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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Common courtesy...is this a thing of the past? Now I am not talking about online, I am referring to everyday life.

Simple things like saying "please", "thank you", "excuse me", and so on.

Has anyone else noticed that there seems to be a lack of this these days?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find if you practice common good manners and courtesy the people you apply it to are often surprised, so yes, there is a lack of it, sadly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find if you practice common good manners and courtesy the people you apply it to are often surprised, so yes, there is a lack of it, sadly."

Even holding doors open for people or saying thanks seems to have stopped.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No, there is a lack of common curtesy from some and in my experience it most certainly isnt from the teenagers that everyone goes on about its from pensioners. The times ive held doors open for pensioners or moved or whatever and they havent even acknowledged the fact.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

sadly yes... and the older generation are some of the worst offenders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sadly yes... and the older generation are some of the worst offenders."

+1

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

absolutely it is and it is a big ug bear of mine!

i always make sure i say please, thank you etc

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By *ingmasterMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Manners and courtesy ? a thing of the past , a bygone era , a time gone with the wind .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well i wasn't going to mention age but my experience has been with some of the older members of the population. And they were brought up to be respectful as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm big on manners and I've already got my 2y/o saying please and thank you, but sometimes he says 'fack oo' which almost sounds like 'fuck you' but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt lol

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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If I hold the door open for someone and they fail to acknowledge I shout very loudly, "YOU'RE VERY WELCOME"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever a client of mine is leaving, I thank them for using my services over my competitors; jaws often hit the floor.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Whenever a client of mine is leaving, I thank them for using my services over my competitors; jaws often hit the floor. "

i do that on meets

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I'm big on manners and I've already got my 2y/o saying please and thank you, but sometimes he says 'fack oo' which almost sounds like 'fuck you' but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt lol "

Ive always been big on manners, its so lovely to here a small child say please and thankyou. If i one on a busy bus with my son and an older person got on i always knew he would be the first to stand up with out being reminded. I detest bad manners with a vengance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm big on manners and I've already got my 2y/o saying please and thank you, but sometimes he says 'fack oo' which almost sounds like 'fuck you' but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt lol "

That's good to see some are still showing the little uns the right way.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"If I hold the door open for someone and they fail to acknowledge I shout very loudly, "YOU'RE VERY WELCOME" "

haha me to!! often falls on deaf ears though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whenever a client of mine is leaving, I thank them for using my services over my competitors; jaws often hit the floor.

i do that on meets "

What is this "meet" you speak of??

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Whenever a client of mine is leaving, I thank them for using my services over my competitors; jaws often hit the floor.

i do that on meets "

LOL!

Think it's a shame if people haven't got a basic level of courtesy. It's definitely getting a rare thing when out and about.

Wolf

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I was out for lunch today, the restaurant doesn't open till 12 noon but the public bar opens at 11am.

My friend and I are waiting in the bar for the restaurant to open, chatting away to the barman.Very pleasant and mannerable young guy. This older couple come in 11.45.. they want in the restaurant, the barman nicely explains they are still setting up so if they could wait in the bar area, we could all go thro once he gets the nod at 12.

Well you have never seen huffing and puffing, sighing and rolling of eyes like it... it was like a pair of spoilt 5 year old being told no more sweets.. 11.55 they breeze throe with no regard for me and my friend patiently waiting... they wanted a certain seat...

I have no idea how I managed to hold my tongue that was quivering in my mouth to tell them straight...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was out for lunch today, the restaurant doesn't open till 12 noon but the public bar opens at 11am.

My friend and I are waiting in the bar for the restaurant to open, chatting away to the barman.Very pleasant and mannerable young guy. This older couple come in 11.45.. they want in the restaurant, the barman nicely explains they are still setting up so if they could wait in the bar area, we could all go thro once he gets the nod at 12.

Well you have never seen huffing and puffing, sighing and rolling of eyes like it... it was like a pair of spoilt 5 year old being told no more sweets.. 11.55 they breeze throe with no regard for me and my friend patiently waiting... they wanted a certain seat...

I have no idea how I managed to hold my tongue that was quivering in my mouth to tell them straight...

"

That is ignorance, not even lack of courtesy. Major self control shown in not speaking up.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I seriously seriously can not bare ignorant people and its always the ones that THINK there something and not the ones that ARE something that do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seriously seriously can not bare ignorant people and its always the ones that THINK there something and not the ones that ARE something that do it"

+ a very big number

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

my courtesy fuse has been somewhat ahortened after my holiday!!

the resort where we were staying is mainly used y Russian travel agencies and as a result there were very few English speaking people there.

The Russians that i encountered there were very very rude, pushing in in the restaurant, not even looking at the barmen when ordering drinks etc

now i know there are language barriers that could be to blame but how hard is it to simply nod your head in recognition of someone giving way to you etc? not hard at all!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think drivers are becoming less courteous. If there is an obstruction on their side of the road they will come through even if I have right of way - which is fine if they put a hand up and acknowledge you slowed dowm. I find myself muttering 'you're welcome' in a sartastic drone rather than a smile and a wave after giving way to other drivers.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"sadly yes... and the older generation are some of the worst offenders.

+1"

+2

Had an elderly gentleman in work today and the abuse was unreal, he was in complaining about something we didnt sell, when i pointed him in the direction of a shop 2 minute walk away, he went off on one. After he had his say left and came back 2 minutes later asking for address and phone number of the owner, when he was told that I would not give out personal details of any staff, he threated to phone the police for me, by this stage my patients had wore thin, I picked up phone and called the police for him. After 2 minutes he handed phone back and said he couldnt hear what they where saying and going home to phone himself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was out for lunch today, the restaurant doesn't open till 12 noon but the public bar opens at 11am.

My friend and I are waiting in the bar for the restaurant to open, chatting away to the barman.Very pleasant and mannerable young guy. This older couple come in 11.45.. they want in the restaurant, the barman nicely explains they are still setting up so if they could wait in the bar area, we could all go thro once he gets the nod at 12.

Well you have never seen huffing and puffing, sighing and rolling of eyes like it... it was like a pair of spoilt 5 year old being told no more sweets.. 11.55 they breeze throe with no regard for me and my friend patiently waiting... they wanted a certain seat...

I have no idea how I managed to hold my tongue that was quivering in my mouth to tell them straight...

"

I wouldn't have been able to resist. I'd have something along the lines of, "Excuse me, but if you really want to be seated early you are in the wrong area. The Wankers area is round the back, through the double doors, down the stairs, through another set of double doors and along the passageway, by which time we'll have been seated and enjoying our meal without having to listen to your incessant whining. Now FUCK OFF!" Sort of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been taught, and passed on to my children, that manners cost nothing. Only last week it was with delight I watched my eldest son walking an elderly neighbour to their door carrying their shopping for them.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"sadly yes... and the older generation are some of the worst offenders.

+1

+2

Had an elderly gentleman in work today and the abuse was unreal, he was in complaining about something we didnt sell, when i pointed him in the direction of a shop 2 minute walk away, he went off on one. After he had his say left and came back 2 minutes later asking for address and phone number of the owner, when he was told that I would not give out personal details of any staff, he threated to phone the police for me, by this stage my patients had wore thin, I picked up phone and called the police for him. After 2 minutes he handed phone back and said he couldnt hear what they where saying and going home to phone himself "

I feel I do have to redress the balance at least a little..

Yeah older people can appear rude by not saying thanks if you open a door, but we also find that with the gangs of young people walking around town! They refuse to move even the slightest bit when others walk towards them and the language they use at a loud volume is really not for small childrens ears!

Try walking along Rushden Hight Street just after the upper school has turned out. Cycling against the traffic on the one way High Street and even kicking cars when they don't get out of the way. Try and walk against the flow of kids! Very difficult!

I agree that many pensioners are or appear rude. There is no excuse for it, but neither is there any excuse for the way gangs of kids behave either.

To answer the OP... Yep! Manners are all but disapearing from society, not from one group, but but all sections!

Now fuck off and stay off of my lawn!!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

i will never forget traveling on the bus to work while very heavily pregent .the bus was very crowded but i did manage to get a seat near the frount . the bus pulls up at next stop and a very elderly and frail lady gets on . she looks about for a seat and you have never seen so meny folks staring at the flamin floor ! i got up and gave her my seat and spent rest of the journey standng ,holding the hand rail. i was gob smack at peoples selfishness and that was compounded when they would rather allow a pregent women give up her seat then have decencecy to offer their own !

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

In my last job, I worked on Main Gate Security for a major International company here in Hull.

One of our duties was the signing in and out of delivery vehicles/trucks. One day though, there was an emergency on site, with all emergency service vehicles rushing in and a site closure was in place. Then a regular driver, known as a "right pain in the arse" arrived.

He upset other drivers who knew they couldn't access the site due to the circumstances, but this guy took it personal slight against him; he effed and blinded at us for 10 minutes, as we tried to placate him, but to no avail!

Finally, the emergency closure was lifted, and he got in; he continued to abuse anyone who got in his way. We were called into the warehouse offices to escort him off the site and give him the good news! He was being banned from not just our site, but all others in our company in the UK.....FOR LIFE!!!!

Afterwards, we heard that this behaviour had been his downfall before with other customers; when his company heard about his behaviour, they fired him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy who looks after my vans runs his own garage. He's a good bloke, and I'm happy to use his services. We were having this very conversation 10 days or so ago, regarding demanding customers and bad manners. He applies "asshole tax" to his more difficult client's invoices, which keeps him very happy without having to raise his voice

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"i will never forget traveling on the bus to work while very heavily pregent .the bus was very crowded but i did manage to get a seat near the frount . the bus pulls up at next stop and a very elderly and frail lady gets on . she looks about for a seat and you have never seen so meny folks staring at the flamin floor ! i got up and gave her my seat and spent rest of the journey standng ,holding the hand rail. i was gob smack at peoples selfishness and that was compounded when they would rather allow a pregent women give up her seat then have decencecy to offer their own ! "

I did exactly the same for a frail old man, however i think i shamed almost the whole bus the amount of people that then stood up to let me sit down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i will never forget traveling on the bus to work while very heavily pregent .the bus was very crowded but i did manage to get a seat near the frount . the bus pulls up at next stop and a very elderly and frail lady gets on . she looks about for a seat and you have never seen so meny folks staring at the flamin floor ! i got up and gave her my seat and spent rest of the journey standng ,holding the hand rail. i was gob smack at peoples selfishness and that was compounded when they would rather allow a pregent women give up her seat then have decencecy to offer their own !

I did exactly the same for a frail old man, however i think i shamed almost the whole bus the amount of people that then stood up to let me sit down"

My mother would have beaten me black and blue for not giving up my seat on the bus to a lady, pregnant or not, or an elderly man, and on the odd occasion I do get the bus, I still do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only have to visit Morrison's in Gloucester, none of the shoppers especially the women seem to have a clue what manners are yet I am always polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

two of the more common words my 18 month old uses are 'ta' and 'peas'

thank you and please she finds difficult to say, but she uses them in the correct context.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

aww thats so cute !!!! my daughter was raised the same and still very polite now shes ten . iwouldnt accept or exspect anything less from her . x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"If I hold the door open for someone and they fail to acknowledge I shout very loudly, "YOU'RE VERY WELCOME" "

Ha Ha So do I!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I hold the door open for someone and they fail to acknowledge I shout very loudly, "YOU'RE VERY WELCOME"

Ha Ha So do I!!!! "

me three

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"If I hold the door open for someone and they fail to acknowledge I shout very loudly, "YOU'RE VERY WELCOME"

Ha Ha So do I!!!!

me three "

not me

I hide in the changing rooms till I see them about to leave the shop... run to get in front of them... and slam the door right in their fucking face..

oh the sweet taste of revenge...

although I do need to chill more

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

Ive always found people using London rail stations to among the worst for a lack of manners. Last week i got off at a railway station with no lift, and ahead saw a women who was going to have to lift her pushchair with her young baby up the stair to the exit. About 20 men walked past her without offering to help until i lifted it up the stairs for her.

Also seen older people struggling at underground stations with suitcases and noone seems to offer to help. If my grandad was still alive and saw men not offering to help a woman with a heavy case etc, he would have gone upto one of them and asked very loudly if they have lost the use of their arms, when they said no, he would say well why arent you offering to help this lady with her bags/pushchair/suitcase?.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"If I hold the door open for someone and they fail to acknowledge I shout very loudly, "YOU'RE VERY WELCOME"

Ha Ha So do I!!!!

me three "

I do a variation of this!

I usually call out very loudly...

"Doormen usually get a tip for holding a door open, so where the hell is mine, you cheapskate?"

It does have an effect; some do apologise! But on one occasion, Security asked me to leave for being a "nuisance!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I hold the door open for someone and they fail to acknowledge I shout very loudly, "YOU'RE VERY WELCOME"

Ha Ha So do I!!!!

me three "

I shout loudly THANKS THEN but I think I like Views idea much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say, it's not too bad round here, peeps often say a curteous good morning too.

There is always the exception I spose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the OP, people seems to be in such a rush these days they forget their manners!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with the OP, people seems to be in such a rush these days they forget their manners!"

Its a huge shame because it only takes a second to be polite.

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

We talk about the elderly here as though they have forgotten good manners.

They, soon to be we, haven't. It's revenge.

Just wait. Its coming to us all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the nearly-polites,lol.

The hurried "excuse me pleeeease," that really means "out my feckin way".

And the ignorance that just leaves you speachless, had it at the airport with a covert non-uniformed BMI-supervisor, well she might of been, she thought she was a super something anyway!

Check in was busy so i merely suggested i try, "that desk there?". "No!" was the reply, not "no i'd rather you did'nt" or "No not possible" just "No", marrrrrvelous,lol, she was helping out while it was busy,good for her.

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