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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just out of curiosity....

You arrange a first meet, having only seen a few photographs and chatted/messaged briefly.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction (as such) although she is attractive, just not your 'type' and for you there is no connection/spark.

My question therefore is, do you make your excuses and make a quick exit, or think, ohh well, I'm here, going to get a fuck so I may as well just go for it?! (Be honest!!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity....

You arrange a first meet, having only seen a few photographs and chatted/messaged briefly.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction (as such) although she is attractive, just not your 'type' and for you there is no connection/spark.

My question therefore is, do you make your excuses and make a quick exit, or think, ohh well, I'm here, going to get a fuck so I may as well just go for it?! (Be honest!!!) "

I would say sorry your not for me,hope she understands and wish her luck

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By *eachPreacherMan
over a year ago

Kent/London

Well I don't like to disappoint, I try to cum more quickly though and I don't stick around too long after

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen


"Well I don't like to disappoint, I try to cum more quickly though and I don't stick around too long after"

I'd be a lot more disappointed if you came quickly and then took off than if you were just honest and said thanks but no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I wasn't attracted I don't think I'd just get up and leave, I'd still try to enjoy the rest of the night. Who knows, maybe she'll be the funniest woman I've ever met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I don't like to disappoint, I try to cum more quickly though and I don't stick around too long after

I'd be a lot more disappointed if you came quickly and then took off than if you were just honest and said thanks but no thanks. "

I can't imagine you have this problem very often xxx

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I would just distract her by shouting and pointing 'look! a giant ant is eating that man!' then fucking leg it!!!

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I think it would be obvious that no spark, dispite her being attractive. . So just carry on chatting until drinks finished. Thank her her for a pleasant Social and then both leave. I wouldn't want to try and have a play meet with no spark or sexual chemistry as no fun and would probably be a disappointment.

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By *eachPreacherMan
over a year ago

Kent/London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd have the courtesy to finish the coffee social and then politely say there was no connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I would still continue with the meet and fuck them, it is just a shag

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"No. I would still continue with the meet and fuck them, it is just a shag "
you could have said "I'm just a shag"

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen


"Well I don't like to disappoint, I try to cum more quickly though and I don't stick around too long after

I'd be a lot more disappointed if you came quickly and then took off than if you were just honest and said thanks but no thanks.

I can't imagine you have this problem very often xxx

Thanks buddy. Nice to know these forums encourage open and honest discussion without people trying to make fun of others "

I think that was meant more as a compliment to me rather than a dig at you.

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen


"Well I don't like to disappoint, I try to cum more quickly though and I don't stick around too long after

I'd be a lot more disappointed if you came quickly and then took off than if you were just honest and said thanks but no thanks.

I can't imagine you have this problem very often xxx"

Thank you

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I would just distract her by shouting and pointing 'look! a giant ant is eating that man!' then fucking leg it!!!"

I can confirm this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I would still continue with the meet and fuck them, it is just a shag you could have said "I'm just a shag" "
Yes or that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I don't like to disappoint, I try to cum more quickly though and I don't stick around too long after"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd have the courtesy to finish the coffee social and then politely say there was no connection. "

Something like this. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I don't like to disappoint, I try to cum more quickly though and I don't stick around too long after

I'd be a lot more disappointed if you came quickly and then took off than if you were just honest and said thanks but no thanks.

I can't imagine you have this problem very often xxx"

Smooth

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

It's why I would generally like a social meet first.

If we have been chatting, then there should be enough there for a pleasant social (or I would not plan that).

At the end if the spark is not present, then we part on good terms never to meet again...

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"I think it would be obvious that no spark, dispite her being attractive. . So just carry on chatting until drinks finished. Thank her her for a pleasant Social and then both leave. I wouldn't want to try and have a play meet with no spark or sexual chemistry as no fun and would probably be a disappointment. "

Happened to me. Felt awkward and guilty as he has put a lot of effort in coming over.

I tend to prepare drinks and food when inviting (new) guys over so that if I'm not attractive enough for them, at least I can be a good host.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would continue with the meet, if I agreed to it based on photos I obviously find something attractive about her

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"I would just distract her by shouting and pointing 'look! a giant ant is eating that man!' then fucking leg it!!!

I can confirm this. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I don't like to disappoint, I try to cum more quickly though and I don't stick around too long after

I'd be a lot more disappointed if you came quickly and then took off than if you were just honest and said thanks but no thanks.

I can't imagine you have this problem very often xxx

Thank you "

An absolute pleasure xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity....

You arrange a first meet, having only seen a few photographs and chatted/messaged briefly.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction (as such) although she is attractive, just not your 'type' and for you there is no connection/spark.

My question therefore is, do you make your excuses and make a quick exit, or think, ohh well, I'm here, going to get a fuck so I may as well just go for it?! (Be honest!!!) "

You have to be honest. Unless you're a machine why go through with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always say lets arrange a social first....if it goes from there then happy days..if not then both of you have an escape if needed.....maybe...just maybe she wont fancy me either! But just maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I would still continue with the meet and fuck them, it is just a shag "

Dude you are hilarious..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I would still continue with the meet and fuck them, it is just a shag

Dude you are hilarious.. "
Ty and yes, it is a good one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if id driven to wales and paid the severn bridge crossing id enjoy the moment..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never make a quick exit... I'll always be respectful, enjoy the other person's company and make a good coffee meet out if it... I've made some great friends here whom I won't play with or they won't play...but good friends. Why must an arranged coffee meet be ruined because there was no sexual attraction?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, I wouldn't still try to get the fuck. If I don't like them then, then I don't like them. Would just enjoy her company for the night and then part ways gracefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if id driven to wales and paid the severn bridge crossing id enjoy the moment.........."

Good to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is why I don't just briefly talk to someone before meeting them. But if it did happen to me, I would still enjoy their company if we got on well, just wouldn't take it any further.

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By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

It's why I always insist on a social for a first meet, then there is no obligation beyond a few drinks and a chat..

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By *cott89Man
over a year ago

prestatyn

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By *cott89Man
over a year ago

prestatyn

i would be honest and offer to buy them a few drinks and have a laugh with them, no harm in meeting new people even if your not attracted to them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes attraction isn't immediate.

I'd stop and chat for a few drinks, people either grow on you or they don't.

One of my ex fwb's was someone who at first I didn't get on with, we had to much in common.

Wasn't til later that I found out they only listened to some of my favourite bands because I liked them and they wanted to impress me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity....

You arrange a first meet, having only seen a few photographs and chatted/messaged briefly.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction (as such) although she is attractive, just not your 'type' and for you there is no connection/spark.

My question therefore is, do you make your excuses and make a quick exit, or think, ohh well, I'm here, going to get a fuck so I may as well just go for it?! (Be honest!!!) "

I prefer not to fuck on first meet regardless

I prefer a first meet to socialise, then if both are agreeable for a second meet then the fun begins

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allows each to decide without being rushed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say sorry I don't think you're for me, or something along those lines, and not try and have sex anyway. I doubt I'd be able to perform with someone I wasn't attracted to anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity....

You arrange a first meet, having only seen a few photographs and chatted/messaged briefly.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction (as such) although she is attractive, just not your 'type' and for you there is no connection/spark.

My question therefore is, do you make your excuses and make a quick exit, or think, ohh well, I'm here, going to get a fuck so I may as well just go for it?! (Be honest!!!) "

Most of the time I will have a couple of drinks and be polite then leave.

But I have ended a couple of dates instantly in the carpark before we even walked in the pub

Bit awkward but if they don't look like their pics then they deserve it... I just jump in my car and get the hell out of there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Impossible to answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity....

You arrange a first meet, having only seen a few photographs and chatted/messaged briefly.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction (as such) although she is attractive, just not your 'type' and for you there is no connection/spark.

My question therefore is, do you make your excuses and make a quick exit, or think, ohh well, I'm here, going to get a fuck so I may as well just go for it?! (Be honest!!!) "

Honestly for me that would never happen as there would have to have been a spark to begin with for me to meet.

Though if it turned out we were better off as friends then I would have the decency to say so.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

If it's not happening for me at the social meet, then I'll say so, thank her for her time, and walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a ladies showing a bit of stocking top , teasing me crossing and uncrossing her legs , showing cleavage or i can see nipples poking through etc , to be honest , i couldnt resist , im sex mad , love sex , love women and the bodies , i'd definentley enjoy myself and make sure she did too..

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Hopefully enjoy the coffee and conversation, but I'd be honest and say that there's no spark

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"If I wasn't attracted I don't think I'd just get up and leave, I'd still try to enjoy the rest of the night. Who knows, maybe she'll be the funniest woman I've ever met "

This.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"if id driven to wales and paid the severn bridge crossing id enjoy the moment.........."

Which is why I rarely travel to Wales for a meet.

Yes, I'm missing out on some really gorgeous Welsh women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity....

You arrange a first meet, having only seen a few photographs and chatted/messaged briefly.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction (as such) although she is attractive, just not your 'type' and for you there is no connection/spark.

My question therefore is, do you make your excuses and make a quick exit, or think, ohh well, I'm here, going to get a fuck so I may as well just go for it?! (Be honest!!!) "

Pictures mean nothing on here..I've figured that much.

I had a meet once, where her pics looked good but she turned out to be much more larger than I could have expected.

And I'd traveled about 2 hours ...quarter of the way up the country aswell.

My excuse was I was too tired, which in truth I was..but I've been in that situation before when I've been absolutely knackered, but still had a good go at it ..if it was someone I was physically attracted to.

If I'm not attracted I will struggle.

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"Just out of curiosity....

You arrange a first meet, having only seen a few photographs and chatted/messaged briefly.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction (as such) although she is attractive, just not your 'type' and for you there is no connection/spark.

My question therefore is, do you make your excuses and make a quick exit, or think, ohh well, I'm here, going to get a fuck so I may as well just go for it?! (Be honest!!!) "

If there is no attraction or connection I won't go for it.

I won't make a quick exit though, I'll continue with the social and just not meet the person again after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never make a quick exit... I'll always be respectful, enjoy the other person's company and make a good coffee meet out if it... I've made some great friends here whom I won't play with or they won't play...but good friends. Why must an arranged coffee meet be ruined because there was no sexual attraction?"

Must add I've never had a meet that didn't materialise into play....but as said Id never just leave unless The secret is to chat well beforehand and listen to your gut feeling.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

I'd bring the meet to a close fairly quickly, as that's what I'd prefer someone to do if they didn't find me attractive. Wouldn't want to waste either of our time. And there's no way I'd 'go through with it anyway'. That would be bad for both of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just be honest.. I'd expect the same back too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity....

You arrange a first meet, having only seen a few photographs and chatted/messaged briefly.

When you meet, there is no physical attraction (as such) although she is attractive, just not your 'type' and for you there is no connection/spark.

My question therefore is, do you make your excuses and make a quick exit, or think, ohh well, I'm here, going to get a fuck so I may as well just go for it?! (Be honest!!!) "

See it through to the end without any physical intimate acts. I'd act like an adult and be honest if asker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just be honest and carry on with a social,just because I don't want sex doesn't mean we couldn't get on in social situation

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

exit

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Well I don't like to disappoint, I try to cum more quickly though and I don't stick around too long after

I'd be a lot more disappointed if you came quickly and then took off than if you were just honest and said thanks but no thanks. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I don't like to disappoint, I try to cum more quickly though and I don't stick around too long after"

such a giver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I wasn't attracted I don't think I'd just get up and leave, I'd still try to enjoy the rest of the night. Who knows, maybe she'll be the funniest woman I've ever met "

This....just make it into a social. I did this a little while ago. We had a bite to eat, a few drinks, shared the cost and went our own ways. We verified each other...but we won't meet again. She was, as you said, a nice lady...but not my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually I just checked.... verification summary there, but verification gone. She must have left the site..... maybe something I did (hope not)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ultimately, this is also the reason that I prefer socials before any sexual stuff is planned

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I'd just be honest and carry on with a social,just because I don't want sex doesn't mean we couldn't get on in social situation"

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