks anyway.

Give me a happy, horny and humble person any day of the week.

Can't a beautiful person be happy, horny and humble?"

Yep for sure just pointing that's my criteria and if they are beautiful more the better, im just saying it's not mutually exclusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree looks can catch your eye but if there's no personality its not worth hanging around.

I find different things attractive in different people. It might be their eyes or their smile or their bum, whatever it is that has attracted me to someone in the past its always been the way they act and react that has made want to be with them. "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't got personality either "

lol you're buggered then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"looks can be solved with a hood, personality with a ball gag "

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"looks can be solved with a hood, personality with a ball gag

"

Ha ha someone had to play the filth factor card nice

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I must be one ugly mofo with no personality to boot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are not everything but when seeking a sexual partner, these are very important. It is only if I find a man attractive would I strike up a conversation with him o rcontinue with the conversation he starts

Personality is quite important too but not so much as I am not looking to meet with him frequently or regularly or become friends with him

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've noticed looks don't even matter at all, just act like you'll fuck anyone and all of a sudden attractiveness goes up loads...for women anyway, not so much for men."

Too an extent. I always prefer a few messages first before revealing our face pictures, as I find you make assumptions about personality based on looks.

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