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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I am sure this has been done before but I missed it.... How do the verifications (quality and above all quantity affect your choice of who you play with? If somebody has tons of them, is that a turn on or a turn off or neither?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've gone past the stage of reading them on profiles now, so makes no odds to me. xx

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I never show more than Two or Three of mine at a time as I think that is sufficient....for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres stuff ta read on profiles??as well as pics??

Is this a new feature?? xx

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I have no strong feelings either way, although I do wonder a little bit if there are dozens and dozensof verifications in the space of a few weeks.. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no strong feelings either way, although I do wonder a little bit if there are dozens and dozensof verifications in the space of a few weeks.. ?"

Maybe been to a social or party and got a job lot?

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I have no strong feelings either way, although I do wonder a little bit if there are dozens and dozensof verifications in the space of a few weeks.. ?

Maybe been to a social or party and got a job lot? "
Yeah actually, good point... could have been all in one night, eh?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I just try not to read the explicit ones... all i need to know is that someone is who they say they are and they showed up... nothing more nothing less

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

We only show veri's from social meets, dont and wont show any others as its no one else's buisness who we have or havnt played with.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I just try not to read the explicit ones... all i need to know is that someone is who they say they are and they showed up... nothing more nothing less"
Good point, I sometimes look for a more general theme.. for example if it says they are great hosts as that means they tend to be sociable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no strong feelings either way, although I do wonder a little bit if there are dozens and dozensof verifications in the space of a few weeks.. ?"

We have lots over a few weeks as they are party veri's and we have no problem showing ours even though someone contacted us recently saying they would have liked to have met us but the amount of veri's we have put them off.

We have been on here nearly 5 years now so bound to have quite a few veri's and why should we hide them?

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"We only show veri's from social meets, dont and wont show any others as its no one else's buisness who we have or havnt played with."
You devil

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Id love the site to take them all off for a month and throw a few people into complete turmoil

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

I also agree with Fabio, I also dont like to read if they area brilliant shagg, gives fantastic oral. As we are all different and what is good to one will be crap to others.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I also agree with Fabio, I also dont like to read if they area brilliant shagg, gives fantastic oral. As we are all different and what is good to one will be crap to others."

I actually agree with that too, I dont read about somebody's sexual preferences..or what they are good at... as I want to find out myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id love the site to take them all off for a month and throw a few people into complete turmoil

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Id love the site to take them all off for a month and throw a few people into complete turmoil

"

actually it would be funny if some were mistakenly swapped and ended up with the wrong people and profiles...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we arent bothered by the veris as we like to make our own minds up. so far this has worked well for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Id love the site to take them all off for a month and throw a few people into complete turmoil

actually it would be funny if some were mistakenly swapped and ended up with the wrong people and profiles..."

That would be more than funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a turn off for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just try not to read the explicit ones... all i need to know is that someone is who they say they are and they showed up... nothing more nothing less"

Ditto for us.

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth

in our opinion ...we only check on veries as a back up to being a real couple. ect, dont actually want to read how they preformed lol

but when someone shoves them in our face we find it a turn off... one couple were refusing to share a face pic with us even after chatting for a while and sharing ours , stating our verifications should be enough... we blocked them after that.... to much hassle ,..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont care who people have or havnt met in the past, i will meet people with loads of verifications and no verifications, so long as i find them attractive and they meet my requirement and they want to meet me of course lol thats all i care about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not here to judge on anyones sexual practice. To me swinging is a fun pastime, a hobby, an arena to be as naughty and fill those sexy, taboo, fetish and fantasies, as often as I like. I may read someones veris, I may not. If I read it is to ensure that the person I am messaging is genuine and reliable. I do not look at dates and get my desk calendar out and check to see how long it was between other peoples meets. Id like to think I can spend my time in a more time effective way and quite frankly Im not interested.

Just because one person plays once a year to someone elses every week does not make them any better or less of a person in my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well personally, i like havin loads, for varying reasons lol, puts ya off?-well just makes me think the people cant differentiate from what a profile is and what a person is.Again its my business what ones I display and whoever elses that wants to give them, they arent gospel of course...but an indication mainly of who u might be meeting and what they might be like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly?? a sim-ple check box of turned up on time, said who they said they were??-sorry but fuck that, really..its a user defined system and i hope my own verifications show me in some 3D manner...after all that IS what I'am not some bloody tick-box, and i enjoy people highlighting points to the meet, whether it be sexual or unsexual...theres plenty of profiles saying "ive a great pussy""a big 9inch dick"-now , everybody knows thats their profile right, just as verifies should be ur own personal account to display HOW u wish or not!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I have no strong feelings either way, although I do wonder a little bit if there are dozens and dozensof verifications in the space of a few weeks.. ?"

There's a bit of me that wonders why it makes you wonder? After all it is a swinging site and that's generally why people are here. If someone chooses to meet ten people in a night then that's totally up to them, who are we to judge?

Except we do judge don't we? I see a profile with a million verifications and in fact, it's part of my first glance ritual to check and when there are loads I just click the back button and move to the next profile. I don't know why, it just puts me off I guess. I like quality over quantity. Each to their own and all that.

It's the only time I use verifications. I like to make up my own mind about people in the same way I pay no heed to film reviews.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Well we are not here to judge either but your profile is all we have to go on. Up to individuals what they do, who eith, and how often. However, if people choose to display verifications we will use them amongst other things as a guide to whether we thi.k they will be compatible with us. That is life. You can live and let live but doesn't mean you have to choose to join them. we have seen a few things to make us careful.

Mistress x

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

My main thing is organising GB's at my place, the more verifications from a wider group of people nornally means they are less likely to be timewasters. I only host events every couple of weeks, so seem to get and give verifications in short bursts.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have tons of veris and am proud of each and every one. I don't diss people for not having any so I don't know why people diss others for having a lot.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

[Removed by poster at 13/07/11 23:40:57]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have tons of veris and am proud of each and every one. I don't diss people for not having any so I don't know why people diss others for having a lot."

+1 and kisses xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the problem most people have with people with lots of veries is they think because they have loads they will meet and shag anyone

which isnt true, i meet very regular, being a single female the only time i get sex is when i get a meet so i meet on a weekly basis, some times with regular guys, mosty mew meets, i have met far far more people than i have verification, plus i have lost loads thro people leaving the site, BUT i am still picky about who i meet, i still choose my meets carefully and only meet guys im attracted to mentally and pysically and if i meet someone and dont like them in the flesh i will give a polite thanks for the drink but no thanks and walk away, even if i got to the point i met every day and i had 100+ verifications i still wouldnt just fuck anyone for the sake of a shag

And im sure im not the only person who feels that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of phone verifications put me off,especially if they have no meet verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just looked at my own profile in the last 2 months I have had 16 verifications, now to some that could be a lot, but when you realise that 13 of them are from parties, where I didnt play with everyone is it really that many?

I like reading verifications, I would hope that they dont dictate who I meet, I just like being nosey.

Would a lot put me off, not meeting 1s, a huge list of cam verifactions with no meets puts me off, would rather meet someone that wasnt verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also agree with Fabio, I also dont like to read if they area brilliant shagg, gives fantastic oral. As we are all different and what is good to one will be crap to others.

I actually agree with that too, I dont read about somebody's sexual preferences..or what they are good at... as I want to find out myself..."

+1

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I have tons of veris and am proud of each and every one. I don't diss people for not having any so I don't know why people diss others for having a lot.

+1 and kisses xxx"

Thanks.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

If you go to social meets or you go to clubs/parties reguarly, you can end up lots of them in a short space of time.

Doesn't mean you have played with them all.....and even if you have, does it matter if you like them and they are nice people.

What one person considers too many will be just right for another....

Plus some people hide some of theirs...so how do you really know how many anyone has really got!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont show mine, but thats personal choice.

It doesnt put me off contacting someone if they have lots though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont show mine, but thats personal choice.

It doesnt put me off contacting someone if they have lots though "

great stuff when can we meet!!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If you had a verification that said "doesn't come across as a axe murderer" would you show it?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you had a verification that said "doesn't come across as a axe murderer" would you show it?!

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oh yeah, for sure.

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By *azmissy67Woman
over a year ago

welshpool area

i can be abit of a bitch to be honest and i know showing my verifications pee some people off so i show them all!

Plus if someone has taken the time to tell the world how wonderful i am I'm going to share.

Jus off to the hospital to get my tongue out of my cheek hehe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i can be abit of a bitch to be honest and i know showing my verifications pee some people off so i show them all!

Plus if someone has taken the time to tell the world how wonderful i am I'm going to share.

Jus off to the hospital to get my tongue out of my cheek hehe x"

I have to agree that I'm the same. We all know that there are some people who dissect profiles for reasons other than being interested in meeting. If they read my veris and it bothers them to read how brilliant I am then so be it

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"If they read my veris and it bothers them to read how brilliant I am then so be it "

LOL excellent! Wish I'd thought of saying soemthing like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sure this has been done before but I missed it.... How do the verifications (quality and above all quantity affect your choice of who you play with? If somebody has tons of them, is that a turn on or a turn off or neither?"

My profile has a few on,their from people good enough to verify me, and i return the gesture, think it makes the profile bit more interesting.

Whats a bit ironic though is, they get used as some form of "evidence against", usually single women have them used as a reason for that pest thats been at them for weeks, "ohh i thought you said you were too busy but your veri says you met,,,,," etc, and spurs them on to pester them even more.

The ironic part is,their gettin pestered by someone who's gone secret squirrels with their profile, no pics, friends list hidden and veri's hidden, why is that then?

Scared wife finds profile? or partner?

Just a theory,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the problem most people have with people with lots of veries is they think because they have loads they will meet and shag anyone

which isnt true, i meet very regular, being a single female the only time i get sex is when i get a meet so i meet on a weekly basis, some times with regular guys, mosty mew meets, i have met far far more people than i have verification, plus i have lost loads thro people leaving the site, BUT i am still picky about who i meet, i still choose my meets carefully and only meet guys im attracted to mentally and pysically and if i meet someone and dont like them in the flesh i will give a polite thanks for the drink but no thanks and walk away, even if i got to the point i met every day and i had 100+ verifications i still wouldnt just fuck anyone for the sake of a shag

And im sure im not the only person who feels that way "

+ 1 very well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And also some swingers don't like to think that others' are having a fun time or may be popular and I've seen bitchy comments from women about other females and hence the statement 'oh they will shag anything and I prefer to be more selective is borne' - women are competitive with their looks, style, bodies etc and some are uneasy with men being complimentary about others. Just easier to put down those women and pretend somehow that they are better cos they open their legs to strangers once a month rather than once a week.

I remember seeing a women in her 50s talk about gangbangs on the forum and she was a confident woman with her looks, body etc. She was very attractive, and she had a shed load of veris from guys who turned up to her parties. She had a lot of sly digs from women on the forum, one woman called her a slut - the words pot and kettle immediately sprung to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other thing that happens too, mainly by single guys as veris are important to them, is that guys will write a veri when they've met and chatted to you in a club but the veri reads as if you've had an all night sex marathon - 'she was dressed to impress, her body was amazing, mmm she was good', and all you've done is spoken to them for half an hour and they've perhaps had a touch of your boobs

But its always really kind to receive a veri and I always do the same for them .

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