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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can definitely relate!

It's a shame we don't see ourselves through other people's eyes sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!! "

That

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can definitely relate!

It's a shame we don't see ourselves through other people's eyes sometimes "

Oh goodness I'm so glad it's not just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years back I felt exactly the same as you OP, but I don't believe in leagues anymore, just attraction

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

I feel the same as part of a couple that I (Storm) don't match up to the single lady or the lady in the couple we are looking at ..by the way OP you are gorgeous x

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By *ngandnickCouple
over a year ago

Haverhill

I (mrs) love women with wobbly bits--- says so on profile-----

Wobbly bits are sexy x

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I don't really believe in league just attraction and attraction is a multilaye_ed thing, if they've messaged their interested for whatever reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!! "

Yes this.

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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Alcester

I think you're all fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just you ladies that feel this way

You get some couples with a ripped guy, and think 'oh' too!

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes, totally. I know I look OK and my pics are alright but sometimes someone is just so stunning I have to assume they'd be disappointed if they met me because I just won't add up to the picture they have in their heads in reality and by comparison with my saggy, wobbly bits that don't necessarily come across in my public photo gallery because they're still images. It's not cutting off my nose to spite my face or a lack of self esteem, merely applying rational thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A few years back I felt exactly the same as you OP, but I don't believe in leagues anymore, just attraction"

How did you get over that feeling though? Just thought 'to hell with it' ?

I'm usually quite a confident person but sometimes I still get stumped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god yes, normally I look at their pics and wonder what it is about me they like. I do feel better once we've swapped a few messages but feel a bit self conscious undressing in front of them at first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!!

Yes this. "

It is inc_edibly flattering and exciting though -- I'm not saying I don't want to be approached -- just everything renders me paralysed when I actually like and fancy someone because then....the fear happens. And as my fear is related to body confidence, the awesomeness of someone else's body can leave me in a state of apoplexy about meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel the same as part of a couple that I (Storm) don't match up to the single lady or the lady in the couple we are looking at ..by the way OP you are gorgeous x"

Now I think you're just beautiful

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By *uxom _edCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!! "

Spot on this exactly.

Op you have a fantastic figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This never really made sense to me because Marc finds various body shapes sexy, so I just figu_ed that men like variation in general. If he wanted to have sex with someone just like me, he'd have sex with...me

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I used to feel that way until I'd attended a few events and parties, and realised that

a) often those with the most amazing pics online look very different in reality, and

b) people I'd chatted to at these events often contacted afterwards to arrange a follow-up meet, so I can't be as wobbly as I think I am

They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder... Who are we to argue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

"

Not exclusive to single women, we both can feel that way too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I (mrs) love women with wobbly bits--- says so on profile-----

Wobbly bits are sexy x "

You've a lovely profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few years back I felt exactly the same as you OP, but I don't believe in leagues anymore, just attraction

How did you get over that feeling though? Just thought 'to hell with it' ?

I'm usually quite a confident person but sometimes I still get stumped "

I just realised that very sexy people who I'd conside_ed out of my league were finding me attractive, even after seeing me naked there was probably an element of 'to hell with it' too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to feel like that. Now I just don't bother meeting. Problem solved.

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig

I'm very wobbly. Sometimes I worry that no-one is going to find me attractive but I'm working on the self esteem issues

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not just you ladies that feel this way

You get some couples with a ripped guy, and think 'oh' too!"

Oh really? This is interesting to know that this feeling effects men also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!!

Yes this.

It is inc_edibly flattering and exciting though -- I'm not saying I don't want to be approached -- just everything renders me paralysed when I actually like and fancy someone because then....the fear happens. And as my fear is related to body confidence, the awesomeness of someone else's body can leave me in a state of apoplexy about meeting. "

Especially when you know the person you like fancies others with far better bodies than yours you're left kinda going ummm eeek I'm going be such a disappointment or compromise or lowering of standards for them, and I've got pride you know, I'd rather flirt and be of interest then meet and disappoint. This is my own personal hell and what happens in my head. Of those I've met, I've had fantastic times -- I wish I could work out how those people managed to pierce through my mindblock so I could use the skill on myself!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, totally. I know I look OK and my pics are alright but sometimes someone is just so stunning I have to assume they'd be disappointed if they met me because I just won't add up to the picture they have in their heads in reality and by comparison with my saggy, wobbly bits that don't necessarily come across in my public photo gallery because they're still images. It's not cutting off my nose to spite my face or a lack of self esteem, merely applying rational thought."

But I think of you as one of those...

I'm in awe of your pictures and are on my hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body envy never comes in to it with us, if we are playing it means we are all attracted to each other and if we wink or message it means we find you attractive.

Not better or worse just hot

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"I feel the same as part of a couple that I (Storm) don't match up to the single lady or the lady in the couple we are looking at ..by the way OP you are gorgeous x

Now I think you're just beautiful

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thank you xx

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield


"I can definitely relate!

It's a shame we don't see ourselves through other people's eyes sometimes "

You have got to be kidding me! As if!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!!

Yes this.

It is inc_edibly flattering and exciting though -- I'm not saying I don't want to be approached -- just everything renders me paralysed when I actually like and fancy someone because then....the fear happens. And as my fear is related to body confidence, the awesomeness of someone else's body can leave me in a state of apoplexy about meeting. "

Oh goodness yes.....I know I can come across as a bubbly thing but sometimes stripped back and baring all so to speak I become very nervous

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield


"It's not just you ladies that feel this way

You get some couples with a ripped guy, and think 'oh' too!"

Yeah. You get a sickeningly good looking guy wink/message you as a couple and you think hey ho they'll be a down side. Then you see he's hung like Dirk Diggler so you delete the message quick before the mrs sees it!! Lol lol

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

What makes me chuckle is all the ladies that have responded to this are gorgeous!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

"

Same for blokes really. We're not all 'hi fives and slamming pint glasses'.

That said, if we were all the same it would be a bit shite. Content with my 'lot' these days. Is what it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not just you ladies that feel this way

You get some couples with a ripped guy, and think 'oh' too!"

or you read the veris and have a nose and think - why the hell have they started talking to me? 'massivedong89' who went for 3 weeks before shooting a bucket of cum all over her is nothing like me

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Oh god yes, normally I look at their pics and wonder what it is about me they like. I do feel better once we've swapped a few messages but feel a bit self conscious undressing in front of them at first x "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm very wobbly. Sometimes I worry that no-one is going to find me attractive but I'm working on the self esteem issues "

I've just had a peek at your profile and I think you're beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

"

I can totally relate to this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to feel like that. Now I just don't bother meeting. Problem solved. "

Seriously though, I think it's easier once you get older to not have so many hang ups. I don't bother comparing myself to others as I know there's always going to be those with better bodies. It's wasted energy in my opinion. I know that those I've met have always been satisfied with what they get and that's good enough for me. I won't let having a wobbly body ruin what fun I could be having.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to feel like that. Now I just don't bother meeting. Problem solved.

Seriously though, I think it's easier once you get older to not have so many hang ups. I don't bother comparing myself to others as I know there's always going to be those with better bodies. It's wasted energy in my opinion. I know that those I've met have always been satisfied with what they get and that's good enough for me. I won't let having a wobbly body ruin what fun I could be having. "

I really love your attitude and I just wish I could have the same when I came to other woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to feel like that. Now I just don't bother meeting. Problem solved.

Seriously though, I think it's easier once you get older to not have so many hang ups. I don't bother comparing myself to others as I know there's always going to be those with better bodies. It's wasted energy in my opinion. I know that those I've met have always been satisfied with what they get and that's good enough for me. I won't let having a wobbly body ruin what fun I could be having.

I really love your attitude and I just wish I could have the same when I came to other woman "

*women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This never really made sense to me because Marc finds various body shapes sexy, so I just figu_ed that men like variation in general. If he wanted to have sex with someone just like me, he'd have sex with...me "

I agree with Marc, I also want to have sex with someone just like you

And every one of you beautiful women in here.

Remember, beauty is subjective, guys and girls love a variety, sometimes it's about the mind, the body, the face or a mix of it all. Above all, be confident with what you have, it's sexy and it shows when you're comfortable and confident in your own skin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to feel like that. Now I just don't bother meeting. Problem solved.

Seriously though, I think it's easier once you get older to not have so many hang ups. I don't bother comparing myself to others as I know there's always going to be those with better bodies. It's wasted energy in my opinion. I know that those I've met have always been satisfied with what they get and that's good enough for me. I won't let having a wobbly body ruin what fun I could be having. "

It is totally wasted energy you're right. I wonder, and I'm speaking from my own perspective here, for me I think the fact I don't have a partner (a someone that loves me) exacerbates my sabotaging feelings, a case of no one wanted me so I must be right that I'm disgusting. I know how self-fulfilling prophecy that sounds, and in life you'd not realise how lacking in confidence I am if you met me, as I know you need to "put it on, to make it a bit" -- but it's hard to not look around and think well the evidence doesn't exactly point to the fact that you're a catch....

I hope continuing to age it'll continue to be less of a worry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to feel that way until I'd attended a few events and parties, and realised that

a) often those with the most amazing pics online look very different in reality, and

b) people I'd chatted to at these events often contacted afterwards to arrange a follow-up meet, so I can't be as wobbly as I think I am

They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder... Who are we to argue? "

This ...I this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This never really made sense to me because Marc finds various body shapes sexy, so I just figu_ed that men like variation in general. If he wanted to have sex with someone just like me, he'd have sex with...me "

this is a very good theory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Baby you light up my world like nobody else......... You don't know... You don't know that you'r beautiful.... That's what makes you beautiful.......

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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We all have wobbles and wonder why someone would want us. Don't we?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Baby you light up my world like nobody else......... You don't know... You don't know that you'r beautiful.... That's what makes you beautiful....... "

You sing so well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Baby you light up my world like nobody else......... You don't know... You don't know that you'r beautiful.... That's what makes you beautiful....... "

Aww M1cks you says the nicest things fs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We all have wobbles and wonder why someone would want us. Don't we?

"

Oh goodness yes of course we do....I'm just curious if it affects others as it does me

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"We all have wobbles and wonder why someone would want us. Don't we?

Oh goodness yes of course we do....I'm just curious if it affects others as it does me "

I've lost quite a bit of weight and sometimes I forget this, I still feel a bit grim and negative about parts of my body.

I worry I will be a disappoint when I meet someone because of filters etc on photos.

It's tough, you are your own worst critic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate! I am slowly beginning to stop comparing myself to others but it's hard. It has stopped me meeting in the past too. I think generally we all need to be a little kinder to ourselves x

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

Thank you Specs

Maybe unwittingly you got a whole load of deliciously curvy ladies profiles together for me to perve... err I mean check out..

All lovely, any of you could buy me a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Baby you light up my world like nobody else......... You don't know... You don't know that you'r beautiful.... That's what makes you beautiful.......

You sing so well "

Ta duck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Baby you light up my world like nobody else......... You don't know... You don't know that you'r beautiful.... That's what makes you beautiful.......

Aww M1cks you says the nicest things fs "

You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much other women

But when gym fit guys message me I get a bit....

Erm..hello have you seen my fat ass???

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah definitely! Men can be just as body conscious!

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I think it's very normal to compare oneself to others and highlight our own insecurities often unnecessarily which only holds us back from making the most of opportunities.

I think that if someone messages or winks they've obviously seen something on the profile which attracts and makes them show interest.

Sometimes one just has to push past their doubt, hang ups and insecurities, say "Fuck it" and go for it. Nothing ventu_ed, nothing gained.

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By *rjpinkMan
over a year ago

winterfell

I much prefer a few wobbly bits to be fair! And i'm pretty damn certain i'm not the only. I just think its natural for people to doubt their own desirability

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Sometimes I do yes. I try not to but I can't help feeling that they'll just be inc_edibly disappointed with me, especially if their veris are all from similar people. I know it's not rational but meh - I want to emphasise I'm not the 'gym fit' type they mention being interested in.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

I spent years literally unable to look at myself in a mirror without my heart sinking as I was so disgusted with what I saw. Fast forward to now and I realise I was probably suffering from body dysmorphia then, and feel so sad I wasted so many opportunities to get to know people and/or have fun because I thought they'd never be remotely interested in me. It's crazy because I'd have been no worse off even if I'd gone for it, and been rejected - at least I'd have tried!

The way I feel about my body still isn't brilliant but nowhere near as skewed as it used to be, and partly that's come about as the more I speak to people on here, and the more threads like this I read, I've realised that the vast majority of people don't have much body confidence - and that includes the ones who look stunning in my opinion (which is subjective of course). I always make a *big* thing of my 'faults' (scars, mum tum, wrinkles!) before I meet - which admittedly is a bit of a gamble, as negativity can be unattractive - but when it's come to it in real life, no-one's ever recoiled in horror and little by little, I think that's helping me too.

There may be a few people about whose preferences are for their very specific 'ideal' but I really do think most people here, providing there's an initial attraction to someone's profile and pics, accept that very few of us are perfect and care far more about mutual chemistry than the odd perceived 'fault'. No one has *ever* said 'oh yeah, you were right, your stomach *is* disgusting' and half the stuff I moan about isn't noticed. Really, if you click, most people just don't care and are attracted to the whole overall individual package. And it's amazing how often someone else's perception of you is completely at odds with how you see yourself.

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By *ucilleWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

I can totally relate to this. In the past I have turned down meets based on the fact that the fem has a slim toned body. Even knowing that they found me attractive enough to message I would just be too self conscious of my wobbly bits and feel that as a result the sex wouldn't be as good.

Recently I have started to do something about it and lose a bit of weight and as a result I am more confident and feel sexier but still not at the stage where I would meet a woman who was a size 10 with no cellulite or fat. I would be too embarrassed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not trying to be big headed here but I get it the other way. I am genuinely attracted to bigger girls yet most hardly talk to me because they feel paranoid or whatever.

If they make contact then they are interested, if your pics are on show then they've seen them and are into you. Embrace it! Wobbly bits are sexy too!!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Im not trying to be big headed here but I get it the other way. I am genuinely attracted to bigger girls yet most hardly talk to me because they feel paranoid or whatever.

If they make contact then they are interested, if your pics are on show then they've seen them and are into you. Embrace it! Wobbly bits are sexy too!! "

Wobbly bits are sexy too?

No bloody way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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It's tough, you are your own worst critic."

This exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can relate! I am slowly beginning to stop comparing myself to others but it's hard. It has stopped me meeting in the past too. I think generally we all need to be a little kinder to ourselves x"

I think you're quite right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not trying to be big headed here but I get it the other way. I am genuinely attracted to bigger girls yet most hardly talk to me because they feel paranoid or whatever.

If they make contact then they are interested, if your pics are on show then they've seen them and are into you. Embrace it! Wobbly bits are sexy too!!

Wobbly bits are sexy too?

No bloody way."

I hate to say I agree with you. But I agree with you. There ain't nothing sexy about my wobbly bits.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not so much other women

But when gym fit guys message me I get a bit....

Erm..hello have you seen my fat ass???

lol "

Oh goodness yes ...it's not just women that make me feel like this...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah definitely! Men can be just as body conscious! "

This really interests me....that guys too can feel this way...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I much prefer a few wobbly bits to be fair! And i'm pretty damn certain i'm not the only. I just think its natural for people to doubt their own desirability"

yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes I do yes. I try not to but I can't help feeling that they'll just be inc_edibly disappointed with me, especially if their veris are all from similar people. I know it's not rational but meh - I want to emphasise I'm not the 'gym fit' type they mention being interested in."

Oh yes..you get it too... I'm terrible at putting on a mask I guess the this the 'fab me' but in private this is the ' real me' ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god yes I think this all of the time. I have wobbly bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I think. Oh. Why you picked me?

Then the narcissism kicks in and I think feck it. I'm only in it for the chap anyhow

My wobbly bits have wobbly bits. It's pretty obvious so if they want to meet it's likely they took that into consideration.

Don't sweat the small stuff OP. Enjoy!

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By *onathan 777Man
over a year ago

bolton

Now you know how a bloke feels

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Nope, they can't message me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I spent years literally unable to look at myself in a mirror without my heart sinking as I was so disgusted with what I saw. Fast forward to now and I realise I was probably suffering from body dysmorphia then, and feel so sad I wasted so many opportunities to get to know people and/or have fun because I thought they'd never be remotely interested in me. It's crazy because I'd have been no worse off even if I'd gone for it, and been rejected - at least I'd have tried!

The way I feel about my body still isn't brilliant but nowhere near as skewed as it used to be, and partly that's come about as the more I speak to people on here, and the more threads like this I read, I've realised that the vast majority of people don't have much body confidence - and that includes the ones who look stunning in my opinion (which is subjective of course). I always make a *big* thing of my 'faults' (scars, mum tum, wrinkles!) before I meet - which admittedly is a bit of a gamble, as negativity can be unattractive - but when it's come to it in real life, no-one's ever recoiled in horror and little by little, I think that's helping me too.

There may be a few people about whose preferences are for their very specific 'ideal' but I really do think most people here, providing there's an initial attraction to someone's profile and pics, accept that very few of us are perfect and care far more about mutual chemistry than the odd perceived 'fault'. No one has *ever* said 'oh yeah, you were right, your stomach *is* disgusting' and half the stuff I moan about isn't noticed. Really, if you click, most people just don't care and are attracted to the whole overall individual package. And it's amazing how often someone else's perception of you is completely at odds with how you see yourself."

I think I've just fallen in with you...thank you for sharing this.... I guess it really isn't the best all and end all....

I've never been a fit,small person and it's taken me years to remotely get confidence to do this but I'm very lucky that I've got some very wonderful people in my life that help me see this..though it's still can't stop you feeling these thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I spent years literally unable to look at myself in a mirror without my heart sinking as I was so disgusted with what I saw. Fast forward to now and I realise I was probably suffering from body dysmorphia then, and feel so sad I wasted so many opportunities to get to know people and/or have fun because I thought they'd never be remotely interested in me. It's crazy because I'd have been no worse off even if I'd gone for it, and been rejected - at least I'd have tried!

The way I feel about my body still isn't brilliant but nowhere near as skewed as it used to be, and partly that's come about as the more I speak to people on here, and the more threads like this I read, I've realised that the vast majority of people don't have much body confidence - and that includes the ones who look stunning in my opinion (which is subjective of course). I always make a *big* thing of my 'faults' (scars, mum tum, wrinkles!) before I meet - which admittedly is a bit of a gamble, as negativity can be unattractive - but when it's come to it in real life, no-one's ever recoiled in horror and little by little, I think that's helping me too.

There may be a few people about whose preferences are for their very specific 'ideal' but I really do think most people here, providing there's an initial attraction to someone's profile and pics, accept that very few of us are perfect and care far more about mutual chemistry than the odd perceived 'fault'. No one has *ever* said 'oh yeah, you were right, your stomach *is* disgusting' and half the stuff I moan about isn't noticed. Really, if you click, most people just don't care and are attracted to the whole overall individual package. And it's amazing how often someone else's perception of you is completely at odds with how you see yourself.

I think I've just fallen in with you...thank you for sharing this.... I guess it really isn't the best all and end all....

I've never been a fit,small person and it's taken me years to remotely get confidence to do this but I'm very lucky that I've got some very wonderful people in my life that help me see this..though it's still can't stop you feeling these thoughts.

"

*be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not trying to be big headed here but I get it the other way. I am genuinely attracted to bigger girls yet most hardly talk to me because they feel paranoid or whatever.

If they make contact then they are interested, if your pics are on show then they've seen them and are into you. Embrace it! Wobbly bits are sexy too!!

Wobbly bits are sexy too?

No bloody way.

I hate to say I agree with you. But I agree with you. There ain't nothing sexy about my wobbly bits. "

But everyone has bits they hate. If someone is interested in you then they like what they see.

Just bear in mind theyre in the same boat, they may not have the same issues as you but Im pretty sure they'll be there just as nervous thinking of their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get where your coming from. Although I have to confess I adore curvaceous woman wobbly bits & all. Being a mature woman things in certain places are starting to head south lol but I'm at a stage with I'm comfortable with who I am & will embrace it. To me it's about connection, personality & mutual attraction if those elements are there then game set & match.

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By *hathotcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes I think. Oh. Why you picked me?

Then the narcissism kicks in and I think feck it. I'm only in it for the chap anyhow

My wobbly bits have wobbly bits. It's pretty obvious so if they want to meet it's likely they took that into consideration.

Don't sweat the small stuff OP. Enjoy! "

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By *hathotcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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We have messaged a few females and been told they won't meet us for this exsact reason! People need to just learn to be happy in the skin they are in, not going to lie I have no wobbly bits but there's parts of my body I would love to change . If the person /couple did not find you attractive then they would not ask to meet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well its nice to have something different same old thing is boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have messaged a few females and been told they won't meet us for this exsact reason! People need to just learn to be happy in the skin they are in, not going to lie I have no wobbly bits but there's parts of my body I would love to change . If the person /couple did not find you attractive then they would not ask to meet xx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope, they can't message me "

I just you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have messaged a few females and been told they won't meet us for this exsact reason! People need to just learn to be happy in the skin they are in, not going to lie I have no wobbly bits but there's parts of my body I would love to change . If the person /couple did not find you attractive then they would not ask to meet xx"

It's good to see this from the other person's perspective too. Thank you

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Having come just back from holiday... I noticed pretty much ALL women have wobbly bits, even the very slim women. I think we are just made soft, smooth and a little wobbly. It would be liberating if we try to accept our lovely bodies... of all shapes and sizes and enjoy them xxx

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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But you can accept your body and at the same time accept the fact that you'll feel uncomfortable meeting some. It's not paranoia . Just an irrational feeling.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

All the time.

If I look at profiles of men who have contacted me and their verifications are from women like that, its an instant delete. How can I follow that?

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!! "

skinny women are like jeans with no pockets == no where to put your hands

long live wobbley ladies

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo


"I spent years literally unable to look at myself in a mirror without my heart sinking as I was so disgusted with what I saw. Fast forward to now and I realise I was probably suffering from body dysmorphia then, and feel so sad I wasted so many opportunities to get to know people and/or have fun because I thought they'd never be remotely interested in me. It's crazy because I'd have been no worse off even if I'd gone for it, and been rejected - at least I'd have tried!

The way I feel about my body still isn't brilliant but nowhere near as skewed as it used to be, and partly that's come about as the more I speak to people on here, and the more threads like this I read, I've realised that the vast majority of people don't have much body confidence - and that includes the ones who look stunning in my opinion (which is subjective of course). I always make a *big* thing of my 'faults' (scars, mum tum, wrinkles!) before I meet - which admittedly is a bit of a gamble, as negativity can be unattractive - but when it's come to it in real life, no-one's ever recoiled in horror and little by little, I think that's helping me too.

There may be a few people about whose preferences are for their very specific 'ideal' but I really do think most people here, providing there's an initial attraction to someone's profile and pics, accept that very few of us are perfect and care far more about mutual chemistry than the odd perceived 'fault'. No one has *ever* said 'oh yeah, you were right, your stomach *is* disgusting' and half the stuff I moan about isn't noticed. Really, if you click, most people just don't care and are attracted to the whole overall individual package. And it's amazing how often someone else's perception of you is completely at odds with how you see yourself.

I think I've just fallen in with you...thank you for sharing this.... I guess it really isn't the best all and end all....

I've never been a fit,small person and it's taken me years to remotely get confidence to do this but I'm very lucky that I've got some very wonderful people in my life that help me see this..though it's still can't stop you feeling these thoughts.

"

Women (in particular) are bombarded all the time with (often photo shopped) images of the female 'ideal' in the media and it's *so* hard to remain indifferent to those - I think half the time we absorb those messages without even realising we're doing so. And then you get on Fab, where attraction is all, and forget that this is very often as much as about the cerebral as the physical. In any case, beauty is in the eye of the beholder - a cliché, but true! And the idealised representation of feminine beauty just isn't realistic for most of us. Aside from photo manipulation (which gets rid of cellulite and stretchmarks etc), a number of the women who meet that ideal do so by half starving themselves (disclaimer: I'm *not* criticising slimmer women, and I know some people are naturally slim, and attractive too of course .... just pointing out that an 'ideal' body is often very hard won). And we all find different things, and different combinations of things, attractive. Very often, it's not even that easy to say why, exactly, you fancy someone - you just do! And when you do, a tiny aspect of their overall appearance, like a bit of wobble, wouldn't put you off. So called imperfections can actually contribute to their attractiveness because they're what makes you an individual.

And FWIW, my perception of you OP is as one of the more attractive women on the forums .... see, not how you see yourself at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But you can accept your body and at the same time accept the fact that you'll feel uncomfortable meeting some. It's not paranoia . Just an irrational feeling."

True. But if I let my irrational feelings control me I'd like never get anything done. Easier said than done, I know.

-Mr

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"But you can accept your body and at the same time accept the fact that you'll feel uncomfortable meeting some. It's not paranoia . Just an irrational feeling.

True. But if I let my irrational feelings control me I'd like never get anything done. Easier said than done, I know.

-Mr "

You mean like get all those gym fit fannies licked? Meh. I'll be fine I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!!

skinny women are like jeans with no pockets == no where to put your hands

long live wobbley ladies "

Please there's no need to be rude or derogatory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But you can accept your body and at the same time accept the fact that you'll feel uncomfortable meeting some. It's not paranoia . Just an irrational feeling.

True. But if I let my irrational feelings control me I'd like never get anything done. Easier said than done, I know.

-Mr

You mean like get all those gym fit fannies licked? Meh. I'll be fine I think. "

Well that's not quite what I meant

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"But you can accept your body and at the same time accept the fact that you'll feel uncomfortable meeting some. It's not paranoia . Just an irrational feeling.

True. But if I let my irrational feelings control me I'd like never get anything done. Easier said than done, I know.

-Mr

You mean like get all those gym fit fannies licked? Meh. I'll be fine I think.

Well that's not quite what I meant "

Euro drinks. I know. I'm being facetious (rare, isn't it?).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I get you OP because I'm a big lady, I prefer to meet couples where the lady is my kind of size. Otherwise I worry my wobble will put someone who isn't like me off.

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By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

I'm happy to accept that people may find me attractive when I don't and I hope they accept I find them attractive when they don't.

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By *hathotcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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But they wouldn't message if they was not into you. I have tiny boobs but wouldn't feel bad meeting a girl with much bigger boobs than me. Just need to learn to love yourself and what you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a double whammy for many TV/Crossdresser as you have to first get past the fundamental issue of do you look convincing enough to be seen in public and once you achieve that, then comes exactly those issues discussed above. The first step is a major stumbling block for many of us, nerves and lack of self-confidence take hold and we are our own worst critics as said previously. Ironically it was a very good lady friend of mine who told me genetic women come in all shapes and sizes, some plain Jane’s and other stunning, some old and some young. Then she asked the question ‘so why are you so anxious about being convincing?’ She was right of course and shortly after I did step out in public.

As for the fabulous stunning lookers showing an interest … well we can live in hope but you still question yourself 'Why me?' when they do.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!!

skinny women are like jeans with no pockets == no where to put your hands

long live wobbley ladies

Please there's no need to be rude or derogatory. "

sorry if you took it that way

that's not what was meant,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm happy to accept that people may find me attractive when I don't and I hope they accept I find them attractive when they don't."

I like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, at the risk of sounding patronising it's worth keeping in that mind that people's pics don't always match what they look like in person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, at the risk of sounding patronising it's worth keeping in that mind that people's pics don't always match what they look like in person.

"

Oh yes I'm all too aware of this....but do you mean facially

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

I know what you mean, and often feel like why would they want me etc. But learning to accept that people see others differently to what you see. It is hard to relate that sometimes though

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

I think there are a number of very sexy ladies on this thread. And part of their sexyness is their minds and personality. I am stimulated on multiple levels and someone can capture my mind then the last really kicks in. So ladies please see yourselves through our eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there are a number of very sexy ladies on this thread. And part of their sexyness is their minds and personality. I am stimulated on multiple levels and someone can capture my mind then the last really kicks in. So ladies please see yourselves through our eyes. "

X-ray eyes horny ?

We all doubt ourselves really we all want that perfect body don't we ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there are a number of very sexy ladies on this thread. And part of their sexyness is their minds and personality. I am stimulated on multiple levels and someone can capture my mind then the last really kicks in. So ladies please see yourselves through our eyes. "

Exactly Irish

For me it's about making a connection ,with a woman of course

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By *oistknickersCouple
over a year ago

London


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

"
sometimes people look sexy and that's all it is, sometimes people look sexy and have a condor and a vulnerability that is so much more than sexy.

I know which one you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, at the risk of sounding patronising it's worth keeping in that mind that people's pics don't always match what they look like in person.

Oh yes I'm all too aware of this....but do you mean facially

"

No not necessarily, it's difficult to explain, as we go to a lot of socials.

We find there's people who don't live up to their pics, and others whose pics don't do them justice.

Facial features aren't always an issue for me, I have a certain amount of face blindness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

"

Definitely with you on that OP! I cant help but think I don't want to be the fat one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree!! Always feel at some point I have to say I'm not a skinny lass you know...which i know sounds stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus sized /stocky men are such a treat to look at, those sexy contours indicative of healthy appetites and a life lived with all it's pleasures savou_ed and enjoyed..

Plus I'm slim so adore the contrast. I'm sure this is also true of slim women or men who are attracted to a physique that differs from there's.. contrast is a wonderful thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has been an interesting read. Love you OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!! I still weigh what I weighed when I was about 8 months pregnant... 4 years ago I read the messages and think yeah your wifes body is bangin', leave it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep can def relate!

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By *rwchcpleCouple
over a year ago

norwich

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

We all body consiouse but I am same use to compare myself .wat ever their alway something we don't like.but we should love what we got even with mummy tummy part of us shouldn't let that stop us.

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Sorry I'm not a woman, but I feel the same all the time! You're all just so beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been winked or contacted by couples where I've thought I'd be punching way above my weight. I know I'm not terrible looking but my torso lets me down.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Oh I hear you OP.

Funny thing when a 'hot' couple contact me and their profile states 'we're in shape, expect the same in others'. Well they've clearly not read my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting to see how women can feel about themselves on fab regarding other body shapes.

I am not a woman but I can relate to the feeling of inadequacy you are describing OP.

Fab can be a great tool to meet people, yet it can create insecurities, even though, as mentioned above, it is not rational and not due to fab per se but more so to the way we see ourselves and our inner desire to be sort of accepted and approved by others.

Our feelings of inadequacy stems from comparing ourselves with other.

PS: I do personally find you very attractive and so charming OP. You have surface and substance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can definitely relate!

It's a shame we don't see ourselves through other people's eyes sometimes

Oh goodness I'm so glad it's not just me "
they may be humouring you mind but I myself like a body with imperfections x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree OP, though it's not just when couples wink it's anyone. I tend to make the assumption that they've made an error in winking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Completely agree OP, though it's not just when couples wink it's anyone. I tend to make the assumption that they've made an error in winking. "

I accidentally added you to my hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go all shy and nervous around hot sexy females. It's weird because I don't have the same problem with hot males.

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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"I totally get it!!

To be honest, I'm in constant fear of meeting any people and them going "Oh, you're well wobbly". So when someone with no wobbles shows interest it's even worse!! "

Definitely this

~Sophie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I spent years literally unable to look at myself in a mirror without my heart sinking as I was so disgusted with what I saw. Fast forward to now and I realise I was probably suffering from body dysmorphia then, and feel so sad I wasted so many opportunities to get to know people and/or have fun because I thought they'd never be remotely interested in me. It's crazy because I'd have been no worse off even if I'd gone for it, and been rejected - at least I'd have tried!

The way I feel about my body still isn't brilliant but nowhere near as skewed as it used to be, and partly that's come about as the more I speak to people on here, and the more threads like this I read, I've realised that the vast majority of people don't have much body confidence - and that includes the ones who look stunning in my opinion (which is subjective of course). I always make a *big* thing of my 'faults' (scars, mum tum, wrinkles!) before I meet - which admittedly is a bit of a gamble, as negativity can be unattractive - but when it's come to it in real life, no-one's ever recoiled in horror and little by little, I think that's helping me too.

There may be a few people about whose preferences are for their very specific 'ideal' but I really do think most people here, providing there's an initial attraction to someone's profile and pics, accept that very few of us are perfect and care far more about mutual chemistry than the odd perceived 'fault'. No one has *ever* said 'oh yeah, you were right, your stomach *is* disgusting' and half the stuff I moan about isn't noticed. Really, if you click, most people just don't care and are attracted to the whole overall individual package. And it's amazing how often someone else's perception of you is completely at odds with how you see yourself."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it really endearing that so many of us feel the same.

So with you SS, it's the reason why I've got the pictures I do, in my friend's area. I want people to see all my wobbly bits prior to meeting and know that my arse has it's own atmosphere and gravitational pull!

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

"

I don't meet couples, but the reality is there will always be someone younger, slimmer, prettier, sexier than me.

For me my options are clear: I either sit in a corner in a full burka waiting for the Grim Reaper or I embrace what I have and not compare myself to others.

Guess which option I've chosen and on a scale of one to ten how happy I am with me.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I think good you are lovely, and enjoy it. I love a slim lady and curvier ones. I just love other women and their bodies (ms)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not into couples so no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

I don't meet couples, but the reality is there will always be someone younger, slimmer, prettier, sexier than me.

For me my options are clear: I either sit in a corner in a full burka waiting for the Grim Reaper or I embrace what I have and not compare myself to others.

Guess which option I've chosen and on a scale of one to ten how happy I am with me. "

Love it

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"This never really made sense to me because Marc finds various body shapes sexy, so I just figu_ed that men like variation in general. If he wanted to have sex with someone just like me, he'd have sex with...me "

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Interesting to see how women can feel about themselves on fab regarding other body shapes.

I am not a woman but I can relate to the feeling of inadequacy you are describing OP.

Fab can be a great tool to meet people, yet it can create insecurities, even though, as mentioned above, it is not rational and not due to fab per se but more so to the way we see ourselves and our inner desire to be sort of accepted and approved by others.

Our feelings of inadequacy stems from comparing ourselves with other.

PS: I do personally find you very attractive and so charming OP. You have surface and substance "

Couldn't have put it better than this from a male perspective, for years and years I didn't think of myself as anything special (and still don't to an extent) and as a result I let myself go to the point I was grossly overweight and adopted an "I don't care" view of myself. Then a couple of years ago I got the kick up the rear end I needed and lost the weight to the point I am no longer conside_ed clinically obese. I still have my faults and am still hyper-critical of how I think I look, but have come to accept over the past 18 months or so that actually I AM attractive to some. I'm still not overly confident in that respect but am getting better at it.

I think most genuine people are able to see beyond what we individually may perceive as our own self-faults and look at the personality and character as well as the physical package.

Whilst I try not to compare to others here, it's difficult not to, but at the end of the day, it's about being able to recognise your own self-worth and realise we're all individually attractive in our own unique ways.

For what it's worth there are a lot of people (men and women) on this thread that I'd consider beautiful, even though they don't see themselves that way.

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"Interesting to see how women can feel about themselves on fab regarding other body shapes.

I am not a woman but I can relate to the feeling of inadequacy you are describing OP.

Fab can be a great tool to meet people, yet it can create insecurities, even though, as mentioned above, it is not rational and not due to fab per se but more so to the way we see ourselves and our inner desire to be sort of accepted and approved by others.

Our feelings of inadequacy stems from comparing ourselves with other.

PS: I do personally find you very attractive and so charming OP. You have surface and substance "

I agree with this too. Just by the very nature of Fab it's hard not to make comparisons with others and at times be left feeling that you're lacking in some way.

Sometimes you've got to dig that self confidence out and tell yourself you're different but just as good as anyone else.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I find it really endearing that so many of us feel the same.

"

It's actually been lovely to read this thread. In an utopian society there's no doubt we'd all have no concerns or worries but it's been good to read a thread where women have been able to open up about it. I thought I was a miniscule minority who thought that way at times.

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy


"

Couldn't have put it better than this from a male perspective, for years and years I didn't think of myself as anything special (and still don't to an extent) and as a result I let myself go to the point I was grossly overweight and adopted an "I don't care" view of myself. Then a couple of years ago I got the kick up the rear end I needed and lost the weight to the point I am no longer conside_ed clinically obese. I still have my faults and am still hyper-critical of how I think I look, but have come to accept over the past 18 months or so that actually I AM attractive to some. I'm still not overly confident in that respect but am getting better at it.

I think most genuine people are able to see beyond what we individually may perceive as our own self-faults and look at the personality and character as well as the physical package.

Whilst I try not to compare to others here, it's difficult not to, but at the end of the day, it's about being able to recognise your own self-worth and realise we're all individually attractive in our own unique ways.

For what it's worth there are a lot of people (men and women) on this thread that I'd consider beautiful, even though they don't see themselves that way.

"

Totally agree and relate to what your saying. And your right, there are a lot of beautiful people on here, some been on my hotlist for a while, after this thread it's got a little fuller

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it really endearing that so many of us feel the same.

It's actually been lovely to read this thread. In an utopian society there's no doubt we'd all have no concerns or worries but it's been good to read a thread where women have been able to open up about it. I thought I was a miniscule minority who thought that way at times."

I agree with you totally, it's surprised me to read some of you ladies express the same concern as me even though you look the very type I would be comparing myself unfavourably with, just shows we should all be happy as we are. We all have our good and bad parts, it's about accentuating the good and accepting the bad. And knowing that we're all appreciated whatever we think of ourselves x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it really endearing that so many of us feel the same.

It's actually been lovely to read this thread. In an utopian society there's no doubt we'd all have no concerns or worries but it's been good to read a thread where women have been able to open up about it. I thought I was a miniscule minority who thought that way at times."

Completely. It's something I wish I'd realised as a young adult. I look back on those pictures and realise I wasn't the fat, awkward girl I thought I was. I still have some body-confidence issues but they're certainly dissipating with age and experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh wow - I totally relate to all this!

I've got the wobbly bits, and my age is against me - and I feel totally out of my depth with a lot of women on here -

And that's despite me being closer to Gay than Bi - I love women and I've met some wonderful ladies on here in the past.

With guys it's just a clinical need for me, I can roll with whatever comes - but I just fall into a silly mess when faced with some women on here -

And the stupid thing is that I never judge another women in the same way myself - I always see her as a person first. But still I can't help feeling that she'll be judging me...

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig


"I'm very wobbly. Sometimes I worry that no-one is going to find me attractive but I'm working on the self esteem issues

I've just had a peek at your profile and I think you're beautiful. "

Ooh thank you

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I'm very wobbly. Sometimes I worry that no-one is going to find me attractive but I'm working on the self esteem issues

I've just had a peek at your profile and I think you're beautiful.

Ooh thank you "

Yep I had a peek too! Very sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me "

Yeah for sure! I'm yet to meet a couple but ones I've been speaking too I've had that feeling.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me "

Some guys like to see their wives with a "bit of rough". Or maybe feel less jealous if the guy isn't in his league..... or maybe they just don't think like that at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me

Some guys like to see their wives with a "bit of rough". Or maybe feel less jealous if the guy isn't in his league..... or maybe they just don't think like that at all! "

I'll admit I did think I was being used as the former there. But if that was their thing, then I guess I was willing to be that for them

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

"

Of course !

I can't help but feel they are just so perfect so why would they want to play with me .

But in the occasions we have met some of these hotties , it's always worked out really well and we've gone on to be good friends too .

I guess attractiveness is subjective , and there's more to it than just our body ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't relate to it with reference to on here but I can in the real world where there are a couple of women I know who make me feel I suppose frumpy & plain as they are so perfectly turned out in every possible way.

On Fabs I see it as variety is the spice of life, you don't have to have a type per se. I can see that in the different people I've met & likewise with their meets too.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

Of course !

I can't help but feel they are just so perfect so why would they want to play with me .

But in the occasions we have met some of these hotties , it's always worked out really well and we've gone on to be good friends too .

I guess attractiveness is subjective , and there's more to it than just our body ? "

Totally agree ...not many people see that though . X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to now i think fuck it - this is fab and go for it -

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me

Some guys like to see their wives with a "bit of rough". Or maybe feel less jealous if the guy isn't in his league..... or maybe they just don't think like that at all!

I'll admit I did think I was being used as the former there. But if that was their thing, then I guess I was willing to be that for them"

Enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd meet a hot couple, and not be self-conscious of my body. If they have both seen my pics then they know what I look like.

I've had sex with many men with fit bodies, who have sex with women of all shapes and sizes. My long term partner has other buddies who are much younger than me and very sexy. He's no different with them than he is with me. I'm fatter and older, that's all.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I always punch above my weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me "

I wouldn't sweat it too much. Yes it can be about a 'bit of rough', but some couples just want to experience something different, not 'less'

To paraphrase March Courtney's earlier post, if my wife and I only wanted to have fun with people exactly like us, why swing at all?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I always punch above my weight. "

As long as you enjoy yourself, there's nothing to worry about! Most women on here do, but they still love it!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I always punch above my weight.

As long as you enjoy yourself, there's nothing to worry about! Most women on here do, but they still love it! "

That's the beauty of fab, it's packed full of horny gym bunny men who can't get laid between exercise regimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me

I wouldn't sweat it too much. Yes it can be about a 'bit of rough', but some couples just want to experience something different, not 'less'

To paraphrase March Courtney's earlier post, if my wife and I only wanted to have fun with people exactly like us, why swing at all? "

Oh, I've changed my viewpoint a lot since then. Do bear in mind that was my very first fab encounter too. I was also nervous as hell

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I always punch above my weight.

As long as you enjoy yourself, there's nothing to worry about! Most women on here do, but they still love it!

That's the beauty of fab, it's packed full of horny gym bunny men who can't get laid between exercise regimes. "

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

"

When they look, wink and message you they obviously find you attractive and appealing to them. They would hopefully have that recindicated. If you think they are out of your league, ask yourself "why would they contact me if they didn't like what they have seen and read about me?".

Mr2

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me

I wouldn't sweat it too much. Yes it can be about a 'bit of rough', but some couples just want to experience something different, not 'less'

To paraphrase March Courtney's earlier post, if my wife and I only wanted to have fun with people exactly like us, why swing at all?

Oh, I've changed my viewpoint a lot since then. Do bear in mind that was my very first fab encounter too. I was also nervous as hell "

I don't think I would have been ballsy enough to do that as my first meet.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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My view is...I don't ever think I am good enough. Some people must see something I don't.

Self depreciation is a beast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me

Some guys like to see their wives with a "bit of rough". Or maybe feel less jealous if the guy isn't in his league..... or maybe they just don't think like that at all! "

I think you're hugely underestimating how much of a say the female halves have in the decision making process when finding playmates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think we all look at the fit people wanting a better body shape only got to look at most fabbed pics but feel it's all about how you feel about yourself confidence starts within and shines outwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me

Some guys like to see their wives with a "bit of rough". Or maybe feel less jealous if the guy isn't in his league..... or maybe they just don't think like that at all!

I think you're hugely underestimating how much of a say the female halves have in the decision making process when finding playmates."

Agree, just because mr likes the look of the women doesn't mean I'll take one for him it has to be a two way thing. Finding four people who are attracted to each other can be inc_edibly complicated x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only speaking for myself here, but I imagine that other gents get this too. My first fab meet was with a hotwife couple, and the fella was a very dashingly good looking dude. It was very much a "what the hell does she want to see me for?!" feeling for me

Some guys like to see their wives with a "bit of rough". Or maybe feel less jealous if the guy isn't in his league..... or maybe they just don't think like that at all!

I think you're hugely underestimating how much of a say the female halves have in the decision making process when finding playmates."

No, it was the lady making the final decision. That was my point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

Of course !

I can't help but feel they are just so perfect so why would they want to play with me .

But in the occasions we have met some of these hotties , it's always worked out really well and we've gone on to be good friends too .

I guess attractiveness is subjective , and there's more to it than just our body ? "

This was the point I was trying to make yesterday. I think I didn't explain it very well, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met an absolutely gorgeous guy off here last year. I thought we were just meeting for a social cos there was no way he'd fancy me in any way. I was wrong.

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By *ullswapcouple30Couple
over a year ago

Valleys

I can totally relate and have been self conscious about my body for as long as I can remember. It's really quite comforting to see all you beautiful people having the same insecurities because it makes you realise that in the grand scheme of things people don't care about what you think they will. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some of the body beautifuls are not nice people though - its not all about looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

"

It's not just women who feel like that. I must be ugly as hell as you seem to have blocked me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you get a couple look,wink or message you and the female of the couple is just ridicously beautiful and fit ....I mean physically fit...no wobbly bits no mummy tummy or big bottoms it makes me a feel a little bit shy knowing I'm completely out of their league.

I'd just like to know if there are other women who feel the same.

NB....this is not a body shaming thread in the slightest so please no vulgarities or rudeness.

It's not just women who feel like that. I must be ugly as hell as you seem to have blocked me...

"

That's kinda attempting to shame someone for blocking you there fella. It's their choice.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"some of the body beautifuls are not nice people though - its not all about looks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all have wobbles and wonder why someone would want us. Don't we?

Oh goodness yes of course we do....I'm just curious if it affects others as it does me "

I have serious hang ups about my body.. scar_ed from injuries and a few wobbly bits from operations.

I've had a couple of ripped guys send a message... Unfortunately I've just said I'm not their type.. I know it's wrong but I would rather stay clear.

Always had body issues...

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