FabSwingers.com forum: How single men treated

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't we all just get along without slagging the opposite sex off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't we all just get along without slagging the opposite sex off?

Let's grind beans not axes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can't we all just get along without slagging the opposite sex off?

I'm talking about couples as well!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Can't we all just get along without slagging the opposite sex off?

apparently not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

I'm not rude to guys. Some are rude to me though !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

I'm not rude to guys. Some are rude to me though !"

Sorry to hear that

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Can't we all just get along without slagging the opposite sex off?

Let's grind beans not axes

Wouldn't it be better if everyone just chilled their beans instead of constantly starting threads slating the opposite sex off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single fellas are predominantly treated like shit here.What would be nice even just now and again would be "hey thanks for the mail but your just not for me".that took less then 10 seconds to type.Just Sheet bad manners if you ask me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm all out of popcorn..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can't we all just get along without slagging the opposite sex off?

Let's grind beans not axes

Wouldn't it be better if everyone just chilled their beans instead of constantly starting threads slating the opposite sex off?

Again read the what I wrote before writing down its not about women, it's about how men treated in here so out of my post please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All genders have the capability of being mean & rude, on here & in reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would you react to hundreds of messages a day from shadows saying "hi"

Or "howz u" with a vaj picture attatched?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single fellas are predominantly treated like shit here.What would be nice even just now and again would be "hey thanks for the mail but your just not for me".that took less then 10 seconds to type.Just Sheet bad manners if you ask me."

I do reply like that many times. However some guys response is rude to me.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Can't we all just get along without slagging the opposite sex off?

Let's grind beans not axes

Wouldn't it be better if everyone just chilled their beans instead of constantly starting threads slating the opposite sex off?

Again read the what I wrote before writing down its not about women, it's about how men treated in here so out of my post please "

No I won't, so there! I don't tell you what to do. You started a thread and everyone is entitled to post an opinion. Live with it or do one

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By *andVBCouple
over a year ago

Wrexham

Are you considering the time spent responding to the "what? why not?" replies? Or the reporting and blocking time when things become abusive.

These small actions add up rapidly.

The site FAQ explains that a lack of response is to be considered a no. Consider your lack of response as the polite response you expect and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I for one would like to meet a genuine single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't we all just get along without slagging the opposite sex off?

Let's grind beans not axes

Wouldn't it be better if everyone just chilled their beans instead of constantly starting threads slating the opposite sex off?

Again read the what I wrote before writing down its not about women, it's about how men treated in here so out of my post please "

Some men, women and couples are rude to men. Some couples, men and women are rude to women. Some men, women and couples are rude to couples. Because some people are just rude and don't give a shit! But that's the minority here.

Just avoid those people and move on. There are plenty of people on Fab who aren't like that. You've just got to find them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are dicks... that's about all there is to it

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

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there are arseholes online aswell as offline.man up fs

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Well if that's the case then it's wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

I know from quiet a few single well experienced long time fabbers even they have problems getting meets or get treated not nicely at times. I disagree with the inequality of pricing when it comes to parties socials etc. And I detest the way men are treated and how women think they can bully and make nasty comments about other women when they feel threatened. I don't treat men with disrespect. I treat fabbers the way I like to be treated. Respect. After all we are all here for one thing. Fun sexy times with no drama. Right ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need a thicker skin OP.

Would you like them to give you a reason too?

Do you send pics when you message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make love not war. And let's face it you won't win.

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By *andVBCouple
over a year ago

Wrexham

I do agree with the general sentiment that everyone ought to be treated equally, fairly and with respect though.

(Realised I only responded to a single aspect of a subsequent post, not the thread topic)

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I don't treat men like shit here unless they've decided to show me the same level of "kindness"

Not all blokes are the same some of us do realise that and if a guys taken time to read my profile (when not hidden as I'm taking a temporary break from meeting due to bereavement) I will taken time to respond even if it's just to say sorry not for me. If they have however clearly disregarded what I've written, because they either haven't read it or just chanced their luck anyway, I've no issue ignoring what they've written to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Switch it round tho.I know women that get hundreds of messages a day,so would you go thru every message and write a polite "no thanks" to every one??

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals"

Speak for yourself I'm a monster.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I agree to a point,but I don't ask for anyone to message and to be fair when I say I'm not meeting and people still message to meet well to be honest it's their own fault I don't reply when they clearly haven't taken a slightest bit of notice what I've written.

...and that was one long sentence

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

*checks full moon* Nope

*checks mercury retrograde* Ahah!

Hopefully all the wangst on the forums will settle down in a few days and we can move away from the 'all single men/single women/couples are...' soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

We certainly don't insult people on here, however it becomes hard work when people don't read our profile and still choose to message, in our case we block and move on, but can understand if other people have short tempers in their replies,if getting lots of the same messages every day.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Yes but when you've got hundreds of messages that time adds up and I'm sorry I didn't sign up to fab for an admin job. I've been in sute where they have a standard reply button that you can hit that's says "thankyou for the message but I'm not interested in meeting you" and on the forums of that site they guys just moan that it's an impersonal sending that message when they taken time to write a personalised message to them, so you're damned if you do and damned if you don't

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Some of these people get many messages a day and most will only reply to someone who has a profile, telling them something about themselves, otherwise it's just a delete , I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this another trolling thread?

What? Why is it trolling!!

Because you're a man. When a woman runs down men, on the many threads weekly, she's "just venting"

Couples too. "

Very true!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I've almost given up trying to explain why women can't respond with a "Thanks, but you're not for me" type message to everyone that fires off a specifically crafted message amongst all the dross that they get on a daily basis.

It's not always bad manners, people have lives outside of fab as well you know

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

Yes OP you do have a point(could be explained better) yes people are rude especially to single guys because simply they know there is so much choice and another offer will be on the table soon enough also you only ever seen the unsuccessful guys make threads complaining about how they have been treated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

Welcome to FAB!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this another trolling thread?

This.

ae get the idea. Nobody like to be treated like shit op. But let's start by looking at ourselves and how we act, than immediately blaming others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moan, whinge, cry, bleat, it's not fair, why, whine, and repeat.

Keep on stamping those feet and throwing those toys. It's guaranteed to get you meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, read the FAQ

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Is this another trolling thread?

No. Believe it or not it is possible to talk about issues that males have and expect to be taken seriously.

One of the major problems this and other places have is the arrogant dismissal of problems affecting males by a few women, couples and some other males.

Sexism is sexism no matter who it is against and should be called out.

Not dismissed as happens nearly every time here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Moan, whinge, cry, bleat, it's not fair, why, whine, and repeat.

Keep on stamping those feet and throwing those toys. It's guaranteed to get you meets.

Laughing at this!

I find it incredibly rude that 90% of guys on here expect me to meet or converse with them, when they haven't read my profile.

If women are rude it's generally down to exasperation, I find.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Nope, read the FAQ"

It would help if more people did.

It is a very frustrating situation where so much moaning about something which is a site convention overshadows the genuine concerns which are, as this thread amply shows, conflated with the less pressing issues and dismissed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not rude to anyone n I keep gettin told that's the problem.

I don't reply to many messages either. Just those off friends from the forum or those that catch my eye. I on the odd occasion I do start up a convo it often becomes tedious for me so I've learn not to both. If me not replying to messages is considered rude then that's not my fault.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, read the FAQ"

If the FAQs said you should be polite and 'reply with a 'no'. Would you do it?

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Nope, read the FAQ

If the FAQs said you should be polite and 'reply with a 'no'. Would you do it? "

Aye but they don't. So we need to get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have come across many lovely single guys on here ( and married ones) the ones I delete are the ones that message saying do you fancy a fuck ... delete

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I have come across many lovely single guys on here ( and married ones) the ones I delete are the ones that message saying do you fancy a fuck ... delete

Exactly right.

We get such messages from singles and couples. We don't answer them as they don't interest us.

We often get more in depth messages which we don't respond to either as the author does not interest us either.

This is borne of getting snippy responses to polite replies saying we are not interested. It's not worth it.

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By *ondon-guy68Man
over a year ago

London

Switch it round tho.I know women that get hundreds of messages a day,so would you go thru every message and write a polite "no thanks" to every one?? "

Even as a male on here I get some messages that don't warrant a reply, so I don't and can see why someone with tons of messages would do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, read the FAQ

If the FAQs said you should be polite and 'reply with a 'no'. Would you do it?

Aye but they don't. So we need to get over it."

That's not answering the question. You wouldn't. People still hide behind the FAQs as a reason.

Admit it.

I don't reply because,

I can't be arsed to reply to hundreds.

I don't have the time even though I want to be polite.

I don't want to potentially hurt someones feelings.

I think your a nob, and I'm ignoring you.

It's just my thoughts, but we're all still within an adult zone where we know people are complicated.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"Is this another trolling thread?

No. Believe it or not it is possible to talk about issues that males have and expect to be taken seriously.

One of the major problems this and other places have is the arrogant dismissal of problems affecting males by a few women, couples and some other males.

Sexism is sexism no matter who it is against and should be called out.

Not dismissed as happens nearly every time here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Nope, read the FAQ

If the FAQs said you should be polite and 'reply with a 'no'. Would you do it?

Aye but they don't. So we need to get over it.

That's not answering the question. You wouldn't. People still hide behind the FAQs as a reason.

Admit it.

I don't reply because,

I can't be arsed to reply to hundreds.

I don't have the time even though I want to be polite.

I don't want to potentially hurt someones feelings.

I think your a nob, and I'm ignoring you.

It's just my thoughts, but we're all still within an adult zone where we know people are complicated. "

It is answering the question.

It is reality and we need to deal with it.

I agree that the main reason for not replying is not wanting to take the time or not respecting the message sent.

But that's fine. That's how it should be.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Nope, read the FAQ

If the FAQs said you should be polite and 'reply with a 'no'. Would you do it? "

That's what I do because my messages are in the hundreds not thousands a day. Some days I leave them if I'm not in the mood to respond in a way I feel comfortable with. I invariably get a pleasant message back thanking me for replying. On the rare occasions I get a grumpy message back I laugh and block but I don't let the few cloud my judgement of the many. I'm here for a few reasons but one isn't to make other ppls experience here miserable. This site can be difficult, so maybe we need to be more understanding of ppls responses and recognise that sometimes enough is enough rather than criticising the offending group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego. "

Would t it help if there was a way to not just bulk delete, but bulk reply with a standard polite message you can write in your own words.

You then select all the messages you want to reply with this message, it could take less than 60secs, and click send.

Admin/site owners could try to help more in helping women manage their mailboxes. It's obviously not great for you as much as it's not great for the few frustrated men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego.

Would t it help if there was a way to not just bulk delete, but bulk reply with a standard polite message you can write in your own words.

You then select all the messages you want to reply with this message, it could take less than 60secs, and click send.

Admin/site owners could try to help more in helping women manage their mailboxes. It's obviously not great for you as much as it's not great for the few frustrated men. "

As I've previously said there is a site that does this and on the forums of that site men moan about how impersonal it is so you can't win either way

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By * got the magic stickMan
over a year ago

bradford

We are on here for one thing and that's to have a good time so respect all races x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego. "

Blimey at one point yesterday I had 13 unread messages, which is almost a record breaking day for me - I've never known such heady heights! Over 1,000 is just crazy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

I agree. It's unfair to be rude to men for no reason at all. The same also goes for some men on here too. Rudeness and abusive behaviour is not gender specific. I have my filters up to the hilt. So the only ones I communicate with are the ones I want to chat to. Takes away all the drama for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego.

Would t it help if there was a way to not just bulk delete, but bulk reply with a standard polite message you can write in your own words.

You then select all the messages you want to reply with this message, it could take less than 60secs, and click send.

Admin/site owners could try to help more in helping women manage their mailboxes. It's obviously not great for you as much as it's not great for the few frustrated men. "

Yes, a bulk delete with a standard polite no thank you, would be great. However, as youve been made aware, the delete without reading/reply is exactly that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego.

Would t it help if there was a way to not just bulk delete, but bulk reply with a standard polite message you can write in your own words.

You then select all the messages you want to reply with this message, it could take less than 60secs, and click send.

Admin/site owners could try to help more in helping women manage their mailboxes. It's obviously not great for you as much as it's not great for the few frustrated men.

As I've previously said there is a site that does this and on the forums of that site men moan about how impersonal it is so you can't win either way "

Damn. You can flipping win can you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego. "

How do you find the people you like amongst that many messages? It's an awful lot to trawl through, even without answering them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego.

Blimey at one point yesterday I had 13 unread messages, which is almost a record breaking day for me - I've never known such heady heights! Over 1,000 is just crazy! "

I would have had filters on if I'd known what it was going to be like. Normal days are about 50.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego.

Would t it help if there was a way to not just bulk delete, but bulk reply with a standard polite message you can write in your own words.

You then select all the messages you want to reply with this message, it could take less than 60secs, and click send.

Admin/site owners could try to help more in helping women manage their mailboxes. It's obviously not great for you as much as it's not great for the few frustrated men.

As I've previously said there is a site that does this and on the forums of that site men moan about how impersonal it is so you can't win either way

Damn. You can flipping win can you? "

No but given the OP it's clear some men feel they can't either at times

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I can honestly say that in over a year here OP I've never once received what I would call a rude or abusive message from a female or a couples account, and regularly interact with many of them, in fact it's rare I get ignored when messaging anyone.

I'd like to think that is because I have a detailed profile, some decent pics and any messages I send are both respectful and not full of entitled expectation.

I certainly don't see it as rude when a message is deleted without response or being read (which is rare) and just accept it as being part of the way Fab works.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego.

Blimey at one point yesterday I had 13 unread messages, which is almost a record breaking day for me - I've never known such heady heights! Over 1,000 is just crazy!

I would have had filters on if I'd known what it was going to be like. Normal days are about 50."

When I hit most fabbed I had filters on and still got around 800 new messages with 24hrs and over 19, 000 views it's crazy hope I'm never up there again to be honest

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

I'm slightly confused as to why you've posted a positive status but a negative thread - but your prerogative I guess!

But yep - there are many women and couples who treat men like pieces of meat - and who use the inequality in numbers to demand the 'perfect male' (whatever that is to them) whilst being a million miles from perfect themselves!

Yes - as a fair minded person I think this is shit! However - if I was a single guy on fab I'd stick to the forums and clubs/organised socials - as it's far easier to meet genuine people there!

The arrogant ones are easy to spot from their demanding, unfriendly profile text though - so perhaps just give them a wide birth!

Having no public pictures and little profile text is not likely to help any guys cause though!

Your profile is your Billboard (excuse the Americanism) - and we should all use the space to our advantage!

Big hugs everyone and have a great day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet tall, single and unattached, fit, Caucasian, heterosexual men only. We cannot make it any clearer on our profile. Yet we get men writing to us who are not all of that; sometimes none of that

Our profile isn't that lengthy that someone cannot spend 30 seconds reading it

Men like that are being rude. I delete their message and block them; I am being polite doing that

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just as an aside, I've just been blocked after a couple insulted and complained to me that I met someone else instead of their blank profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've literally never resulted to insults in order to show disinterest, that's just not right at all.

I personally just have a very particular taste in men

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I can honestly say that in over a year here OP I've never once received what I would call a rude or abusive message from a female or a couples account, and regularly interact with many of them, in fact it's rare I get ignored when messaging anyone.

I'd like to think that is because I have a detailed profile, some decent pics and any messages I send are both respectful and not full of entitled expectation.

I certainly don't see it as rude when a message is deleted without response or being read (which is rare) and just accept it as being part of the way Fab works."

You failed to mention the intellect to have a conversation on a varying and unrestricted number of topics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat those as you'd expect to be treated form the start, delete your sent items, if your inbox suddenly pings, don't get a hard-on over it, be polite, respectful and accept the replies (if you get them), as women will say, they can't reply to everyone, just make your intro message and subject stand out from the usual drivel they get, and maybe, just maybe you'll catch someone's eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you have been on here for two weeks, and yet you have so far failed to put any photos on your profile or add anything that would tell others about yourself. This indicates a total lack of effort on your part, and the only thing we have, to base an opinion on you, is a negative thread which, to me, comes across as you feeling entitled, without actually doing anything.

Try READING other profiles, and see how other people actually make an effort on here!

(Reading profiles will also tell you people's contact preferences and possibly save you wasted effort messaging them, and therefore reduce negative or 'rude' [or none existant] responses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Four years???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had over 1000 messages yesterday. That would've been about three hours of typing, nevermind the time it would've taken me to read each message as well. No one is here to pander to anyone's ego.

Blimey at one point yesterday I had 13 unread messages, which is almost a record breaking day for me - I've never known such heady heights! Over 1,000 is just crazy!

I would have had filters on if I'd known what it was going to be like. Normal days are about 50."

It does catch you out at first. 50 is manageable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Four years???"

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, read the FAQ

If the FAQs said you should be polite and 'reply with a 'no'. Would you do it?

Aye but they don't. So we need to get over it.

That's not answering the question. You wouldn't. People still hide behind the FAQs as a reason.

Admit it.

I don't reply because,

I can't be arsed to reply to hundreds.

I don't have the time even though I want to be polite.

I don't want to potentially hurt someones feelings.

I think your a nob, and I'm ignoring you.

It's just my thoughts, but we're all still within an adult zone where we know people are complicated. "

You got a reply from me.

I don't reply cos mostly I cba getting into a convo that isn't going to go anywhere. I've replied to a few today n out of 10 messages replied to. 8 have come back with "whys" or some other whinging remark. It puts me in a bad mood tbh. I'd sooner spend my time on fab in the forums. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, read the FAQ

If the FAQs said you should be polite and 'reply with a 'no'. Would you do it?

Aye but they don't. So we need to get over it.

That's not answering the question. You wouldn't. People still hide behind the FAQs as a reason.

Admit it.

I don't reply because,

I can't be arsed to reply to hundreds.

I don't have the time even though I want to be polite.

I don't want to potentially hurt someones feelings.

I think your a nob, and I'm ignoring you.

It's just my thoughts, but we're all still within an adult zone where we know people are complicated.

You got a reply from me.

That's an honest answer. I accept this more than 'deleted/ignored is a polite no'. It's not. The man does not know if you read it before you deleted it. He may then send you another.

And I know whatever way I would prefer it, another wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, read the FAQ

If the FAQs said you should be polite and 'reply with a 'no'. Would you do it?

Aye but they don't. So we need to get over it.

That's not answering the question. You wouldn't. People still hide behind the FAQs as a reason.

Admit it.

I don't reply because,

I can't be arsed to reply to hundreds.

I don't have the time even though I want to be polite.

I don't want to potentially hurt someones feelings.

I think your a nob, and I'm ignoring you.

It's just my thoughts, but we're all still within an adult zone where we know people are complicated.

You got a reply from me.

That's an honest answer. I accept this more than 'deleted/ignored is a polite no'. It's not. The man does not know if you read it before you deleted it. He may then send you another.

And I know whatever way I would prefer it, another wouldn't. "

This is it. I'm happy to chat to anyone but it always comes back to "why" n I get sick of explaining myself. Then I get "you shouldn't be on here if your not going to meet"

xxx

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

That's what I always did but now sick of the abuse I get because I say no. Now I just delete

If I'm not interested

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I try to reply to all my messages, even if is just to say no thank you. I don't receive offensive or abusive messages, luckily. I do receive messages saying thank you for replying though and have found that guys appreciate a response. It isn't always possible to reply and on occasion some guys do want to know why but no means no so I don't engage in further messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women on here do treat men like shit.

They say jump and expect guys to say how high.

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

"I'm all out of popcorn.. "

And your name is shopkeeper?!?

DISGRACEFUL!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*checks full moon* Nope

*checks mercury retrograde* Ahah!

Hopefully all the wangst on the forums will settle down in a few days and we can move away from the 'all single men/single women/couples are...' soon.

Wangst lol

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Of course most of the women are going to try to treat single guys like shit both here and in the club because of the way things are set up, the ladies absolutely love this site because they get a lot of messages and sometimes they will try to insult you but I don't let them bring any of that to my doorstep, I always make it clear am not one of those guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wondering if the guys that are moaning about deleted messages would rather a response like,I don't fancy you,or o prefer a more athletic build,or your cock is too small??

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

My question to all the single guys is why are you even bothered about people you can't see , why do you care if they reply or not , guys you place more value on pussy than yourselves, thats why they are treating you like shit.

Why don't you try to control her mind and you will have everything that comes with her, have you ever seen a woman that went out and left her pussy at home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to reply to all my messages, even if is just to say no thank you. I don't receive offensive or abusive messages, luckily. I do receive messages saying thank you for replying though and have found that guys appreciate a response. It isn't always possible to reply and on occasion some guys do want to know why but no means no so I don't engage in further messages. "

That is our approach and reflects our experience. To suggest that most guys get offensive after a rejection is just not true, almost all are very appreciative of a courteous response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is our approach and reflects our experience. To suggest that most guys get offensive after a rejection is just not true, almost all are very appreciative of a courteous response. "

I've said no thank you to hundreds of men and only received one mildly rude message, from that. Most say thank you for the polite reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

Burn your pants in protest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

I think the reason you are finding women and couples to be so rude here is maybe due to the fact that you are having the most contact with women and couples. Where in actual fact some people are just rude regardless of gender.

I block single men just because of sheer amount of messages I was receiving from them. I will delete messages without reply if I'm not interested. I don't consider it rude, and anyone who does maybe needs to adjust their understanding of what rude really is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

If we've received a nice well written message then we consider it rude not to respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

Nobody has ever been rude to me on here and I've got no complaints about how I'm treated? People ignore my messages if there not very interesting, I've no problem with that it's there choice and not a personal thing after all they don't know me. Fab is a brilliant site and I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To add a little balance to the view that people are rude to single guys... We have received many rude and extremely crass messages from SINGLE GUYS, who seem to assume that any woman on a site like this is there for the taking by all and sundry, and doesn't actually have preferences or a right to choices.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol so I post something to discuss how the way single men treayted in here by women or couples or even men

And that turned into my problem

im trolling

I need to think about myself before I messaged others

I need to write profile to get replies

I need to bend over for every woman to get a reply

Are you serious guys this is my point some people in here just brainless

I'm not talking about myself in here I'm talking on behalf of most men who just get shut down because most women and couple over here can't bother to think each person to himself I want to be judged as a person for my action not a man on fabswingers

Not that I have been rejected and I'm angry and posting here

Some people need to think do I know the person do I know why is he posting this,????

before they say rude things like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from what i've seen and heard message wise im surprised i completely understand why single men get a bad rep.

some of the messages my friends receive are fucking retarded, disgusting and 50 shades of fucked up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And if they don't reply then I'll be happy to my thread wasn't about them not replying it was about the ones who get cocky about it and become rude just because they have another choice!

So please unless you read the whole thing I don't want stupid replies that could mislead the people and give them the wrong idea about me and my point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are rude. Others aren't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't we all just get along without slagging the opposite sex off?

Let's grind beans not axes

Wouldn't it be better if everyone just chilled their beans instead of constantly starting threads slating the opposite sex off?

Again read the what I wrote before writing down its not about women, it's about how men treated in here so out of my post please

Just avoid those people and move on. There are plenty of people on Fab who aren't like that. You've just got to find them. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then? "

It's funny how you think you know me and you know what I've done!

Hahahaha good luck mate that's all what I can say to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then?

It's funny how you think you know me and you know what I've done!

Hahahaha good luck mate that's all what I can say to you "

How do I think I know you? You only answered one question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And if they don't reply then I'll be happy to my thread wasn't about them not replying it was about the ones who get cocky about it and become rude just because they have another choice!

So please unless you read the whole thing I don't want stupid replies that could mislead the people and give them the wrong idea about me and my point! "

If people are sending you abusive messages you need to report, block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then?

It's funny how you think you know me and you know what I've done!

Hahahaha good luck mate that's all what I can say to you

How do I think I know you? You only answered one question.

. "

What do you mean haven't I learnt nothing in them four years?

And how's that related to my post?

Go on tell me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not talking about myself in here I'm talking on behalf of most men who just get shut down because most women and couple over here can't bother to think each person to himself I want to be judged as a person for my action not a man on fabswingers

I know a few women and couples on here and "most" men send inane and or crude messages which aren't asked for.

One female friend told me that she asks for pictures with messages and no cock shots-guess what happens??

90% don't send a picture at all and the remaining 10% mostly send cock shots.

Yes there are couples and females that shit all over single men and treat them badly,but we,as a collective,don't help ourselves in any way,shape,or form!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And if they don't reply then I'll be happy to my thread wasn't about them not replying it was about the ones who get cocky about it and become rude just because they have another choice!

So please unless you read the whole thing I don't want stupid replies that could mislead the people and give them the wrong idea about me and my point!

If people are sending you abusive messages you need to report, block and move on.

I'm on it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know a few women and couples on here and "most" men send inane and or crude messages which aren't asked for.

One female friend told me that she asks for pictures with messages and no cock shots-guess what happens??

90% don't send a picture at all and the remaining 10% mostly send cock shots.

Yes there are couples and females that shit all over single men and treat them badly,but we,as a collective,don't help ourselves in any way,shape,or form!

Of course I can't denny that there's some a-holes on there same as couples and single females but believe it or not mate

I have my photo in a suit not naked and I didn't even upload my cock photo because I'm respectful to myself and women and couples and I know there's plenty like me as well

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By *heffmMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Have you considered karma might be doing you a favour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then?

It's funny how you think you know me and you know what I've done!

Hahahaha good luck mate that's all what I can say to you

How do I think I know you? You only answered one question.

What do you mean haven't I learnt nothing in them four years?

And how's that related to my post?

Go on tell me? "

I openly invite you to read my profile. There's a line about something similar to what you posted in your first post.

I just don't see how you following on from other posts in the last 24 hrs is helping lead the mood in a positive way.

Your defensive, which to me means your pissed at something.

And whenever I see a picture less profile moaning about something I'm surprised when they say they've been here for more than a couple of weeks.

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By *exmadscotMan
over a year ago

alloa

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

your profile is shit mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then?

It's funny how you think you know me and you know what I've done!

Hahahaha good luck mate that's all what I can say to you

How do I think I know you? You only answered one question.

What do you mean haven't I learnt nothing in them four years?

And how's that related to my post?

Go on tell me?

I openly invite you to read my profile. There's a line about something similar to what you posted in your first post.

I just don't see how you following on from other posts in the last 24 hrs is helping lead the mood in a positive way.

Your defensive, which to me means your pissed at something.

And whenever I see a picture less profile moaning about something I'm surprised when they say they've been here for more than a couple of weeks. "

That's your opinion do I have to follow it or be like what you said?

And don't use the word moaning with me!

It's an open discussion and I'm defensive because you obviously have no clue whats my point and just trying to stick your nose

I don't like people who assume they know what I did based on how they read the situation I'm not like you are the people you know so unless you can discuss matters in general and leave the individuality I'm sorry I'll have to ask you to leave my post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then?

It's funny how you think you know me and you know what I've done!

Hahahaha good luck mate that's all what I can say to you

How do I think I know you? You only answered one question.

What do you mean haven't I learnt nothing in them four years?

And how's that related to my post?

Go on tell me?

I openly invite you to read my profile. There's a line about something similar to what you posted in your first post.

I just don't see how you following on from other posts in the last 24 hrs is helping lead the mood in a positive way.

Your defensive, which to me means your pissed at something.

And whenever I see a picture less profile moaning about something I'm surprised when they say they've been here for more than a couple of weeks. "

Yes, where did four years come from? Profile says joined two weeks ago...

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Givensome of the responses you've made OP I honestly don't feel you're much better than most other profiles of a similar theme to your own, so is it any wonder some women just group profiles like yours as being "all the same" and therefore the negative attitude towards men remain?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then?

It's funny how you think you know me and you know what I've done!

Hahahaha good luck mate that's all what I can say to you

How do I think I know you? You only answered one question.

What do you mean haven't I learnt nothing in them four years?

And how's that related to my post?

Go on tell me?

I openly invite you to read my profile. There's a line about something similar to what you posted in your first post.

I just don't see how you following on from other posts in the last 24 hrs is helping lead the mood in a positive way.

Your defensive, which to me means your pissed at something.

And whenever I see a picture less profile moaning about something I'm surprised when they say they've been here for more than a couple of weeks.

Yes, where did four years come from? Profile says joined two weeks ago..."

It was in a post the op deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then?

It's funny how you think you know me and you know what I've done!

Hahahaha good luck mate that's all what I can say to you

How do I think I know you? You only answered one question.

What do you mean haven't I learnt nothing in them four years?

And how's that related to my post?

Go on tell me?

I openly invite you to read my profile. There's a line about something similar to what you posted in your first post.

I just don't see how you following on from other posts in the last 24 hrs is helping lead the mood in a positive way.

Your defensive, which to me means your pissed at something.

And whenever I see a picture less profile moaning about something I'm surprised when they say they've been here for more than a couple of weeks.

That's your opinion do I have to follow it or be like what you said?

And don't use the word moaning with me!

It's an open discussion and I'm defensive because you obviously have no clue whats my point and just trying to stick your nose

Where are the bouncers? You heard... Get thee gone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then?

It's funny how you think you know me and you know what I've done!

Hahahaha good luck mate that's all what I can say to you

How do I think I know you? You only answered one question.

What do you mean haven't I learnt nothing in them four years?

And how's that related to my post?

Go on tell me?

I openly invite you to read my profile. There's a line about something similar to what you posted in your first post.

I just don't see how you following on from other posts in the last 24 hrs is helping lead the mood in a positive way.

Your defensive, which to me means your pissed at something.

And whenever I see a picture less profile moaning about something I'm surprised when they say they've been here for more than a couple of weeks.

That's your opinion do I have to follow it or be like what you said?

And don't use the word moaning with me!

It's an open discussion and I'm defensive because you obviously have no clue whats my point and just trying to stick your nose

. Fuck me backwards.

I respect your decision op. I'll leave gracefully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Four years???

Yes

And I deleted the message because there's more people deserve to have my reply first

Have you learnt nothing in four years then?

It's funny how you think you know me and you know what I've done!

Hahahaha good luck mate that's all what I can say to you

How do I think I know you? You only answered one question.

What do you mean haven't I learnt nothing in them four years?

And how's that related to my post?

Go on tell me?

I openly invite you to read my profile. There's a line about something similar to what you posted in your first post.

I just don't see how you following on from other posts in the last 24 hrs is helping lead the mood in a positive way.

Your defensive, which to me means your pissed at something.

And whenever I see a picture less profile moaning about something I'm surprised when they say they've been here for more than a couple of weeks.

Yes, where did four years come from? Profile says joined two weeks ago...

It was in a post the op deleted "

Ok, thanks for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, please would you repost your deleted one?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Man hugs available on another thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man hugs available on another thread

And a whole lotta love on another

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Man hugs available on another thread

And a whole lotta love on another

Smiles on another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man hugs available on another thread

And a whole lotta love on another

Smiles on another

And one with free hugs

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Boys smell throw rocks at them "

Ouch

Girlies stink and their knickers are pink

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Givensome of the responses you've made OP I honestly don't feel you're much better than most other profiles of a similar theme to your own, so is it any wonder some women just group profiles like yours as being "all the same" and therefore the negative attitude towards men remain?

Again the thread is not just about me only!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say I've rarely felt mistreated on here, I've had one slightly pushy person recently.. but that's about it.

It makes me wonder if the level of nasty nobheads is over stated? Not that any amount is acceptable, but still

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Again the thread is not just about me only! "

Never said that it was which is why I posted my question at the end which is in relation to the topic

Instead of posting a moan about it make a change if you and enough men do the same it can surely only help situation you're taking issue with

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Again the thread is not just about me only!

Never said that it was which is why I posted my question at the end which is in relation to the topic

Instead of posting a moan about it make a change if you and enough men do the same it can surely only help situation you're taking issue with "

It's a discussion not a moan in not having anyone rude to me now but you people who are answering with 0 knowledge about what I'm talking about!

The change starts from you being less shallow more read between the lines

Instead of calling a respectful man and telling him to moan while he's just having a discussion to see what the smart people of the website think you come along and insult good representation for yourself xx

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Man hugs available on another thread

And a whole lotta love on another

Smiles on another

And one with free hugs

And then there's the soothing voices to listen to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man hugs available on another thread

And a whole lotta love on another

Smiles on another

And one with free hugs

And then there's the soothing voices to listen to

And the winks.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

Biting back defensively doesn't show yourself in the best light either which is what I said you seem no better than others, you may as well told misterbee to just blatantly fuck off given the manner you spoke to him

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes "

Think of it as Trumpism... "If I don't like it, it's not true, it's fake news"

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Man hugs available on another thread

And a whole lotta love on another

Smiles on another

And one with free hugs

And then there's the soothing voices to listen to

And the winks.

Sexy arses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man hugs available on another thread

And a whole lotta love on another

Smiles on another

And one with free hugs

And then there's the soothing voices to listen to

And the winks.

Sexy arses

Teasing the men

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes "

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Think of it as Trumpism... "If I don't like it, it's not true, it's fake news""

So it's okay to be rude to someone you don't know but it's not okay to reply back and then trumpism???? Really?? Didn't you wonder why I deleted my reply to your post?

It wasn't worth replying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it "

Why ask people to leave if you don't agree with them? Is this a discussion, or a tirade?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many of these threads go exactly the same way.

Man complains at treatment because all men are treat badly, ends up conforming to the stereotype that makes women reluctant to respond, complains at said woman for pointing it out.

Cue the spiral of defensive responses to compound the issue

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

Why ask people to leave if you don't agree with them? Is this a discussion, or a tirade?"

It's not I don't agree with them it's about she don't know what she's talking about she just wanted to say something my point are completely different from what she said and she was offensive by saying "moan"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So many of these threads go exactly the same way.

Man complains at treatment because all men are treat badly, ends up conforming to the stereotype that makes women reluctant to respond, complains at said woman for pointing it out.

Cue the spiral of defensive responses to compound the issue"

Seems like you know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it "

This is a public forum and anyone can post within the rules. You do not dictate who can post just because you started the post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Again guys if you are thinking to write something on here to insult and then try to make me sound bad and like a stereotype please take your leave I'm here to discuss matter like that and see what smart people think

If you don't like it take your leave I'm not after any kind of arguments

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"most men on her complain about how are they treated

Most? Nah. I'd say most men understand what the site is, how it works, and that not having women fall at their feet for merely sending them a message is fine.

I think (or hope, anyway) it's a minority of men who throw their toys out of the pram when they don't get what they want from women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

This is a public forum and anyone can post within the rules. You do not dictate who can post just because you started the post."

I agree with you but she's insulting me and involving me in her way of thinking and I think that's reflecting bad on the way post going

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it "

If you truely wanted a discussion you wouldn't need to tell/ask people that disagree with you to leave.

Surely you'd take the view of "ok if that's your opinion but I disagree"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

If you truely wanted a discussion you wouldn't need to tell/ask people that disagree with you to leave.

Surely you'd take the view of "ok if that's your opinion but I disagree"

There's a difference between disagree and disrespect

You are a mature woman you don't need me to teach you that

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

This is a public forum and anyone can post within the rules. You do not dictate who can post just because you started the post.

I agree with you but she's insulting me and involving me in her way of thinking and I think that's reflecting bad on the way post going "

It wasn't intent as a insult you've chosen to take it that way

I was trying to make a point that's gone completely over your head because you've choose to take it too personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Again guys if you are thinking to write something on here to insult and then try to make me sound bad and like a stereotype please take your leave I'm here to discuss matter like that and see what smart people think

If you don't like it take your leave I'm not after any kind of arguments"

So let people discuss the OP like adults. Nobody has to "take their leave' if that is the case.

Forums are for discussion which means people have different points of view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should just make this site like tinder swipe if you like and can't message unless it's a match !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Think of it as Trumpism... "If I don't like it, it's not true, it's fake news"

So it's okay to be rude to someone you don't know but it's not okay to reply back and then trumpism???? Really?? Didn't you wonder why I deleted my reply to your post?

It wasn't worth replying! "

Did you reply to my post? (Even if you then deleted it). I must apologise, I didn't notice. I did, however, ask you to repost one of your earlier posts in the thread, because subsequent responses indicated that it may have contained relevant information.

OP, you dig yourself deeper and deeper. I'm sorry if you feel that the site treats you badly, but there is plenty of evidence on this thread to suggest that not all single men suffer from the rudeness of other site users.

Oh, and no need to banish me, I'm walking out by my own choice.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

If you truely wanted a discussion you wouldn't need to tell/ask people that disagree with you to leave.

Surely you'd take the view of "ok if that's your opinion but I disagree"

There's a difference between disagree and disrespect

You are a mature woman you don't need me to teach you that "

Works both ways

You haven't treated anyone that's dared to disafeee with you with any kind of respect regardless of how they've worded that disagreement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't like it take your leave I'm not after any kind of arguments"

unfortunately, your comments make you sound exactly like a stereotype...also it is far from true that all single men complain about the way they treated. Sweeping generalisations like that are also very stereotypical from moaning single men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Think of it as Trumpism... "If I don't like it, it's not true, it's fake news"

So it's okay to be rude to someone you don't know but it's not okay to reply back and then trumpism???? Really?? Didn't you wonder why I deleted my reply to your post?

It wasn't worth replying!

Oh, and no need to banish me, I'm walking out by my own choice."

bye bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally all forums have a share of arrogant tossers. They are usually small in number but large in activity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't like it take your leave I'm not after any kind of arguments"

The problem is that you're acting in a way that is stereotypical of the negative aspects of men on fab.

Arguably, in this instance, the 'smart' people whom are worth listening to are those who have been around for more than a couple of weeks and are aware of the dynamics of the place.

It sounds a bit like you feel that the only people worthy of the 'smart' moniker are those who agree with you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

If you truely wanted a discussion you wouldn't need to tell/ask people that disagree with you to leave.

Surely you'd take the view of "ok if that's your opinion but I disagree"

There's a difference between disagree and disrespect

You are a mature woman you don't need me to teach you that

Works both ways

You haven't treated anyone that's dared to disafeee with you with any kind of respect regardless of how they've worded that disagreement "

Calling a discussion a moan is a disrespect

And I asked you and another guy because you lack manners to strangers call me whatever but you won't disrespect me and then expect me to listen to you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

OP as I said in my earlier post I've yet to receive an rude or abusive message from any female or couples profile on the site in over a year of being here, and I interact with plenty of people.

I'm not saying it doesn't happen at all, and am sure a lot of the time when it does it's with good reason (e.g. responding to receiving disrespectful messages themselves), either way I think your original statement is a gross generalisation and your subsequent attempts to justify it have been without clear reason or examples to back them up and have been extremely negative, defensive and yes rude.

This is a public forum open to anyone to express their opinion, asking them to leave because they happen to disagree with that opinion is arrogant and an example of the rudeness I referred to above.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you don't like it take your leave I'm not after any kind of arguments

The problem is that you're acting in a way that is stereotypical of the negative aspects of men on fab.

Arguably, in this instance, the 'smart' people whom are worth listening to are those who have been around for more than a couple of weeks and are aware of the dynamics of the place.

It sounds a bit like you feel that the only people worthy of the 'smart' moniker are those who agree with you? "

Well I thought you are one of the smart ones and I like your comment did I insult you or say anything bad to you

You can definitely disagree with me and I'll be happy to listen but you can't insult me and ruin my reputation base on a guess and then expect me to just to show them respect

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

If you truely wanted a discussion you wouldn't need to tell/ask people that disagree with you to leave.

Surely you'd take the view of "ok if that's your opinion but I disagree"

There's a difference between disagree and disrespect

You are a mature woman you don't need me to teach you that

Works both ways

You haven't treated anyone that's dared to disafeee with you with any kind of respect regardless of how they've worded that disagreement

Calling a discussion a moan is a disrespect

And I asked you and another guy because you lack manners to strangers call me whatever but you won't disrespect me and then expect me to listen to you "

I believe the words I used were "I honestly don't feel ......." in the post you're referring to that wasn't me stating you were actually having a moan, just that that's how it reads to me

So jump off the high horse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I asked someone to leave because they disrespected me not because they disagree with me please read before. Posting guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I know there is a big amount of guys here and most of them would do anything for sex but not all of us are animals

Insulting a man and saying it's easier to get a pizza delivery is harder then getting a man now days is just sexist and women on here using that to be mean to men

If they don't like you they try to insult you

I'm not here to be used as a dildo or a magic wand I'm a human with an intellect, manners, style and life

I don't understand why women and couples are being rude to most men and most men on her complain about how are they treated

I've just had an insult thrown at me by yet another man!! Sadly theres a large % of men on here that think it's ok to be rude to single females like myself! I was polite and even considering meeting him at some point....... obviously I'm not now but I totally get why some women get a bit defensive which may come across as rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There were about 8 post like this yesterday. So we thought people are moaning about not getting answers to mail and no meets bla bla bla. So we took the message block of guys. Clear put on our profile that we are not looking for single guys at the moment. So far we've had 86 messages the first 10 we answered with a no thanks we not looking for single guys at the moment we had 6 rude replies the rest we've just delete. So a few points you message back you get abuse even when your profile states your not looking for guys. 86 guys clearly didn't read or didn't take notice of our profile so why should we message people back who we never want message from anyway. Men are always going to feel hard done to because there so many of you on here. Like 86 messaging us is probably not even 1% of guys on here but it still high amount of guys that can't, won't read and respect a profile and that's just in 24 hrs

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"OP as I said in my earlier post I've yet to receive an rude or abusive message from any female or couples profile on the site in over a year of being here, and I interact with plenty of people.

This is a public forum open to anyone to express their opinion, asking them to leave because they happen to disagree with that opinion is arrogant and an example of the rudeness I referred to above."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

If you truely wanted a discussion you wouldn't need to tell/ask people that disagree with you to leave.

Surely you'd take the view of "ok if that's your opinion but I disagree"

There's a difference between disagree and disrespect

You are a mature woman you don't need me to teach you that

Works both ways

You haven't treated anyone that's dared to disafeee with you with any kind of respect regardless of how they've worded that disagreement

Calling a discussion a moan is a disrespect

And I asked you and another guy because you lack manners to strangers call me whatever but you won't disrespect me and then expect me to listen to you "

Your OP is a moan. It is not asking a question. It is not asking for a debate. It is a moan. If it was Thursday it would be upgraded to a rant. But it's Wed so be grateful that it's only a moan.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

If you truely wanted a discussion you wouldn't need to tell/ask people that disagree with you to leave.

Surely you'd take the view of "ok if that's your opinion but I disagree"

There's a difference between disagree and disrespect

You are a mature woman you don't need me to teach you that

Works both ways

You haven't treated anyone that's dared to disafeee with you with any kind of respect regardless of how they've worded that disagreement

Calling a discussion a moan is a disrespect

And I asked you and another guy because you lack manners to strangers call me whatever but you won't disrespect me and then expect me to listen to you

I believe the words I used were "I honestly don't feel ......." in the post you're referring to that wasn't me stating you were actually having a moan, just that that's how it reads to me

So jump off the high horse

I believe you referred to me and said moaning

What are you after now getting more people to argue with me or turning people against what's your point I don't understand

What you trying to prove I'm the stereotype?

Stop moaning about me asking you to leave and leave me alone can you please?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I asked someone to leave because they disrespected me not because they disagree with me please read before. Posting guys! "

I didnt out right say you were moaning just that's what it sounded like to me there's a difference!

It was an opinion not an insult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I asked someone to leave because they disrespected me not because they disagree with me please read before. Posting guys! "

You earn respect, coming on here having a moan will not get you any respect at all so don't expect it when you demand it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a fuck anyone?

Let's moan for the right reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fancy a fuck anyone?

Let's moan for the right reason

Pfft,if I must!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but I can only express my opinion it's sounds like moan

If you don't want to hear negative opinions to the topics you post them perhaps it's advisable not to post them at all

You had a chance to make a positive change and you took the negative Road speaks volumes

Nah I posted to talk to people and I'm still not taking what you said so leave my post

You said your opinion in your eyes I moan in my eyes you are embarrassing Yourself

So please just leave it if you don't like it

If you truely wanted a discussion you wouldn't need to tell/ask people that disagree with you to leave.

Surely you'd take the view of "ok if that's your opinion but I disagree"

There's a difference between disagree and disrespect

You are a mature woman you don't need me to teach you that

Works both ways

You haven't treated anyone that's dared to disafeee with you with any kind of respect regardless of how they've worded that disagreement

Calling a discussion a moan is a disrespect

And I asked you and another guy because you lack manners to strangers call me whatever but you won't disrespect me and then expect me to listen to you

Your OP is a moan. It is not asking a question. It is not asking for a debate. It is a moan. If it was Thursday it would be upgraded to a rant. But it's Wed so be grateful that it's only a moan.

No I'm sorry I don't want to accept something like that from a stranger it's not a moan if it sounded like a moan to you that's your way of taking it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of responses in here are bore out of frustration to be honest, this is the third thread I've seen just today with effectively the same question. I imagine it would become a bit tiresome.

I'm in no way trying to insult anyone by the way, it's rarely my style.

Talking about the dynamic though, this is a place where roles are somewhat reversed with men being expected to jump through the hoops for attention, quite in contrast to real life.

I went to a social at the weekend and did, at times, feel a little like a piece of meat... I mean, I'm ok with that if I'm honest haha but when it comes to setting out your stall here, it's a big factor and can be difficult for new people to get their heads around.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

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It was definitely a moan, sorry OP. There's nothing constructive in it. No questions, nothing to discuss. Just you saying what you don't like, which I'm afraid is moaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For all those who get 100s of messages daily...There are little filters that fab have put in for your benefit. It's actually not hard to reduce the dross. It can be a nice feeling to constantly have a full inbox...but i hear so much moaning about inappropriate messages and most not reading profiles etc etc etc... well why not seek out those you're interested in yourself. I'll always reply, but may not be what you want to hear ...

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