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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So you meet someone at a club or on here. He or she is filthy and horny and into all the same kinky stuff as you, whatever that may be. Not in the slightest bit vanilla.

Imagine you're single and and open to meeting someone to 'date'. Would you date them?

Or would you not look at them as worthy of dating, because he or she was on here? Would it be different if you'd met them on a vanilla site?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If I was single, I'd be up for a relationship with a swinger as long as she shagged other men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my ex from here was with him for 3 years. I guess its about where you are in life and circumstances. If your having sex with them it wouldn't be the worst thing getting with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met men on here in the past that I have dated ...

two men in fact, who were on here looking for a relationship....

it didn't bother me in the slightest.. best of both worlds

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If we have more than sex in common, sure. If not, nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met my Fiancé here last year after we both became single again (had met him when he was in previous relationship thought he was a pure dick then). Got chatting met for coffee then another and it went from there. A year later we are engaged, living together and expecting a baby. Funny thing was neither was looking for a relationship when we started

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. My experience with dating men off here in the past has completely put me off even thinking about doing it again

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

Yeah i would why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did, briefly. I guess a big part of me is resigned from the intimacy of a relationship. But if that *one* came along they'd need to be a kinky fucker

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive been with my partner 11 years. We met through swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you meet someone at a club or on here. He or she is filthy and horny and into all the same kinky stuff as you, whatever that may be. Not in the slightest bit vanilla.

Imagine you're single and and open to meeting someone to 'date'. Would you date them?

Or would you not look at them as worthy of dating, because he or she was on here? Would it be different if you'd met them on a vanilla site?

"

In a heartbeat!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Yes if you both wanted love, loyalty and the liberation that goes with swinging. I don't see why the two can't be comparable? If you love someone why would you want to hold them back from being free and expressing them self? Surely you'd want to see them grow and explore the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we have more than sex in common, sure. If not, nope."

This.

And also, boring as it is, i am looking for monogamy out of a love match.

I am only on here to get sex until i meet my one true love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see why not. We're all human, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Billy and I meet on this site 4 years ago, neither of us looking to date, yet here we are 4 years later, in love, living together, planning a future and still swinging.

It can definitely work.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we have more than sex in common, sure. If not, nope.

This.

And also, boring as it is, i am looking for monogamy out of a love match.

I am only on here to get sex until i meet my one true love. "

This!

I'd happily date someone I met on here, but only if they were ok with us being exclusive with each other. I guess otherwise it would feel more like a FWB kind of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a moral basis, I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I felt a connection with someone it wouldn't bother me how we met just how we got on at the time and in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm not sure

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

A lot of men on here have double standards, the women here are ok to fuck, but have a relationship with them? Fuck that! They can't be trusted to be faithful

Yeah, I meet men everyday that I just want to fuck their brains out, never mind the reality that I struggle to find men I am attracted to, therefore I am lucky to have sex once every three months, go figure, plus I have only had sex once this year, but then I do not consider myself to be a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met g via another swinging site. We werent looking for anything other than nsa fun but fell in love. Started dating then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would, I don't see why not.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"If we have more than sex in common, sure. If not, nope."

Just to clarify, I would not expect them to be exclusive, neither would I expect them to expect me to be exclusive. That's not what swinging is about I feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my lover through Fab. Still madly in love two and a half years on.

Not sure I could be with him if he continued to swing, though.

And he wouldn't like it if I did.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we worked together as a couple then it wouldn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my lover through Fab. Still madly in love two and a half years on.

Not sure I could be with him if he continued to swing, though.

And he wouldn't like it if I did.

xxx"

So you have been faithful or met people together?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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pretty sure i wouldn't now.

nov 2015 i fell for someone and he fell for me but the timing was all wrong and i wasn't over my ex but he was great and i wouldn't have minded seeing him.

did again consider dating someone last year but he was too busy looking for other fucks so i fucked him off. actually had a few guys the past year expressing they want a relationship but their actions, like the above guy, do contradict this so i just fuck them off for lying to me.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I'm too used to my own space and selfish to have a full-time relationship with anyone.... And tbqh I've only ever met one man who might possibly have been able to handle me, but he didn't step up. I think... If it ever were to happen... It would have to be a swinger, I wouldn't feel right hiding this part of me from someone vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you meet someone at a club or on here. He or she is filthy and horny and into all the same kinky stuff as you, whatever that may be. Not in the slightest bit vanilla.

Imagine you're single and and open to meeting someone to 'date'. Would you date them?

Or would you not look at them as worthy of dating, because he or she was on here? Would it be different if you'd met them on a vanilla site?

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I would totally date them, to me someone who matched my sex drive is better than finding a vanilla guy.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Yes. Absolutely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah......trust is an issue, right from the start. What's the point in that? Vanilla guys for me. Especially nerdy geeks.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I don't see wot the difrounce wood be from dateing sumone Hoos not a swinger.....

Shorley as long as you both enjoy eatch overs company and you both have a spark that can grow for eatch other it won't matter.

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By *dventurousAlexMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

I think there's different types of relationships that all depends on the relationship between the two of you. Personally I wouldn't have hard and fast rules about it.

I'd swing with someone which could be fun. Other people I might prefer to have a monogamous relationship with.

Someone casual I'd definitely be open to involving other people. Above all the most important thing would be trust and honesty.

There's different aspects to a relationship. Social and sexual compatibility is quite easy. The longer term day to day relationship is much harder to find compatibility. If I met someone that ticked all boxes it wouldn't matter where they were from. Who matters more than where.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would and i do. my gf and i met on here...no worries it's no different to meeting anywhere else really...things tend to be a bit more up front on the sex side of things (very much a positive to a dirty bastard like me) but other than that, it's just two people meeting in this world, nothing fancy or different about this place really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Billy and I meet on this site 4 years ago, neither of us looking to date, yet here we are 4 years later, in love, living together, planning a future and still swinging.

It can definitely work.

Poppy

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We're the same

Sara

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"If I felt a connection with someone it wouldn't bother me how we met just how we got on at the time and in the future."

Exactly this

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"If we have more than sex in common, sure. If not, nope.

This.

And also, boring as it is, i am looking for monogamy out of a love match.

I am only on here to get sex until i meet my one true love. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"If I felt a connection with someone it wouldn't bother me how we met just how we got on at the time and in the future.

Exactly this "

But couldnt share somebody I loved with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been faithful.

Other than when his wife joins in, on occasion. But that's fine with us!

It works.

xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As everyone says, if the right person were to come along from here and you had that relationship outside of the bedroom then hell yeah, everyone within reason on here is open minded/liberated so why should that change??

If you both have the same interests from a sexual perspective then it breaks down barriers from the get go! What the future holds from a swinging point of view? Well only the folks on here who have met and are still together can answer that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there's different types of relationships that all depends on the relationship between the two of you. Personally I wouldn't have hard and fast rules about it.

I'd swing with someone which could be fun. Other people I might prefer to have a monogamous relationship with.

Someone casual I'd definitely be open to involving other people. Above all the most important thing would be trust and honesty.

There's different aspects to a relationship. Social and sexual compatibility is quite easy. The longer term day to day relationship is much harder to find compatibility. If I met someone that ticked all boxes it wouldn't matter where they were from. Who matters more than where. "

This sums it up for me. However, i wonder if I'd have more insecurity knowing they'd fucked more attractive women than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you meet someone at a club or on here. He or she is filthy and horny and into all the same kinky stuff as you, whatever that may be. Not in the slightest bit vanilla.

Imagine you're single and and open to meeting someone to 'date'. Would you date them?

Or would you not look at them as worthy of dating, because he or she was on here? Would it be different if you'd met them on a vanilla site?

I would totally date them, to me someone who matched my sex drive is better than finding a vanilla guy. "

The sex drive can change ... sometimes overnight. If you've little else in common what are you left with, a suitcase and a few boxes. A vanilla woman can have an amazing sex drive too. I some of the best sex has been with vanilla women ( less hoops to jump through and often much more relaxed with less expectations both ways).

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I have no idea tbh. well I would definitely date someone off here but I don't know if I want to be in a swinger relationship or not as I have never experienced it. will I be jealous? enjoy it? only one way to find out

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I have and I would again. Next time I will ensure they understand that when I ask if we can be exclusive and only meet as a couple that means both of us not just me

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

to be fair i couldn't have a vanilla sex life, so i'd be up for dating a fellow swinger who is open minded and as kinky as me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere. "

Ouch. How would you feel if the tables were turned and a woman said you weren't the type of person they could have a relationship with because you'd been on the site? I can't get my head around the idea that people who are on here don't see others who are on here as relationship material.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere. "

This is probably the same for me.

I'd say i'd date someone from here but in all honesty they would probably be here to get all the sex and probably still want all the sex, even when i'm giving them a lot of sex.

I think vanilla would be my way forward. But on vanilla dating apps they just seem to want

Sex too, but are more covert about it. At least men on here are honest about that (if nothing else!).

It's a quandry for sure. I just know that i couldn't date a swinging swinger.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere.

Ouch. How would you feel if the tables were turned and a woman said you weren't the type of person they could have a relationship with because you'd been on the site? I can't get my head around the idea that people who are on here don't see others who are on here as relationship material. "

i took it as he sees people here wanting a swinging relationship rather than the monogamous one that he wants.

i used to be open to it coz i think you can find love anywhere. now i actually have written off all men on here as relationship material, based on my experiences on here (despite having one genuine guy, the rest were all full of shit though).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere.

Ouch. How would you feel if the tables were turned and a woman said you weren't the type of person they could have a relationship with because you'd been on the site? I can't get my head around the idea that people who are on here don't see others who are on here as relationship material.

i took it as he sees people here wanting a swinging relationship rather than the monogamous one that he wants.

i used to be open to it coz i think you can find love anywhere. now i actually have written off all men on here as relationship material, based on my experiences on here (despite having one genuine guy, the rest were all full of shit though)."

This

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere.

Ouch. How would you feel if the tables were turned and a woman said you weren't the type of person they could have a relationship with because you'd been on the site? I can't get my head around the idea that people who are on here don't see others who are on here as relationship material.

i took it as he sees people here wanting a swinging relationship rather than the monogamous one that he wants.

i used to be open to it coz i think you can find love anywhere. now i actually have written off all men on here as relationship material, based on my experiences on here (despite having one genuine guy, the rest were all full of shit though).

This"

think i wrote them off about august last year, to be precise, so in 2 years of being talked crap to. maybe i'm a bit slow for taking that long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all men talk crap and mess women about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere.

Ouch. How would you feel if the tables were turned and a woman said you weren't the type of person they could have a relationship with because you'd been on the site? I can't get my head around the idea that people who are on here don't see others who are on here as relationship material. "

I'd fully get that. And as such I wouldn't be compatible for them so not a problem. There are many on here, probably the most part women who would hold that view too if they were being very honest. It's not about whether they are relationship material or not...its about trust as a few ladies have mentioned earlier. As I said I'm not a swinger, I use this site as I do a couple others to have nsa with a very few select ladies (never one offs). Most on here would not be using it like myself. I don't attend socials nor parties so dont clock up veries. There might well be the odd lady on here that I might consider a relationship with but the likelihood is so small it's simpler not to consider it.

We all have our reasons for not choosing a partner, my filters would include swingers. ( she'd probably get bored of a monogamous relationship witj me than a vanilla woman). Does that make sense?

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Not all men talk crap and mess women about "

yeah i know.

think i only have like a 1:300 tbh, but still i cba to bother with guys coz of it. they're really bad odds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere.

Ouch. How would you feel if the tables were turned and a woman said you weren't the type of person they could have a relationship with because you'd been on the site? I can't get my head around the idea that people who are on here don't see others who are on here as relationship material.

i took it as he sees people here wanting a swinging relationship rather than the monogamous one that he wants.

i used to be open to it coz i think you can find love anywhere. now i actually have written off all men on here as relationship material, based on my experiences on here (despite having one genuine guy, the rest were all full of shit though)."

Someone gets it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere.

Ouch. How would you feel if the tables were turned and a woman said you weren't the type of person they could have a relationship with because you'd been on the site? I can't get my head around the idea that people who are on here don't see others who are on here as relationship material.

I'd fully get that. And as such I wouldn't be compatible for them so not a problem. There are many on here, probably the most part women who would hold that view too if they were being very honest. It's not about whether they are relationship material or not...its about trust as a few ladies have mentioned earlier. As I said I'm not a swinger, I use this site as I do a couple others to have nsa with a very few select ladies (never one offs). Most on here would not be using it like myself. I don't attend socials nor parties so dont clock up veries. There might well be the odd lady on here that I might consider a relationship with but the likelihood is so small it's simpler not to consider it.

We all have our reasons for not choosing a partner, my filters would include swingers. ( she'd probably get bored of a monogamous relationship witj me than a vanilla woman). Does that make sense? "

Makes perfect sense to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere. "

Same.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Nope had my heart ripped out and stomped on by a bloke I met in a club....anyway I'm not even a swinger

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, I would. I hope never to be in the position where I need or want to date though. Our approach to swinging would need to be similar though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could do that but I feel if I was to we would certainly have to click on more levels than just sex

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Yes, I would. I think.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Yes I would if I met someone special

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By *oresexMan
over a year ago

South West coast

Absolutely, I wouldn't want to go vanilla again, would love a full on swinger as my hotwife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be my dream come true.

Romantic nights in and out. Choosing holidays together, weekends away and most of all the companionship then when we fancy a kinky night mmmmmm oh yes.

The thought of taking her out and doing the pingeon chested pride of guys thinking she's sexy but knowing she's coming home with me after a vanilla or naughty night for kisses and cuddles with HER man is for me every time.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Yea I absolutely would

In fact I'd only now enter into a relationship if the wanted to swing

Monoagamy no longer interests me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on here

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Yes of course, though usual dating rules would apply.

No time wasters, jerks etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea. The first thing is to discover a person who would like to date me, then explore that. I think to swing as a couple requires first knowing yourself, second knowing your relationship with the other, then introducing swinging into the mix if that's what you both want. I'm still working on knowing me. I'm slow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea I absolutely would

In fact I'd only now enter into a relationship if the wanted to swing

Monoagamy no longer interests me "

That's what I used to say......12 months in, and no interest in sharing each other.

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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

I had an open relationship for 2 years..we even swinged togheter. Is like best of both world. Romance and naughtiness!!

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I will date a single female swinger, they are amazing and you can be straight with them , you can never compare a single female or single male swinger to their counterparts in vanilla. The difference in terms of attitude, composure and knowledge of how to satisfy you in every way is far far above vanilla people.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

We met here 4 years ago, 2nd wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will date a single female swinger, they are amazing and you can be straight with them , you can never compare a single female or single male swinger to their counterparts in vanilla. The difference in terms of attitude, composure and knowledge of how to satisfy you in every way is far far above vanilla people."

Swingers invented sex.

Vanilla people have no clue how to fuck. They all just have sex at xmas. Or to impregnate. Never for fun. Swingers are amazing.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Those of you who met on here/through the scene.. where do you tell your family etc that you met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those of you who met on here/through the scene.. where do you tell your family etc that you met?"

We met in a pub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes myself and my partner met here after having single profiles

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know. I like the idea of it, but I'm afraid I'd let my insecurities get the best of me - I know I'm far from being the most attractive or sexually skilled guy around.

I do know that if it came to a choice between staying here and a committed relationship with a vanilla, I'd leave fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will date a single female swinger, they are amazing and you can be straight with them , you can never compare a single female or single male swinger to their counterparts in vanilla. The difference in terms of attitude, composure and knowledge of how to satisfy you in every way is far far above vanilla people.

Swingers invented sex.

Vanilla people have no clue how to fuck. They all just have sex at xmas. Or to impregnate. Never for fun. Swingers are amazing. "

*snigger*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup we did it, met in xtasia a few years back and still going and happy.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met through fab over a year and a half ago...works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only commit long term if it's a monogamous relationship so no I wouldn't even consider it if they wanted to continue to meet others or suggested being a couple who does...

Majority of single men I have chatted to on here and met recently and when on previously all want to date and be in a monogamous relationship. All have said they're more than happy to feck someone else's wife/partner but definitely wouldn't let someone else feck theirs.

I have dated a guy I met here and we were both exclusive during the relationship, jealousy from where we met did not come into it, was a completely normal relationship with great sex.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"So you meet someone at a club or on here. He or she is filthy and horny and into all the same kinky stuff as you, whatever that may be. Not in the slightest bit vanilla.

Imagine you're single and and open to meeting someone to 'date'. Would you date them?

Or would you not look at them as worthy of dating, because he or she was on here? Would it be different if you'd met them on a vanilla site?

"

I'd prefer to have a relationship with a fellow swinger! Even if we mutually decided to give up swinging - we could still be totally honest about our past and enjoy the social side of swinging! What's not to like?

I'd love it if all clubs did more dating/speed dating events so like-minded single swingers could find each other more easily!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yes.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I will date a single female swinger, they are amazing and you can be straight with them , you can never compare a single female or single male swinger to their counterparts in vanilla. The difference in terms of attitude, composure and knowledge of how to satisfy you in every way is far far above vanilla people.

Swingers invented sex.

Vanilla people have no clue how to fuck. They all just have sex at xmas. Or to impregnate. Never for fun. Swingers are amazing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm open to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or would you not look at them as worthy of dating, because he or she was on here? Would it be different if you'd met them on a vanilla site?

"

Of course it would be different, so so much better, avoids the need for that conversation to get a 4sum with a vanilla partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd date a swinger. If I get on with them on a deeper level than just sex then why the fuck not?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So you meet someone at a club or on here. He or she is filthy and horny and into all the same kinky stuff as you, whatever that may be. Not in the slightest bit vanilla.

Imagine you're single and and open to meeting someone to 'date'. Would you date them?

Or would you not look at them as worthy of dating, because he or she was on here? Would it be different if you'd met them on a vanilla site?

"

Met my other half on here three years ago. Neither of us was looking for anything. I only met sexually submissive men he had a find em, fuck em and forget them approach, preferring clubs and dogging.

He just sent a funny quip about my profile, nothing sexual. He can't even say "submissive". He's Dutch and lived in France for a decade. He's 6ft 1 and a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis. He's used to dating slim, leggy blondes and loathes kids. He's a ukipper.

I'm fat, black and a grandmother. Oh, I've just retired from working as a full time trade union official.

Outside of fab our paths would never have crossed. Neither of us would have given the other the time of day. We have major disagreements because we are diametrically opposed on many things.

Somehow we work. He moved in six months after meeting. How we met is incidental.

Would I set out looking for a relationship on here? Hell no! Was I looking for a relationship? Hell to the no! Am I happy cupid has a massive sense of humour? Hell yeah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and Littlebeaver met on here 6 years ago. Just celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or would you not look at them as worthy of dating, because he or she was on here? Would it be different if you'd met them on a vanilla site?

Of course it would be different, so so much better, avoids the need for that conversation to get a 4sum with a vanilla partner."

I've never thought of it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never. I don't know if it's fab or just more women these days but the women are pretty horrible, feel more valuable than men and think it's okay to be abusive to us.

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By *evils-couple13Couple
over a year ago

Neath

I met my man on here and we've been together for two years (:

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends if you're a swinger or not, if you are, it's something you'd want to do with your partner, so would be a plus... If you use the site for sex whilst you're single, or for the forums, then you may not want to share that with future partners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I felt a connection with someone it wouldn't bother me how we met just how we got on at the time and in the future."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you meet someone at a club or on here. He or she is filthy and horny and into all the same kinky stuff as you, whatever that may be. Not in the slightest bit vanilla.

Imagine you're single and and open to meeting someone to 'date'. Would you date them?

Or would you not look at them as worthy of dating, because he or she was on here? Would it be different if you'd met them on a vanilla site?

Met my other half on here three years ago. Neither of us was looking for anything. I only met sexually submissive men he had a find em, fuck em and forget them approach, preferring clubs and dogging.

He just sent a funny quip about my profile, nothing sexual. He can't even say "submissive". He's Dutch and lived in France for a decade. He's 6ft 1 and a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis. He's used to dating slim, leggy blondes and loathes kids. He's a ukipper.

I'm fat, black and a grandmother. Oh, I've just retired from working as a full time trade union official.

Outside of fab our paths would never have crossed. Neither of us would have given the other the time of day. We have major disagreements because we are diametrically opposed on many things.

Somehow we work. He moved in six months after meeting. How we met is incidental.

Would I set out looking for a relationship on here? Hell no! Was I looking for a relationship? Hell to the no! Am I happy cupid has a massive sense of humour? Hell yeah! "

I LOVE this

Me next please,

It would be awesome to meet someone from here. Here's hoping!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I felt a connection with someone it wouldn't bother me how we met just how we got on at the time and in the future.

Exactly this "

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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes


"Those of you who met on here/through the scene.. where do you tell your family etc that you met?

We met in a pub "

The supermarket

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By *dventurousAlexMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

think there's different types of relationships that all depends on the relationship between the two of you. Personally I wouldn't have hard and fast rules about it.

I'd swing with someone which could be fun. Other people I might prefer to have a monogamous relationship with.

Someone casual I'd definitely be open to involving other people. Above all the most important thing would be trust and honesty.

There's different aspects to a relationship. Social and sexual compatibility is quite easy. The longer term day to day relationship is much harder to find compatibility. If I met someone that ticked all boxes it wouldn't matter where they were from. Who matters more than where.


" This sums it up for me. However, i wonder if I'd have more insecurity knowing they'd fucked more attractive women than me. "

That's the unknown. I'm not sure I could hear someone was better than me. There's the competitive element.

Though speaking from experience, it's not always the most attractive people who are the best sexually or obviously socially.

It's down to the chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see why I wouldn't date a swinger.

A partner in crime, a built in wing man/woman. In theory I cannot think of a downside.

I guess the fear of them finding a "better" partner in crime is possible but I think I would rather not be with someone who was settling for me.

Mr A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never say never x

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By *appytrailmanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I would date a swinger yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would.

But I wouldn't actually WANT to.

I think this site works just as friends, I like to keep it that way.

When I want to date as in actually date, I disappear...this site needs to be simple, and dating would just fuck things up.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

It's what I'm looking for. As long as there's a decent foundation and honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"If we have more than sex in common, sure. If not, nope."

This

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We met thro swinging and have the most amazing relationship

Both know exactly what our kinks and turn ons are and loving exploring together ... when we got together we never 'swung' for the first 6 months but continued to go to clubs for the social/party.

We have some amazing friends that we met through the swinging scene but if at any time either of us want to stop we will as swinging is not a necessity just an added naughty pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, I would. I think. "
let's go on a date then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am single but not open at the moment to dating. I use the site a single, not a real swinger as such. If I was open to dating I would leave Fab.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I was at the engagement party of a Fab couple last week. They're getting married next year.

Yes, if the right person came along I'd give it a go.

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By *ucky78Woman
over a year ago

liverpool

Yes why not x

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Nope. Simply put. For me it wouldn't be the type I'd be looking for a proper relationship with. I don't classify myself as a swinger, so wouldn't be wanting to move into that in a relationship and most likely they would. I'd leave here as soon as I was ready for a relationship and look elsewhere. "

Yes - I would not rule out someone I met here, but would not be interested in a swinging relationship, I am a monogamist at heart.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"We met through fab over a year and a half ago...works for us

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Love the name lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes...

Where is the problem in dating someone you may share an emotional relationship with. Someone who may make you as happy as you make them irrespective of where or how that relationship begins.

But isn't the clue in the term relationship something which if real transcends those moments of pleasure which are sometimes fleeting or even emotionally detached encounters that satisfy a need of the moment?

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

A lot of people don't understand what the lifestyle is about, if a man or woman cannot detach emotions from sex and understand that when it comes to genuine swingers , sex is just fun and recreation just like engaging in sports then you cannot be a swinger and this is the core difference between vanillas and swingers.

I was at a vanilla club night with a friend and the ladies were dancing with each other and drinking loads, the guys were standing at the wall and trying to dance with some ladies, it looked so immature , I said to myself all this stress just to pull and you will only pull one which might not be good , when at a swingers event you simply walk to the ladies ask to play, if yes cool, if no even better cause you can quickly move on to the next lady .

The difference is just too much, the difference in terms of behavior, carriage, composure, personal hygiene (if you doubt me on personal hygiene, try going down on vanilla chick and then try going down on a chick who is a genuine swinger and you will understand the difference , swingers pay serious attention to their personal hygiene in ways vanillas could only dream about), attitude, dress sense, confidence etc the difference is just too much when compared to vanilla and that's why I will date a fine, successful, single swinger, bye bye to vanillas.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Infact I remember going to a pub with a single fine female swinger and the guys in the pub came and gave me a hand shake and said this is what a woman should look like, so believe me I know the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't find such a distinction between "vanilla" and "swinging" lifestyles as they kind of overlap for me. So would "date" from either (or both).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would.

I don't think I could do vanilla again.

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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes


"I would.

I don't think I could do vanilla again. "

I like Hazelnut and praline!! Mind you...Rum and raisin isn't so bad either

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Yes ,we met here as singles

Best of both worlds

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people don't understand what the lifestyle is about, if a man or woman cannot detach emotions from sex and understand that when it comes to genuine swingers , sex is just fun and recreation just like engaging in sports then you cannot be a swinger and this is the core difference between vanillas and swingers.

I was at a vanilla club night with a friend and the ladies were dancing with each other and drinking loads, the guys were standing at the wall and trying to dance with some ladies, it looked so immature , I said to myself all this stress just to pull and you will only pull one which might not be good , when at a swingers event you simply walk to the ladies ask to play, if yes cool, if no even better cause you can quickly move on to the next lady .

The difference is just too much, the difference in terms of behavior, carriage, composure, personal hygiene (if you doubt me on personal hygiene, try going down on vanilla chick and then try going down on a chick who is a genuine swinger and you will understand the difference , swingers pay serious attention to their personal hygiene in ways vanillas could only dream about), attitude, dress sense, confidence etc the difference is just too much when compared to vanilla and that's why I will date a fine, successful, single swinger, bye bye to vanillas."

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Yes. Best of both worlds. Someone you love and open to new encounters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it would have to mutual decision as to if we stayed on somewhere like here or not being honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was single, I'd be up for a relationship with a swinger as long as she shagged other men and women. "
same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will date a single female swinger, they are amazing and you can be straight with them , you can never compare a single female or single male swinger to their counterparts in vanilla. The difference in terms of attitude, composure and knowledge of how to satisfy you in every way is far far above vanilla people.

Swingers invented sex.

Vanilla people have no clue how to fuck. They all just have sex at xmas. Or to impregnate. Never for fun. Swingers are amazing. "

I know...they know fuck all about fun sex...

You made laugh ...Thank you vvery much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would and have. Although it only lasted 10 months it was great to be with someone who truly was on the same sexual level as me. Would I date a swinger again, hell yes I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in a swinging relationship before so I guess I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To answer the op specifically, no I wouldn't date them but not because I think they're not worthy, but because we wouldn't be looking for the same type of relationship.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"

This sums it up for me. However, i wonder if I'd have more insecurity knowing they'd fucked more attractive women than me. "

Where are the more attractive women than you. Your stunning.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

It is hard to say but probably. I'm a bit cautious over this as swinging was involved in the breakdown of my marriage, she said she was comfortable with us swinging and my sexuality, however she wasn't really happy with it but at the same time was playing with doms behind my back. On the other hand it had been a similar site which we had first meet up through and we had had some very good year together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would certainly give it a go, as if we both sexually adventurous and open to the swinging life. It would make things theoretically easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that if I built rapport with someone then I'd be cool with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

This sums it up for me. However, i wonder if I'd have more insecurity knowing they'd fucked more attractive women than me.

Where are the more attractive women than you. Your stunning. "

Cringe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will date a single female swinger, they are amazing and you can be straight with them , you can never compare a single female or single male swinger to their counterparts in vanilla. The difference in terms of attitude, composure and knowledge of how to satisfy you in every way is far far above vanilla people.

Swingers invented sex.

Vanilla people have no clue how to fuck. They all just have sex at xmas. Or to impregnate. Never for fun. Swingers are amazing.

I know...they know fuck all about fun sex...

You made laugh ...Thank you vvery much. "

I'm here all week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is hard to say but probably. I'm a bit cautious over this as swinging was involved in the breakdown of my marriage, she said she was comfortable with us swinging and my sexuality, however she wasn't really happy with it but at the same time was playing with doms behind my back. On the other hand it had been a similar site which we had first meet up through and we had had some very good year together."

That's sad. x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"A lot of people don't understand what the lifestyle is about, if a man or woman cannot detach emotions from sex and understand that when it comes to genuine swingers , sex is just fun and recreation just like engaging in sports then you cannot be a swinger and this is the core difference between vanillas and swingers.

I was at a vanilla club night with a friend and the ladies were dancing with each other and drinking loads, the guys were standing at the wall and trying to dance with some ladies, it looked so immature , I said to myself all this stress just to pull and you will only pull one which might not be good , when at a swingers event you simply walk to the ladies ask to play, if yes cool, if no even better cause you can quickly move on to the next lady .

The difference is just too much, the difference in terms of behavior, carriage, composure, personal hygiene (if you doubt me on personal hygiene, try going down on vanilla chick and then try going down on a chick who is a genuine swinger and you will understand the difference , swingers pay serious attention to their personal hygiene in ways vanillas could only dream about), attitude, dress sense, confidence etc the difference is just too much when compared to vanilla and that's why I will date a fine, successful, single swinger, bye bye to vanillas."

Interesting...so 'vanilla' hate that term chick's don't shower?! Dirty bugger's!

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"A lot of people don't understand what the lifestyle is about, if a man or woman cannot detach emotions from sex and understand that when it comes to genuine swingers , sex is just fun and recreation just like engaging in sports then you cannot be a swinger and this is the core difference between vanillas and swingers.

I was at a vanilla club night with a friend and the ladies were dancing with each other and drinking loads, the guys were standing at the wall and trying to dance with some ladies, it looked so immature , I said to myself all this stress just to pull and you will only pull one which might not be good , when at a swingers event you simply walk to the ladies ask to play, if yes cool, if no even better cause you can quickly move on to the next lady .

The difference is just too much, the difference in terms of behavior, carriage, composure, personal hygiene (if you doubt me on personal hygiene, try going down on vanilla chick and then try going down on a chick who is a genuine swinger and you will understand the difference , swingers pay serious attention to their personal hygiene in ways vanillas could only dream about), attitude, dress sense, confidence etc the difference is just too much when compared to vanilla and that's why I will date a fine, successful, single swinger, bye bye to vanillas.

Interesting...so 'vanilla' hate that term chick's don't shower?! Dirty bugger's! "

It's not like vanilla chicks don't shower but a female swinger knows that her pussy is in display at the club, everyone can see it because of the club female dress code and there is every chance someone is going to lick it, so she is going to make sure she washes the inside of her pussy very very well, I went down on a female swinger and not a single offensive odour ,infact it had an amazing odour of a nice perfume as I went close. On the other hand a vanilla chick asked if I could go down on her and when I got to her waist I said no cause the odour was not great . This is because they don't pay as much attention to it as a female swinger would.

A female swinger does not want guys to go round the club saying her pussy stinks, in fact before and after any play, most female swingers will go and freshen up, the same for the male swingers, they don't want the ladies going round saying that cock stinks.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I will date a single female swinger, they are amazing and you can be straight with them , you can never compare a single female or single male swinger to their counterparts in vanilla. The difference in terms of attitude, composure and knowledge of how to satisfy you in every way is far far above vanilla people.

Swingers invented sex.

Vanilla people have no clue how to fuck. They all just have sex at xmas. Or to impregnate. Never for fun. Swingers are amazing.

I know...they know fuck all about fun sex...

You made laugh ...Thank you vvery much.

I'm here all week. "

you forgot our fannies stink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people don't understand what the lifestyle is about, if a man or woman cannot detach emotions from sex and understand that when it comes to genuine swingers , sex is just fun and recreation just like engaging in sports then you cannot be a swinger and this is the core difference between vanillas and swingers.

I was at a vanilla club night with a friend and the ladies were dancing with each other and drinking loads, the guys were standing at the wall and trying to dance with some ladies, it looked so immature , I said to myself all this stress just to pull and you will only pull one which might not be good , when at a swingers event you simply walk to the ladies ask to play, if yes cool, if no even better cause you can quickly move on to the next lady .

The difference is just too much, the difference in terms of behavior, carriage, composure, personal hygiene (if you doubt me on personal hygiene, try going down on vanilla chick and then try going down on a chick who is a genuine swinger and you will understand the difference , swingers pay serious attention to their personal hygiene in ways vanillas could only dream about), attitude, dress sense, confidence etc the difference is just too much when compared to vanilla and that's why I will date a fine, successful, single swinger, bye bye to vanillas.

Interesting...so 'vanilla' hate that term chick's don't shower?! Dirty bugger's!

It's not like vanilla chicks don't shower but a female swinger knows that her pussy is in display at the club, everyone can see it because of the club female dress code and there is every chance someone is going to lick it, so she is going to make sure she washes the inside of her pussy very very well, I went down on a female swinger and not a single offensive odour ,infact it had an amazing odour of a nice perfume as I went close. On the other hand a vanilla chick asked if I could go down on her and when I got to her waist I said no cause the odour was not great . This is because they don't pay as much attention to it as a female swinger would.

A female swinger does not want guys to go round the club saying her pussy stinks, in fact before and after any play, most female swingers will go and freshen up, the same for the male swingers, they don't want the ladies going round saying that cock stinks."

I do know of an experienced swinger, that on 2 occasions stunk out the play rooms, at 2 separate venues.......so that's rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would date a swinger. Probably would a hypocrite if I didn't. To be honest I would prefer it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will date a single female swinger, they are amazing and you can be straight with them , you can never compare a single female or single male swinger to their counterparts in vanilla. The difference in terms of attitude, composure and knowledge of how to satisfy you in every way is far far above vanilla people.

Swingers invented sex.

Vanilla people have no clue how to fuck. They all just have sex at xmas. Or to impregnate. Never for fun. Swingers are amazing.

I know...they know fuck all about fun sex...

You made laugh ...Thank you vvery much.

I'm here all week.

you forgot our fannies stink. "

Mine doesn't. I gave it a wipe on the tea towel last month.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, if she had a veri from F&B I wouldn't date her simply because of how disappointing I would make her feel after that experience .

Other than that, I'm game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did and got cheated on within a month but he denied having a secret silver account profile even though i saw it with my own eyes, he deleted it within hours of opening it but only after i confronted him but damage was done...

A clique on here helped to cover up his cheating from me and had apparently been encouraging him off here to join them. But that may have been more lies!

No will never date of here again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met my life partner on here 6yrs ago and we both swing and love it. Honesty is the key to it all and we find it adds a dimension to our relationship we havent had with others

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By *e enjoy esxMan
over a year ago

grimsby

would love to find a new partner who was on here. much easier then trying to introduce a vanilla girl into the lifestyle,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we have more than sex in common, sure. If not, nope.

This.

And also, boring as it is, i am looking for monogamy out of a love match.

I am only on here to get sex until i meet my one true love.

This!

I'd happily date someone I met on here, but only if they were ok with us being exclusive with each other. I guess otherwise it would feel more like a FWB kind of thing"

Im the same love to meet a swinger I could couple up with

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

At this point I could only see me in a relationship with someone who shares my way of life to some extent.

So yes I would.

V xxx

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By *elloWoman
over a year ago

alpha centauri

Definitely would, I was with my ex for 9 years after meeting at a swingers club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i was in a relationship with another swinger just we didnt meet on here yet had profiles and hadnt come across each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, open to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have, we both left here to pursue it though.. I've never been in the position to have a relationship where this is acceptable so I'm not 100% sure to be honest.

Not sure how I'd process the emotional attachment and this lifestyle really. I'd like to find out though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done and it didn't workout, not advisable in my opinion as I've heard a few stories about relationships not working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing with fire.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked at fabs several years ago, after a long term relationship fail.

Didn't feel, fabs was for me, so I walked away. Took someone out on a date, who was on here, and it was great. Told her how I felt, and she said similar, and said she'd stopped swinging, although she was going on a holiday with friends from fabs.

Turned out to be a swinging holiday.

Confronted her - she lied and said she didn't know, etc. Gave her benefit of doubt.

Dated for more than 2 years, then realised after a few things that never added up, she'd never stopped swinging.

That was that.

Would I date a swinger for a relationship of swinging together?

Nope, not a chance.

A relationship together is about us. I'm not sharing my wife or life partner.

If I commit to someone, a potential long term together forever future, it's everything to me. It's not for swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have done and it didn't workout, not advisable in my opinion as I've heard a few stories about relationships not working "

i've heard stories of none swinging relationships not working too, just to add balance

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Sure, would be better than hiding your inner desires with a partner who has no draw to sexual adventures with others.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I would, as long as the trust is there and rules are clear. Swinging, for me, is better with someone who knows me but it must be additional and not instead of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would, as long as the trust is there and rules are clear. Swinging, for me, is better with someone who knows me but it must be additional and not instead of.

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By *reeneyedbuddhaCouple
over a year ago

on tees


"Those of you who met on here/through the scene.. where do you tell your family etc that you met?"
made up a story about bumping into him at an event, exchanging emails and chatting on line .It's been 7 yrs now , married for one ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you meet someone at a club or on here. He or she is filthy and horny and into all the same kinky stuff as you, whatever that may be. Not in the slightest bit vanilla.

Imagine you're single and and open to meeting someone to 'date'. Would you date them?

Or would you not look at them as worthy of dating, because he or she was on here? Would it be different if you'd met them on a vanilla site?

"

No

Don't want to date. Would be on a dating site if I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would but under terms... we do it together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in this lifetime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit. Some scary stories on here! Surely not all swingers end up cheating though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shit. Some scary stories on here! Surely not all swingers end up cheating though?"

I'd be willing to bet that it's either something that's accepted as part of the relationship or it ends up happening anyway in more cases than not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shit. Some scary stories on here! Surely not all swingers end up cheating though?"

Some people cheat. Swingers are people. Therefore, some swingers cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shit. Some scary stories on here! Surely not all swingers end up cheating though?

Some people cheat. Swingers are people. Therefore, some swingers cheat."

Exactly my thoughts. I'd say it's down to the person rather than what website you met on?

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By *reekyBoneMan
over a year ago

Freakytown


"I did, briefly. I guess a big part of me is resigned from the intimacy of a relationship. But if that *one* came along they'd need to be a kinky fucker "

Only way to know is to try Honey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would I date a swinger? Yes I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would I date a swinger? Yes I would."

Virtually?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would I date a swinger? Yes I would."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would I date a swinger? Yes I would.

Virtually?"

Absolutely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would I date a swinger? Yes I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marry me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would I date a swinger? Yes I would."

Hey Jim Dinner?

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