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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im confused, SO many people claim they take personality into consideration but over the last year it seems everyone in the east midlands anyway seems to only take looks into their decision making. There is a scale of 1 to 10 and were all on it and everyone rates differently in different peoples opinions, you expect people who might be considered lower on the scale to be more open minded but even they seem to care only for the 9s and 10s.

I know what your thinking im just an angry guy who hasnt got any meets for a few weeks and you would be wrong, i have only had 7 people even bother to read one of my personally tailored and polite messages in the last year..i know this because i started collecting these hallowed messages in my sent messages so i was able to count.

I spend sometimes upto 10 minutes reading some profiles and vetting to make sure i would be at minimum a close match for the people i message and spend another 10 thinking of a good message thats not too short and not too long interesting but not giving away too much only for them to look at my picture next to the message and delete it without reading it or my profile. Then all i hear is people complaining they cant find a decent guy and considering i usually match their requirements i cant possibly fathom what other reason it could be.

Either people are lying about personalities or are dissilusioned about their place on the 1 to 10 scale.

And if this simply is just one of the longest dry runs in history and i simply am just frustrated then i have every right to be. Im a swinger like anybody else and just becuase im a single man doesnt mean im not allowed to be offended at the way i am treated. I dont want to see anybody using this as an excuse to shit on single men because i can go on any other forum post and see the same opinion from a couple or single women and most likely some of you will be right there agreeing with them or offering sympathies yet when it comes to a single man saying it you just shitpost insults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women need to be attracted to us unfortunately chum would you shag someone you wernt attracted to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is just a shag

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

May want to check your statistics

As you've not messaged every woman in east mids quite yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you consider to be a 9/10, someone else may think is a 6.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Change your pictures. Your not a bad looking lad but i think your pictures could be better

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By *ysticMan2017Man
over a year ago

scunthorpe

Got to agree with you mate

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Seriously though OP why do you message those women you choose to?

Surely something physical must have attracted you to want to read further and know more in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that you think are unattractive should at least have the decency to fuck you because they should realise their standards ought to be lower relative to the attractiveness of the person messaging them? Really?

you sound bitter,rude and entitled.

You have already decided that anything anyone says in answer to your post is going be biased against you because you are a single man so it's actually a bit of a waste of breath saying anything.But believe me,whatever it is about your personality that women are supposed to find so attractive is certainly lost on me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is just a shag "

you changed your tagline?

i'm confused shag.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is just a shag

you changed your tagline?

i'm confused shag..... "
lol no. I rotate them you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you havent messaged every woman in east mids so not tall tales now!

Like me you cant accom or travel yet havent explained why that could go against you.

Now what is a 9 or 10 as personally i know what i think is hot my friends wouldnt!

Plus who are the people that are lower in your opinions.. do you think if a girl in your eyes isnt pretty should just shut up and be grateful to shag you?

You sound very self entitled and forget that the first thing we see online is an image and without physical attraction we cannot take it any further.

A guy can have a wonderful personality but if im not attracted him im not giving him a pity fuck!

I also go for men who sound confident and not so very negative about everything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/04/17 04:54:01]"

Dont worry i saw what you put!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what your thinking im just an angry guy who hasnt got any meets for a few weeks "

You're right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what your thinking im just an angry guy who hasnt got any meets for a few weeks

You're right "

Particularly when read in conjunction with the jolly similar thread some weeks back. Green arrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/04/17 04:54:01]

Dont worry i saw what you put! "

It wasn't what I put but the fact that it doesn't use the emojis off my phone (which were beer and goggles) so it didn't have the same effect. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/04/17 04:54:01]

Dont worry i saw what you put!

It wasn't what I put but the fact that it doesn't use the emojis off my phone (which were beer and goggles) so it didn't have the same effect. Lol"

I think what you wrore was disparaging enough without the emojis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't Thursday rant day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to fancy them op. (Or do you? )

They need to fancy you. And maybe they will fancy you because your a nice guy, but the first thing they see is a pic, not your personality.

Your 10/10 means more to you than it does to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BREAKING NEWS: man gets no replies, blames others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BREAKING NEWS: man gets no replies, blames others"

Hold the front page!! Screw the general election. Reset the printing press! This IS news

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BREAKING NEWS: man gets no replies, blames others"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/04/17 04:54:01]

Dont worry i saw what you put!

It wasn't what I put but the fact that it doesn't use the emojis off my phone (which were beer and goggles) so it didn't have the same effect. Lol

I think what you wrore was disparaging enough without the emojis "

I didn't say anything about the person who posted this. I said it about the next person comment especially the second part of it but as I'm new to this I didn't realise that you couldn't use the emojis off my phone and maybe I didn't quote the person I was referring to or maybe you didn't see that I had.

I actually know exactly what the original poster is saying because I've hand picked and messaged a couple of people after carefully reading their profile with only 1 response.

I'll write it again so you and others can see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you shag someone you wernt attracted to? "

I have a few. (Emojis) beer goggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you shag someone you wernt attracted to?

I have a few. (Emojis) beer goggles"

Was i asking you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you shag someone you wernt attracted to?

I have a few. (Emojis) beer goggles

Was i asking you? "

Easy tiger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you shag someone you wernt attracted to?

I have a few. (Emojis) beer goggles

Was i asking you?

Easy tiger"

Soz well stop getting pissed and sticking your dick in every vagina that'll reveal it's to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BREAKING NEWS: man gets no replies, blames others

Hold the front page!! Screw the general election. Reset the printing press! This IS news"

In similar news, women and couples can pick who they want to reply to on fab because of free will! Who knew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people you're messaging don't fancy you, it's as simple as that. Get over it and move on. You're moaning about the same shit you've bleated on about before (green arrow of doom tells all).

What part of 'if a person doesn't fancy you, they won't want to get to know you' do you not understand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would you shag someone you wernt attracted to?

I have a few. (Emojis) beer goggles

Was i asking you?

Easy tiger

Soz well stop getting pissed and sticking your dick in every vagina that'll reveal it's to you "

It was over 10 years ago lol and I never said I regretted it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You're 'offended at the way you are treated', yet no one you mailed asked you to do that or promised you anything.

Looks v personality - they'll want attraction to both. And personality will add or detract from the physical attraction. If either fails. You won't meet.

You don't do yourself any favours by not showing how well you look physically - your pics are restricted. And this post will likely limit your personality appeal.

Don't just rely on here for sex, it'll increase the stress and pressure for you.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

...another bitter, entitled young man.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Personally, if I don't find them physically attractive I won't take things further.

Shallow? Most likely but hey ho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BREAKING NEWS: man gets no replies, blames others

Hold the front page!! Screw the general election. Reset the printing press! This IS news

In similar news, women and couples can pick who they want to reply to on fab because of free will! Who knew "

We need to start a newsletter. The Daily Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...another bitter, entitled young man. "

That's not very diverse. You can't pigeonhole like that. Bitter, entitled, being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be down to what you write in the message. You're the common denominator here in not getting a reply. It's not necessarily down to looks or personality. It's also down to the numbers game. There's loads more men than single women or couples.

Why not go to a local organised social and have some face to face chats with other swingers. It gets you known then and is a good way to meet others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im confused, SO many people claim they take personality into consideration but over the last year it seems everyone in the east midlands anyway seems to only take looks into their decision making. There is a scale of 1 to 10 and were all on it and everyone rates differently in different peoples opinions, you expect people who might be considered lower on the scale to be more open minded but even they seem to care only for the 9s and 10s.

I know what your thinking im just an angry guy who hasnt got any meets for a few weeks and you would be wrong, i have only had 7 people even bother to read one of my personally tailored and polite messages in the last year..i know this because i started collecting these hallowed messages in my sent messages so i was able to count.

I spend sometimes upto 10 minutes reading some profiles and vetting to make sure i would be at minimum a close match for the people i message and spend another 10 thinking of a good message thats not too short and not too long interesting but not giving away too much only for them to look at my picture next to the message and delete it without reading it or my profile. Then all i hear is people complaining they cant find a decent guy and considering i usually match their requirements i cant possibly fathom what other reason it could be.

Either people are lying about personalities or are dissilusioned about their place on the 1 to 10 scale.

And if this simply is just one of the longest dry runs in history and i simply am just frustrated then i have every right to be. Im a swinger like anybody else and just becuase im a single man doesnt mean im not allowed to be offended at the way i am treated. I dont want to see anybody using this as an excuse to shit on single men because i can go on any other forum post and see the same opinion from a couple or single women and most likely some of you will be right there agreeing with them or offering sympathies yet when it comes to a single man saying it you just shitpost insults. "

There has to be some kind of initial attraction as well as the personality.

Maybe put some new pictures up and refresh your profile a bit and see if that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regardless of what a persons personality is like, how well tailored your intro message is, they will look at the pics first and if they don't like what they see, you ain't got a chance.

And that's the unfortunate truth about this site my friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need to fancy them op. (Or do you? )

They need to fancy you. And maybe they will fancy you because your a nice guy, but the first thing they see is a pic, not your personality.

Your 10/10 means more to you than it does to me. "

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I get to use two stock answers for this one!

First of all, delete your sent box. You'll get (more) bitter and frustrated, and end up posting a rant on the forum that will put even more people off you. Oh, wait...

Secondly, no-one is entitled to anything on here. You're not entitled to a wink, a friend request, a message, a reply, a view, a meet, a shag, or a verification. You seem to think you are. Once you lose that mind set you might start enjoying this site a lot more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can initially perceive someone as physically attractive, but then be massively turned off of them by the content of their chat (or lack of).

Conversely, once I have messaged a while, and click with a lady, they will grow more appealing.

Or, maybe be lucky enough that both looks and personality happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather meet a really hot bitch than a lovely monster! Let's not forget why we're here people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, for a one off fuck, looks come first but personality can totally ruin it

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to find something physically attractive in a person before I have the urge to get to know their personality. I need to br attracted to both to want to take things further.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

We have a saying amongst my friends

"He's a from behind kinda guy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather meet a really hot bitch than a lovely monster! Let's not forget why we're here people! "

I'm here to meet men I find attractive and that means looks AND personality.

Let's not forget we are here for different reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather meet a really hot bitch than a lovely monster! Let's not forget why we're here people!

I'm here to meet men I find attractive and that means looks AND personality.

Let's not forget we are here for different reasons."

Sorry for a moment their I thought we was here for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather meet a really hot bitch than a lovely monster! Let's not forget why we're here people! "

There's a good site called Borrow My Doggy... you should try there!

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

only interested in looks if it's people off here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your in a club ..the first thing you think is ...I need to find someone with a great personality......

Not wow look at the body on her ..I need to chance my arm

Attraction is the first part of anyone we meet new

Ps...no matter how good ..you cannot shag a personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times... "

That's nice of you, but you're only reinforcing the beliefs of the ones who wallow in self pity. I do alright, and I'm not amazing, the key is patience and a sense of humour...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times... "

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable "

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter "

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums."

Dammit I have to go to work, but I really want to see the fallout from this comment...

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums."

Wait you mean you have to be attracted to someone to fuck them

Who knew?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums."

I suspect there won't be many who will want laying now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

Dammit I have to go to work, but I really want to see the fallout from this comment... "

Whats wrong with being choosy? Im not desperate so I won't sleep with just anyone. There's a whole world of women out there. My advice is don't base your sexlife around fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged everyone in my area and no one finds me attractive so i know what you mean

But on the other hand, I've turned down a couple of people because I wasn't attracted to them

So in reality, my response is pretty pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

I suspect there won't be many who will want laying now "

Read my profile, I genuinely don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

That's nice of you, but you're only reinforcing the beliefs of the ones who wallow in self pity. I do alright, and I'm not amazing, the key is patience and a sense of humour..."

We're all guilty of wallowing in self pity every now and again. Maybe as you do alright on here, you can positively share how you do with those who are struggling, like the OP...

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

That's nice of you, but you're only reinforcing the beliefs of the ones who wallow in self pity. I do alright, and I'm not amazing, the key is patience and a sense of humour...

We're all guilty of wallowing in self pity every now and again. Maybe as you do alright on here, you can positively share how you do with those who are struggling, like the OP..."

He did

Patience and a sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for *some* single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable "

I fixed it!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

I suspect there won't be many who will want laying now

Read my profile, I genuinely don't care "

Nah you're alright thanks, I'm not interested in looking at your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course personality is taken I to consideration, but that's usually after physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

That's nice of you, but you're only reinforcing the beliefs of the ones who wallow in self pity. I do alright, and I'm not amazing, the key is patience and a sense of humour...

We're all guilty of wallowing in self pity every now and again. Maybe as you do alright on here, you can positively share how you do with those who are struggling, like the OP...

He did

Patience and a sense of humour "

I know, I read the reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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....no-one is entitled to anything on here. You're not entitled to a wink, a friend request, a message, a reply, a view, a meet, a shag, or a verification. You seem to think you are. Once you lose that mind set you might start enjoying this site a lot more."

Full heartedly agree!

No one is entitled to absolutely anything here. Not even to have your profile viewed once a year.

It's a bit like the jungle. The tiger isn't entitled to his dinner just like the prey isn't entitled to undisturbed afternoon snooze free from fear of a deadly attack.

You say looks versus personality... Looks generally take precedence being the first point of contact.

Personality? This one is difficult to ascertain from a brief profile text, message or even string of messages. One has to live a long time with another before they can comfortably say they know them well.

Obviously, most on here aren't

inclined to invest so much time and effort. First meets at least are a quickye and a gamble. If all goes well, there may be a repeat. Or just another number on the list of experiences...

Different people different views.

Good luck all.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

Dammit I have to go to work, but I really want to see the fallout from this comment...

Whats wrong with being choosy? Im not desperate so I won't sleep with just anyone. There's a whole world of women out there. My advice is don't base your sexlife around fabs. "

So you're not going to have sex with any of the women from fab . You aren't that desperate , and get plenty of sex outside of fab . The women on here are clearly not worthy .

You're only here for the forums , which is your right , but it's hard to see why you bother . Other than to wind people up that is ........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

I suspect there won't be many who will want laying now

Read my profile, I genuinely don't care

Nah you're alright thanks, I'm not interested in looking at your profile. "

Suit yourself that equally doesn't bother me

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

I suspect there won't be many who will want laying now

Read my profile, I genuinely don't care "

I don't think anyone needs to actually read it to get that impression

Nice attempt at a "look at me" though

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Looks will get you through the door... personality keeps you in the room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

Dammit I have to go to work, but I really want to see the fallout from this comment...

Whats wrong with being choosy? Im not desperate so I won't sleep with just anyone. There's a whole world of women out there. My advice is don't base your sexlife around fabs.

So you're not going to have sex with any of the women from fab . You aren't that desperate , and get plenty of sex outside of fab . The women on here are clearly not worthy .

You're only here for the forums , which is your right , but it's hard to see why you bother . Other than to wind people up that is ........"

Pretty much yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as someone chucks numbers and scales into what is a very personal and subjective thing; their opinion must be taken with a pinch of salt. I have my tastes and when I do choose to message someome I can just hope I match theirs. Expectations and ego have no place in this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

I suspect there won't be many who will want laying now

Read my profile, I genuinely don't care

I don't think anyone needs to actually read it to get that impression

Nice attempt at a "look at me" though "

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

I suspect there won't be many who will want laying now

Read my profile, I genuinely don't care

Nah you're alright thanks, I'm not interested in looking at your profile.

Suit yourself that equally doesn't bother me "

I'm not one for fucking trolls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty, I really feel for single men on here and I'm not sure I could deal with the type of rejection that they get on a daily basis. I'm not surprised they're frustrated at times...

Who's frustrated? I'm probably one of the least frustrated men on fabs. I get plenty of sex, that's why I'm so outspoken and disagreeable

Guys that laid on here regularly are never outspoken

Please refer to the OP as a reference point on this matter

I didn't say laid on here, there's hardly any women on fabs I would be interested in. I just like the forums.

I suspect there won't be many who will want laying now

Read my profile, I genuinely don't care

Nah you're alright thanks, I'm not interested in looking at your profile.

Suit yourself that equally doesn't bother me

I'm not one for fucking trolls "

So you did look at my profile.... strange girl

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

In all honesty we start with looks if we are not attracted to you based on your looks then we are not going to meet simple really. From there we will look to meet for a social to decide if we like your personality.

So guess it means we are looking for both attraction and looks. We are just fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty we start with looks if we are not attracted to you based on your looks then we are not going to meet simple really. From there we will look to meet for a social to decide if we like your personality.

So guess it means we are looking for both attraction and looks. We are just fussy "

Not fussy just human..we all do that ,just some can't admit it

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

OP, our profile (text and pictures) and the messages we send -what you call "first look"- says a lot about our personality: creativity, passion, intrigue...

It may be OUTSTANDING over dozens of other men's profiles in order to atract attention. Yours is not, sorry mate.

Said this, every woman have her preferences. So, some like a fit body picture, others an intriguing gent, others a heavy cummer, etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it is both. However, the physical attraction can be determined immediately. If it is missing, what would be the purpose of investigating in there is a mental attraction?

OP, if you are contacting people who in YOUR view are low down on your scale, that reflects more on you than it does on them!

It must be humbling to be turned down by the people that you obviously consider to be beneath you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather meet a really hot bitch than a lovely monster! Let's not forget why we're here people!

I'm here to meet men I find attractive and that means looks AND personality.

Let's not forget we are here for different reasons.

Sorry for a moment their I thought we was here for sex "

I'm not here JUST for sex though.

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