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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Wow , after reading some of the threads recently from couples complaining about single guys not being suitable for their needs , we really feel it's time to give them a break .

We have been on and off fab for six years , and single guys are the main reason we swing . We've had so many fantastic meets with them , and can't understand the attitude of some on here . Surely a single guy is as entitled as anyone else on here to have a good time . So why do so many of you insist on them jumping through hoops and so on ?

It's cool if they aren't what you ar even looking for , but if you are , why is there such an entitled attitude from so many couples on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supply and demand? There's so many single men that it really is a buyers market.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The entitled attitude is rife regardless. I guess that's why they have plenty to moan about as no decent person would go near them.

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Supply and demand? There's so many single men that it really is a buyers market."

That's true , but just because there are so many single guys wanting to play , it doesn't mean they are no good !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes some work for us single guys to stand out from the crowd, but it also takes some work for females and couples to sift through the detritus to find the gems. I don't believe anyone deserves more sympathy than anyone else to be honest!

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"The entitled attitude is rife regardless. I guess that's why they have plenty to moan about as no decent person would go near them. "

I guess we must be indecent then

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I only met single men. I only visited clubs for single men. Single men are fine by me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they get big headed from receiving hundreds of messages from desperate men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single guy. I'd like someone to feel me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Supply and demand? There's so many single men that it really is a buyers market."

Doesn't mean can't treat them with respect.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I think some couples feel that swinging is reserved for couples and all these single people aren't "real" swingers. Which is silly as without the singles a lot of threesome fantasies would be left unfulfilled. Single males should be treated as an equal party in any three way situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The entitled attitude is rife regardless. I guess that's why they have plenty to moan about as no decent person would go near them.

I guess we must be indecent then "

I meant that's why those with the entitled attitudes have plenty to moan about

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"Wow , after reading some of the threads recently from couples complaining about single guys not being suitable for their needs , we really feel it's time to give them a break .

We have been on and off fab for six years , and single guys are the main reason we swing . We've had so many fantastic meets with them , and can't understand the attitude of some on here . Surely a single guy is as entitled as anyone else on here to have a good time . So why do so many of you insist on them jumping through hoops and so on ?

It's cool if they aren't what you ar even looking for , but if you are , why is there such an entitled attitude from so many couples on here ?

"

Although we don't play with single guys I agree with what you are saying, some do get a raw deal but I'm keeping quiet now because I was banned from forums for 48hrs last time I spoke out for the sIngle guys lol !!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I'm a single guy. I'd like someone to feel me. "

*grabby hands*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The entitled attitude is rife regardless. I guess that's why they have plenty to moan about as no decent person would go near them. "

I saw someone say only today that it's no wonder single men get a bad rep because she got blocked by one. So apparently I'm going to be rude because some other single dude was. It's risible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I am one in a million

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"It takes some work for us single guys to stand out from the crowd, but it also takes some work for females and couples to sift through the detritus to find the gems. I don't believe anyone deserves more sympathy than anyone else to be honest! "

I don't think it's sympathy as such .

I know I'd hate to be one of the many single guys on here who get ignored or have to pass a series of tests to get a meet .

And it's the way so many say that you have to sift through the debris to find a good one that sucks in our opinion . Every guy we have met has had his merits and we've enjoyed every meet . We certainly don't feel like it's an effort to find decent single guys at all .

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Supply and demand? There's so many single men that it really is a buyers market.

That's true , but just because there are so many single guys wanting to play , it doesn't mean they are no good !

"

So they shouldn't jump through hoops then, problem sorted, the couples or females that insist on this would soon change their attitudes don't you think?

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"The entitled attitude is rife regardless. I guess that's why they have plenty to moan about as no decent person would go near them.

I guess we must be indecent then

I meant that's why those with the entitled attitudes have plenty to moan about "

Oh ...

My mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes some work for us single guys to stand out from the crowd, but it also takes some work for females and couples to sift through the detritus to find the gems. I don't believe anyone deserves more sympathy than anyone else to be honest!

I don't think it's sympathy as such .

I know I'd hate to be one of the many single guys on here who get ignored or have to pass a series of tests to get a meet .

And it's the way so many say that you have to sift through the debris to find a good one that sucks in our opinion . Every guy we have met has had his merits and we've enjoyed every meet . We certainly don't feel like it's an effort to find decent single guys at all ."

There's a lot of really rude, disrespectful men on here. That's why people get pissed off. You're lucky if you've only interacted with decent men. Nice guys do exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only on here for single guys, I like them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of nice single men on here, whether they are what someone is looking for or not.

Unfortunately, the 'entitled' attitude that has been mentioned also applies to many of the not so nice single men. To be honest, i think it applies to some people from all categories. We all have preferences, it is just a matter of respecting them.

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Supply and demand? There's so many single men that it really is a buyers market.

That's true , but just because there are so many single guys wanting to play , it doesn't mean they are no good !

So they shouldn't jump through hoops then, problem sorted, the couples or females that insist on this would soon change their attitudes don't you think?"

Absolutely

Trouble is that there will always be those who will because of the supply and demand thing .

Sad but true , and the white knights would become redundant too .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes some work for us single guys to stand out from the crowd, but it also takes some work for females and couples to sift through the detritus to find the gems. I don't believe anyone deserves more sympathy than anyone else to be honest!

I don't think it's sympathy as such .

I know I'd hate to be one of the many single guys on here who get ignored or have to pass a series of tests to get a meet .

And it's the way so many say that you have to sift through the debris to find a good one that sucks in our opinion . Every guy we have met has had his merits and we've enjoyed every meet . We certainly don't feel like it's an effort to find decent single guys at all ."

I just think you don't have to meet the ladies/couples that demand you jump through hoops - I've managed to have 3 meets without doing all that. I avoid the ones with ridiculous demands, but if some guys are willing to go through all that then fair enough.

It's good that you've been able to find decent single men easily, from what I've heard from Fab friends and the forum in general, it doesn't seem like it's that easy for everyone.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

How about this scenario. A meet request from a male half of a couple. A very well verified couple. Young and attractive.

When I pointed out a couple of things that didn't float my boat

1. Absolutely no pics of him

2. Dishonesty about his sexuality

3. He is supposed to be a couple!

His reply was quite aghast and surely a well verified male from a couple is far better than a random single guy

Er no. While it can take time and be frustrating, when the right guy(s) show up its party time all the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know how I would feel if most messages I sent were deleted, after taking time to read profiles and write something appropriate.

I have it easy, as do most women and couples on here, compared to most men.

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"It takes some work for us single guys to stand out from the crowd, but it also takes some work for females and couples to sift through the detritus to find the gems. I don't believe anyone deserves more sympathy than anyone else to be honest!

I don't think it's sympathy as such .

I know I'd hate to be one of the many single guys on here who get ignored or have to pass a series of tests to get a meet .

And it's the way so many say that you have to sift through the debris to find a good one that sucks in our opinion . Every guy we have met has had his merits and we've enjoyed every meet . We certainly don't feel like it's an effort to find decent single guys at all .

There's a lot of really rude, disrespectful men on here. That's why people get pissed off. You're lucky if you've only interacted with decent men. Nice guys do exist."

See now this is odd , because in all the time we have been in here and after countless meets , we haven't come across these really rude and disrespectful men .

Of course we get the odd message which isn't ideal , but we get as many from couples and single women of the same nature as we do from single guys .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do feel sorry for the single men sometimes. Some couples and females feel they can say what they want because the single males can be replaced easily with someone who will happily jump through their hoops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes some work for us single guys to stand out from the crowd, but it also takes some work for females and couples to sift through the detritus to find the gems. I don't believe anyone deserves more sympathy than anyone else to be honest!

I don't think it's sympathy as such .

I know I'd hate to be one of the many single guys on here who get ignored or have to pass a series of tests to get a meet .

And it's the way so many say that you have to sift through the debris to find a good one that sucks in our opinion . Every guy we have met has had his merits and we've enjoyed every meet . We certainly don't feel like it's an effort to find decent single guys at all .

I just think you don't have to meet the ladies/couples that demand you jump through hoops - I've managed to have 3 meets without doing all that. I avoid the ones with ridiculous demands, but if some guys are willing to go through all that then fair enough.

It's good that you've been able to find decent single men easily, from what I've heard from Fab friends and the forum in general, it doesn't seem like it's that easy for everyone."

I find it very easy to meet single men here, it's the single women and couples I struggle with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been chatting to some lovely men today. Most I've known for ages. I went for a cooked brekkie Social with a great guy this morning too. I don't understand why so many just tar all men with the same brush. Pretty short sighted really.

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By *udemattMan
over a year ago

sleaford

I understand why single ladies and couples don't reply to messages as it would take up most of their time saying no thanks. Then getting a load of abuse of the idiots who think just because it is a sex site every woman on here should service them.

The only thing that irritates me is when I do get a message from someone and it is just a "hello" but their profile states they will not respond to single word or sentence messages!

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"It takes some work for us single guys to stand out from the crowd, but it also takes some work for females and couples to sift through the detritus to find the gems. I don't believe anyone deserves more sympathy than anyone else to be honest!

I don't think it's sympathy as such .

I know I'd hate to be one of the many single guys on here who get ignored or have to pass a series of tests to get a meet .

And it's the way so many say that you have to sift through the debris to find a good one that sucks in our opinion . Every guy we have met has had his merits and we've enjoyed every meet . We certainly don't feel like it's an effort to find decent single guys at all .

I just think you don't have to meet the ladies/couples that demand you jump through hoops - I've managed to have 3 meets without doing all that. I avoid the ones with ridiculous demands, but if some guys are willing to go through all that then fair enough.

It's good that you've been able to find decent single men easily, from what I've heard from Fab friends and the forum in general, it doesn't seem like it's that easy for everyone."

And that's the whole point of this thread .

Why is it so hard to find them for those who struggle ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Supply and demand? There's so many single men that it really is a buyers market.

Doesn't mean can't treat them with respect. "

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It takes some work for us single guys to stand out from the crowd, but it also takes some work for females and couples to sift through the detritus to find the gems. I don't believe anyone deserves more sympathy than anyone else to be honest!

I don't think it's sympathy as such .

I know I'd hate to be one of the many single guys on here who get ignored or have to pass a series of tests to get a meet .

And it's the way so many say that you have to sift through the debris to find a good one that sucks in our opinion . Every guy we have met has had his merits and we've enjoyed every meet . We certainly don't feel like it's an effort to find decent single guys at all .

I just think you don't have to meet the ladies/couples that demand you jump through hoops - I've managed to have 3 meets without doing all that. I avoid the ones with ridiculous demands, but if some guys are willing to go through all that then fair enough.

It's good that you've been able to find decent single men easily, from what I've heard from Fab friends and the forum in general, it doesn't seem like it's that easy for everyone.

And that's the whole point of this thread .

Why is it so hard to find them for those who struggle ?"

I suspect many forum people would say we aren't discerning about who we meet (we fuck anyone).

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By *punkymonkey40Man
over a year ago

derby

This is the 2nd time I have tried fabswingers.. And still no joy but I am not going to complain I do go to the attic when I can..but even there it's not easy when you don't know anyone and this is why I am trying again here to meet people even if just for a chat.. And I have as much chance in winning the lottery at the moment that's how it feels. But that's life I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know how I would feel if most messages I sent were deleted, after taking time to read profiles and write something appropriate.

I have it easy, as do most women and couples on here, compared to most men. "

And there it is, reading profiles and sending appropriate messages... A big shout out for the very many single guys that do this (as opposed to the ones that just carpet bomb everyone!), they deserve a reply, even if it is a polite no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some couples should come down to earth abit lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been chatting to some lovely men today. Most I've known for ages. I went for a cooked brekkie Social with a great guy this morning too. I don't understand why so many just tar all men with the same brush. Pretty short sighted really. "

I get the impression that people are pissed off because they can't find their Mr Perfect and take it out on the rest of the men here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know how I would feel if most messages I sent were deleted, after taking time to read profiles and write something appropriate.

I have it easy, as do most women and couples on here, compared to most men.

And there it is, reading profiles and sending appropriate messages... A big shout out for the very many single guys that do this (as opposed to the ones that just carpet bomb everyone!), they deserve a reply, even if it is a polite no thank you. "

Maybe the carpet bombers got fed up reading profiles, sending appropriate messages and having them deleted. I think I'd lose heart myself.

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Hey I got banned from the forums for sticking up for the single guys !

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I do feel sorry for the single men sometimes. Some couples and females feel they can say what they want because the single males can be replaced easily with someone who will happily jump through their hoops.

"

The harshest thing I have ever said to a single male is when they have messaged me with 'I love your profile and pics can we chat?' when they only have a 1 line like 'here for fun' and either no pics or a cock pic, so I reply with 'well your profile is shite so come back to me once you have one'

It works both ways, as I can't be arsed dealing with the inadequate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey I got banned from the forums for sticking up for the single guys ! "

Yeah you said before. Must have been a corker to get a ban

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't often chat with single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know how I would feel if most messages I sent were deleted, after taking time to read profiles and write something appropriate.

I have it easy, as do most women and couples on here, compared to most men.

And there it is, reading profiles and sending appropriate messages... A big shout out for the very many single guys that do this (as opposed to the ones that just carpet bomb everyone!), they deserve a reply, even if it is a polite no thank you.

Maybe the carpet bombers got fed up reading profiles, sending appropriate messages and having them deleted. I think I'd lose heart myself. "

Fair point... all single men shouldn't be tarred with the same brush, any more than anyone else on here should.

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"Hey I got banned from the forums for sticking up for the single guys !

Yeah you said before. Must have been a corker to get a ban "

Thank you for acknowledging my protest lol I was starting to feel like one of the poor single guys beIng ignored

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Hey I got banned from the forums for sticking up for the single guys ! "

I suspect it probably had more to do with how you stuck up for them.

By the way, the first rule of ban-club is don't talk about ban-club.

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"Hey I got banned from the forums for sticking up for the single guys !

I suspect it probably had more to do with how you stuck up for them.

By the way, the first rule of ban-club is don't talk about ban-club."

Ooh ok I'm still learning about all this forum stuff that's probably why I get into trouble so sorry big brother !!!!

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

OP

I'm from your area, and yes, it is difficult.

Mostly, you get ignored. No matter how polite and non pushy you can be, you just get ignored.

I know that I come over better in person than behind a screen, but if they don't even acknowledge my existence, there isn't much chance that they're going to find out the good bits.

Mind you, I've seen a friends inbox from men! Come on guys, it's like Turkeys voting for xmas

But, all the worst treatment had been from couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know how I would feel if most messages I sent were deleted, after taking time to read profiles and write something appropriate.

I have it easy, as do most women and couples on here, compared to most men. "

It's a little rough at the start. But I mainly stick to going to clubs and socials (the odd flirt on a forum) seems to help match me up with friendly enough couples and singles.

But there is a unaddressed negativity against single guys. Sometimes you can feel it when you walk into a room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do feel sorry for the single men sometimes. Some couples and females feel they can say what they want because the single males can be replaced easily with someone who will happily jump through their hoops.

The harshest thing I have ever said to a single male is when they have messaged me with 'I love your profile and pics can we chat?' when they only have a 1 line like 'here for fun' and either no pics or a cock pic, so I reply with 'well your profile is shite so come back to me once you have one'

It works both ways, as I can't be arsed dealing with the inadequate "

Of course those single males deserve it and are really asking for it. I too have sent some shitty messages when I've had enough of them. They were all shitty to me in the first place to provoke such a response from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We generally don't care for couples/single guys/single girls getting into a competition about who's worse or who's sticking up for who.

There's respectful people and entitled arseholes, regardless of gender and relationship status.

And passive-aggresive whinging is far from an attractive trait.

We don't make anyone jump through hoops, we have a way of doing things molded by experience. If they don't like it, they can move on to someone else.

I don't appreciate my wife being seen as stuck up just because she won't fuck a guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single guy. I'd like someone to feel me. "

I would, given half a chance.

But single men are the only reason i'm here too. When i'm meeting that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really like being called detritus by another man. It's so uplifting and brotherly

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By *loswingers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We generally don't care for couples/single guys/single girls getting into a competition about who's worse or who's sticking up for who.

There's respectful people and entitled arseholes, regardless of gender and relationship status.

And passive-aggresive whinging is far from an attractive trait.

We don't make anyone jump through hoops, we have a way of doing things molded by experience. If they don't like it, they can move on to someone else.

I don't appreciate my wife being seen as stuck up just because she won't fuck a guy. "

I certainly haven't suggested anyone is stuck up for not wanting to fuck anyone !

My main point was that there seems to be a fair few couples saying they can't find a suitable single guy , suggesting there is a problem somewhere . We fail to see this at all , and we have high standards too .

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"I think some couples feel that swinging is reserved for couples and all these single people aren't "real" swingers. Which is silly as without the singles a lot of threesome fantasies would be left unfulfilled. Single males should be treated as an equal party in any three way situation. "

Not just single males...We treat all our guests equally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We generally don't care for couples/single guys/single girls getting into a competition about who's worse or who's sticking up for who.

There's respectful people and entitled arseholes, regardless of gender and relationship status.

And passive-aggresive whinging is far from an attractive trait.

We don't make anyone jump through hoops, we have a way of doing things molded by experience. If they don't like it, they can move on to someone else.

I don't appreciate my wife being seen as stuck up just because she won't fuck a guy.

I certainly haven't suggested anyone is stuck up for not wanting to fuck anyone !

My main point was that there seems to be a fair few couples saying they can't find a suitable single guy , suggesting there is a problem somewhere . We fail to see this at all , and we have high standards too ."

I know you didn't say that or suggest it, but others did.

And I never suggested you don't have high standards.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Well yes I agree with the op, but that is because the couples and ladies get a lot of messages from single guys who would fuck anything and just want to fuck, so this makes them feel like superstars, the couples and single ladies who are actually nothing to be honest with you will now come on here and start saying negative things about people showing you love.

These couples and single ladies who say all these negative things about single guys are not even fine , how I wish they could come into my crowd and see the reverse of the scenario where couples and single ladies are the ones chasing single guys because of their quality and the guys are saying no, this will make them keep silent.

Me and my friends have standards and we don't just fuck anything, we reject pussy and are very selective.If your attitude is bad that is an instant no from us. I am interested in the whole woman not just pussy so if any lady steps to me with that pussy card that is an instant no from me, I personally don't talk with anyone at the parties for more than 3 minutes anyway, if we can't close the deal in 3 minutes, am gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow , after reading some of the threads recently from couples complaining about single guys not being suitable for their needs , we really feel it's time to give them a break .

We have been on and off fab for six years , and single guys are the main reason we swing . We've had so many fantastic meets with them , and can't understand the attitude of some on here . Surely a single guy is as entitled as anyone else on here to have a good time . So why do so many of you insist on them jumping through hoops and so on ?

It's cool if they aren't what you ar even looking for , but if you are , why is there such an entitled attitude from so many couples on here ?

"
thankyou much appreciated although havnt experienced too much negativity yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the main issue on this site is most single guys perception of swinging does mean instashag, and when they realise that it's not what they expected, they start lashing out, either here in the forum or in personal messages.

As we all know the site is flooded with guys, so couples and women can narrow their preferences and still find what they want from the 100s of guys messaging them, most guys will be happy to do what is asked (assuming they fit what the couple or women is looking for physicallly), but some guys will stand their own ground and reject offers too.

I myself, won't bow to demands set in profiles, I just don't contact them if I read something I don't like, yes, I actually read the profile text, and not just look at the pics and go all week at the knees and hit the message button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never carpet bombed, always write more than one line or just "Hi", am always polite and respectful, always read the profile and write something relevant to the members profile I'm messaging, and if I get a rejection message don't ask why or keep messaging.

Obviously I've just not hit the right person for me yet as I've yet to meet off here. Mind, I've not been particularly successful elsewhere either. I've not bitched and moaned about it, I just go away for a week then dip in again when I feel like it.

But it's nice to hear the concern and respect for single guys, thanks one and all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but some guys will stand their own ground and reject offers too.

I myself, won't bow to demands set in profiles, I just don't contact them if I read something I don't like, yes, I actually read the profile text, and not just look at the pics and go all week at the knees and hit the message button."

This is me also, I'll read profiles and if I like what I read/see then I'll write an appropriate message.

I just won't jump because someone tells me to. That probably means I lose out on meets, but it's not a loss if I'm subject to a whole list of demands.

I just see that as dodging a bullet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well yes I agree with the op, but that is because the couples and ladies get a lot of messages from single guys who would fuck anything and just want to fuck, so this makes them feel like superstars, the couples and single ladies who are actually nothing to be honest with you will now come on here and start saying negative things about people showing you love.

These couples and single ladies who say all these negative things about single guys are not even fine , how I wish they could come into my crowd and see the reverse of the scenario where couples and single ladies are the ones chasing single guys because of their quality and the guys are saying no, this will make them keep silent.

Me and my friends have standards and we don't just fuck anything, we reject pussy and are very selective.If your attitude is bad that is an instant no from us. I am interested in the whole woman not just pussy so if any lady steps to me with that pussy card that is an instant no from me, I personally don't talk with anyone at the parties for more than 3 minutes anyway, if we can't close the deal in 3 minutes, am gone.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel single guys

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone should be treated with respect. Single men and women are actually people and not play add ons to couple's fantasies. Surely it's all about equal pleasure for all? Giving is just as pleasurable as receiving is it not?

Mrs Two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well yes I agree with the op, but that is because the couples and ladies get a lot of messages from single guys who would fuck anything and just want to fuck, so this makes them feel like superstars, the couples and single ladies who are actually nothing to be honest with you will now come on here and start saying negative things about people showing you love.

These couples and single ladies who say all these negative things about single guys are not even fine , how I wish they could come into my crowd and see the reverse of the scenario where couples and single ladies are the ones chasing single guys because of their quality and the guys are saying no, this will make them keep silent.

Me and my friends have standards and we don't just fuck anything, we reject pussy and are very selective.If your attitude is bad that is an instant no from us. I am interested in the whole woman not just pussy so if any lady steps to me with that pussy card that is an instant no from me, I personally don't talk with anyone at the parties for more than 3 minutes anyway, if we can't close the deal in 3 minutes, am gone.

"

Go you! A whole 3 minutes of investment! I hope you take your time in other ways?

You made me laugh anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well yes I agree with the op, but that is because the couples and ladies get a lot of messages from single guys who would fuck anything and just want to fuck, so this makes them feel like superstars, the couples and single ladies who are actually nothing to be honest with you will now come on here and start saying negative things about people showing you love.

These couples and single ladies who say all these negative things about single guys are not even fine , how I wish they could come into my crowd and see the reverse of the scenario where couples and single ladies are the ones chasing single guys because of their quality and the guys are saying no, this will make them keep silent.

Me and my friends have standards and we don't just fuck anything, we reject pussy and are very selective.If your attitude is bad that is an instant no from us. I am interested in the whole woman not just pussy so if any lady steps to me with that pussy card that is an instant no from me, I personally don't talk with anyone at the parties for more than 3 minutes anyway, if we can't close the deal in 3 minutes, am gone.

"

My word - such class - how I aspire to your to the exclusive appeal of your crowd

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I feel for them too, they seem to have a lot of hoops to jump through and are apparently not allowed to have their own wants and needs.

I like men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel single guys"
I bet you do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel for them too, they seem to have a lot of hoops to jump through and are apparently not allowed to have their own wants and needs.

I like men "
I like women god we're a match made in heaven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know how I would feel if most messages I sent were deleted, after taking time to read profiles and write something appropriate.

I have it easy, as do most women and couples on here, compared to most men. "

We, personally, don't have it easy on here, even as one of these supposedly magic couples .

Most of our messages get deleted. We just move on without whinging on the forums.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Well yes I agree with the op, but that is because the couples and ladies get a lot of messages from single guys who would fuck anything and just want to fuck, so this makes them feel like superstars, the couples and single ladies who are actually nothing to be honest with you will now come on here and start saying negative things about people showing you love.

These couples and single ladies who say all these negative things about single guys are not even fine , how I wish they could come into my crowd and see the reverse of the scenario where couples and single ladies are the ones chasing single guys because of their quality and the guys are saying no, this will make them keep silent.

Me and my friends have standards and we don't just fuck anything, we reject pussy and are very selective.If your attitude is bad that is an instant no from us. I am interested in the whole woman not just pussy so if any lady steps to me with that pussy card that is an instant no from me, I personally don't talk with anyone at the parties for more than 3 minutes anyway, if we can't close the deal in 3 minutes, am gone.

Go you! A whole 3 minutes of investment! I hope you take your time in other ways?

You made me laugh anyway lol"

That is the honest truth, the 3 minutes am talking about is not with an ugly girl, this is with an extremely beautiful girl that most guys will just melt when they see her, I really feel for some single guys when I see ladies I would not even talk to , throwing insults at these guys.

Guys don't realise there are more women in this world than there are men.

I personally see the value in myself and not in the ladies pussy so I am not bothered if a lady rejects me ,infact the quicker she rejects me the better so I can move on quickly to the next beautiful lady.

This is how I step to beautiful ladies and couples at parties, I am only interested in the yes , am not bothered by the no,if what I say in that 3 minute time is not cool and they don't want me thats fine, as for me I am gone in that space of 3 minutes, I just move on, I know what to say based on the lady and I see the value in me and not in the ladies pussy ,that is how I present myself, of course she would already see me moving from other people before I get to her and that is me.

This is not being arrogant ,this is how I play my game.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

One behaviour feeds another, the desperation often encourages the 'treat them like performing seals'.

If you know your worth, you will conduct yourself appropriately and allow no one to speak down to you.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Thanks for your positive input OP, it's nice to read in here for a change

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Well yes I agree with the op, but that is because the couples and ladies get a lot of messages from single guys who would fuck anything and just want to fuck, so this makes them feel like superstars, the couples and single ladies who are actually nothing to be honest with you will now come on here and start saying negative things about people showing you love.

These couples and single ladies who say all these negative things about single guys are not even fine , how I wish they could come into my crowd and see the reverse of the scenario where couples and single ladies are the ones chasing single guys because of their quality and the guys are saying no, this will make them keep silent.

Me and my friends have standards and we don't just fuck anything, we reject pussy and are very selective.If your attitude is bad that is an instant no from us. I am interested in the whole woman not just pussy so if any lady steps to me with that pussy card that is an instant no from me, I personally don't talk with anyone at the parties for more than 3 minutes anyway, if we can't close the deal in 3 minutes, am gone.

My word - such class - how I aspire to your to the exclusive appeal of your crowd "

Well we guys are not all the same, I have noticed most guys who grew up around women are trained to take insults from ladies and kiss their ass yes.

However, if as a guy you grew up around successful men , you are trained to respect women and be nice to them however you would see the value in yourself as a man and therefore you are not going to put yourself in any position where you can be insulted cause you would have seen ladies struggling for the attention of the successful men you grew up around and you would have learnt to value yourself as a man and respect yourself .

This is the core difference. If a lady is not fine you would not bother with her because you know she is most likely to throw insults your way. This is just how it is, the beautiful ladies are always very nice , that is what I noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One behaviour feeds another, the desperation often encourages the 'treat them like performing seals'.

If you know your worth, you will conduct yourself appropriately and allow no one to speak down to you."

As some one said earlier, getting lots of desperate emails could make the recipients big heated. But that doesn't happen with us, we just find it depressing.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"One behaviour feeds another, the desperation often encourages the 'treat them like performing seals'.

If you know your worth, you will conduct yourself appropriately and allow no one to speak down to you."

Block and move on is how I roll

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