FabSwingers.com forum: How hard is it

By *ire_thorn OP Man
over a year ago

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Why is it so hard for people to take a compliment at face value? Seriously? if someone gives me a compliment, I say thank you, even if I'm not interested. Not all people that gives you a compliment is trying to get in your knickers.

Sheesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so hard for people to take a compliment at face value? Seriously? if someone gives me a compliment, I say thank you, even if I'm not interested. Not all people that gives you a compliment is trying to get in your knickers.

Sheesh"

Do you compliment men Op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not good at accepting compliments, it's a confidence thing!! I will say thanks though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's impolite not to say thanks in my view!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say 99.9% of the compliments given out on here ARE given to get into ladies knickers. Not exsctly genuine. The amount I get is ridiculous. Even with no pics or a head I am gorgeous apparently. So OP you are no different and all compliments should be taken with a pinch of salt and certainly do not warrant a thank you. In real life it's totally different

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By *ire_thorn OP Man
over a year ago

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Sheesh

Do you compliment men Op? "

Yes I do

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Sheesh"

They generally are on here though which doesn't make a compliment very convincing. Compliment me face to face and I'm more likely to believe you,but when someone on here says you're gorgeous when they can't actually see you,you can't actually take it seriously can you!

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By *ire_thorn OP Man
over a year ago

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"I'd say 99.9% of the compliments given out on here ARE given to get into ladies knickers. Not exsctly genuine. The amount I get is ridiculous. Even with no pics or a head I am gorgeous apparently. So OP you are no different and all compliments should be taken with a pinch of salt and certainly do not warrant a thank you. In real life it's totally different"

I'm not so sure about that.. In real life you can say hey you have a pretty smile and the response is a nose in the air

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was told I had great tits once. At the time I had no picture of them on here so unless he was peaking through my window I don't think he was being genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not so sure about that.. In real life you can say hey you have a pretty smile and the response is a nose in the air"

Well maybe it's your approach which comes across as insincere or creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sheesh

Do you compliment men Op?

Yes I do"

Do they think your trying to get in their knickers?

My point is, I compliment people. Men as well. Women are afraid of what my interest is in doing it. Yes. I probably would like to be in their knickers. Just not at that particular moment.

If I woman compliments me. I'd be curious to know what she meant by it, it's the opposite sex thing.

Men and women can't just be friends apparently.

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By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

On here it's hard to give a compliment without the assumption that you are after one thing only..

Ok, so maybe you are, but that's not important right now..

In general, none of us are very good at accepting compliments, it's because we are British...

It's just not natural, we are generally a sarcastic, self deprecating race.. Much happier putting ourselves down to others.. It's how we are..

It's really not natural for us to be able to accept a compliment in life in general so to expect anything different in fab just isn't gonna happen..

It's just not British,you know..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hard accepting compliments on here and in real life. Most of the time it is because the person saying them wants to get in my knickers.

I do say thank you though. I'm more of a compliment giver. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not so sure about that.. In real life you can say hey you have a pretty smile and the response is a nose in the air"

Did you see the video a couple of months ago of the woman walking around town. Men were leering at her/ trying to chat her up everywhere she went.

In the end any man that just smiled at her made her feel uncomfortable and wary of responding in case he saw that as a come on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A genuine compliment should be given freely and without expectation of a response.

Its hard on Fab to give a compliment that doesn't come across as disingenuous, but there's so much bullshit flying out of people's mouths everywhere that it's much the same in real life too.

I find it much easier to compliment the ladies here that live far enough away that a meet isn't likely anyway. Takes the pressure off...

If they live nearby, I just compliment and then block them so they don't misread my intentions...

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

Sheesh"

pin cushion syndrome is the name for that phenomena if I'm not mistaken

just move on and let those suffering from it get on with it would be my advice op .

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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why do you think we care if you compliment us?

i don't need validation, thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally they come across as insincere attempts to start a conversation with the goals of getting into my knickers...

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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I'm not so sure about that.. In real life you can say hey you have a pretty smile and the response is a nose in the air

Did you see the video a couple of months ago of the woman walking around town. Men were leering at her/ trying to chat her up everywhere she went.

In the end any man that just smiled at her made her feel uncomfortable and wary of responding in case he saw that as a come on. "

was that the 10 hrs walking round NYC video? i saw that, and loads of parodies. this one's my favourite. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=35KqGNa1FGA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find compliments awkward. Im never sure how to respond.

On here I got compliments when all I had was a small pic of my cleavage so dont blame me if Im sceptical!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean every time you send one in a message you would like a thank you in response ? To me true compliments are not given in the expectation of anything in return. I don't expect anything back necessarily if I send that kind of message to someone.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"I find it hard accepting compliments on here and in real life. Most of the time it is because the person saying them wants to get in my knickers.

I do say thank you though. I'm more of a compliment giver. X "

Does that mean you are trying to get in their trousers/knickers then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could put a picture of my cat's arse hole on here as my profile picture and you could guarantee I'd still get messages saying "Wow, stunning".

However, just because you're not getting replies, don't let it stop you from giving compliments. Being nice to people shouldn't have to be met with gratitude all the time!

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By *ild-1Woman
over a year ago

york

"I'm not good at accepting compliments, it's a confidence thing!! I will say thanks though

You must be complimented a lot. You are stunningly beautiful (sorry for the compliment but it had to be said)!

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I could put a picture of my cat's arse hole on here as my profile picture and you could guarantee I'd still get messages saying "Wow, stunning"."

yes, this also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could put a picture of my cat's arse hole on here as my profile picture and you could guarantee I'd still get messages saying "Wow, stunning".

However, just because you're not getting replies, don't let it stop you from giving compliments. Being nice to people shouldn't have to be met with gratitude all the time! "

Who are you to question whether you cats bum is stunning? Cats have needs and like flattery on the odd occasion

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Is this about initiating contact with other users and not getting messages replied to?

Whether messages are in the cover of giving a compliment, the response - or lack of - will likely be the same here, if users aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it hard accepting compliments on here and in real life. Most of the time it is because the person saying them wants to get in my knickers.

I do say thank you though. I'm more of a compliment giver. X

Does that mean you are trying to get in their trousers/knickers then?"

No, I can compliment people without any sexual thoughts coming into it. X

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Sheesh"

Posted a similar thread a while back.

Basically some people don't take compliments too well in case there is a hidden agenda, as in most cases the compliment isn't genuine or there is more to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I've ever given a compliment that wasn't accepted. I know I've sometimes been self-deprecating when receiving one. Self-deprecation is a key defence mechanism for me, so I endeavour to not do that as much as possible now and accept compliments more willingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got lovely eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could put a picture of my cat's arse hole on here as my profile picture and you could guarantee I'd still get messages saying "Wow, stunning".

However, just because you're not getting replies, don't let it stop you from giving compliments. Being nice to people shouldn't have to be met with gratitude all the time!

Who are you to question whether you cats bum is stunning? Cats have needs and like flattery on the odd occasion

I tell her she's beautiful every day!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Sheesh

Think this is a fair assessment of why its easier to be sceptical of compliments

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By *leur de lisWoman
over a year ago

Buxton

Sheesh"

The complement thing on here is 90% of the time a con to get you to reply. IF you do reply with a Thanks take care and by then you get a pause and either they ignore and try to get you to meet them or ask why not.

Junk mailing complements on here is a game to many and you get less harassment if you just ignore.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

You're in Fab, so it must be a 'Fab compliment'

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I could put a picture of my cat's arse hole on here as my profile picture and you could guarantee I'd still get messages saying "Wow, stunning".

However, just because you're not getting replies, don't let it stop you from giving compliments. Being nice to people shouldn't have to be met with gratitude all the time!

Who are you to question whether you cats bum is stunning? Cats have needs and like flattery on the odd occasion

I tell her she's beautiful every day!

Go for gold; post a pic of your bum next to hers and ask the forum who's is best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends how its given - not always convinced compliments are genuine on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"depends how its given - not always convinced compliments are genuine on here "

Love your public gallery pics....... seriously i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not good at accepting compliments, it's a confidence thing!! I will say thanks though

I'd get used to receiving compliments if I were you as you are stunningly gorgeous, if you don't mind me saying. Also judging by your status update you have a great sense of humour as well.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"I'm not good at accepting compliments, it's a confidence thing!! I will say thanks though

Me too, I make a joke of it and put my self down when/if I get one.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yes it depends how it is given - some are genuine, and personal to me, even though they might be trying to get in my knickers, some are just freely given, and I try and thank all those.

Those that are generic and impersonal 'scattergun' flattery tend to get ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could put a picture of my cat's arse hole on here as my profile picture and you could guarantee I'd still get messages saying "Wow, stunning".

However, just because you're not getting replies, don't let it stop you from giving compliments. Being nice to people shouldn't have to be met with gratitude all the time!

Who are you to question whether you cats bum is stunning? Cats have needs and like flattery on the odd occasion

I tell her she's beautiful every day!

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"I find it hard accepting compliments on here and in real life. Most of the time it is because the person saying them wants to get in my knickers.

I do say thank you though. I'm more of a compliment giver. X

Does that mean you are trying to get in their trousers/knickers then?

No, I can compliment people without any sexual thoughts coming into it. X "

But you seem to suggest that blokes can never do that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never pay a compliment that wasn't genuine. Of course if I said you had a great body, I would probably like to get in your knickers, but a compliment is always sincere, if it turns out you wanted me in your knickers that's a bonus.

I certainly wouldn't presume a compliment would get me into your knickers, hell I've got enough knickers of my own to get into without getting into yours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could put a picture of my cat's arse hole on here as my profile picture and you could guarantee I'd still get messages saying "Wow, stunning" "

Cat bumhole jewellery is an actual thing! It hangs like a necklace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could put a picture of my cat's arse hole on here as my profile picture and you could guarantee I'd still get messages saying "Wow, stunning"

Cat bumhole jewellery is an actual thing! It hangs like a necklace.

I will never leave ok at my cats arsehole in the same way!

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By *ire_thorn OP Man
over a year ago

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"I could put a picture of my cat's arse hole on here as my profile picture and you could guarantee I'd still get messages saying "Wow, stunning"

Cat bumhole jewellery is an actual thing! It hangs like a necklace.

I will never leave ok at my cats arsehole in the same way!

That maybe true, but since cats seem to always want humans to look at their arsehole, at least it's not plain if you have jewelry on it

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