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Can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Asking on behalf of a friend (believe me or not lol)

But as the title suggests can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

Basically if the partner you have doesn't equal your sexual enthusiasm as it was can you still stay with them an remain loyal, like repress your desires to appease them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine failed lol

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I guess depends on whether you are still in love with your partner or not.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I couldn't I left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't handle the relationship, forget about marrying him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I sort of understand his concerns I've had relationships were I have created videos together posted them online and made live web cam shows with her and her friends, then I've had other relationships were it's strictly exclusive however I couldn't marry either of them, well maybe the most exciting of the two

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I couldn't handle the relationship, forget about marrying him "

And I was just about to get on 1 knee too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I couldn't handle the relationship, forget about marrying him

And I was just about to get on 1 knee too "

Now wouldn't that be lovely ... I am waiting

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Asking on behalf of a friend (believe me or not lol)

But as the title suggests can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

Basically if the partner you have doesn't equal your sexual enthusiasm as it was can you still stay with them an remain loyal, like repress your desires to appease them?

"

Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I divorced him.. honestly if I want to live with a best friend i can do.. if i want a true relationship then it has to be everything, friend, lover, soul mate!

For me I can have a great loving relationship with friends, the one I have a sexual relationship and be IN love with is a real partner and thats what I am holding out for these days!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I couldn't handle the relationship, forget about marrying him

And I was just about to get on 1 knee too

Now wouldn't that be lovely ... I am waiting "

I do believe your teasing poor blade

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"

But as the title suggests can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

Basically if the partner you have doesn't equal your sexual enthusiasm as it was can you still stay with them an remain loyal, like repress your desires to appease them?

"

Interesting views.

But what will happen if someone whom you love fall sick and unable to fulfil your sexual needs?

Both male and female might lose their libido as age progresses.

If I love (mutually) someone, I will stay with him/her as long as I can - my sexual needs is secondary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ive been married 13 years we havent had sex for 3.5 years we get on hes a great person we have children.

This works for us at the moment

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"

But as the title suggests can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

Basically if the partner you have doesn't equal your sexual enthusiasm as it was can you still stay with them an remain loyal, like repress your desires to appease them?

Interesting views.

But what will happen if someone whom you love fall sick and unable to fulfil your sexual needs?

Both male and female might lose their libido as age progresses.

If I love (mutually) someone, I will stay with him/her as long as I can - my sexual needs is secondary."

This for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake..."

Wow this has hit home with a recent situation of mine. Absolutely amazing sex, best so far. No cake, don't think there ever will be Very sad realisation but maybe the kick up the bum I need to move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you can, though not sure it's completely a healthy relationship. I was married for 22 years and sex was something I avoided for most of that. I thought we were happy but he was manipulating me daily. So I'm not the best example. But I do know of couples who it works for them. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was married to a man who introduced me to so many things sexually, our sex life was so intense I don't know how we didn't break our bodies! Then he got ill and we went from having sex at least once a day to never and while it was hard to adjust I didn't make me love him or want to be with him any less. If you. Are 100% in love then you can make sacrifices when you need to.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


" Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake...

Wow this has hit home with a recent situation of mine. Absolutely amazing sex, best so far. No cake, don't think there ever will be Very sad realisation but maybe the kick up the bum I need to move on."

Spot on here too. 3 years of amazing cherries but no cake. I did move on and it is very very sad

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps we are never sexually satisfied with one partner, hence the use of fab...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I'm sure it's possible to remain in a marriage without a mutually satisfactory sex life .

Whether it's an ideal way to live or not is a different matter though .

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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" Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake...

Wow this has hit home with a recent situation of mine. Absolutely amazing sex, best so far. No cake, don't think there ever will be Very sad realisation but maybe the kick up the bum I need to move on.

Spot on here too. 3 years of amazing cherries but no cake. I did move on and it is very very sad

V x "

I want the cake and the cherry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake...

Wow this has hit home with a recent situation of mine. Absolutely amazing sex, best so far. No cake, don't think there ever will be Very sad realisation but maybe the kick up the bum I need to move on.

Spot on here too. 3 years of amazing cherries but no cake. I did move on and it is very very sad

V x

I want the cake and the cherry. "

Id like the icing too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake...

Wow this has hit home with a recent situation of mine. Absolutely amazing sex, best so far. No cake, don't think there ever will be Very sad realisation but maybe the kick up the bum I need to move on.

Spot on here too. 3 years of amazing cherries but no cake. I did move on and it is very very sad

V x

I want the cake and the cherry. "

Yep, I think most of us do eventually!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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" Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake...

Wow this has hit home with a recent situation of mine. Absolutely amazing sex, best so far. No cake, don't think there ever will be Very sad realisation but maybe the kick up the bum I need to move on.

Spot on here too. 3 years of amazing cherries but no cake. I did move on and it is very very sad

V x

I want the cake and the cherry.

Yep, I think most of us do eventually! "

Cherry will do for now though

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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" Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake...

Wow this has hit home with a recent situation of mine. Absolutely amazing sex, best so far. No cake, don't think there ever will be Very sad realisation but maybe the kick up the bum I need to move on.

Spot on here too. 3 years of amazing cherries but no cake. I did move on and it is very very sad

V x

I want the cake and the cherry.

Id like the icing too "

And the sprinkles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. No. Maybe.

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

I did for a long time, but there's only so many time you can be rejected before you realise it's time to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there, done that. Married for 18 years, the sex was occasional for most of that, but good when it happened. Unfortunately it's now less than once a year. Strangely enough you do get used to it and when it is on offer, you find your not even that keen after a twelve month spell of celibacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course you can if you love them.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I suppose it depends on the circumstances.

There is nothing worse than not being wanted by someone you had hoped to spend your life with.

Eventually you'll go looking for attention elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Asking on behalf of a friend (believe me or not lol)

But as the title suggests can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

Basically if the partner you have doesn't equal your sexual enthusiasm as it was can you still stay with them an remain loyal, like repress your desires to appease them?

"

Yes, sex is not the reason I stay in my relationship it's just a huge bonus that it's awesome. If sex was taken out of the equation it wouldn't make me look elsewhere. If affection was lost then that's a different matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes, sex is not the reason I stay in my relationship it's just a huge bonus that it's awesome. If sex was taken out of the equation it wouldn't make me look elsewhere. If affection was lost then that's a different matter."

Exactly this

Sex is a physical thing, intimacy is a whole lot more than just that.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Yes, sex is not the reason I stay in my relationship it's just a huge bonus that it's awesome. If sex was taken out of the equation it wouldn't make me look elsewhere. If affection was lost then that's a different matter.

Exactly this

Sex is a physical thing, intimacy is a whole lot more than just that. "

Someone not wanting to kiss or hold you sucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes, sex is not the reason I stay in my relationship it's just a huge bonus that it's awesome. If sex was taken out of the equation it wouldn't make me look elsewhere. If affection was lost then that's a different matter.

Exactly this

Sex is a physical thing, intimacy is a whole lot more than just that.

Someone not wanting to kiss or hold you sucks "

I'll kiss and hold you. My hands might get busy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me but for some people. I was desperate for the physical side and even offered to pay a call girl to show my husband a good time and suggested a threesome and camming with other couples. I bought sexy outfits etc but sex was once a month and I used to get very upset that there was barely any intimacy. Feeling unloved is a horrible feeling so I cheated. We've been separated over 4 years now and I'm far happier these days

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good."

I feel like I deserve someone who wants me in every possible way, someone who takes my breath away every time, who turns me on, wants me as much as I want them, makes me laugh, laughs at me.

Who will know when I need a hug.

Someone who wants to spend time with me, will tell me no when I'm being petulant.

Not too much to ask is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a difficult question. I've never loved someone enough to want to be married to them. I suppose if I did love someone enough, as long as some form of intimacy was still present (holding, kissing, sweet words) and I still felt loved, then I could.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"That's a difficult question. I've never loved someone enough to want to be married to them. I suppose if I did love someone enough, as long as some form of intimacy was still present (holding, kissing, sweet words) and I still felt loved, then I could. "

I don't think I shall ever be married

I would be a cat woman if I wasn't allergic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a difficult question. I've never loved someone enough to want to be married to them. I suppose if I did love someone enough, as long as some form of intimacy was still present (holding, kissing, sweet words) and I still felt loved, then I could. "

I did love someone enough to be married to them but then I grew apart from him, divorced now and never to be married again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a difficult question. I've never loved someone enough to want to be married to them. I suppose if I did love someone enough, as long as some form of intimacy was still present (holding, kissing, sweet words) and I still felt loved, then I could.

I don't think I shall ever be married

I would be a cat woman if I wasn't allergic."

I'm the same. Couldn't imagine ever being married

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By *ouble_CreamCouple
over a year ago

cheltenham

There's a great TED talk about this ..retaining intimacy.. where she says the whole problem is that we now look to one person for everything that we used to get from a whole village. Society has changed, we no longer live in tribes and villages the same way. We expect a partner to be lover, friend, confident, entertainment, intellectual stimulant, provider, supporter...the list goes on. Maybe it's that which isn't realistic. Maybe we need more of the 'cake' in friends and family outside of an inward looking relationship. Or the cherry i guess...whatever works for that relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd def say no mine ended

We all can't live like Monks & Nuns

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"That's a difficult question. I've never loved someone enough to want to be married to them. I suppose if I did love someone enough, as long as some form of intimacy was still present (holding, kissing, sweet words) and I still felt loved, then I could.

I did love someone enough to be married to them but then I grew apart from him, divorced now and never to be married again "

Shall we get married?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think so, but people marry for all sorts of different reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Asking on behalf of a friend (believe me or not lol)

But as the title suggests can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

Basically if the partner you have doesn't equal your sexual enthusiasm as it was can you still stay with them an remain loyal, like repress your desires to appease them?

"

Depends on the circumstances.

If i loved them deeply, passionately, but they were ill, they couldn't give me physical intimacy, but were still affectionate and loving, then yes i'd suck it up.

If they were just a cold hearted bastard that couldn't or wouldn't fuck me or love me in the way i want to be loved, then no, i'd get the fuck out of dodge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think so, but people marry for all sorts of different reasons "

And remain in them for all sorts of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a difficult question. I've never loved someone enough to want to be married to them. I suppose if I did love someone enough, as long as some form of intimacy was still present (holding, kissing, sweet words) and I still felt loved, then I could.

I did love someone enough to be married to them but then I grew apart from him, divorced now and never to be married again

Shall we get married? "

Yes go on then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a difficult question. I've never loved someone enough to want to be married to them. I suppose if I did love someone enough, as long as some form of intimacy was still present (holding, kissing, sweet words) and I still felt loved, then I could.

I did love someone enough to be married to them but then I grew apart from him, divorced now and never to be married again "

Hello gorgeous. Didn't recognise you with the single profile. A sad day for the male population, that you will never marry again

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Asking on behalf of a friend (believe me or not lol)

But as the title suggests can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

Basically if the partner you have doesn't equal your sexual enthusiasm as it was can you still stay with them an remain loyal, like repress your desires to appease them?

"

Yes of course you can, but some people will use any excuse they can think of to explain there decision to end a marriage. More often than not this is due to their guilt at ending something they are bored with and can’t be bothered working on.

Many people jump into marriage without knowing the person they are marrying, sometimes this is because they are blind to the others faults at other times it is because they have been deceived by the OP. Other people are in love with marriage until the reality of marriage hits home and they wake up.

There are many successful marriages where the spouses are sexually incompatible; there are many successful marriages where the spouses are not in love.

A successful marriage takes a lot of work, whether that work is happily accomplished or whether it is a toil depends on the people concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a difficult question. I've never loved someone enough to want to be married to them. I suppose if I did love someone enough, as long as some form of intimacy was still present (holding, kissing, sweet words) and I still felt loved, then I could.

I did love someone enough to be married to them but then I grew apart from him, divorced now and never to be married again

Hello gorgeous. Didn't recognise you with the single profile. A sad day for the male population, that you will never marry again "

I know how are you? I did try to message you but couldn't

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


" Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake...

Wow this has hit home with a recent situation of mine. Absolutely amazing sex, best so far. No cake, don't think there ever will be Very sad realisation but maybe the kick up the bum I need to move on.

Spot on here too. 3 years of amazing cherries but no cake. I did move on and it is very very sad

V x

I want the cake and the cherry. "

Me too..... think I may be getting there too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a great TED talk about this ..retaining intimacy.. where she says the whole problem is that we now look to one person for everything that we used to get from a whole village. Society has changed, we no longer live in tribes and villages the same way. We expect a partner to be lover, friend, confident, entertainment, intellectual stimulant, provider, supporter...the list goes on. Maybe it's that which isn't realistic. Maybe we need more of the 'cake' in friends and family outside of an inward looking relationship. Or the cherry i guess...whatever works for that relationship. "

That's makes a lot of sense.

Sex isn't everything within a relationship. Some people are happy to be companions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was married to a man who introduced me to so many things sexually, our sex life was so intense I don't know how we didn't break our bodies! Then he got ill and we went from having sex at least once a day to never and while it was hard to adjust I didn't make me love him or want to be with him any less. If you. Are 100% in love then you can make sacrifices when you need to. "

this. I think the trouble is, as mentioned, is that many don't accept that there are other aspects in the relationship that have problems aside from sex.

Lack of physical intimacy is easy to identify. The other cracks maybe not so? So it's easy to blame no sex as the problem. But of course were all wired different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think lack of sexual satisfaction is a symptom of something else. I doubt it's one person withholding sex from the other for anything trivial, more likely their needs aren't being met elsewhere in the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people go into relationships with very different sexual needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Asking on behalf of a friend (believe me or not lol)

But as the title suggests can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

Basically if the partner you have doesn't equal your sexual enthusiasm as it was can you still stay with them an remain loyal, like repress your desires to appease them?

"

Lots of people do. Some wank.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Asking on behalf of a friend (believe me or not lol)

But as the title suggests can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

Basically if the partner you have doesn't equal your sexual enthusiasm as it was can you still stay with them an remain loyal, like repress your desires to appease them?

"

We would stay together, as we have so much more than sex in our relationship

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I suppose it depends on the circumstances.

There is nothing worse than not being wanted by someone you had hoped to spend your life with.

Eventually you'll go looking for attention elsewhere."

Eventually = 8 years for me

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"I think lack of sexual satisfaction is a symptom of something else. I doubt it's one person withholding sex from the other for anything trivial, more likely their needs aren't being met elsewhere in the relationship. "

Deeeep.

I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake...

Wow this has hit home with a recent situation of mine. Absolutely amazing sex, best so far. No cake, don't think there ever will be Very sad realisation but maybe the kick up the bum I need to move on.

Spot on here too. 3 years of amazing cherries but no cake. I did move on and it is very very sad

V x

I want the cake and the cherry.

Id like the icing too "

Did someone say cake ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a great TED talk about this ..retaining intimacy.. where she says the whole problem is that we now look to one person for everything that we used to get from a whole village. Society has changed, we no longer live in tribes and villages the same way. We expect a partner to be lover, friend, confident, entertainment, intellectual stimulant, provider, supporter...the list goes on. Maybe it's that which isn't realistic. Maybe we need more of the 'cake' in friends and family outside of an inward looking relationship. Or the cherry i guess...whatever works for that relationship. "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes. Without a doubt you can.

People should decide what 'marriage' is to them. State what they want from it and make sure they work at the relationship.

I've never yet seen a marriage contract that says 'To fuck and to wank to finger and gobble from this day forward and for every day' .....

People tend to know how sexually compatible they are prior to tying the knot or making a more civil commitment.

There could be a zillion reasons why their sex needs, drives etc no longer match each other.

Bottom line........ If a person considers leaving a relationship because they don't get the sex they want then they should LEAVE. They don't have any substance to them, they don't actually love their partner and they have put sex above all else. I'm not judging them for that. I'm saying leave then.

It's possible to stay and be happy if there are other things about you and the relationship.

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By *ySweetLadyWoman
over a year ago

London


"I suppose it depends on the circumstances.

There is nothing worse than not being wanted by someone you had hoped to spend your life with.

Eventually you'll go looking for attention elsewhere.

Eventually = 8 years for me "

Ditto - strangely some men stop wanting you sexually once you become a mum.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I suppose it depends on the circumstances.

There is nothing worse than not being wanted by someone you had hoped to spend your life with.

Eventually you'll go looking for attention elsewhere.

Eventually = 8 years for me

Ditto - strangely some men stop wanting you sexually once you become a mum."

And some women ignore their partner once they become a mum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good.

I feel like I deserve someone who wants me in every possible way, someone who takes my breath away every time, who turns me on, wants me as much as I want them, makes me laugh, laughs at me.

Who will know when I need a hug.

Someone who wants to spend time with me, will tell me no when I'm being petulant.

Not too much to ask is it? "

Especially the bit where they actually want to spend time with you.

Nothing worse than feeling like a spare part in someone's life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Without a doubt you can.

People should decide what 'marriage' is to them. State what they want from it and make sure they work at the relationship.

I've never yet seen a marriage contract that says 'To fuck and to wank to finger and gobble from this day forward and for every day' .....

People tend to know how sexually compatible they are prior to tying the knot or making a more civil commitment.

There could be a zillion reasons why their sex needs, drives etc no longer match each other.

Bottom line........ If a person considers leaving a relationship because they don't get the sex they want then they should LEAVE. They don't have any substance to them, they don't actually love their partner and they have put sex above all else. I'm not judging them for that. I'm saying leave then.

It's possible to stay and be happy if there are other things about you and the relationship. "

Very well put, there's more to marriage than just sex.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I did for a long time, but there's only so many time you can be rejected before you realise it's time to leave."

Quotes like this interest me a lot.

Why were you rejected ?

Most times rejection is less of a rebuff than it is the partners inability to cope with some aspect of the coupling or relationship that is not talked about.

Sometimes the partner feels rejected through the lack of attention paid to THEIR sexual needs.

Sometimes the person leaving is the one who never paid attention to pleasing their partner and keeping them interested in sex.

A lot of 'rejected' men were shit lovers to start with.

Always willing to 'do' the missus but she doesn't seem interested in this big ole stud.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S. My post isn't directed at anyone in particular... just the idea of constant rejection being one sided.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good.

I feel like I deserve someone who wants me in every possible way, someone who takes my breath away every time, who turns me on, wants me as much as I want them, makes me laugh, laughs at me.

Who will know when I need a hug.

Someone who wants to spend time with me, will tell me no when I'm being petulant.

Not too much to ask is it?

Especially the bit where they actually want to spend time with you.

Nothing worse than feeling like a spare part in someone's life "

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"P.S. My post isn't directed at anyone in particular... just the idea of constant rejection being one sided. "

I think your post is perfectly reasonable Granny.

And I also think far too many of us don't reflect enough on our own behaviour.

Focus on how we behave, then consider how others treat us.

Betari's box.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I suppose it depends on the circumstances.

There is nothing worse than not being wanted by someone you had hoped to spend your life with.

Eventually you'll go looking for attention elsewhere."

I could see myself feeling wanted if there was emotional attachment, laughter, love and support even if the sex was missing.

Not the other way round tho .....

I could be banged senseless every night but without what's above I think that's when i'd doubt and go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guess thats another reason masterbation and sex toys were invented

then theres affairs and secret partners

nopoint ending a perfectly good marriage because of just one thing , sex .

infact ive never heard of a divorce on the grounds of sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard to do but not impossible, marriage is massively different for each couple.

To some it needs to have everything to others it just needs enough to be happy.

For me, I've become a constant in my family's life ... give them love and security.

I've always put them first and always will .. if that means I go without certain things then st some point I need to be okay with that ....to see them all happy in life is worth it.

They come first.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it depends entirely on the marriage and I agree with much of what Granny says.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good.

I feel like I deserve someone who wants me in every possible way, someone who takes my breath away every time, who turns me on, wants me as much as I want them, makes me laugh, laughs at me.

Who will know when I need a hug.

Someone who wants to spend time with me, will tell me no when I'm being petulant.

Not too much to ask is it?

Especially the bit where they actually want to spend time with you.

Nothing worse than feeling like a spare part in someone's life

Exactly. "

So nice to meet another person who 'gets' exactly how I feel instead of criticising my motives.

Kindred spirits. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suppose it depends on the circumstances.

There is nothing worse than not being wanted by someone you had hoped to spend your life with.

Eventually you'll go looking for attention elsewhere.

Eventually = 8 years for me

Ditto - strangely some men stop wanting you sexually once you become a mum."

The counter to that of course is some women feel too tired or feel finally fulfilled once they've had children.

Even though I don't have a huge sex drive or want be like, it seems, most on here I feel the need not only for sex but all levels of intimacy. It might have been just an endorphin rush but that moment when I cum or lady does or the few times it happened simultaneously all problems, stresses, strains disappear,(sorry for being crude) And yes throughout my marriage I've explained my feelings and repeatedly explained of the importance I place on intimacy.

Even just a squeeze of my hand while watching tv can mean so much to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lots do as more to a relationship than sex -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"guess thats another reason masterbation and sex toys were invented

then theres affairs and secret partners

nopoint ending a perfectly good marriage because of just one thing , sex .

infact ive never heard of a divorce on the grounds of sex"

Au contraire, I think many marriages end on the grounds of sex, except that it's called adultery or irreconcilable differences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yes, sex is not the reason I stay in my relationship it's just a huge bonus that it's awesome. If sex was taken out of the equation it wouldn't make me look elsewhere. If affection was lost then that's a different matter.

Exactly this

Sex is a physical thing, intimacy is a whole lot more than just that. "

Whilst I agree with the above for compartmentalising what I do on here. In a relationship sometimes the intimacy & sex are linked, without one the other fades.

Depends on why sex has been taken out of the equation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting views.

But what will happen if someone whom you love fall sick and unable to fulfil your sexual needs?

Both male and female might lose their libido as age progresses.

If I love (mutually) someone, I will stay with him/her as long as I can - my sexual needs is secondary."

this


"I was married to a man who introduced me to so many things sexually, our sex life was so intense I don't know how we didn't break our bodies! Then he got ill and we went from having sex at least once a day to never and while it was hard to adjust I didn't make me love him or want to be with him any less. If you. Are 100% in love then you can make sacrifices when you need to. "

and this...

When I got married, we'd been together 15 years. My wife was diagnosed with dementia, 6 weeks before our wedding. She'd already had a lady problem, which had stopped us having sex for the previous year, yet the dementia put a stop to it, for the remainder of her life. (Total 10 years of zero nookie)

You might think that walking away, was an option but when you love some enough til death do you part, it isn't a decision you even consider.

After losing her, I joined fab, just hoping for the occasional cherry. Now, 2 years later, I'm really starting to miss the cake again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a difficult question. I've never loved someone enough to want to be married to them. I suppose if I did love someone enough, as long as some form of intimacy was still present (holding, kissing, sweet words) and I still felt loved, then I could.

I don't think I shall ever be married

I would be a cat woman if I wasn't allergic."

So my problem too

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

As usual with this sort of thread the answers cover every possible response.

So I'm not sure there is one answer, just the one that's right for your friend.

And I'm afraid that means your friend and not their partner. If they personally are not happy, then I can't see the point in continuing.

Staying for the sake of someone else's happiness, but at the sake of your own, though laudable, is not particularly good for your own health.

What there should be, is room to discuss and if necessary compromise. If that's not there, you are on a hiding to nothing.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Interesting views.

But what will happen if someone whom you love fall sick and unable to fulfil your sexual needs?

Both male and female might lose their libido as age progresses.

If I love (mutually) someone, I will stay with him/her as long as I can - my sexual needs is secondary.

this

I was married to a man who introduced me to so many things sexually, our sex life was so intense I don't know how we didn't break our bodies! Then he got ill and we went from having sex at least once a day to never and while it was hard to adjust I didn't make me love him or want to be with him any less. If you. Are 100% in love then you can make sacrifices when you need to.

and this...

When I got married, we'd been together 15 years. My wife was diagnosed with dementia, 6 weeks before our wedding. She'd already had a lady problem, which had stopped us having sex for the previous year, yet the dementia put a stop to it, for the remainder of her life. (Total 10 years of zero nookie)

You might think that walking away, was an option but when you love some enough til death do you part, it isn't a decision you even consider.

After losing her, I joined fab, just hoping for the occasional cherry. Now, 2 years later, I'm really starting to miss the cake again."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did for a long time, but there's only so many time you can be rejected before you realise it's time to leave.

Quotes like this interest me a lot.

Why were you rejected ?

Most times rejection is less of a rebuff than it is the partners inability to cope with some aspect of the coupling or relationship that is not talked about.

Sometimes the partner feels rejected through the lack of attention paid to THEIR sexual needs.

Sometimes the person leaving is the one who never paid attention to pleasing their partner and keeping them interested in sex.

A lot of 'rejected' men were shit lovers to start with.

Always willing to 'do' the missus but she doesn't seem interested in this big ole stud. "

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

If you're in a sexless relationship just remember, if you go separate ways, the other person will willingly have sex with a new partner. Normally sexless relationships mean the chemistry has gone and if it can't be found again it can effect the whole relationship. Also a lot of people are not their true selves when starting in relationships, they act how they think the other person wants them to be and then after a few months relax and their true character shows which can be very different

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"guess thats another reason masterbation and sex toys were invented

then theres affairs and secret partners

nopoint ending a perfectly good marriage because of just one thing , sex .

infact ive never heard of a divorce on the grounds of sex

Au contraire, I think many marriages end on the grounds of sex, except that it's called adultery or irreconcilable differences."

And I don't know if it's still the case but if a marriage isn't consummated , it's a reason for it to be annulled ....

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"

Yes, sex is not the reason I stay in my relationship it's just a huge bonus that it's awesome. If sex was taken out of the equation it wouldn't make me look elsewhere. If affection was lost then that's a different matter.

Exactly this

Sex is a physical thing, intimacy is a whole lot more than just that.

Whilst I agree with the above for compartmentalising what I do on here. In a relationship sometimes the intimacy & sex are linked, without one the other fades.

Depends on why sex has been taken out of the equation."

Exactly

It's all very well saying there so much more than sex , but when it was there and one party no longer desire it , the other is left feeling rejected and unloved .

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

If not satisfied or happy with marrage. Get out of it. Simple. I would. Do whatever makes you happy. Always. Lifes to short.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"If not satisfied or happy with marrage. Get out of it. Simple. I would. Do whatever makes you happy. Always. Lifes to short. "

The one factor that stops that always being true is when there us more than just a couple involved.

I.e. If there are children. I think most parents realise that part of the parenting deal is a bit (lot) of self-sacrifice.

Unless staying put damages the kids more...

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By *aaLaaWoman
over a year ago

Pontesbury

It's definitely possibly, but for us it requires absolute honesty between us and complete trust in each other. Easier to say than do.

I'm happy getting my cake at home and my cherry, icing, sprinkles and candles elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some really interesting responses on this thread

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"It's definitely possibly, but for us it requires absolute honesty between us and complete trust in each other. Easier to say than do.

I'm happy getting my cake at home and my cherry, icing, sprinkles and candles elsewhere."

This would have been my prefered solution. But my wife's mindset just could not accept it. You are lucky...

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By *aaLaaWoman
over a year ago

Pontesbury


"It's definitely possibly, but for us it requires absolute honesty between us and complete trust in each other. Easier to say than do.

I'm happy getting my cake at home and my cherry, icing, sprinkles and candles elsewhere.

This would have been my prefered solution. But my wife's mindset just could not accept it. You are lucky..."

We're both lucky, and we know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Sex is just the cherry on the top. Some people find out there was no cake...

Wow this has hit home with a recent situation of mine. Absolutely amazing sex, best so far. No cake, don't think there ever will be Very sad realisation but maybe the kick up the bum I need to move on.

Spot on here too. 3 years of amazing cherries but no cake. I did move on and it is very very sad

V x

I want the cake and the cherry. "

Wouldn't we all...with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good.

I feel like I deserve someone who wants me in every possible way, someone who takes my breath away every time, who turns me on, wants me as much as I want them, makes me laugh, laughs at me.

Who will know when I need a hug.

Someone who wants to spend time with me, will tell me no when I'm being petulant.

Not too much to ask is it? "

I had all of what you have quoted with my ex girlfriend until two weeks ago. We had been seeing each other 5 years...behind my wife's back. Shitty trick I know and also a particularly raw subject with a lot of people. I've been married 18 years and our sex life packed up 2 years before I re stoked a fire with a childhood sweetheart. Now because I have chosen to stay for my sons sake I have lost my perfect partner. I have never been loved or made love to a woman before that has been so emotional it has reduced us both to tears!! Never had such telepathic intimacy or feelings and to top it all the carnal sex was unfuckingbelievable!! I've lost the love of my life to stay and I'm fucked if I know why!! Firstly for my son and secondly to save the carnage a split would cause!! Before anyone judges me stop and think. The question was asked and I've been honest...probably for the first time in five years!!! I feel lost without my soul mate and whilst our sex life was amazing in so many ways it was so many other things that kept us going. Her smile, her laugh, her smell, her voice every morning when I woke up and before I slept on the phone (I work away) her cuddles, her kissing me, her arms around me...everything I have no chance of having with my wife!! Believe me I tried for lingers than the two years before I re lit that fire with my ex girlfriend. I suppose is what I'm saying is hats off to those that admit they've had to leave and to those who cannot make their mind up...do it! People may think it's shallow leaving for sexual reasons, it's not. With the sex comes trust, love, intimacy and overall happiness!! I'm broken with a void the size of Asia!! All my own fault I know but fuck me I've never felt pain like this!! Hope you find the right guy.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good.

I feel like I deserve someone who wants me in every possible way, someone who takes my breath away every time, who turns me on, wants me as much as I want them, makes me laugh, laughs at me.

Who will know when I need a hug.

Someone who wants to spend time with me, will tell me no when I'm being petulant.

Not too much to ask is it?

I had all of what you have quoted with my ex girlfriend until two weeks ago. We had been seeing each other 5 years...behind my wife's back. Shitty trick I know and also a particularly raw subject with a lot of people. I've been married 18 years and our sex life packed up 2 years before I re stoked a fire with a childhood sweetheart. Now because I have chosen to stay for my sons sake I have lost my perfect partner. I have never been loved or made love to a woman before that has been so emotional it has reduced us both to tears!! Never had such telepathic intimacy or feelings and to top it all the carnal sex was unfuckingbelievable!! I've lost the love of my life to stay and I'm fucked if I know why!! Firstly for my son and secondly to save the carnage a split would cause!! Before anyone judges me stop and think. The question was asked and I've been honest...probably for the first time in five years!!! I feel lost without my soul mate and whilst our sex life was amazing in so many ways it was so many other things that kept us going. Her smile, her laugh, her smell, her voice every morning when I woke up and before I slept on the phone (I work away) her cuddles, her kissing me, her arms around me...everything I have no chance of having with my wife!! Believe me I tried for lingers than the two years before I re lit that fire with my ex girlfriend. I suppose is what I'm saying is hats off to those that admit they've had to leave and to those who cannot make their mind up...do it! People may think it's shallow leaving for sexual reasons, it's not. With the sex comes trust, love, intimacy and overall happiness!! I'm broken with a void the size of Asia!! All my own fault I know but fuck me I've never felt pain like this!! Hope you find the right guy."

I hope you heal or find a resolution. What a terrible mess.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Yes.

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago


"Asking on behalf of a friend (believe me or not lol)

But as the title suggests can you remain in a marriage if you are not sexually satisfied?

Basically if the partner you have doesn't equal your sexual enthusiasm as it was can you still stay with them an remain loyal, like repress your desires to appease them?

"

Depends on the situation. In times past I've met reg cpls who we're very much in love and the marriage wasn't farcical. However due to health reasons he wasn't as capable or reliably aroused to meet her needs & wants. The reliable trusted fun friend for her (with his knowledge & sometimes watching) was the option they went for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good.

I feel like I deserve someone who wants me in every possible way, someone who takes my breath away every time, who turns me on, wants me as much as I want them, makes me laugh, laughs at me.

Who will know when I need a hug.

Someone who wants to spend time with me, will tell me no when I'm being petulant.

Not too much to ask is it?

I had all of what you have quoted with my ex girlfriend until two weeks ago. We had been seeing each other 5 years...behind my wife's back. Shitty trick I know and also a particularly raw subject with a lot of people. I've been married 18 years and our sex life packed up 2 years before I re stoked a fire with a childhood sweetheart. Now because I have chosen to stay for my sons sake I have lost my perfect partner. I have never been loved or made love to a woman before that has been so emotional it has reduced us both to tears!! Never had such telepathic intimacy or feelings and to top it all the carnal sex was unfuckingbelievable!! I've lost the love of my life to stay and I'm fucked if I know why!! Firstly for my son and secondly to save the carnage a split would cause!! Before anyone judges me stop and think. The question was asked and I've been honest...probably for the first time in five years!!! I feel lost without my soul mate and whilst our sex life was amazing in so many ways it was so many other things that kept us going. Her smile, her laugh, her smell, her voice every morning when I woke up and before I slept on the phone (I work away) her cuddles, her kissing me, her arms around me...everything I have no chance of having with my wife!! Believe me I tried for lingers than the two years before I re lit that fire with my ex girlfriend. I suppose is what I'm saying is hats off to those that admit they've had to leave and to those who cannot make their mind up...do it! People may think it's shallow leaving for sexual reasons, it's not. With the sex comes trust, love, intimacy and overall happiness!! I'm broken with a void the size of Asia!! All my own fault I know but fuck me I've never felt pain like this!! Hope you find the right guy."

I hope you read that back and realise theva child deserves two happy parents. Short term pain for long term gain. You just might be doing your wife a favour too. Nothing is insurmountable. Virtual Hugs and good luck xx

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good.

I feel like I deserve someone who wants me in every possible way, someone who takes my breath away every time, who turns me on, wants me as much as I want them, makes me laugh, laughs at me.

Who will know when I need a hug.

Someone who wants to spend time with me, will tell me no when I'm being petulant.

Not too much to ask is it?

I had all of what you have quoted with my ex girlfriend until two weeks ago. We had been seeing each other 5 years...behind my wife's back. Shitty trick I know and also a particularly raw subject with a lot of people. I've been married 18 years and our sex life packed up 2 years before I re stoked a fire with a childhood sweetheart. Now because I have chosen to stay for my sons sake I have lost my perfect partner. I have never been loved or made love to a woman before that has been so emotional it has reduced us both to tears!! Never had such telepathic intimacy or feelings and to top it all the carnal sex was unfuckingbelievable!! I've lost the love of my life to stay and I'm fucked if I know why!! Firstly for my son and secondly to save the carnage a split would cause!! Before anyone judges me stop and think. The question was asked and I've been honest...probably for the first time in five years!!! I feel lost without my soul mate and whilst our sex life was amazing in so many ways it was so many other things that kept us going. Her smile, her laugh, her smell, her voice every morning when I woke up and before I slept on the phone (I work away) her cuddles, her kissing me, her arms around me...everything I have no chance of having with my wife!! Believe me I tried for lingers than the two years before I re lit that fire with my ex girlfriend. I suppose is what I'm saying is hats off to those that admit they've had to leave and to those who cannot make their mind up...do it! People may think it's shallow leaving for sexual reasons, it's not. With the sex comes trust, love, intimacy and overall happiness!! I'm broken with a void the size of Asia!! All my own fault I know but fuck me I've never felt pain like this!! Hope you find the right guy.

I hope you heal or find a resolution. What a terrible mess. "

Yeah , good luck

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By *ySweetLadyWoman
over a year ago

London


"I suppose it depends on the circumstances.

There is nothing worse than not being wanted by someone you had hoped to spend your life with.

Eventually you'll go looking for attention elsewhere.

Eventually = 8 years for me

Ditto - strangely some men stop wanting you sexually once you become a mum.

And some women ignore their partner once they become a mum."

I totally agree with your comment but there are many women like me who do not ignore their partner and feel completely sexually rejected by them.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good.

I feel like I deserve someone who wants me in every possible way, someone who takes my breath away every time, who turns me on, wants me as much as I want them, makes me laugh, laughs at me.

Who will know when I need a hug.

Someone who wants to spend time with me, will tell me no when I'm being petulant.

Not too much to ask is it?

I had all of what you have quoted with my ex girlfriend until two weeks ago. We had been seeing each other 5 years...behind my wife's back. Shitty trick I know and also a particularly raw subject with a lot of people. I've been married 18 years and our sex life packed up 2 years before I re stoked a fire with a childhood sweetheart. Now because I have chosen to stay for my sons sake I have lost my perfect partner. I have never been loved or made love to a woman before that has been so emotional it has reduced us both to tears!! Never had such telepathic intimacy or feelings and to top it all the carnal sex was unfuckingbelievable!! I've lost the love of my life to stay and I'm fucked if I know why!! Firstly for my son and secondly to save the carnage a split would cause!! Before anyone judges me stop and think. The question was asked and I've been honest...probably for the first time in five years!!! I feel lost without my soul mate and whilst our sex life was amazing in so many ways it was so many other things that kept us going. Her smile, her laugh, her smell, her voice every morning when I woke up and before I slept on the phone (I work away) her cuddles, her kissing me, her arms around me...everything I have no chance of having with my wife!! Believe me I tried for lingers than the two years before I re lit that fire with my ex girlfriend. I suppose is what I'm saying is hats off to those that admit they've had to leave and to those who cannot make their mind up...do it! People may think it's shallow leaving for sexual reasons, it's not. With the sex comes trust, love, intimacy and overall happiness!! I'm broken with a void the size of Asia!! All my own fault I know but fuck me I've never felt pain like this!! Hope you find the right guy."

Oh gosh this is sad, surely you would want your son to be happy when he is older and to not settle himself?

If you aren't modelling happy relationships how can he know to find the same? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like the cake analogy on this particular subject because of the greed implication and for me want all aspects of a relationship isn't "gluttonous".

Anyway, it isn't just the loss of physical sex for me it's all levels of intimacy and although some would consider it a minor part of a relationship it over shadows and under pins everything else for me. Presently I'm trying to fill that void because I don't want to particularly loose everything else but signs are not good.

I feel like I deserve someone who wants me in every possible way, someone who takes my breath away every time, who turns me on, wants me as much as I want them, makes me laugh, laughs at me.

Who will know when I need a hug.

Someone who wants to spend time with me, will tell me no when I'm being petulant.

Not too much to ask is it?

I had all of what you have quoted with my ex girlfriend until two weeks ago. We had been seeing each other 5 years...behind my wife's back. Shitty trick I know and also a particularly raw subject with a lot of people. I've been married 18 years and our sex life packed up 2 years before I re stoked a fire with a childhood sweetheart. Now because I have chosen to stay for my sons sake I have lost my perfect partner. I have never been loved or made love to a woman before that has been so emotional it has reduced us both to tears!! Never had such telepathic intimacy or feelings and to top it all the carnal sex was unfuckingbelievable!! I've lost the love of my life to stay and I'm fucked if I know why!! Firstly for my son and secondly to save the carnage a split would cause!! Before anyone judges me stop and think. The question was asked and I've been honest...probably for the first time in five years!!! I feel lost without my soul mate and whilst our sex life was amazing in so many ways it was so many other things that kept us going. Her smile, her laugh, her smell, her voice every morning when I woke up and before I slept on the phone (I work away) her cuddles, her kissing me, her arms around me...everything I have no chance of having with my wife!! Believe me I tried for lingers than the two years before I re lit that fire with my ex girlfriend. I suppose is what I'm saying is hats off to those that admit they've had to leave and to those who cannot make their mind up...do it! People may think it's shallow leaving for sexual reasons, it's not. With the sex comes trust, love, intimacy and overall happiness!! I'm broken with a void the size of Asia!! All my own fault I know but fuck me I've never felt pain like this!! Hope you find the right guy.

Oh gosh this is sad, surely you would want your son to be happy when he is older and to not settle himself?

If you aren't modelling happy relationships how can he know to find the same? Xx"

Trust me it's hard. I love my boy (he's 13) I'm trying to be a good father when I do get home at weekends but I am literally dying inside I do love my wife after all she is the mother of my son but there is nothing other than a friendship to our relationship. I miss the intimacy, sexual and non sexual I had with my girlfriend but she has decided it's all too much for her and after 5 years enough is enough. I can't just leave, the catastrophic effect it will have on my son and extended family is unmentionable. So I have lost the love of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *r and Mrs DebaucheryCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes it is totally possible.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"I did for a long time, but there's only so many time you can be rejected before you realise it's time to leave.

Quotes like this interest me a lot.

Why were you rejected ?

Most times rejection is less of a rebuff than it is the partners inability to cope with some aspect of the coupling or relationship that is not talked about.

Sometimes the partner feels rejected through the lack of attention paid to THEIR sexual needs.

Sometimes the person leaving is the one who never paid attention to pleasing their partner and keeping them interested in sex.

A lot of 'rejected' men were shit lovers to start with.

Always willing to 'do' the missus but she doesn't seem interested in this big ole stud. "

Good observation Granny

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Yes you can most people havnt got much choice

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over a year ago

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

marriage no longer means anything mate, it's just a piece of paper and reception party. I used to think marriage meant a lot when I look at my parents but after being on fab it's opened my eyes that it doesn't matter if you're married or not to have sex with other people. So tell your "mate" to fill his boots and enjoy while he still can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"marriage no longer means anything mate, it's just a piece of paper and reception party. I used to think marriage meant a lot when I look at my parents but after being on fab it's opened my eyes that it doesn't matter if you're married or not to have sex with other people. So tell your "mate" to fill his boots and enjoy while he still can."

Marriage means a great deal to some of us. Some people confuse sex with love and monogamy with a successful marriage. I think the terms of modern marriage are negotiated between the couple rather than following the church or state rules.

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By *ide standMan
over a year ago

Cymau

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my mrs lost her sex drive yes I would still stay with her and would remain faithful to her. Our relationship is more than just sex no matter how wild and wonderful it is. I started a relationship with her because I love her not because I wanted great sex. I'd just masterbate a lot lol.

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Relationships are foreign territory for me (autism). Marriage more so. Horses for courses. A sense of humour most definitely top of the list to keep things together. When no ones laffin' game over.

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