FabSwingers.com forum: Do I contact my ex??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No brainier, steer well clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nike knows nothing about relationships. - Don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thought after 3 attempts at it you should have your answer by now, it's clearly not meant to be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past."

Isn't life about taking risks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ex for a reason stay well clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ruuuuuun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, you've tried a few times and there's something not working for you both hence her being an ex. Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality.

Do yourself a favour and forget about her x

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Two years dude and now you're on fab, let it go

Leave them to shitty dates on pof while you explore the wonderful world of hedonism

Always move forward never back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact you're even asking this in here suggests you have serious doubts therefore I'd possibly suggest avoiding contact.

None of us here know your full situation so there's maybe more to this than we realise.

Only you know deep down how this will go.

Trust your gut instinct and go with that.

Good luck

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

What were the reasons for it to fail previously?

Could you see these happening again?

There's your answer...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?"

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

For the love of God run!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Don't do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?"

I waste 2 years of my life because I gave way too many chances to the guy who didn't appreciate me. So no I won't give second chance again...World is full of women. Do you need to beg for attention still the same one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Never.

I can understand you have feelings for this person but if you've tried THREE times and failed THREE times, I think it's time to accept that it's not something that will work.

We all have "that one" who will always mean something, but that doesn't mean continuously trying to make a go of a relationship that evidently doesn't work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No don't do it, she's an ex for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on! If i lived closer id give u my pussy to fuck and keep ur mind off them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

This

and the irony is she is on pof fs.

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By *rjpinkMan
over a year ago

winterfell

Yes thats a great idea..... will say nobody ever.

Tough but youve just got to try and move forward

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship."

^^Yeap seems to be the case, so why ask the question, just go ahead and contact her again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

This

and the irony is she is on pof fs. "
She just came out of a to year relationship. I havent spoken to her or seen anything of her as I don't use fb or twitter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship."

I didn't mess anything up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up"

My point is you're not interested in hearing the many people saying stay away and have already decided to go running back. Why ask the question if you don't want to hear the answers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

This

and the irony is she is on pof fs. She just came out of a to year relationship. I havent spoken to her or seen anything of her as I don't use fb or twitter. "

It's your life and ultimately your decision do what your heart tells you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why did you part in the past?

And did you mean she terrorises you? If so, how?

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By *asters-slutWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up"

Dude don't do it!

Wether you messed it up or she did. There were still reasons why you broke up 3 times!

Just because she's out of a relationship, doesn't mean she will want you back.

Your just setting yourself up to fall once again.

If she is how you say she is, surely you have more self worth than to go back to someone like that?

Think higher of yourself, and don't settle for the familiar.

Take a risk, and try something new, you're drawn back to her because she's a safe option.

Find someone new and exciting.

It'll be better in the long run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on why you both broke up ?

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"I would have thought after 3 attempts at it you should have your answer by now, it's clearly not meant to be

Yeah they're ex's for a reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up

My point is you're not interested in hearing the many people saying stay away and have already decided to go running back. Why ask the question if you don't want to hear the answers? "

I am interested. I'm probing for thoughts on the risks and whether anyone thinks it's worth the risk.

As I said in the post 'My head says no, but my heart says at least try'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you want to contact her anyway and want to be talked out of it.....am sure you will regardless of what anyone here says.. heart ruling the head and all that...good luck

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

Yes, contact her. You clearly want to and nothing we can say will change your mind. You will continue to torture yourself this way until you wake up one morning and realise that the time you've spent pining after her could have been spent on a mutually fulfilling relationship. Or until you both realise you were meant for each other and it all works out.

Whatever happens I hope the least damage possible is caused to all concerned.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up

My point is you're not interested in hearing the many people saying stay away and have already decided to go running back. Why ask the question if you don't want to hear the answers?

I am interested. I'm probing for thoughts on the risks and whether anyone thinks it's worth the risk.

As I said in the post 'My head says no, but my heart says at least try'."

You've tried three times. Why would a fourth be any different?

Three failures should be enough to tell you that it isn't worth another round of heartache. But, ultimately, nobody can make that decision other than you.

I appreciate that you're trying to work out what to do but regardless of what anyone says in here or anywhere else, you're only going to do what you TRULY want to do.

I hope whatever decision you make, it works out for ya.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of people get back together.

Worth a pop, but don't hassle her and be cautious.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Some people like drama!

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.

If after three attempts it hasn't worked...

Don't know why I'm wasting my time as you're going to go there again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up

Dude don't do it!

Wether you messed it up or she did. There were still reasons why you broke up 3 times!

Just because she's out of a relationship, doesn't mean she will want you back.

Your just setting yourself up to fall once again.

If she is how you say she is, surely you have more self worth than to go back to someone like that?

Think higher of yourself, and don't settle for the familiar.

Take a risk, and try something new, you're drawn back to her because she's a safe option.

Find someone new and exciting.

It'll be better in the long run. "

I honestly doubt I'll meet someone else tbh which is why I'm tempted.

Good advice though, it's probably what i'll do

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I would have thought after 3 attempts at it you should have your answer by now, it's clearly not meant to be

We can see it...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up

Dude don't do it!

Wether you messed it up or she did. There were still reasons why you broke up 3 times!

Just because she's out of a relationship, doesn't mean she will want you back.

Your just setting yourself up to fall once again.

If she is how you say she is, surely you have more self worth than to go back to someone like that?

Think higher of yourself, and don't settle for the familiar.

Take a risk, and try something new, you're drawn back to her because she's a safe option.

Find someone new and exciting.

It'll be better in the long run.

I honestly doubt I'll meet someone else tbh which is why I'm tempted.

Good advice though, it's probably what i'll do

Why do you doubt you'll meet someone else?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I'm guessing as she is on pof and not trying to contact you she kind of isn't interested.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up

My point is you're not interested in hearing the many people saying stay away and have already decided to go running back. Why ask the question if you don't want to hear the answers? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 failed attempts amd describe her as your one true love.

You need to move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh no! I sometimes worry when im on tinder thats gunna happen but thankfully its not yet. I think if you saw their pictures youd just be overcome w so many feelings itd fuck you up. Theres no guarantee they would even reply and that would bother you too. Out of sight out of mind is what i say

good luck X

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By *asters-slutWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up

Dude don't do it!

Wether you messed it up or she did. There were still reasons why you broke up 3 times!

Just because she's out of a relationship, doesn't mean she will want you back.

Your just setting yourself up to fall once again.

If she is how you say she is, surely you have more self worth than to go back to someone like that?

Think higher of yourself, and don't settle for the familiar.

Take a risk, and try something new, you're drawn back to her because she's a safe option.

Find someone new and exciting.

It'll be better in the long run.

I honestly doubt I'll meet someone else tbh which is why I'm tempted.

Good advice though, it's probably what i'll do

Why do you doubt you'll meet someone else?"

You need to seriously start thinking better of yourself. There are always other people who you can meet

Not only that, but who says you need to be with someone to be happy?

A wise man once told me, it's better to be happy alone, than to be unhappy with someone. What's the point in going back to her when you know it's only going to end up in heartache again?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up

Dude don't do it!

Wether you messed it up or she did. There were still reasons why you broke up 3 times!

Just because she's out of a relationship, doesn't mean she will want you back.

Your just setting yourself up to fall once again.

If she is how you say she is, surely you have more self worth than to go back to someone like that?

Think higher of yourself, and don't settle for the familiar.

Take a risk, and try something new, you're drawn back to her because she's a safe option.

Find someone new and exciting.

It'll be better in the long run.

I honestly doubt I'll meet someone else tbh which is why I'm tempted.

Good advice though, it's probably what i'll do

Why do you doubt you'll meet someone else?"

I don't work with any women, don't have any female friends, rarely socialize with women but only because I'm never around them.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Sounds like she has moved on and is looking for new pastures to graze in. While you on the other hand are sitting in a chair looking out of the window watching the world go by, waiting for something to happen. You need to let go of the past otherwise you'll always be there. Time to move on and find your own new pastures.

Mr2

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm guessing as she is on pof and not trying to contact you she kind of isn't interested. "

I'm not on pof, fb or twitter.

She doesn't have anyway of contacting me

Different phone number too.

Not that she would contact me necessarily.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up

Dude don't do it!

Wether you messed it up or she did. There were still reasons why you broke up 3 times!

Just because she's out of a relationship, doesn't mean she will want you back.

Your just setting yourself up to fall once again.

If she is how you say she is, surely you have more self worth than to go back to someone like that?

Think higher of yourself, and don't settle for the familiar.

Take a risk, and try something new, you're drawn back to her because she's a safe option.

Find someone new and exciting.

It'll be better in the long run.

I honestly doubt I'll meet someone else tbh which is why I'm tempted.

Good advice though, it's probably what i'll do

Why do you doubt you'll meet someone else?

I don't work with any women, don't have any female friends, rarely socialize with women but only because I'm never around them.

The women you meet on here aren't an option then?

If your life precludes meeting women make a couple of changes so that you do. There are (non swinging) social groups in most areas and loads of dating apps.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

You are asking the question, therefore you have doubts in your heart. If you want her back, you need to show her plenty of reasons why you are a good catch and why she is regretting splitting up in the first place. That's if she is regretting it, she may not be.

I am still in contact with most of my ex's and on good terms. That's how I am and wouldn't have it any other way. It's harder in the beginning, but long term, is easier to deal with. Would I ever go back with an ex? Hell, no! But then again, if that person is the right person, then I would. Actually, that's exactly what happened. I got back with my ex after a 5 year period we were no longer together and after a week, I proposed and now we are getting married in September. We both feel that the years apart we're good for us though develop and never thought we actually separated as a couple, we just lived different lives and in different countries.

So, it is possible to get back with an ex and have a future together. You just need to be both on he same page before proceeding with the new relationship. It's not going to be the same as before, there are new 'rules' and an awkwardness, but it is possible.

Live your life to the full and if it is something she is attracted to, then reconsider. Don't go chasing. like a dog chasing after the icecream van, if you know what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I take my earlier post. Do it. Because it's obvious that's what you want to hear

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

You know it's bad idea. What is in a past should stay in a past.

Isn't life about taking risks?

You've taken the risk 3 times already.

It appears from that statement that you didn't want to hear 'stay away' as the suggestions.

In that case, go running to her again and mess up a 4th relationship.

I didn't mess anything up

Dude don't do it!

Wether you messed it up or she did. There were still reasons why you broke up 3 times!

Just because she's out of a relationship, doesn't mean she will want you back.

Your just setting yourself up to fall once again.

If she is how you say she is, surely you have more self worth than to go back to someone like that?

Think higher of yourself, and don't settle for the familiar.

Take a risk, and try something new, you're drawn back to her because she's a safe option.

Find someone new and exciting.

It'll be better in the long run.

I honestly doubt I'll meet someone else tbh which is why I'm tempted.

Good advice though, it's probably what i'll do

Why do you doubt you'll meet someone else?

I don't work with any women, don't have any female friends, rarely socialize with women but only because I'm never around them.

The women you meet on here aren't an option then?

If your life precludes meeting women make a couple of changes so that you do. There are (non swinging) social groups in most areas and loads of dating apps. "

It would be 2years before I'd get to meet any women on here lol.

I'm not really the catch women want tbh.

That's not an excuse, just the impression I've gained.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP I take my earlier post. Do it. Because it's obvious that's what you want to hear

I'm gathering thoughts, some have been very helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also to be blunt the continued posts how you will never meet any one else as justification for getting back in touch with her now she's single again show a complete lack of respect for her and just make you look desperate.

No one should make do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She is an ex for a reason. Remember that.

I've always maintained that if a relationship has failed once, it is bound to fail again and so I have never gone back with an ex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also to be blunt the continued posts how you will never meet any one else as justification for getting back in touch with her now she's single again show a complete lack of respect for her and just make you look desperate.

No one should make do"

Ya know what, that's actually a fair point!

Although I meant it in the context of I won't meet anyone else... I like as much as she

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only person who can make the decision is you. Opinions of others matter not in this.

If you want talked out of it many on here will tell you to run and don't look back or alternatively go for it.

But the only things in life we often truly regret is the things we didn't do.

Me...i like a happy ending...and you already know what might happen but if you dare to take that chance who knows how it will work out....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

No. Her appearance on a dating website is NOT about you. It's about moving on. Please let her.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I'm guessing as she is on pof and not trying to contact you she kind of isn't interested.

I'm not on pof, fb or twitter.

She doesn't have anyway of contacting me

Different phone number too.

Not that she would contact me necessarily."

If she wanted you back she'd find a way of getting in touch with you, believe me.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

It's actually your cock that's talking to you.

Contact her if you want. Life's too short to miss the chance. Plenty of time later to wish you hadn't.

Glad to have been of help x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

It's actually your cock that's talking to you.

Contact her if you want. Life's too short to miss the chance. Plenty of time later to wish you hadn't.

Glad to have been of help x"

Is that it's better tae regret something you've done than something you haven't logic GC?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S. Love the way people are telling YOU to run.

She's not chasing you.

someone should warn her that you are about to impose yourself into her space and break her peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 failed attempts amd describe her as your one true love.

You need to move on"

Ohhh, I did read that part.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

It's actually your cock that's talking to you.

Contact her if you want. Life's too short to miss the chance. Plenty of time later to wish you hadn't.

Glad to have been of help x

Is that it's better tae regret something you've done than something you haven't logic GC?"

That and also if you want to do something. Don't ask .... get it done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine was stupid enough to point out to me that my one and only love is on pof. It was stupid because he knows how much power this girl has over me.

Its been 2 years since we parted. We've been in 3 long term relationships together.

I want to contact her but she territories me lol

My head says nooooooo but my heart says at least try

"
dont do it deep breaths and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I not sure why you've bothered asking as it seems pretty clear what you're going to do. You sound like a fool, it's failed three times but you still want to give it another go? So what has changed other than that you're both single? Anything? Because if not I doubt it'll end any better this time.

Thinking you'll not meet anyone else is a ridiculous reason to go there again, and saying you never meet any women is crazy. Be proactive and do what your ex is doing, or get yourself out and about and meet new people. Good stuff rarely falls into your lap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck it!

Say hello....what actual harm can it do,

We are on this marble for a VERY short time

Live without fear!!!

Some rewards are worth a little pain

Be foolish

Be brave

Be FREE!!!!

Good luck.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many failed attempts at this particular relationship would it take for you to wake up and realise that you're wasting time and energy on a relationship that somewhere, clearly has a fault running theough it?

I assume that gal was great in bed? Because that's usually the main reason folk go back to relationships that clearly don't work on any other level.

It's your life, do as you wish. But honestly? Wake up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm guessing as she is on pof and not trying to contact you she kind of isn't interested. "

There is this too. She, at least, is moving on with her life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've changed my mind. Do it. Get in touch. Then come back and post a thread when it goes wrong.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I'm guessing as she is on pof and not trying to contact you she kind of isn't interested.

I'm not on pof, fb or twitter.

She doesn't have anyway of contacting me

Different phone number too.

Not that she would contact me necessarily.

If she wanted you back she'd find a way of getting in touch with you, believe me. "

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