FabSwingers.com forum: £50 contribution????? Wtf??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So messaging a couple who are looking for what I have, and receive a cut and paste message (dates changed) basically saying we have booked a room today, inviting me to join them and a few other single guys for a £50 contribution.... I didn't realise Brentford travel lodges we so expensive - this seems rather dodgy and not at all what I think swinging is about m, what do others think about paying to meet a couple??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

say no

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just messaged with "I didn't realise travel lodges cost £200!"

It just seems too close to paying for sex - which is exactly what it would be - no thanks!!

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By *R GREY AND MISS REDCouple
over a year ago

WHITTLESEY

Wouldn't think genuine couples would ask , a club would be a lot cheaper ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Exactly!! Although I play is assured at a club... mind you I would expect to have £50 robbed off me with that couple!

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By *retend_Shy_GuyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's called "atmospherics"

That feeling you get when you KNOW something is off. Trust it, it's usually right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was invited to a party last year at an "exclusive" apartment in the city centre, they wanted £35 up front and another £25 on arrival, for that, I got a glass of champagne (hate the stuff) and there's a hot tub if I wanted to use it

Oh, but there wasn't any guarantee of play as there would be a few people there.

Told them to take a long walk on a short pier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So messaging a couple who are looking for what I have, and receive a cut and paste message (dates changed) basically saying we have booked a room today, inviting me to join them and a few other single guys for a £50 contribution.... I didn't realise Brentford travel lodges we so expensive - this seems rather dodgy and not at all what I think swinging is about m, what do others think about paying to meet a couple?? "
I think not worth it move on let them find another mug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're selling sex in our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah just move on they are definitely making a profit from this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Exactly!! Although I play is assured at a club... mind you I would expect to have £50 robbed off me with that couple!"

play is never assured - anywhere !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was invited to a party last year at an "exclusive" apartment in the city centre, they wanted £35 up front and another £25 on arrival, for that, I got a glass of champagne (hate the stuff) and there's a hot tub if I wanted to use it

Oh, but there wasn't any guarantee of play as there would be a few people there.

Told them to take a long walk on a short pier

You can be sure that single women weren't being charged that amount, probably free. They need the bait, they know that no one pays £60 for a sip of cava and a bubbly bathtub!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Exactly!! Although I play is assured at a club... mind you I would expect to have £50 robbed off me with that couple!

play is never assured - anywhere !"

It is when you look like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

Are you looking for a free gigolo?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the old 'covering costs' thing. If one guy turns up then £50 is reasonable as a share, if 10 turn up then it's a nice little windfall isn't it?

I'm quite sure that there are plenty of guys that will pay and that's why they can get away with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get covering costs etc, but it really didn't come across like that, plus nowhere in their profile did it suggest that this was their approach - anyway, I'm not pursuing, and nor am I looking for a "free prostitute" not sure where that comment came from,... is like to think the people I'm with are there for the enjoyment not for some money!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Exactly!! Although I play is assured at a club... mind you I would expect to have £50 robbed off me with that couple!

play is never assured - anywhere !"

Fat fingers - I meant isn't assured!! Autocorrect is my nemesis!!

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

Some people have sex for pleasure rather than money

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

Some people have sex for pleasure rather than money

This is me!! I think you can't buy the pleasure you get from a connected, sensual mutually satisfying sexual encounter....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen that on a few profiles as well, where the female is advertising group sex, requiring a contribution towards hotel cost.

I'm up for paying half the cost of the hotel but only in one on one scenarios, something like this is like others mentioned, paying for sex.

That being said I do have a similar opinion of clubs, to me you're just paying a bunch of money to have a shot at having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go if you don't like the terms.

Done.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

Some people have sex for pleasure rather than money

This is me!! I think you can't buy the pleasure you get from a connected, sensual mutually satisfying sexual encounter.... "

Often in these scenarios the 'wife' is a prostitute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That being said I do have a similar opinion of clubs, to me you're just paying a bunch of money to have a shot at having sex."

That's a valid point, particularly when men are charged more for entry - isn't it essentially the same thing?

Yes, there are costs to cover of course, but it's really about making money from those hoping to be able to get laid.

I guess the key difference is at least a club are upfront and open about being a commercial enterprise!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That makes sense - they sent a few pics, no face pics and said they never send face pics, they didn't ask for mine, just asked for cash and what time I was arriving! Haha

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

You'd have to be a bit crazy to pay it I know that!

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"You'd have to be a bit crazy to pay it I know that!"

..but a fool and his money will soon parted..

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

That being said I do have a similar opinion of clubs, to me you're just paying a bunch of money to have a shot at having sex.

That's a valid point, particularly when men are charged more for entry - isn't it essentially the same thing?

Yes, there are costs to cover of course, but it's really about making money from those hoping to be able to get laid.

I guess the key difference is at least a club are upfront and open about being a commercial enterprise!"

Good points. There are already other avenues for people with money who want a guarantee lay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you reported the fuckers as this is not what fab is about.....tell the greedy fuckers to go and open a club if they are here for business.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"I just messaged with "I didn't realise travel lodges cost £200!"

It just seems too close to paying for sex - which is exactly what it would be - no thanks!! "

Did they block you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just messaged with "I didn't realise travel lodges cost £200!"

It just seems too close to paying for sex - which is exactly what it would be - no thanks!!

Did they block you

Nope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

hoping for some bookings, probably on AW, same pics i bet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I were married and wanted men to join us in a hotel I would pay for the room.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

A contribution is fine but £50 is a bit excessive. If there's other guys going and it's a travel lodge they are clearly taking the piss. Steer clear!!!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

What's a free prostitute

A contradiction in terms me thinks.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Sounds fishy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

What's a free prostitute

A contradiction in terms me thinks. "

It's how some men on here treat single women - just a hole for their pleasure.

You might as well get paid if you're going to be treated like that!

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

What's a free prostitute

A contradiction in terms me thinks.

It's how some men on here treat single women - just a hole for their pleasure.

You might as well get paid if you're going to be treated like that!

Or just become a better judge of character but either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

What's a free prostitute

A contradiction in terms me thinks.

It's how some men on here treat single women - just a hole for their pleasure.

You might as well get paid if you're going to be treated like that!

Or just become a better judge of character but either way. "

I think my judgement is just fine thanks.

But thanks for your concern!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

What's a free prostitute

A contradiction in terms me thinks.

It's how some men on here treat single women - just a hole for their pleasure.

You might as well get paid if you're going to be treated like that!

I think people get from swinging what they want. Some need to socialise and have regular meets. To that extent I guess you wouldn't feel like a "free prostitute".

Conversely though, I like the thrill of meeting new guys. I wonder if they feel like unpaid cocks. No one has complained yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

What's a free prostitute

A contradiction in terms me thinks.

It's how some men on here treat single women - just a hole for their pleasure.

You might as well get paid if you're going to be treated like that!

I think people get from swinging what they want. Some need to socialise and have regular meets. To that extent I guess you wouldn't feel like a "free prostitute".

Conversely though, I like the thrill of meeting new guys. I wonder if they feel like unpaid cocks. No one has complained yet

I think a couple will rarely feel used.

And Don't get the wrong idea I like the thrill of a meet with a stranger too.

But only if it's for mutual pleasure.

When you meet a married man it's rarely for mutual pleasure.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

What's a free prostitute

A contradiction in terms me thinks.

It's how some men on here treat single women - just a hole for their pleasure.

You might as well get paid if you're going to be treated like that!

Or just become a better judge of character but either way.

I think my judgement is just fine thanks.

But thanks for your concern!

Just talking in the abstract rather than you specifically. A man can't treat a woman that way unless she allows herself to be treated such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

What's a free prostitute

A contradiction in terms me thinks.

It's how some men on here treat single women - just a hole for their pleasure.

You might as well get paid if you're going to be treated like that!

Or just become a better judge of character but either way.

I think my judgement is just fine thanks.

But thanks for your concern!

Just talking in the abstract rather than you specifically. A man can't treat a woman that way unless she allows herself to be treated such. "

How patronising!

And who the fuck are you to tell me how to feel!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well they do say love isn't cheap.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I am sure a local prostitute would be cheaper.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

What's a free prostitute

A contradiction in terms me thinks.

It's how some men on here treat single women - just a hole for their pleasure.

You might as well get paid if you're going to be treated like that!

Or just become a better judge of character but either way.

I think my judgement is just fine thanks.

But thanks for your concern!

Just talking in the abstract rather than you specifically. A man can't treat a woman that way unless she allows herself to be treated such.

How patronising!

And who the fuck are you to tell me how to feel!?

What part of 'not you specifically' wasn't clear?

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

Istgere anything wrong with a contribution to their hotel costs?

Shouldn't be to make money but spreading costs before legs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never ask for contributions towards a hotel. It's our planned fun, so we pay. If the guy doesn't turn up, we have each other

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Carry on with your search here for a free prostitute then

What's a free prostitute

A contradiction in terms me thinks.

It's how some men on here treat single women - just a hole for their pleasure.

You might as well get paid if you're going to be treated like that!

Or just become a better judge of character but either way.

I think my judgement is just fine thanks.

But thanks for your concern!

Just talking in the abstract rather than you specifically. A man can't treat a woman that way unless she allows herself to be treated such.

How patronising!

And who the fuck are you to tell me how to feel!?

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By *inky Little SecretsCouple
over a year ago

belfast

Name and shame

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Report users who are demanding money for meets that are blatantly not cost splitting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run away & never look back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen that on a few profiles as well, where the female is advertising group sex, requiring a contribution towards hotel cost.

I'm up for paying half the cost of the hotel but only in one on one scenarios, something like this is like others mentioned, paying for sex.

That being said I do have a similar opinion of clubs, to me you're just paying a bunch of money to have a shot at having sex."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Didn't want to cause an argument!

It was a surprise to me as I am local to them next week, we were messaging - hi I'm near you blah blah blah and got the cut and paste of pay £50 straight away, no request for face pics, stated in their message they wouldn't send any.... anyway needless to say I didn't go, if they had said we are staying here, would you mind sharing costs that would have been different in my opinion.... the fact they also said there would be 2 or 3 more guys made me poet the question in here - clearly as most things it divides opinion. I'm not averse to sharing costs, far from it, I am averse to paying for sex found on a swinging site...

And breathe everyone, calm down... it's all fun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And just seen on their veris hey met 5 guys yesterday.... not a bad £200 profit for an afternoons work! Lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Don't like what's on offer say no thanks and move on.

The world will continue to turn on its axis.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"And just seen on their veris hey met 5 guys yesterday.... not a bad £200 profit for an afternoons work! Lol "

...a fool and his money...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And just seen on their veris hey met 5 guys yesterday.... not a bad £200 profit for an afternoons work! Lol "

i often wondered who actually would say yes in response to those 'i see you're nearby, fancy a shag?' messages that are sent by so many men on fab!

i guess now i know.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"And just seen on their veris hey met 5 guys yesterday.... not a bad £200 profit for an afternoons work! Lol

...a fool and his money..."

Lol. Yep as much as the couple shouldn't be doing this on a site like Fab, neither should the guys be paying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe the guys can justify it to themselves that they aren't paying a prostitute if they are meeting a "couple" and helping with the hotel costs......

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Maybe the guys can justify it to themselves that they aren't paying a prostitute if they are meeting a "couple" and helping with the hotel costs......

There's helping / contributing and there's profiteering. The amount of money involved amounts to prostitution no matter how you try to sugar coat it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the guys can justify it to themselves that they aren't paying a prostitute if they are meeting a "couple" and helping with the hotel costs......

There's helping / contributing and there's profiteering. The amount of money involved amounts to prostitution no matter how you try to sugar coat it. "

I agree!

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By *erfect TenWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Sounds like a pimp and a hooker report it to admin.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I would report and let admin check it out

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