FabSwingers.com forum: If you could go back to 18.?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you could go back in time and give your 18 year old self some advice... what would it be?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would say be true to yourself and positive thinking will get you a long way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not wishing to sound too deep and meaningful (there's too much of that this morning). But the mistakes I made made me what I am now, and I think I'm a good man.

However, I should have said yes to a 3some. Stupid stupid boy.

""18 year old me - say yes when she asks you! ""

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"If you could go back in time and give your 18 year old self some advice... what would it be?"

Dump him.

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

avoid the m1 on the 10th dec 2014 - because that lorry will hurt you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell myself to be braver and go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And not to set fire to the carpet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to get married so young

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The only thing I would tell my 18 year old self to change might result in me not having what I have now, so I wouldn't bother. OK, I would have maybe had an easier life, but there are some things that are worth the struggle.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Heaven's,so many thing's!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would try and explain to myself that "just one more" isn't actually good idea after all. I fear I would have igno_ed myself anyway..!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Heaven's,so many thing's!"
ooo come on I am sure one stands out.

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

Don't marry that man!

Well, I'd like to say it would be to tell myself not to get married (I was only 19 on my wedding day!) but then I wouldnt have my two crazy children...although I do often wonder what my life would have been like if I hadn't have gone through with it.

Sassy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put half of what you earn every month in a savings account.

I was young and in the RAF, spent every penny on booze and ciggies. Could have spent half and had an equally good time and saved enough to nearly pay for my first house outright. Instead I bought when I couldn't really afford to and put us through years of stress because we were on the breadline for most of it.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Heaven's,so many thing's!ooo come on I am sure one stands out.

Ok grab life by the ball's a bit more then and don't be so bloody nice it get's you nowhere!

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By *ondon-guy68Man
over a year ago

London

I would say to myself, If in 31 years time someone asks this question and you don't have an answer, you've done alright.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I would say have more confidence in yourself and your abilities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'd say not to do the things I've done, life has bought me to this point and I'd be a different person without those mistakes.

But I would say to believe in myself more, I'm stronger than I give myself c_edit for x

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I will not change anything , no regrets. The only thing is I didn't know there was anything called swinging, I would not have taken my ex girlfriends seriously if I knew there was a life style like this lol

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"If you could go back in time and give your 18 year old self some advice... what would it be?"

Go to vet school you rebellious idiot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me to stupid 18 year old me...

Stop being a Dick,

And stop smoking now before it becomes near impossible to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice to my 18 year old self

You are alright as you are. Work on money management now. Don't leave it til you're 40.

Be bold.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would say study harder

and save money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heaven's,so many thing's!ooo come on I am sure one stands out.

Ok grab life by the ball's a bit more then and don't be so bloody nice it get's you nowhere!"

This is good advice for 18 year old me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I made a lot of mistakes. So many. But I ended up in a great place.

I guess I would say to ask for what say really want. The worst thing that can happen is that people can say no.

But if you don't ask for what you really want, the best thing that can happen is that you don't get what you really want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things turned out quite well although it didn't feel so at the time. When I was 27 on the other hand.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invent The iPhone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't base your pick of university entirely on a girl and for god's sake get a haircut!!!"

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Don't do it just fucking don't you dumb arse fuckwit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grow the fuck up you dick head!!

Sorry, but that's what I would honestly say

Mr T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you could go back in time and give your 18 year old self some advice... what would it be?"

I think the only thing I would tell my 18 year old self is " you showed them"

I joined the army and all my family said I couldn't do it" 22 years later still in. hahaha!!! I would say to my 21 year old self... do not get married.

And to my 31 year old self.. do not take the west route on patrol this morning....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Invent The iPhone

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

"Dave, life is going to get really hard, your in for some very dark days... Im not going to tell you because they shape you into a good man"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Dave, life is going to get really hard, your in for some very dark days... Im not going to tell you because they shape you into a good man""
this

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Sign the million pound contract with Sony and don't listen to my parents!!!!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Forget that one girl. Don't be so shy. And get out chatting to those girls they're not that scary once you get talking to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up and coming lottery results

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your parents are usually right.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Get your hair cut!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell myself that in 30 yrs when you meet your crush from school, don't bother, he wasn't all that!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell myself to start a website. I'd call it fabswingers. Then I could have joined it sooner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her out, she'll say yes

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Fuck everyone else think put yourself first rather than other people

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By *unky-doryMan
over a year ago

the kingdom

dont be so bashful and reserved. kiss, feel, fuck more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont be so bashful and reserved. kiss, feel, fuck more."

This!

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By *unky-doryMan
over a year ago

the kingdom

"Not to get married so young"

not to get married at all!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him. Just tell him.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Firstly I'd tell myself to finish my A levels and go to uni!

Secondly I'd give myself a few guys names to steer well clear of.

Thirdly I'd tell myself not to sleep around at that age - because in the 80's only guys were allowed to sleep with people outside a relationship - and girls who did were obviously slags!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing - the Butterfly Effect could change everything I have now and I wouldn't want that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont spend all ur trust fund the same day ur aloud to touch it lol

kay

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take that money you've been saving and buy some stock in uber.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would give myself the winning lottery numbers!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

So so many things that would have significantly changed my life but then I wouldn't be the person I am now if I hadn't made those mistakes.

There is however one thing, that I'll keep to myself, that I'd definitely tell my 18 year old self which would wipe away a lot without actually changing a great deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt that my 18YO self would have listened to me, I certainly didn't listen to anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get off PoF and stay single

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

I would have stayed slim and took the career opertunities I had then that I didn't take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get off PoF and stay single "

And do the degree in south Wales!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would tell myself move on from being bitter about being too short to do the one job I'd dreamed of doing since I was little.

It's not meant to be and just work damn hard at uni instead.

But then I wouldn't be where I am now. So would I really want to change all the life experiences I've had??

Possibly not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you could go back in time and give your 18 year old self some advice... what would it be?"
I'd say damn you have a Sexy Mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't tell myself anything. I like to think I've learned from my mistakes and Im kinda happy with who ive become.

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By *uxom _edCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Believe in yourself.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"If you could go back in time and give your 18 year old self some advice... what would it be? I'd say damn you have a Sexy Mum"

Now I'm wondering if you're talking about your own or a mate's there?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you could go back in time and give your 18 year old self some advice... what would it be? I'd say damn you have a Sexy Mum

Now I'm wondering if you're talking about your own or a mate's there?! "
OPs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To stop being so hung up on what other people think of you and trying to live up to other people's expectations. To stop obsessing about what others have and what you don't have and make the best and enjoy what you do have. Advice that I still struggle with to this day though.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Oi Tom, trust no fucker! Dont lend them any money.

I lost about 6 or 7 friends this way.coz they never paid back and i had to turn on the heat and thereby lost the friendship. 18 and all the way through my 20s

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

You're not going to believe this, but I'm from the future and same sex weddings are completely legal. Also, you're not going to believe me when I tell you who is president of USA, so I'll leave that one as a surprise.

Oh and get that thing sorted now. It's not what you think, not worth worrying about and a hell of a lot cheaper than you think, to get it removed. Trust me, I know, I am you in the future.

Now, how the heck do I get back? I think I left the oven on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done better at school results , instead of hard labour building fecking houses for rich dumb arses should be sitting on my arse drawing them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id give myself shitloads of advice

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"Get off PoF and stay single

And do the degree in south Wales!"

POF been around that loooong?

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

So many things to tell myself...

Hope there's not a limit...

Bisexuality exists, and it's okay, it doesn't mean you can't have a family.

Don't be led astray by your peers.

Have confidence in yourself and who you are.

Don't put yourself down.

Do more exercise.

lol

So, so, so many things...

Flames

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let my father go and play golf

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Here's the lottery numbers to play for this particular draw. Don't lose the numbers this time or waste your money on other draws.

I told you this twice before when I went back in time, but every time I return, I have little money and no new memories of winning big time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To stop being so hung up on what other people think of you and trying to live up to other people's expectations. To stop obsessing about what others have and what you don't have and make the best and enjoy what you do have. Advice that I still struggle with to this day though. "
xxx yes I think lots get hung up on what others do . We have to do what is wright for us not others. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id tell myself to free my mind from the constrictions I was bought up with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell myself to calm down, stop taking myself and life too seriously and I'd tell myself to go talk to whichever girl I might have liked at the time and stop thinking the worst.

The last one will take some convincing but I'd make sure younger me went for it before I time travelled back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id tell myself to free my mind from the constrictions I was bought up with!

This!

And not be so hard on myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt have held back so much - in many ways - things i should have said and things i would hve liked to have done earlier

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

You think you're fat but you're not. Look at you, everything is normal except for the tummy.

And that's not fat, it's bloat because you actually have coeliac disease!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps I'm unusual but I detested being a teenager.

The coursing hormones, the pressure to choose a career path in life. The shallow self involved peer group and the trivial dramas. no ty.

I'd ask to be sedated? until my 20th birthday if I woke up 18 again . What a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chill out, laugh more, stop taking yourself so seriously and believe in your capabilities a bit more.

And you have a great figure. Enjoy it and keep it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kinda sad reading a lot of these.

Never put anything before riding.

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

Buy as many shares as you possibly can in website such as Google and YouTube.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I have loads of advice for my younger self. But I know it would be a waste of time, I was too bloody stubborn to listen!

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By *appytrailmanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Stop saying no so much!

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By *eyimbr1anyMan
over a year ago

All over

Don't get into that relationship and stretch more( for sport and bedroom activities)

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

This is such a great environment, I never thought such an environment could exist, look at all the beautiful ladies , married or single to choose from, I thought once a lady gets married her pussy is gone but look, its back on the market in a much better and matu_ed way.

I would be telling my 18 year old self and myself now, think outside the box and believe you can achieve anything because life is not really as it seems but what you make it and what you believe.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Stick to cycling, you are good at it.

Get out there and enjoy life, even if on your own.

Stop worrying about crossdressing, you look good in a dress and lingerie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck more.. when I was 18

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell myself a size 10 wasn't large.

Not to sit in and wait for the phone to ring (olden days before mobiles)

Stop trying to please everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to Australia

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By *ve 66Woman
over a year ago

Blackwood

Go on the Occupational Therapists course I was offe_ed but turned it down cos it was on the night of the Bierkeller

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take that bakery job young man, it messes with your sleeping pattern.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have some belief, anything is possible and live everyday as if it is your last...

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By *ascade35Man
over a year ago

Alnwick

I think probably for me, it would have the age old advice of putting ones brain into gear before ones mouth!! Especially when it comes to my career lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To do the stuff that makes me happy, even if other people wouldn't understand why.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To go travelling and backpacking before I had children

To explore my sexuality more before settling down

To be more happy with myself and to stop caring what everyone else thinks- it's your life go for it x

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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River

"If you could go back in time and give your 18 year old self some advice... what would it be?"

Buy property, invest in Apple and accept the "invitation " of dinner from my female English teacher

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby

"To do the stuff that makes me happy, even if other people wouldn't understand why."
this is what makes us all different in some way i often think back in time and thou some of the times were routes I,d rather not gone on I realise how times have changed and i certainly could,nt go back on them routes again because they would,nt be there to follow but for me its been a mixed bag if i had counted back the years as now when i was 18 it would have been 1935 so different in many ways but depending on your position a lot harder life and with a war comeing up i looked at my parents and how they dealth with those times and their parents before them dealth with theirs and todays generations even mine bring up their kids differently for different circumstances obviously like my next door neibours... its just that i don,t know anything different but the way i was brought up going away annually on holiday or holidays because we could mainly in the uk so yes i was from a close family if not for the internet i doubt i would talk in such expressive terms perhaps at that time in my life where I,m happy to do so more and more thou I,m a long long way from book makeing material...

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

A couple of things.

1 That I didn't have to go for the grotty biker look just to ride motorbike

2 Should have taken up the offer to swap a pillion ride on my bike for having a go on a horse, as offe_ed to me by a young horsey type. I think I have since developed an irrational fear of getting on one..

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

The horse I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you could go back in time and give your 18 year old self some advice... what would it be?"

I would tell myself to save! I have had so much money over the years but just wasted it (especially when I went though a gambling stage about 20 years ago)

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

All I'd say is.

"Ooohhh boy are you gunna have some fun! Enjoy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your arm straight and head down and you'll be a scratch golfer!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get in that car you will be lucky to live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not fuck up my marriage by going out with the sexiest woman on earth (at that time)and losing the best woman (my ex wife) through divorce.Also nearly betting £10 on Leicester last season which my mates convinced me it was a waste of money.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Go get your hair cut, you scruffy urchin and wash behind your ears, or you'll be growing potatoes there. I don't know, the youth of yesterday! I remember when..,,

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

To trust my instincts. I'll never let go of that one now

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

"Don't let my father go and play golf

hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To trust my instincts. I'll never let go of that one now"
Your like me being true to yourself ..I will never let that go now too .. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It to get with that girl ,that mum was always right ..and to believe in myself more

Because I can do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Study hard and get a degree in anything then you can run away!

Don't settle for just anyone - you're better than that - wait for the right one - being on your own is actually quite fun!

No one is better than you!

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