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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek

So... My 16yr old lad is moving away in a few weeks. I've known for ages it was gonna happen but as time is approaching I'm finding the thought increasingly more difficult to bare.

He's moving to his dads and it will be so much better for him. All of our family are in that area and can offer him a fantastic support network. He loves his half sister and pretty much worships the ground she walks on, though I'm sure she'll do his head in when they live in the same house 24/7!

He'll be financially comfortable with his dad too. He's waiting to hear if he has an apprenticeship and I'm so proud of him.

It's just gonna be so hard not seeing him. His dad lives 3 hrs away and with my job I'll only get to go down and see him when I take holiday.

I'm genuinely chuffed he's going, for him, as I know he will be much better off. But fuck me, it's hard trying not to lose it in front of him. I don't want him to know how upset I am, as I don't want him to worry about me. I want him to concentrate on his future, not be questioning his decision.

I don't really know why I'm spouting this, I'm feeling low and know you lot will have pearls of wisdom to share.

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By *rjpinkMan
over a year ago

winterfell

Hang in there! Must be so hard.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Technology is excellent for keeping in contact these days obviously it's not the same as having him physically there however video calling and such helps ease the separation and shortens the distance in turn you get to see one another daily, hourly if you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He won't forget his mum. Ever! Sounds like this will be a new experience for him and so even remote, he'll need your support. x

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I know why your posting it's because it's fucking horrendous letting your kids go. I've already done it with my some and my daughter isn't that far off and I'm dreading it. All you can do is know it's all for the best and just like you've already been doing since his birth put his needs 1st. There is no real advice here because there isn't any that can help so only thing i can say is i feel for you but as you already know its best for him. Hugs sweet x

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By *awty nannaWoman
over a year ago

sheffield

Know a little how you feel, not exactly the same, but my eldest Grandaughter is moving to Devon with her Mum this coming weekend and I`m heartbroken,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So... My 16yr old lad is moving away in a few weeks. I've known for ages it was gonna happen but as time is approaching I'm finding the thought increasingly more difficult to bare.

He's moving to his dads and it will be so much better for him. All of our family are in that area and can offer him a fantastic support network. He loves his half sister and pretty much worships the ground she walks on, though I'm sure she'll do his head in when they live in the same house 24/7!

He'll be financially comfortable with his dad too. He's waiting to hear if he has an apprenticeship and I'm so proud of him.

It's just gonna be so hard not seeing him. His dad lives 3 hrs away and with my job I'll only get to go down and see him when I take holiday.

I'm genuinely chuffed he's going, for him, as I know he will be much better off. But fuck me, it's hard trying not to lose it in front of him. I don't want him to know how upset I am, as I don't want him to worry about me. I want him to concentrate on his future, not be questioning his decision.

I don't really know why I'm spouting this, I'm feeling low and know you lot will have pearls of wisdom to share."

I feel your pain, I moved away from my three lads last year, my eldest is 16 and my youngest is 11 and to say I cried for four months every night is an understatement, it was my choice to go and move to Essex (I'm lucky I get to see them every other weekend and I'm only an hour away) but was still hard but I knew and still know (kind of) that they are happy at their dads

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So... My 16yr old lad is moving away in a few weeks. I've known for ages it was gonna happen but as time is approaching I'm finding the thought increasingly more difficult to bare.

He's moving to his dads and it will be so much better for him. All of our family are in that area and can offer him a fantastic support network. He loves his half sister and pretty much worships the ground she walks on, though I'm sure she'll do his head in when they live in the same house 24/7!

He'll be financially comfortable with his dad too. He's waiting to hear if he has an apprenticeship and I'm so proud of him.

It's just gonna be so hard not seeing him. His dad lives 3 hrs away and with my job I'll only get to go down and see him when I take holiday.

I'm genuinely chuffed he's going, for him, as I know he will be much better off. But fuck me, it's hard trying not to lose it in front of him. I don't want him to know how upset I am, as I don't want him to worry about me. I want him to concentrate on his future, not be questioning his decision.

I don't really know why I'm spouting this, I'm feeling low and know you lot will have pearls of wisdom to share."
hey if you need me to move in and cuddle you every now and again leave my room untidy ,never do the dishes and expect you to feed me I'm yer man ,hope that helped

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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek


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I feel your pain, I moved away from my three lads last year, my eldest is 16 and my youngest is 11 and to say I cried for four months every night is an understatement, it was my choice to go and move to Essex (I'm lucky I get to see them every other weekend and I'm only an hour away) but was still hard but I knew and still know (kind of) that they are happy at their dads

G x"

It's so hard. He's not even gone yet and I totally broke at work. I was serving a table, lost it when the mum told me they were celebrating the son's birthday. Ended up on my knees sobbing next to her. Was so fucking embarrassed.

The silly thing is I'll probably be fine once he's gone. He normally goes for the summer holidays and I'm used to not seeing him due to working evenings. It's just knowing it's permanent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I feel your pain, I moved away from my three lads last year, my eldest is 16 and my youngest is 11 and to say I cried for four months every night is an understatement, it was my choice to go and move to Essex (I'm lucky I get to see them every other weekend and I'm only an hour away) but was still hard but I knew and still know (kind of) that they are happy at their dads

G x

It's so hard. He's not even gone yet and I totally broke at work. I was serving a table, lost it when the mum told me they were celebrating the son's birthday. Ended up on my knees sobbing next to her. Was so fucking embarrassed.

The silly thing is I'll probably be fine once he's gone. He normally goes for the summer holidays and I'm used to not seeing him due to working evenings. It's just knowing it's permanent. "

Believe me it does get better and you do adapt, although one thing I have learnt, you won't talk to him every day (we made grand plans to FaceTime everyday! Never happens now). These days I let them ring me when they want me as they always are so busy. You will be fine, I promise x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what a brilliant mum you are putting him first and not being selfish by making him feel bad enough to worry about you!! Also in a year or 2 he'll possibly be driving and then able to visit you occasionally or even meet in the middle for a dinner out together to catch up etc. Things change all the time but he will always need his mum!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw it's a natural reaction and I can understand how you feel x

I can't offer any practical advice as I've not been in that position but hopefully you can keep in contact regularly and tell him how much you love him.

Big hugs right at ya x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a toughie. Being away from you though, he'll have chance to miss you and really appreciate any time you spend together. Maybe you could go and stay in a hotel near him from time to time and make a weekend of it.

You're being a great mum letting him do his own thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is tough. When I became a single father my two were both teenagers. My son went into the army and I still miss him being around but when he gets a bit of leave he always heads up from Wiltshire to Norfolk to see his old dad. Luckily my daughter lives close by so I see her at least once a week. You get use to it. No socks left laying around. No being a taxi. Although I'm still an overdraft facility. You be ok. Enjoy the peace and quiet. You've earned it.

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