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"what might be boring to one is exciting to another.... I don't see my OH as often as I would like to due to distance atm, but there is nothing so wonderful and exciting as being snuggled up on the sofa with him, watching some inane drivel on the television. To some that would be boring, to me it is perfect!!!" And too me also xxxx | |||
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"what might be boring to one is exciting to another.... I don't see my OH as often as I would like to due to distance atm, but there is nothing so wonderful and exciting as being snuggled up on the sofa with him, watching some inane drivel on the television. To some that would be boring, to me it is perfect!!! And too me also xxxx" Awww. | |||
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"But why should we be aiming for relationships? i've had mine, and am happy being me, on my own. partners and marriage shouldn't be a goal, being single shouldn't be somethign to be concerned about. Each to their own. I understand where you're coming from. I spent the first 3 years of being single wondering what was wrong with me. Now I am happy being on my own, doing what I want to do, when I want to do it, not being told what to do by anyone and shagging who I like, when I like. I know its not for everyone, but it suits me fine. " I'm not saying you should be aiming for a relationship, and like you I'm generally happy been single (no fight over the TV remote ), but when I have gone on "proper" dates, that is women looking for something more serious, there seems to be the sense they want the excitement and thrill parts without the rest. Perhaps it's due to bad past experiences or just wanting to live out our teenage years again. (well I know I would!) I don't really care where I am or what I am doing, so long as I'm with someone who I can bring sunshine into their life and make them feel really wanted and been there for them. Unfortunately finding someone to reciprocate that is tricky! I must be just going to the wrong bars! | |||
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"I don't really care where I am or what I am doing, so long as I'm with someone who I can bring sunshine into their life and make them feel really wanted and been there for them. Unfortunately finding someone to reciprocate that is tricky! I must be just going to the wrong bars! " It may well be because you are looking on a sex site. :D Seriously though, everyone says what is ideal on the first date, but the women who want the Gucci, amazing, whizz bang stuff will, after a while, be happy with the 'boring' stuff. Because they know as well as you do that a successful relationship isn't all fireworks and sparkles. | |||
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"... It may well be because you are looking on a sex site. :D Seriously though, everyone says what is ideal on the first date, but the women who want the Gucci, amazing, whizz bang stuff will, after a while, be happy with the 'boring' stuff. Because they know as well as you do that a successful relationship isn't all fireworks and sparkles." Well I'm on here looking for fun, but if it lead to more I wouldn't be upset. I'm also on a "proper" dating site. But as someone else pointed out, meeting your future SO is less likely to happen in a bar/club. Something like 2/3 of people meet their SO through work/work colleagues or their friends network. Real issue for me is the opportunity to socially meet new single people; my friends and their friends are all coupled so no single people to hang out with. Not the end of the world, I'm quite happy doing my own thing, but it is nice to have someone to share it with. Lastly imho a successful relationship is more about how you deal with the rough points, not just when it is all sunshine! x | |||
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"I do love seeing couples happy tho... it is a joy to sit in a restaurant and observe a couple so in love with each other it shines out of both of them. you see some who do not exchange one word between each other from the starter to the coffees.. not that i was staring... " . Being a hopeless romantic at heart, I too love to see a happy couple being very at ease and in love with each other. Their happiness makes me happy. I can't stand those who are constantly digging at each other, or those who belittle their other half in public. I may be alone on my own, however, I am far from being lonely or needy, and have no time for those who are needy either. | |||
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"If I've got hold of the wrong end of the stick forgive me: but are you talking about women on here? If you are then why would we want "boring" unless that's the fantasy. I doubt many of us on here are supermodels, lead jet set lifestyles and have Obama on our contact list: we lead "ordinary" lives, so our attainable fantasy is someone "exciting" to thrill us. That said, for all those seeking excitement, you venture onto the forums around Valentine and Christmas and the tone changes for some. At the moment my other half and I don't live together, and it won't happen while our kids are at home, but I look forward to the day when I'm sat cuddling up on the sofa with a bottle of wine watching a dvd or having a walk on beach/beside the river! " Shocked to see softer side of you Mistress x | |||
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"I take comfy slippers and a hug over unpredictable insane any day! " Oooh, unpredicatable insane men, please stay away from me - I'll take slippers and a hug, any day! Nowt nicer than minor squabbles over the remote control .... or whole days of sunbathing and reading in a comfortable silence (with the exception of 'it's your turn to go to the bar' LOL) Fab is interesting, cuz I get to meet people who don't work in the same place as me, or who don't go in the same pub as me. I met a guy a few times who crews a yacht around the mediterranean - now he was interesting (never invited me aboard though, the twonk!) LOL But it doesn't have to be that exciting - just different FOR ME. I've met motorcyclists, a steelworker, unemployed people, a van-driver, a builder, a lawyer, a beekeeper .... people from all different walks of life have an interesting and new perspective on life, that I'm delighted to learn about. And I'm sure that one day, I'll settle down to 'slippers and a hug' with one of them. Meantime, I'm enjoying being single and having so many interesting experiences. xx | |||
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"what might be boring to one is exciting to another.... I don't see my OH as often as I would like to due to distance atm, but there is nothing so wonderful and exciting as being snuggled up on the sofa with him, watching some inane drivel on the television. To some that would be boring, to me it is perfect!!! And too me also xxxx" That's lovely | |||
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"I know I've got more jaded and cynical as I've got older about other people, but it seems most people don't want someone who is "boring" (or normal as it turns out to be). When I try and pin down what they mean by "boring" and what they mean by "someone exciting and fun" it usually turns out to mean: Boring: Someone you talk with, stay at home most days and go out once a week possibly. Exciting: Someone who will go out almost every night, "party", or someone like "James Bond" (I've had that said to me! ) So besides the fact most people have normal jobs, normal lives and are "boring". And the "exciting" ones are more likely to be players, do you think people are living in a magazine/TV soap opera world where they expect excitement and drama? The reason I ask this question is that on pretty much all dates I've had recently the woman has said they want someone "fun and exciting", which when pressed turns out to be what I defined above. Then when we then talk about it a bit more mentioning the fact most people are "boring", it becomes apparent the only thing the woman can say which makes her not "boring" is getting blind d*unk, which says it all really. So the bottom line is it more a fact we are bored with our mundane life that we want someone fun and exciting to rescue us from ourselves? Or are we just living in a fantasy world? Note these women I had dates with where all 25+, so you think a bit more world wise. Lastly in my opinion a person on a first date is going to be boring; not until you get to know each other and open up will you get to see the person inside. I take comfy slippers and a hug over unpredictable insane any day! " think the peeps you mention must be boring people as they are looking for someone else to take them partying or other stuff. if they were doing this stuff themselves they would not even think about it. | |||
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"My mother always said that "only boring people get bored". I don't look for fun and exciting meets, I look for nice interesting people who have a zest for life. To me that is more realistic " +1 | |||
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"If I've got hold of the wrong end of the stick forgive me: but are you talking about women on here? If you are then why would we want "boring" unless that's the fantasy. I doubt many of us on here are supermodels, lead jet set lifestyles and have Obama on our contact list: we lead "ordinary" lives, so our attainable fantasy is someone "exciting" to thrill us. That said, for all those seeking excitement, you venture onto the forums around Valentine and Christmas and the tone changes for some. At the moment my other half and I don't live together, and it won't happen while our kids are at home, but I look forward to the day when I'm sat cuddling up on the sofa with a bottle of wine watching a dvd or having a walk on beach/beside the river! Shocked to see softer side of you Mistress x" Tongue firmly in cheek: a nod to the clichéd comments you see on dating sites! | |||
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