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How to Handle a Situation like this?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm hoping someone can offer some advise.

I'm here as a singleton because I know no man would ever accept my diverse way of thinking.

I avoid ships called relation like the plague.

What happens if the Fwb developes feelings??

This is happening quite alot and it puts me in a really weird position.. not wanting to hurt them but knowing I'm not good for anyone.

Not in that sense anyway

Had anyone else has this experience???

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've seen it happen on here. It won't happen to me so can't comment on specifics in a meaningful manner but I'm good at compartmentalising. That helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds in your phrasing (and I may be way off the mark) that your reason for not wanting a relationship is fear and lack of belief in yourself rather than a healthy, active choice? If, and I appreciate it's an if, that's the case then perhaps working on you and addressing the fear might be the better focus rather than how to remain locked away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It sounds in your phrasing (and I may be way off the mark) that your reason for not wanting a relationship is fear and lack of belief in yourself rather than a healthy, active choice? If, and I appreciate it's an if, that's the case then perhaps working on you and addressing the fear might be the better focus rather than how to remain locked away?

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yeah just go with flow huni..

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

In situations probably honesty is the best policy (along with flattery and politeness). Yell them what you like about them, that you like their company and being around them but your feelings aren't tending towards a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adding a bogus tag like fwb onto what is a relationship won't stop feelings coming into it

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I keep having to tell them not to love me too, they won't listen

Seriously though. Sometimes those ships just get you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationships; Naw. Pump and dumps; Aye

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm scared of commitment

Plus I'm not exactly take you him to the parents kinda lass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Had a meet with Littlebeaver 6 years ago. Married her a year ago!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's not helping hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marry them then take half. Sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm scared of commitment

Plus I'm not exactly take you him to the parents kinda lass "

I relate x

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"I'm scared of commitment

Plus I'm not exactly take you him to the parents kinda lass

I relate x"

Don't worry about the parents. Most just want to see their offspring happy and with someone who makes them feel good.

Or

Don't worry about the parents, they may be be worse than you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just relax about it all. Sometimes things can evolve. The main thing is honesty.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"It sounds in your phrasing (and I may be way off the mark) that your reason for not wanting a relationship is fear and lack of belief in yourself rather than a healthy, active choice? If, and I appreciate it's an if, that's the case then perhaps working on you and addressing the fear might be the better focus rather than how to remain locked away? "

I agree with Estella and can relate to this to. In my head no man will want me 'for real' and I subconsciously put up barriers to stop getting close to someone.

I did try a relationship off here but stopped it.

Someone close to me said a few years ago, with great tact and obvious concern that I might take it the wrong way, had I considered that my liking for younger men was my way of avoiding a relationship?

I replied that it sure is

OP you are capable of feelings, stop deciding who will or won't want you. Believe someone will fall for you as you are and you'll need to worry less about all this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It sounds in your phrasing (and I may be way off the mark) that your reason for not wanting a relationship is fear and lack of belief in yourself rather than a healthy, active choice? If, and I appreciate it's an if, that's the case then perhaps working on you and addressing the fear might be the better focus rather than how to remain locked away?

I agree with Estella and can relate to this to. In my head no man will want me 'for real' and I subconsciously put up barriers to stop getting close to someone.

I did try a relationship off here but stopped it.

Someone close to me said a few years ago, with great tact and obvious concern that I might take it the wrong way, had I considered that my liking for younger men was my way of avoiding a relationship?

I replied that it sure is

OP you are capable of feelings, stop deciding who will or won't want you. Believe someone will fall for you as you are and you'll need to worry less about all this "

You too, Kinky. You're wonderful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all your replies.

I've actually met someone not into swinging... And well.. we will see where it goes..

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"I'm scared of commitment

Plus I'm not exactly take you him to the parents kinda lass "

Why not?

There is something for everyone, you cant help who you fall in love with can you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think the ship called relation might be porting and I'm terrified.

I'm scared about alot of things actually. Now this is not to be judgemental but i have alot of experience.. sexual wise. But none with a transgender. That is why I'm quite apprehensive in case it goes wrong... or I fuck it up.

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