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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is happiness and contentment the same and do we think money plays a paramount role in us being happy ...what makes you happy ...discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, money provides more comfort - like the most simple things, like I'm laid on a massive fluffy pink throw which I bought this morning, I have a good book to read, something nice for tea - which promotes happiness.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

For me it has been going through some seriously tough stuff. Now I'm happy to have got through it, and u find myself more thankful and appreciative of the smaller things that we sometimes take for granted. I think I'm a decent human, I try to be the best me I can, and I can honestly say I'm happier now than I have been for years. Oh.... and I have about 8p to my name!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This question has no correct answer.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

If you are worrying about the basics, then it's harder.

Money can get you to the point where the external factors are lessened.

It's then down to you.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Happiness is totally a state of mind and can only truly come from within.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is contentment the same as happiness or can it lead to it ...

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By *uteness69Woman
over a year ago

Walthamstow

"Is happiness and contentment the same and do we think money plays a paramount role in us being happy ...what makes you happy ...discuss "

Happiness is down to simplicity in my opinion.

Keep life simple.

Look at it as ingredients for the perfect pie.

Why add more flour than the recipe dictates?

Same goes for life.

Family.

Friendship.

Love.

Or in the order you prefer but keep it simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happiness and money are not linked. Sure you can buy material things for short term enjoyment but true happiness is about feeling completely content.

The happiest I've ever been was living in a campervan with hardly any belongings nothing to do, no responsibilities, just driving and enjoying each others' company.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Happiness and money are not linked. Sure you can buy material things for short term enjoyment but true happiness is about feeling completely content.

The happiest I've ever been was living in a campervan with hardly any belongings nothing to do, no responsibilities, just driving and enjoying each others' company. "

But that happiness then mostly came from having no pressure.

If you have a family or other responsibilities then money can relieve that pressure.

Leaving you in that un-pressured state where you can achieve happiness.

No money isn't necessary, but in most people's lives it puts happiness closer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So if money can't buy you happiness why are we all in this rat race!!!...where is the evidence

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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"So if money can't buy you happiness why are we all in this rat race!!!...where is the evidence "

Some of us have stepped out of it and have never been happier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happiness and money are not linked. Sure you can buy material things for short term enjoyment but true happiness is about feeling completely content.

The happiest I've ever been was living in a campervan with hardly any belongings nothing to do, no responsibilities, just driving and enjoying each others' company.

But that happiness then mostly came from having no pressure.

If you have a family or other responsibilities then money can relieve that pressure.

Leaving you in that un-pressured state where you can achieve happiness.

No money isn't necessary, but in most people's lives it puts happiness closer."

Yeah money facilitates happiness because it allows you to relax and enjoy the things that matter but money can't buy those feelings. Its not what you have materially that matters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So if money can't buy you happiness why are we all in this rat race!!!...where is the evidence

Some of us have stepped out of it and have never been happier.

Glad to hear that ..any regets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather happy than rich. Money isn't the best all and end all to this life....you can't take it with you so what's to fret about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather happy than rich. Money isn't the best all and end all to this life....you can't take it with you so what's to fret about.

*be all

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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"So if money can't buy you happiness why are we all in this rat race!!!...where is the evidence

Some of us have stepped out of it and have never been happier.

Glad to hear that ..any regets "

None at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a little bit of money is ok, but you don't need much.

i only work a few months a year these days i a job i love, it pays me enough to live on. i don't have anything fancy, no fancy car, never go on holidays abroad, i don't own much stuff really, stuff is just..stuff, televisions and gadgets and whatnot don't interest me.

there's no way in this world i'd go off and work more in exchange for what? a bigger car?...bigger house?..bigger bank balance? it won't make me happier. so to parrot a few of the other posters on here, a little bit of money to be warm fed and housed is all you need...the rest is just show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happiest when I have money in the bank, Food on the table, loved ones close & been shagged to an inch of my life

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

Money and happiness are not connected, most of those on lower incomes live much happier lives than those who are loaded.

I would much rather work hard, get a sense of achievement when i do something and be happy from that as to just flashing the cash with zero effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a cliche,

money in itself, does not make you happy.

It reduces pressure, for sure, but if anyone thinks, it's a magic ingredient, for life happiness, you're mistaken.

Happiness, is within. Same as optimism, and hope. Neither, of those two, are dependent, on financial situation.

You are a product of your own creation.

Howsoever, your life turns out,

it's exclusively down to you, what you make of it, how you deal with, or _iew it.

Contentment, is a state of mind,

of which you're exclusively, in control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I married into a very wealthy family, my childhood sweetheart. I had everything,a 500SEL merc, a wardrobe full of designer everything, cruised around the world and lived a luxurious life. Then hubby became a monster with alcohol. I walked away. I can honestly say, having had money, yes it made me happy. For most of the marriage, I loved my life and was very content.

If I now had no money and was struggling, I would be very unhappy. So I guess my answer is, having money makes me happy

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Our body sensations and how we interpret our perception of them is impossible, if trying to squash the trillions of subtle differences into the few labels we have for our emotions - happy or content being a couple of them.

Paying attention to how we are feeling can also be like chasing butterflies, as the elusive spirits move.

I've forgotten already what the threw was, apart from upon these emotional states.

I gain contentment from accepting how I am and feel - not in any race to be different. And I dislike seeking stuff on the outside to change how I am within.

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By *assparillaCouple
over a year ago

Alcester

According to Mo Gawdat, Happiness is our 'default' state of mind, and we 'learn' to be unhappy...

I don't wish to do him the disservice of paraphrasing the whole book into a few lines of text; but in essence, unhappiness resides in our past (regret) and in our future (uncertainty) and generally speaking, the NOW contains happiness.

I don't think he was taking into account if you are being tortured, or just recieved bad news; its more of a generalisation.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Happiness is a state of mind of knowing yourself which a lot of people don't. Finding what brings you joy living according to your truest believe. Money does play a vital role in happiness and the need to know you are making comfortable living which in turn should build a more lovable character.

Happiness doesn't land on anyone's lap your have to work at it same as relationship because there are things everyday trying to take your moment of happiness away. One bad customer service in the morning, school kids, crazy drive and so on could spoilt your day. And chances are you will reflect your spoilt day onto others

Happiness is sort of like a community if you feel love by a group of people you will give back to others: reason why richness doesn't mean happiness because people around you could be yes men

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

In the 1970s Garry walked out on a multi-million pound career and spent the next two or three months dosing on the beach at Scarborough.

He had only the clothes he stood in, no job, no money, yet to this day he says it was the happiest summer of his life.

Money doesn’t bring happiness.

Contentment is being at peace with your situation, happiness is the satisfaction you get from the contentment with life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If happiness is a state of mind,why do they give you morphine in the hospital!.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does morphine make one happy??

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I influence my happiness and cut out negative people.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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depressed people are realists. happy people are not living in reality. according to psychology.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly i dont know.. ive had plenty of money at times and it bought stuff thats it.. i cant honestly remember in all my adult life being happy or content

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you could argue that the act of buying stuff brings happiness, albeit briefly. i'm sure studies have been done that show that some purchases can cause the release of endorphins so if you had enough money you could keep yourself 'happy' for a while. doesn't seem like a model of happiness with any real longevity though. i reckon you'd end up still having a lonely cry wank amongst your faberge'eggs and high end champagne.

you can be happy with or without much to your name, you can be miserable with or without much to your name i reckon cos i've been all of the above

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