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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Too many on here have a deluded value of their attractiveness.

Discuss

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

agreed

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Too many on here also like to put others down!

What's attractive to one person won't be attractive to someone else, it doesn't mean they are un-attractive to all though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many on here have a deluded value of their attractiveness.

Discuss "

Have you not heard the saying Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ?

Just because you think a person is not attractive does not mean the next thinks the same

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Too many people on here are deluded full stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats what ugly people say lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many on here have a deluded value of their attractiveness.

Discuss

Have you not heard the saying Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ?

Just because you think a person is not attractive does not mean the next thinks the same "

well said!!! different stores different folks me thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many people on here are deluded full stop"

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Brilliantly put!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many on here also like to put others down!

What's attractive to one person won't be attractive to someone else, it doesn't mean they are un-attractive to all though! "

couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a real hard wake up call when you get rebuffed by someone you think is so ugly that they should be falling at your feet and extolling the godliness of your wonderful cock and could they please be permitted to pleasure it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a real hard wake up call when you get rebuffed by someone you think is so ugly that they should be falling at your feet and extolling the godliness of your wonderful cock and could they please be permitted to pleasure it. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was hoping for a discussion rather then a points scoring exercise...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a real hard wake up call when you get rebuffed by someone you think is so ugly that they should be falling at your feet and extolling the godliness of your wonderful cock and could they please be permitted to pleasure it. "

I am now wearing my cup of tea.. lol

Katie, with her masters consent

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Medication does help.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Im bloody gorgeous

Sod off peasants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It reminds me of a wanker of a banker, who slagged me off as being weird and sad for rebuffing him, telling me it is my loss as he makes upwards of 750k+ a year, and that bus drivers would be more suitable for me.

I responded to say I do not need to brag about my wealth in order to get ahead in this world and to get laid, unlike some people, and that I am not the one throwing toys out of a pram etc...

He then changed his tunes, and still thinks he has a hope and keeps asking to be given a second chance. I just ignore me.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"I was hoping for a discussion rather then a points scoring exercise...

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Discussion on what though? Whether or not some people find some people attractive and others don't? Isn't that just common sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was hoping for a discussion rather then a points scoring exercise...

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What? I fekkin hate being told to do that... discuss.

It's the nature of a forum, people will discuss, otherwise it would be called a novel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many on here have a deluded value of their attractiveness.

Discuss "

I don't think many do... I'm told everyday I'm sexy and the only woman in the world for my master... that's all that matters to me.

Do I feel sexy.. yes... do I expect the world to agree... no.. I'm me, I'm happy being me .... I have high standards in my men because why shouldn't I...

Am I deluded.... no... I just know that to the one man it matters with no one is more beautiful to him .. or him to me.

Katie, with her masters consent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was hoping for a discussion rather then a points scoring exercise...

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It isn't a discussion though is it. You made a statement and it is a little bit near to the mark that some could be offended by it. It does smack of someone who's been rebuked though - even though you might not have, perhaps that was just your way of wording it.

This scene is all about acceptance and realising that even if someone isn't someone else's particular cup of tea they still have the right to have some sexy fun.

We're all born with the equipment to have sex so it's only fair that we're all allowed the freedom to use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Medication does help. "

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So does wearing black-out glasses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was hoping for a discussion rather then a points scoring exercise...

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10 - nil to them

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I've always thought, if YOU don't think you are gorgeous, how do you expect anyone else to?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Not posting following a period of reflection

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Sunday is the new Thursday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was hoping for a discussion rather then a points scoring exercise...

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Cool, waiting on you expanding on it, discuss away,,

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I was hoping for a discussion rather then a points scoring exercise...

This scene is all about acceptance and realising that even if someone isn't someone else's particular cup of tea they still have the right to have some sexy fun.

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Likes this * insert thumbs up emoticon *

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Everyone is attractive to someone. Everyone is unattractive to someone. Its lovely to get compliments from people you know mean it. But to jay im the most beautiful woman in the world and that is all that really matters to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are ugly so ugly that we are not allowed out un till its dark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not posting following a period of reflection

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Have you count to 100 yet?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

In the second Adaams family movie.. Uncle Fester got a girlfriend...

so there is hope for me.

she was a pycho killing black widow.. but a puss none the less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Just because someone is physically attractive, he/she may have the personality of a slug, the table manners of a wild monkey, the voice of a parrot, with no common sense and no sense of humour!

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm


"Too many on here also like to put others down!

What's attractive to one person won't be attractive to someone else, it doesn't mean they are un-attractive to all though! "

agreed there also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Just because someone is physically attractive, he/she may have the personality of a slug, the table manners of a wild monkey, the voice of a parrot, with no common sense and no sense of humour!

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You've met my ex then Pearl?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Just because someone is physically attractive, he/she may have the personality of a slug, the table manners of a wild monkey, the voice of a parrot, with no common sense and no sense of humour!

You've met my ex then Pearl? "

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

the more i read the more delusion i see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a real hard wake up call when you get rebuffed by someone you think is so ugly that they should be falling at your feet and extolling the godliness of your wonderful cock and could they please be permitted to pleasure it. "

Spooky! I was thinking the same thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging requires an amount of confidence and self worth. Your profile is an advertisement and as in any advertising campaign, you have to sell yourself.

Its no point putting in a profile - I am really ugly, so anyone fancy a meet?

People who have low self esteem and lack of confidence perhaps arent best suited to this scene because all of us will face the knock back and none of us should feel put out by that or upset by it.

So for the confident, happy, high self esteem, ones amongst us, yes we do feel we are attractive. I dont think im ugly at all, I know im not the most beautiful woman in the world, bodywise im a big girl, but im not ugly. I acknowledge my good points and bad.

If im ugly in some peoples eyes and they dont find me attractive then so be it. But as long as im ok within my own skin and i am reasonably self assured and happy thats all that counts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are a lot of people who swing as a means of gaining confidence. They feel wanted thing can be almost like a drug to some and the more attention they get the better they feel about them self. I don’t think this is bad but i can see how some see it as deluded at times.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Too many on here have a deluded value of their attractiveness.

Discuss "

if you ask a million people what "attractiveness" is... I bet you would get a million different answers...

what may be attractive to you may not be attractive to others... so what is there to discuss...

if you don't agree with someones impression.. radical suggestion.. move on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

individuality! thank god for that or otherwise we'd be listening to the same bloody music all the time!! all people are unique and attractive in there own special way!! well except for janet street-porter those teeth scare me !! but i still would though lol.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Too many on here have a deluded value of their attractiveness.

Discuss "

another knock back filthy,

just keep plugging away.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I agree with iconic - it takes a reasonably confident person to swing and to shrug off any rejections they might get. Also, it is about how one feels about oneself, shiort or tall, slim or large... if one is happy in one's own skin and feels confident... that confidence, not arrogance, exudes and sends positive vibes to others. It is rather attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been around too long to let a 'knock back' as you put it on this site worry me.

It was just simply a discussion thread

Thanks to everyone for their contributions. I suspect Sydney University will be publishing the results soon

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I maybe the most beautiful person to one person but ugly to another person but I have always lived by the saying if you can't love yourself how are you expected that someone else will love you. I love myself I love my strengths and my good points but I also love my bad points.

We are who we are at the end of the day so if someone thinks they are beautiful why knock them down..

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Have to wonder if threads like this are started because of a rejection?.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to wonder if threads like this are started because of a rejection?....."

I don't think there is any need to wonder....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many on here have a deluded value of their attractiveness.

Discuss "

Discuss?..........ok, but please narrow it down a little.

'Too many' - does that mean there is an ideal number and we are past the tipping point, are we one or two over allocation or way over. How will we know when it's too few? What would too few look like, lack of confidence on the site? No confidence, scared to meet? In fact what is the ideal number? How should we measure it?

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'on here' - as in on the forums, on FAB, on swinging sites, on the swinging scene? On the Internet or just on your outbox?

'deluded value' - a delusion can work in two ways, do you think on the whole 'they' underestimate or overestimate their attractiveness Its all relative so you probably cannot have one set without the other. How do we measure the over or underestimation. Do we have a standard? Should we develop a standard? How do we agree it? Once agreed and a survey done how do we convince those out of the standard to fall into line, what if the standard is not attractive to some of us?

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'their attractiveness' - attractiveness of their profile? Their written word? Their fantasies? Their location? The artistic interpretation of their avatar? Their Personality? Their physical look? Which one should we be measuring and creating the standard for?

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Please narrow it down a little mate and I'll be happy to discuss it with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many on here have a deluded value of their attractiveness.

Discuss "

Why really gives a fuck about what someone thinks about their own attractiveness. Its how others see you that is what counts in the swinging scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think there is a bit of "shoe shop" syndrome on the net. That is "oh those are a nice pair, but maybe there is an even better pair around the corner"

This isn't just limited to women mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was just simply a discussion thread"

But it wasn't, was it.

You put one of these at the end of your opening post because you knew you'd draw some sharp criticisms but thought you'd be old belligerent you and post it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It was just simply a discussion thread

But it wasn't, was it.

You put one of these at the end of your opening post because you knew you'd draw some sharp criticisms but thought you'd be old belligerent you and post it anyway. "

No thats actually your interpretation

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