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Is there such a thing as being to nice?

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By *Devil77 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Was chatting to a woman I chat with alot Friday, and we were comparing previous relationships and stuff and she said she is a ucker for a bad boy even though they treat her like crap.

She then said I'm to nice!

So.ladies,what's better, a guy who's respectful and kind and is generally nice or some cavy bad boy in a cap and jeans round his ass cheeks,and is the stereotypical bad boy........discus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mix of both..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mix of both.. "

You're cute you twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do we have to keep narrowing down our choices all the time?

This site allows fantasy. Escapism. For some that'll mean wined, dinef and seduced. For others a quick fingerblast when you really shouldn't....

And then some of us are greedy and like it all ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mix of both.. "

This.

Gotta be a gent in the streets and a bad boy in the sheets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always gettng told im too nice but you know what - i prefer that to being a horrid person -

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By *Devil77 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Midlands


"mix of both..

You're cute you twat "

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

She's right about the nice but too nice never

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By *Devil77 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Midlands


"mix of both..

This.

Gotta be a gent in the streets and a bad boy in the sheets. "

I said this but she said to me he was crap in bed, but stayed cause he was a bad boy!

She then said she knows nice people who'd be good for her but always picks the idiot or selfish ones.

I don't get why!

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By *Devil77 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Midlands


"She's right about the nice but too nice never "

So, a soft kiss on the cheek for you then a good hard slap on the ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be nasty. It's not in my nature, I'd just be something I'm not. And that's fake.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There's no such thing as too nice. There is such a thing as taking carp when you shouldn't because you don't like to upset someone or being a bit of a doormat.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Hmm that's a bit fishy, I meant crap

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

She said you were 'too nice' ........ this is woman tact.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"She's right about the nice but too nice never

So, a soft kiss on the cheek for you then a playful slap on the ass "

FTFY

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"mix of both..

This.

Gotta be a gent in the streets and a bad boy in the sheets.

I said this but she said to me he was crap in bed, but stayed cause he was a bad boy!

She then said she knows nice people who'd be good for her but always picks the idiot or selfish ones.

I don't get why!"

You do know she's just painting a picture that she wants you to see ? Or put more simply she's spouting B.S. for the sake of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told I'm too nice and that's why I don't get very far......... I don't have it in me to be the treat em mean keep em keen guy..... just not me.

So take me for what I am......... nice guy who's naughty in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was with my ex for 9 years there was a balance of 60% uncertainty and 40% total adoration. Meaning that he was flaky and I never quite knew where I stood, he had all the beads (power) and I was always wanting the 40% total adoration side of him to come out where I felt totally secure and loved.

I've been single more or less 8 years and my pattern of men has always been the same thing, the ones I'm not that arsed about are crazy about me and the ones I get hung up on are the ones who make me feel like I don't know where I stand. Now if the guys who made me feel like I don't know where I stand treated me like the guys who are crazy for me, I wouldn't let like them as much and if the ones who are crazy for me acted a bit more like they don't give a shit, I'd like them more. It's fucked up and It's a cycle I'm trying to break.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotionally damaged women seek to repeat these abusive relationships by seeking out men who will treat them badly. Typically it's a poor relationship with their Fathers that starts it.

Conversely, people with a history of healthy relationships use them as the benchmark for future ones.

Heavily linked to self esteem too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what mood I'm in. Right now I want a good boy who I can turn filthy bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Emotionally damaged women seek to repeat these abusive relationships by seeking out men who will treat them badly. Typically it's a poor relationship with their Fathers that starts it.

Conversely, people with a history of healthy relationships use them as the benchmark for future ones.

Heavily linked to self esteem too."

My Father never bothered with me from birth, so that fits with what I'm like!

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK


"mix of both..

This.

Gotta be a gent in the streets and a bad boy in the sheets. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to say I liked a bad boy, but now I prefer the nice guy with a bad streak in the bedroom. You can't be too nice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm nice and I do ok so I guess nice works for many the idiots who go for bad boys deserve what they get

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"When I was with my ex for 9 years there was a balance of 60% uncertainty and 40% total adoration. Meaning that he was flaky and I never quite knew where I stood, he had all the beads (power) and I was always wanting the 40% total adoration side of him to come out where I felt totally secure and loved.

I've been single more or less 8 years and my pattern of men has always been the same thing, the ones I'm not that arsed about are crazy about me and the ones I get hung up on are the ones who make me feel like I don't know where I stand. Now if the guys who made me feel like I don't know where I stand treated me like the guys who are crazy for me, I wouldn't let like them as much and if the ones who are crazy for me acted a bit more like they don't give a shit, I'd like them more. It's fucked up and It's a cycle I'm trying to break. "

Lie down on my couch.

You do not really like or love the ones that are not that good to you.

You work hard to make them see you and love you as you feel you should be loved. It's nothing to do with them. You just want to fix them cos they can't see how magnificent you are.

It is attached in some ways to low self esteem sadly.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really hoping for some Good guy responses.

The baddest I've been was when I hid a toy as a child so other kids couldn't play with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good bloke.

Bad boys are over-rated.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Really hoping for some Good guy responses.

The baddest I've been was when I hid a toy as a child so other kids couldn't play with it "

Fucking evil !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no such thing as too nice!

What they're really telling you is that you're too insecure to be who you want to be and lower your inhibitions. You're not too nice, you're too concerned about being perceived as nice and it comes off as weak and timid...a pushover. Women like nice men! What they don't like is being with a man whom other men can easily dominate and take advantage of. The man who is 'too nice' won't be aggressive enough to get the resources needed to provide for a family and to protect his woman. That's what the instincts tell them.

In addition to that, she's also telling you that she doesn't want to be the one to initiate naughty behaviour. You're being 'too nice' because you're not seeing her as a sexual being that wants to be fucked! You're being too nice and respectful and naive as to the puddle in her panties.

That doesn't mean be an asshole or disrespectful and unrefined but it means wake the fuck up and realise that she's a sexual being. She wants you to take some risk, be courageous, and take the lead with skill and tact.

You're too nice = I want to be seduced and lead but you're too much of a coward!

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

My preference is totally for nice guys - who are respectful, considerate, understanding, thoughtful, unselfish and genuinely interested in women as individuals. But they've got to have a glint in their eye and a filthy streak buried not too far from the surface ...

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By *Devil77 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Midlands


"I can't be nasty. It's not in my nature, I'd just be something I'm not. And that's fake. "

Yeah, I think like that.

I just be me,try and be a good dad and a mostly nice person (we all lose our rag sometimes). Anything else is just fake like you say.

I'm liking the varied answers/responses though.keep em coming

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By *Devil77 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Midlands


"She's right about the nice but too nice never

So, a soft kiss on the cheek for you then a playful slap on the ass

FTFY "

Come over here pinky,I'll fix something for you

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Really hoping for some Good guy responses.

The baddest I've been was when I hid a toy as a child so other kids couldn't play with it "

I love good guys but preferably ones who aren't quite so young

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"She's right about the nice but too nice never

So, a soft kiss on the cheek for you then a playful slap on the ass

FTFY

Come over here pinky,I'll fix something for you "

Hmmmm seems you have a streak of naughtiness there Mr nice guy

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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nice definitely.

been with the dickhead guy and didn't enjoy it. made me laugh when he told our oldest son he still loved me, he never loved me or doesn't know what love is.

being fucked about or knowing where i stand?

being honest or doing shady shit behind my back?

lying to save your own ass or not lying to save mine?

helping yourself to my shit and not giving much back in return?

not focusing on me or being devoted?

i know what i enjoy and know which type of guy will give that to me. bad boys are shit and not even fun and just repulse me now i know i'm worth more. would like to thank the one nice guy i ever has a relationship with for proving that to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mix of both..

This.

Gotta be a gent in the streets and a bad boy in the sheets. "

Doesn't always work...too nice on a social meet = no sheets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was chatting to a woman I chat with alot Friday, and we were comparing previous relationships and stuff and she said she is a ucker for a bad boy even though they treat her like crap.

She then said I'm to nice!

So.ladies,what's better, a guy who's respectful and kind and is generally nice or some cavy bad boy in a cap and jeans round his ass cheeks,and is the stereotypical bad boy........discus"

Please stay as you are. Change for no one. That lady is obviously happy to be walked over, talked down to and maybe controlled. Thats been my experience with so called bad boys...never again. However, a lot of women hope to meet decent guys. I miss dating gentleman! . When I'm ready to date for real, those are the types I'd hope to meet. Happily go without until then.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

Havn't you worked out from th above replies: All Girls love a bastard!!

Then spend their time bitching about them when they "split up" (get dumped).

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"mix of both..

This.

Gotta be a gent in the streets and a bad boy in the sheets.

I said this but she said to me he was crap in bed, but stayed cause he was a bad boy!

She then said she knows nice people who'd be good for her but always picks the idiot or selfish ones.

I don't get why!"

She has serious self-esteem issues by the sound of things!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"There's no such thing as too nice!

What they're really telling you is that you're too insecure to be who you want to be and lower your inhibitions. You're not too nice, you're too concerned about being perceived as nice and it comes off as weak and timid...a pushover. Women like nice men! What they don't like is being with a man whom other men can easily dominate and take advantage of. The man who is 'too nice' won't be aggressive enough to get the resources needed to provide for a family and to protect his woman. That's what the instincts tell them.

In addition to that, she's also telling you that she doesn't want to be the one to initiate naughty behaviour. You're being 'too nice' because you're not seeing her as a sexual being that wants to be fucked! You're being too nice and respectful and naive as to the puddle in her panties.

That doesn't mean be an asshole or disrespectful and unrefined but it means wake the fuck up and realise that she's a sexual being. She wants you to take some risk, be courageous, and take the lead with skill and tact.

You're too nice = I want to be seduced and lead but you're too much of a coward!"

In some circumstances this is correct. I've even started dating guys I really ought to fancy but who were just too WET for me to get excited about lol! Like many women, I like masculine, confident, even cocky men who kind of ooze testosterone and make me feel a bit subby in relation to them....but in order to do that, they have to be competent, considerate, and make me feel SAFE!!

That means they know how to treat a woman (well!!) and look out for her!

The reason the 'bad boy' is such a myth is it is based around exciting, sexy, confident men who might be the young rebels of society (ie bad) but are sexually attractive. Think Marlon Brando on a Triumph!

That doesn't mean they treat women badly - those guys are just worthless shits! Any woman that repeatedly puts up with men who 'treat women badly' has self-esteem issues.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Just be a gentleman who is not a doormat and you will be fine.

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By *oneDoeWoman
over a year ago

socially distanced


"So, a soft kiss on the cheek for you then a good hard slap on the ass "

This every time!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nothing wrong with being nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to be nice

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Nice guys for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mix of both..

This.

Gotta be a gent in the streets and a bad boy in the sheets.

Doesn't always work...too nice on a social meet = no sheets"

How about meeting for sex first. I'll be a bastard afterwards and it won't matter then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like nice

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Havn't you worked out from th above replies: All Girls love a bastard!!

Then spend their time bitching about them when they "split up" (get dumped)."

you can't get dumped by a dickhead, they never fuck off for good. takes ages to get rid of one and even then they'll keep trying their luck.

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

I sometimes feel that I'm too nice, I've been told it even more.

But, I can't be nasty, it's not in me. If I have to, I'm just a bad actor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can ultimately only be the person you are and nothing more. I think of myself as nice with a naughtier side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I'm not nice and didn't even realise it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely nice guy.

I've done the dating dick heads things, but realised I deserve so much better. Now when I get a whiff of dickheadery - they're gone. Simple as. I just can't tolerate the bullshit that comes with dating sometimes these days lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mix of both..

This.

Gotta be a gent in the streets and a bad boy in the sheets.

Doesn't always work...too nice on a social meet = no sheets

How about meeting for sex first. I'll be a bastard afterwards and it won't matter then. "

Yeah I get you....no more social meets here

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Was chatting to a woman I chat with alot Friday, and we were comparing previous relationships and stuff and she said she is a ucker for a bad boy even though they treat her like crap.

She then said I'm to nice!

"

Tell her to fuck off then

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By *shaftMan
over a year ago

Accrington


"Emotionally damaged women seek to repeat these abusive relationships by seeking out men who will treat them badly. Typically it's a poor relationship with their Fathers that starts it.

Conversely, people with a history of healthy relationships use them as the benchmark for future ones.

Heavily linked to self esteem too."
would like to private message you on this but your settings don't allow,please contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, don't stop being "too nice". Ever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm way too nice....but just lately certain people have been pushing my "bitch button". Sometimes this place brings out stuff in me that shouldn't be there!!!

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