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"Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy . Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x " yup 12 years later here - ggrr  | |||
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"Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy . Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x yup 12 years later here - ggrr "Unfortunately some damage takes a long time to get over and I don't think we ever truly put all of it completely in the past. Talking it over is a big step to doing some of it. X | |||
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"Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy . Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x yup 12 years later here - ggrr
Unfortunately some damage takes a long time to get over and I don't think we ever truly put all of it completely in the past. Talking it over is a big step to doing some of it. X "yes - i got over him and then my next partner passed away - 2 very different issues to deal with - im very matter of fact about things now | |||
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"Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy . Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x yup 12 years later here - ggrr
Unfortunately some damage takes a long time to get over and I don't think we ever truly put all of it completely in the past. Talking it over is a big step to doing some of it. X
yes - i got over him and then my next partner passed away - 2 very different issues to deal with - im very matter of fact about things now "Oh I'm sorry about that. Grief is hard to get over. Definitely get yourself some counselling. X | |||
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"Almost 2 years down the line and I'm still dealing with the damage he did to me. Had counselling but a lot of its deep rooted and will get better with time. Luckily I have a very understanding new man who has made me realise that I am worthy . Definitely have days still where I'm right back in that dark place x yup 12 years later here - ggrr
Unfortunately some damage takes a long time to get over and I don't think we ever truly put all of it completely in the past. Talking it over is a big step to doing some of it. X
yes - i got over him and then my next partner passed away - 2 very different issues to deal with - im very matter of fact about things now
Oh I'm sorry about that. Grief is hard to get over. Definitely get yourself some counselling. X "i did -  | |||
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"Not sure what is wrong with me ATM... Surely to god I'm over him, has anyone ever had councilling? Would it help me" I think it's healthy to seek help if you're struggling to move on. Time does a lot, but if you're stuck in unhelpful patterns, so.etimes we just need a shove to get out of them! | |||
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"Thanks ladies, for sharing and being open. I'm 18 months down the line, this is best for our daughter, me and him. But really- it's hard. Sometimes. We'd been friends since we were 8, he was the love of my life and then when we were trying for a baby he had a freak head injury and i never sar my husband again just a mean man who hated me " i work with brain injury and dementia and see families and friends struggle to see the illness not the person they were - you have to think of yourself and kids first sometimes - guilt pain will be there if youre with him or not - just youve added free to the mix xxx | |||
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"Not sure what is wrong with me ATM... Surely to god I'm over him, has anyone ever had councilling? Would it help me I think it's healthy to seek help if you're struggling to move on. Time does a lot, but if you're stuck in unhelpful patterns, so.etimes we just need a shove to get out of them!" agree with this. 
someone should be able to work out why you keep thinking about him, maybe you're a little OCD or something else is bothering you and it's making you think about him, or whatever, but they'll help you work out why and hopefully help you to change your thoughts. | |||
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"Not sure what is wrong with me ATM... Surely to god I'm over him, has anyone ever had councilling? Would it help me I think it's healthy to seek help if you're struggling to move on. Time does a lot, but if you're stuck in unhelpful patterns, so.etimes we just need a shove to get out of them! agree with this.
someone should be able to work out why you keep thinking about him, maybe you're a little OCD or something else is bothering you and it's making you think about him, or whatever, but they'll help you work out why and hopefully help you to change your thoughts."I think it's probably a few things recently, he was depressed and rang me daily. Now he's feeling better and not ringing, which is good! But i miss it And I painted the fence he built when we moved in, i can still remember the stupid agreement his work was done with construction, maintenance was my job Lol | |||
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"Not sure what is wrong with me ATM... Surely to god I'm over him, has anyone ever had councilling? Would it help me I think it's healthy to seek help if you're struggling to move on. Time does a lot, but if you're stuck in unhelpful patterns, so.etimes we just need a shove to get out of them! agree with this.
someone should be able to work out why you keep thinking about him, maybe you're a little OCD or something else is bothering you and it's making you think about him, or whatever, but they'll help you work out why and hopefully help you to change your thoughts.
I think it's probably a few things recently, he was depressed and rang me daily. Now he's feeling better and not ringing, which is good! But i miss it
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I painted the fence he built when we moved in, i can still remember the stupid agreement his work was done with construction, maintenance was my job
Lol"maybe you are over him? sounds pretty normal to miss people and think about them if they filled a part of our day every day, especially because that means you'd be in the habit of thinking about them (but not notice as they are 'there', on the end of the phone or whatever) and not really think of that as thinking about them...hope that made sense?  | |||
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"Not sure what is wrong with me ATM... Surely to god I'm over him, has anyone ever had councilling? Would it help me I think it's healthy to seek help if you're struggling to move on. Time does a lot, but if you're stuck in unhelpful patterns, so.etimes we just need a shove to get out of them! agree with this.
someone should be able to work out why you keep thinking about him, maybe you're a little OCD or something else is bothering you and it's making you think about him, or whatever, but they'll help you work out why and hopefully help you to change your thoughts.
I think it's probably a few things recently, he was depressed and rang me daily. Now he's feeling better and not ringing, which is good! But i miss it
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I painted the fence he built when we moved in, i can still remember the stupid agreement his work was done with construction, maintenance was my job
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maybe you are over him? sounds pretty normal to miss people and think about them if they filled a part of our day every day, especially because that means you'd be in the habit of thinking about them (but not notice as they are 'there', on the end of the phone or whatever) and not really think of that as thinking about them...hope that made sense? "
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counseling can help anyone if the counselor is good and compatible with you, that's all i'll add. i don't know if you need it or not but if you feel you do then try it and see how it goes.
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